#please don’t cancel me

[moonysversion]

this is for science

[s4ms-w0rld]

just watched Venom: Let there be Carnage…gayest shit i’ve ever seen. the plot is basically two guys that are in love, get in a fight, one of them gets shitfaced, the other gets desperate to get him back, they get back together, and that’s it. and then ofc they kick ass and defeat the big bad villain or wtv.

[dazaisleftballsack]

Y’all my older sister is looking for a childe fic that she found on here and i decided to be good brother and help her look for it.

Basically she said that it’s a childhood friend’s to lover type of thing. The beginning of it started with younger version of childe going missing as per lore wise, then he came back and was different and joined the fatui. Y/n helped take care of his siblings. She said she remembered that y/n and Childe often sent letters to each other and near the end there was this one incident with y/n in the woods and this creepy guy tried to her and foul legacy Childe saved her. Smut happened and they got married the end.

That’s all my sister can remember😭 please help I’m sick and tired of hearing her yapp about it.🙏🏽🙏🏽

[multi-fandomsyndrome]

I have a story about the punk show my roommate and I went to last night.

So during any concert or show I have to sit or else I will collapse from pain by the end. This exact thing happened 4 days ago at a concert where everyone around me on a lawn stood the entire time so the only way I could actually see anything was to stand up. I stood for almost 2 hours then collapsed in pain with swollen angles and numb heels

Anyway because I have to sit when watching shows, I usually sit in the ADA section (especially with punk shows) so I’m not pushed around, and so I can focus on the show instead of the pain I’m in. This would be the 3rd show I’ve seen at this venue and the other two didn’t have any problems. Except this time I did.

For starters, the ADA section was way too small. There were 3+ people with wheelchairs, and 2 people needing to sit the entire time, not including any friends/family that may need to help their person. This is the first time I’ve been to a show here with this many people in the section, so I don’t blame them for “not being prepared” but they could’ve moved barriers around for more space.

Secondly, people kept ignoring the barrier to the section. There were multiple times when people stood right up against it, bending the fabric barrier thing so they were practically in the section. People would also walk from behind so they didn’t have to walk through the crowd to get to the door to the smoking area (yeah the ADA section is *right* next to the patio door)

Thirdly, people kept on falling ONTO THE BARRIERS and falling not only into the section, but also onto people standing nearby (like my roommate) or people in the section (aka me). When falling over they would also use my arm/leg to get up, which made me uncomfortable because it felt more than just a simple support, they would GRAB my leg. These people included not only people moshing (not bouncing off of person wall full on running into them) but also just drunk people falling for no reason. The entire place was either way too overcrowded, or the mosh pit was way too big and people not paying attention.

By halfway through the main show (after 2 openers) I just stood outside for as long as I could waiting for my roommate and we left early.

I am extremely lucky that this is the first time I’ve experienced something like this at a punk show. But it made me realize that punk shows are definitely not accessible. Sure, the venue can try their best (and 2/3 of the times they did, and it worked) but even so there’s always gonna be people who do not pay attention to their surroundings, drink too much, or just do not care.

[sunrisemill]

I miss Nick so much 😔💔

I’m tired of seeing these straight men raging and throwing chairs over a video game (no hate I love my husbands)

[marvelmaniac715]

I’ve very recently gotten back into the BBC Sherlock fandom, and no it’s NOT because of Moriarty, and I actually resent the accusation. I mean, sure he’s got big brown eyes, a fascinating personality and I’m generally attracted to Andrew Scott who plays him (even his voice, did you hear him in Audible’s 1984 as O’Brien?) but there’s lots of other reasons for me to like the show, like… mysteries? Yeah, that’s totally it…

[liv-n]

The fact that the description of the iwtv book at my library is “Recounting his first two hundred years of life, a vampire tells of his erotic alliance with Claudia, whose passions are forever locked up in the body of a child.�� makes me wonder why anyone would pick up this book.

