#queer inclusion

[nonbinarymlm]

It’s really awful that my partner is treated as predatory, dangerous, and unwelcome by the world for being bisexual and nonwhite. It’s doubly awful that so many queer spaces near us also treat him as predatory, dangerous, and unwelcome for being a cis man while ignoring his queer and non-passing mixed race experiences.

There is no way to make general queer spaces unwelcoming to cis men without throwing intersectionality out the window. No one needs to coddle cis men, but general queer spaces are not the places to treat queer cis men as dangerous or unwelcome or to randomly vent about men without checking in. (Generally you should be checking in before venting, by the way, this goes out the window way too much in progressive spaces.)

Queer men are already treated as dangerous and unwelcome by society for being queer. Men of color are already treated as dangerous and unwelcome by society for not being white. When queer spaces treat cis men as dangerous and unwelcome, they are repeating those societal patterns toward queer men and men of color.

Intersectionality means recognizing that privilege does not cancel out oppression as much as it means oppression does not cancel out privilege. All queer people face harm by society, all queer people need safe queer spaces. Choosing a subset of queer people to exclude from general queer spaces isn’t okay, even if it’s a relatively privileged subset in one specific way.

There are a lot of posts talking about how exclusion of cis men from queer spaces negatively impacts trans people of all stripes, and that is true and worth taking about! But also: cis queer men deserve to be in queer spaces because they are queer. Their relative privilege in one area does not cancel out their experiences of oppression.

And it truly is “relative privilege in one area” because some queer cis men are disabled, neurodivergent, black, Asian, indigenous, mixed race, working class, and many other marginalized identities not determined by gender.

All queer people deserve queer safe spaces. Period.

[benjaminallhope-fulltimemind]

just a handy little info chart on the spectrums of sexuality.

/Edit: I forgot to give credit this is a screenshot from a video made by a content creator called Lily Orchard you should check her channel out it's amazing

[fixing-bad-posts]

This should go without saying but this blog is welcoming towards trans/non-binary mspec lesbians. It is fucking Simple as that.

[squidfreak]

[Image ID: An image of a black man wearing a black shirt and baseball cap, on a balcony overlooking a lawn, with another balcony noticeable on the man's right. At the top of the image is a lot of text. First is white text stating "I bring a sort of". The second is white text over a black background, clearly covering previous text, stating: 'none of this really matters, Labels are something we use to describe an aspect of our identity with, not rules we set on ourselves and others. We love who we love, and we express ourselves how we want. Labels don't have set rules or definitions as just like everything else doesn't. It is all constantly changing. Describe your love how you want, describe your gender how you want, It's your life." The third white text states "Vibe to the Community that queer exclusionist don't really like." The words "Community" and "queer exclusionist" also cover a black background, clearly covering up previous text. End Image ID.]

Credit to @the-church-of-strabismus for the image ID!

[transnest]

I wanna show some of you internet lesbians Ellen Ripley from the Alien franchise

[sirenium]

'oh, so I'm a queerphobe now because I think xenogenders and neopronouns are fake?' yes.

'I'm queerphobic because I think mspec lesbians, turigirls, and the like are invalid and appropriating the labels of lesbian, bi etc?' yes.

what you are doing is misunderstanding a queer identity, failing to enlighten yourself, and weaponizing your own ignorance against a queer person and painting them as the problem. You are writing off the existence of a queer person because you don't understand, or maybe do not even want to understand, their identity. You brush it off as fake and nonsensical. You think it's appropriating your own experience.

That is precisely what transphobes do to all trans people, what transmeds do to the 'wrong' type of trans person. That is precisely what homophobes do to all lesbians and gay men. Make no mistake, that bigotry affects you too no matter how much of a 'good' or 'correct' trans person/gay person you are. And if you are an ally espousing this kind of blatantly queerphobic rhetoric, I hope you feel ashamed. Where you claim to be in support of the LGBTQ community, you throw certain members of it under the bus because it's too much for you. You don't get to make that call; you either support all queer people in their identities, or you do not support queer people. That makes you queerphobic.

[fictionfreedom]

Something something, if you want to attempt "political lesbianism" for the 4B movement you have to love all women AND understand that not all men are threats to you.