(i am reading it and giving it a chance, but if i didn’t know the basics of the story already this would’ve made me never pick it up in the first place lmao)

[ronweaslayyyyylovr828]

ok so i’ve seen so many posts about how hermione is supposed to be the girlboss and like this larger than life character while ron is just in the background, or vice versa. then they go on like a 500 word rant about how one is better than the other or how one outdoes the other and sort of puts either ron or hermione down to bring R or H in the spotlight. let’s remember that they’re relationship should be EQUAL. there’s so many posts about how “oh hermione did so many things for harry for so many years and ron didn’t do shit” or like “ron was such a great friend to all of them and hermione was a know it all bitch” when THEY. BOTH. FUCKED. UP. SEVERAL. TIMES. neither R or H are going to be perfect, we see that so many times IN THE BOOKS but people tend to base their entire opinion on the movies and forget that sometimes hermione was a know it all, and sometimes ron was a shit friend. they both have their flaws and their strengths and it’s time we recognize and accept it before putting one on pedestal and leave the other for the dogs.

and if anyone gets mad, i shall remind you that you’re on tumblr, not twitter, and there many worse things you could be reading right now on this app (please don’t get mad at me i will cry)

anyway welcome to my essay on why ronmione is the best set of characters whether they’re in a romantic setting or not-

[marmot-bumblebee-231]

my english teacher said if you take the first and last letters off of carrot it’s not a word

this is aromantic erasure

[oscarspastrys]

Im gonna be honest here, people are always gonna say stupid things like « your only watching f1 because the drivers are attractive » and???? NO SHIT. Why do you care about why I’m watching grown men play hot wheels in real life 😭

[moonysversion]

pt.2 to my other one

[shydoraemon]

guys I have an idea what if we ship the whole crew of doraemons and named it dorapoly (NOT INCLUDING DORAMI!!!)

[sunbeamedskies]

I'm just gonna go ahead and say it

Men who won't take their wife's last name is the reason the divorce rate is so high in the US.

It's not about ownership or control- it's about showing commitment and respect to your wife. If you're not willing to make such a small sacrifice, how is your wife supposed to know you're truly committed to your marriage?

Don't you want to have the same last name as your future children? It will be so awkward and such a hassle to be the only member of your family to have a different last name. Taking your wife's last name makes you much more of a unified family.

Your last name is really just your parents' last name anyway- why not switch it your wife's? Plus, consider how effeminated your wife will feel by your selfish, short-sighted decision.

And yes, before the wokes attack me- I FULLY support men's rights. I just believe men losing a piece of their identity they've had since birth that is probably on all their degrees and career achievements shouldn't be such a big deal and is part of a beautiful tradition.

[cozyfoxy]

I’m going to get hate for this, but mine is Undertale 🙃

[beigetiger]

Discussing Valduggery and how it reflects disagreements in generalized fandom shipping ethics (I wrote this on a dare, thanks @vividvermilion)

Gonna preface this by saying that I do not ship Valduggery, nor do I necessarily approve of other people shipping it. I think that there’s some legitimately fascinating discussions that could be had surrounding it though, but any sort of nuance usually gets flattened and it’s pretty disappointing. So this essay is gonna sound a lot like me defending the ship, I’m not, but I was thinking about it.

Like I said earlier, nuance often gets cut out of the conversation, likely due to a variety of factors. One would be a knee-jerk disgust towards it (which I’m not saying is inherently bad) and another is probably that people really, really do not want their fandom to be known as the one that defends a borderline pedophilic ship (I say borderline because I’ve only ever seen Valdug stuff set when Valkyrie is an adult, but I’m also only on Tumblr and have no idea what’s going on in other forums). Again, not a bad thing to want, but outside social pressure is how a lot general fandom policing takes hold, which then makes the fandom more of a toxic space.

Now, this fandom in particular is pretty relaxed and I appreciate that, but getting into fights, bullying others over their ships, and just generally spreading vitriol against your fellow media enjoyers is never ok and it makes the fandom spaces so much less enjoyable for everybody. And since so many people on social media feel the need to insert themselves into everything regardless of whether or not they enjoy it, it’s always a good reminder that if you dislike or disapprove of something, keep your mouth shut and block it (I know this is a pretty general thing taught on Tumblr, but I’m still going to reinforce it here). This also means that experiencing some form of shaming from someone outside the fandom is very much within possibility, but the people who do that are stupid and you should internalize the idea that you shouldn’t take that seriously.

I’m also gonna point out, no matter how already-talked-about this point is, that none of these people are real people, or even based on real people. These guys are about as fictional as you are ever going to get. It’s a fair thing to point out that allowing yourself to become accustomed to this particular flavour of fictional abuse can allow you to become more accepting of it in real life, and that might be vaguely correct (don’t quote me on this, I’m not a psychologist), but the thing is is that if that were true, than that standard would have to be enforced on all types of fictional abuse.