YOU HAVE TO LOVE ALL OTHER WOMEN.

You have to love black women

You have to love Asian women

You have to love Indian women

You have to love Native women

You have to love all women of color

You have to love bisexual women

You have to love women who have fucked men before

You have to love women who have fucked a hundred other people just for the fun of it

You have to love women who are sex workers

You have to love women who are strippers or pole dancers

You have to love transgender women

You have to love women with different ideologies from you

You have to love women of all different religions and beliefs

YOU HAVE TO LOVE WOMEN IF YOU WANT TO ATTEMPT POLITICAL LESBIANISM.

YOU HAVE TO KNOW THAT NON-WOMEN ARE NOT ALL A THREAT TO YOU EITHER.

Not all cis men are a threat to you

Not all non-women are a threat to you

Not all trans men are a threat to you

Not all MALE BUTCHES are a threat to you

Not all MALE LESBIANS are a threat to you

Not all nonbinary people are a threat to you

Not all Masculine presenting people are a threat to you

Not all Bigender people are a threat to you

NON-WOMEN AND NON-FEMININE PEOPLE ARE NOT ALL A THREAT TO YOU.

[doomgendr]

girltwink & boybutch flags

for girls who are twinks & boys who are butches !

girltwink ⤵️

boybutch ⤵️

higher quality versions on my twitter

[lgbtqtext]

[aardwolfpunx]

punk as in i support SW

punk as in i support all plurality

punk as in i support “contradictory” or “cringe” queerness

punk as in i support all disabled people

punk as in i support alterhumans/nonhumans

punk as in i support

[intersexfairy]

daily reminder i guess that "queer exclusionism" and "online discourse" isn't just internet bullshit. it has harmful, sometimes dangerous, impacts on real people. the people you see spouting even the most vapid queerphobia are real people who go around in their lives and their beliefs hurt others. it even hurts themselves. the internet may not be a physical place, but it still a place. the people on here are still real. it matters.

if all it is to you is nothing, you're either in denial or one of the lucky ones. also queerphobia isn't less important just because it comes from other queer people or takes place online.

[cynicalundead]

happy pride month to mspec lesbians and gays. as a regular ass monosexual lesbian y'all ain't lesbophobic for existing, and in fact the only lesbophobes involved in this discourse are the TERFs spreading that shitass ideology. you don't need to completely swear away your interest in men to be a Pure, True Lesbian. let your identity be complex, celebrate yourselves this month, and say Fuck You to your local exclus, as a treat. sexuality is a social construct and labels mean fuck all

[autismvampyre]

i feel so fucking bad for my fellow young queers nowadays. so many are being radicalized by the right because we are so disconnected from our past and history and it fucking sucks man

i remember being 14 and just being so lost and uncomfortable in my own skin and getting wrapped up in fucking exclusionary discourse on fucking instagram of all places. i remember not liking myself and being vulnerable and feeling left out, and all these other online queers took me in and said "its fine, you're normal, but we have to fight the not-normal queers to be accepted" and i believed them because who else would i trust?

the idea that there's a wrong kind of gay or trans or queer is so antithetical to what this community is supposed to be about. we're strange, we're outcast. it's so sad to see infighting knowing that its just successful propaganda meant to divide us.

truth is, bigots don't care if you're the "right kind of queer" or not. they still hate you for existing and pandering does nothing but hurt the only community that actually cares. we have to leave behind the mindset that we can only be accepted if we change, because the people who only accept us when we're the "good kind of queer" never fucking respected us in the first place

we're here, we're queer, and we don't have to be "the right kind" to be allowed to exist

[fixing-bad-posts]

the term literally is rad. i support.

[squidfreak]

"Notice how we always see things about lesboys but never gaygirls? men are always trying to invade lesbian spaces..."

One, we don't tell you guys about turigirls/gaygirls because you'll also flip your shit over them just like you do with lesboys. Two, what the hell are you talking about??? And three, you're harassing lesbians and invading their spaces?!?!?!?!??! Even then, no one cares what turigirls/gaygirls are because people are too focused on trying to control lesbians.... 🫠