And here is where I discuss the big double standard of abuse in fandom spaces. I’m gonna have to use some other fandoms as a reference for this, and I’m dead certain that everyone reading this can come up with a few of their own as well. Abuse is depicted in media pretty often, which means that the people who consume it are then desensitized to it (to a degree). But since some flavours of abuse are shown, discussed, and joked about more often, this leads to a sort of fandom dichotomy between “acceptable abuse”, which is abuse that is allowed to be drawn, enjoyed, and romanticized, as opposed to “bad” abuse, which will get you demonized for enjoying and sometimes even depicting. If any of you have seen Gravity Falls trending recently, Billford (the reason it’s trending) is an abusive ship, but it’s considered “acceptable” abuse. Bad abuse usually involves sexual assualt or pedophilia (and often other topics as well). It’s all abuse, but the fact that some forms of abuse will get you harassed and threatened while other forms are extremely popular signals to me that some amount of discussion regarding double-standards and basic self-control should probably be had in general fandom spaces.

Because if we were to enforce the idea that all types of abuse (romantic or otherwise) are Very Bad™️ and need to be demonized, none of us are actually allowed to enjoy Skulduggery Pleasant because it’s a series about a child soldier and the four-hundred-year-old guy she has a toxic codependency with. Again, I do not ship them romantically at all, but I really do enjoy thinking about and analyzing fucked up dynamics, so I’d much prefer to be able to enjoy this series without being shamed for it (and wish to extend that courtesy to others because if there’s anything I hate, it’s being a hypocrite).

But going back to shipping, shipping something abusive or generally fucked up (such as Valduggery) is not the same as endorsing it, even if the person does enjoy it. Enjoying/appreciating is not endorsing either. In fact, writing or depicting something that’s already messed up in the canon can be a creative way to analyze and then extend that abuse, which gives fans more food for thought and gives writers and artists good practice thinking about social implications.

For example, there’s probably an unholy number of variations of Valduggery ships (I’ve seen two here on Tumblr but I’d be shocked if there’s not more) due to there being so many variations of both Skulduggery and Valkyrie (four each, I believe). Each of these pairings have a slightly different dynamic and writing about those different dynamics is interesting! I have fun thinking about the different possible dynamics between the duos (hello, every SP au I have ever made) and doing that same analyzing but in a romantic sense isn’t inherently evil (sometimes it’s really funny). Fandoms are supposed to be places for creative self-expression, and policing what people are allowed to do with themselves (while also enforcing a double standard) isn’t good.

On a more general note and not necessarily tying into the SP fandom, sometimes people write or draw toxic ships (or other things that aren’t necessarily ships) as a way to work through and express trauma or other negative emotions. And these people don’t deserve to be harassed for doing that (again, self-expression). They also don’t have to defend themselves to you or specifically state that they’re doing what they’re doing to help themselves handle trauma, because that’s on par with asking for the medical history of a trans or disabled person and is a fucked up thing to do. Not that I’m blaming this fandom in particular for doing that, you guys are great. This is just my general ranting about fandom spaces with my limited experience handling fandom (especially toxic fandom).

Now, as I said earlier, I actually don’t interact with the SP fandom outside of Tumblr, so I could be wildly mischaracterizing Valduggery shippers in other spaces at the moment (I’ve heard horror stories about AO3 but I’m not on there so I have no opinions of my own). Intentionally making light of abuse is always bad, but again, please do not harass your fellow fans.

This was a REALLY long post and I’m sorry for bringing up something that I know is a bit of a touchy subject for this fandom. This idea started out as a lot more specifically about Valduggery but then I decided that so much I wanted to talk about regarding the ship is a trend reflected across nearly all fandoms, so I ended up talking in much more general terms.

If anyone has literally any thoughts please share them, because I’m slightly in disbelief that I actually wrote this out about this subject. I also want to know if I missed any important factors while writing this because I hate doing that. Thank you all for reading my soapbox rant.

[annikamaja8-blog]

CANCEL CRINGE

cancel depth being taken as weird, cancel the culture of being embarrassed because it's "corny" or "cliché"

Take what the heart gives you, and express it to your fullest because CRINGE does not exist in other languages or cultures.