#sydney adamu

[ochrogasting]

[xblackreader]

missing this guy and his his his—

[ambeauty]

It should have never had to come to this but the continuous problematic and offensive behavior has persisted. These are just a couple of extremely deplorable things that have been said about these characters and these actors. If you choose to support this person and her platform you are welcome to do that, but I personally do not want to share community with someone who thinks these types of statements are funny, cute, or harmless because they are not. And anyone who supports this type of behavior is complicit in allowing this person to continue to harm members of the fandom.

This was one of my first experiences of her in the fandom. Made a theory that was based upon Ayo’s award season hairstyle. Someone offered more insight into how black hairstyling works and it was quickly dismissed.

This is blatant fetishizing which is assuming that two people should just reproduce because you don’t want them in a loving relationship but think they would have cute children. It’s disgusting and it’s something that was forced upon Black women during slavery and a problematic sentiment that still exists today. Pick up a fucking book.

This is self explanatory. There’s no excuse for this. Again when it comes to a Black woman in a fictional relationship with a White man certain things should not be said. SLAVE should be obvious!

Seeing these things honestly make me sick and the worst part about it is these are just two examples of offensive statements. Yes I do have her blocked because this is the type of shit that I do not have to be subjected to just because we like the same show. After a recent shady/vague post by that person, I went to Afrofairy before I did something like this because I thought 1, if I call out this woman I don’t want it to affect her co-host who actually has been kind and supportive to others and 2, maybe if she hears these things from a friend they will be processed better. And they weren’t. So this is what this has become.

Here’s my messages to her cohost

To me this was a better option than dragging her across tumblr. And unfortunately it still came to that.

I will never go on that podcast. I don’t need to. If you are going to be in fandom spaces with Black people you need to listen to them and protect them otherwise you are actively participating in harmful behavior and the marginalization of people of color within a community that include them.

If you have any personal experiences you want to add to this then please feel free. I don’t want to keep speaking for people who didn’t ask me too🫣

Everyone stay safe. There’s a lot of hateful shit going on in the world today. Protect yourself! I love y’all for real ❤️

[mon-chef]

Scarves and Scrunchies.

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Sydney liked to think she kept her emotions secured tightly behind a steel trap, only letting them free when she had fully processed them. That wasn’t the case. Carmy, observant as he was, especially of Sydney, realized she had a very revealing tell. Her hair.

Sometimes she’d fly into work with her braids swishing quickly around her shoulders and no scarf yet to tamp them down. She’d be kind as she always was, clear-headed and even voiced, but he knew that she’d been zooming frantically around her corner of Chicago all morning. Her usual hairstyle; a ponytail pulled tight with a colorful scrunchie and, an equally colorful and matching, head scarf meant she’d picked out her clothes the night before, she’d gotten “enough” sleep, and she was ready to be a rockstar in their kitchen.

To be honest Carmy liked all of the ways she styled her hair but his favorite was when she piled her braids into a bun at the top of her head with two braids hanging in front of her eyes. He didn’t know what she was silently revealing when she wore this because he was too busy stealing glances at her exposed neck and trying not to get caught staring into her brown eyes. He was rarely successful.

That morning she’d strode into his apartment muttering a quick hello before making her way straight into his kitchen to place the grocery bags down with a heavy sigh. Her hair was in a low, and slightly messy bun. He figured she’d been fidgeting with it anxiously on the train and in one final burst of annoyance she hastily twirled it into a loose ball at the base of her neck so she wouldn’t be tempted to grab at it anymore.

The scrunchie she’d chosen was black, the same color as the long sleeve, she had on under her oversized ‘Earth Wind and Fire’ t-shirt. He noted that she was wearing leggings today instead of her usual baggy pants. He tried his best not to note how her bending down slightly to put the grocery bags on the counter caused her t-shirt to ride up and that he could see the outline of her backside. “Rough morning?”

Sydney crossed her arms indignantly over her chest and fixed him with a hard glare. “What is that supposed to mean?”

“What? Nothing. You just look—“

“Like shit? Got it. Cool. Thanks.” He took a step away from her, surprised. “How are we already fighting, you just walked in.”

“No, hello. No, how are you—“

“You didn’t give me a chance!”

“Just straight to you look terrible.” Confused he ran a hand through his blonde curls. After which he silently cursed himself for messing up the work he’d done that morning in preparation for her arrival “I didn’t say that.”

“You didn’t need to. I read between the lines.” Carmen could feel heat rising up his neck.“Syd I would never say-I- I-I like- I think you’re-” Sydney’s frown faltered, she was trying not laugh. “You’re an asshole.”

“You’re so easy Carm, I had to.”

“No, you’re just really convincing. If you ever get sick of working at the Bear, you should definitely go into acting.”

She scoffed. “Oh shut the fuck up.”

“No, really.”

She rolled her eyes dramatically. “Even if that were true, you don’t have to worry about that. I’ll never get sick of the Bear…again.”

“Promise?” His sincerity froze them both in place. He wracked his brain trying to find more words to abate his embarrassment. “I just meant— .”

“I already tried that, remember?” The confusion melted off of her face and that familiar teasing glint came back into her eye. “And look where that got me.” Her loose bun deflated and instead of putting it back up she let her braids free and rolled the scrunchie onto her wrist.

Carmy didn’t know what he was more surprised at. The way she’d immediately thwarted the intimate moment he’d accidentally put them in or the way his breath hitched when her braids fell down to frame her face.

“Lucky us .” he sighed. Sydney grabbed a jar from the table and and handed it to him to put in his refrigerator, he did thankfully to get at least a few paces from the charged atmosphere.

“ You never look like shit by the way. ” He clarified leaning his back against the fridge. He liked having a sort of short hand with his CDC, so there was no way that he was going to give it away and tell her the real reason he’d made his comment but he did want to clarify. “You just seem stressed.”

“I am, a little.” She bit her lip, contemplating. He could see the exact moment she decided against sharing her thoughts with him. Instead she pivoted to a safer topic. “I’m more nervous about this dish though.”

“Nothing to be nervous about, if we fuck it up we can just start again.” She nodded in agreement but still had her teeth pressed into her bottom lip as she surveyed the groceries she’d just lugged up the stairs.

“I think this is everything.”

“Looks like it.”

Carmen placed a quick hand on her shoulder before turning to the vegetables. “Don’t be anxious, it’ll be fine.”

“Yeah,” she nodded. “Yeah. We got this.”

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They did not ‘have this’. After burning, over salting, and undercooking the two had smartly decided to save their subsequent efforts for another day. Carmy had suggested they chill on his couch while they waited for take-out.

“Oh shit, my scarf. You found it!”

“Oh yeah.” Carmy said sort of glumly watching her yank it from the spot he’d thoughtfully placed it.

“I’ve been looking for this, I thought it flew off when I went to the pier.”

“No, it’s been here.”

“It’s my favorite.” Sydney flashed him one of her big toothy grins, his favorite.

“I know.” You wear it the most, and usually on bun days.

She gave him a look “What do you like keep track of all of my scarves?”

Yeah, actually. Carmy couldn’t think of a quip to whip back fast enough, so he stayed silent. Syd was stifling a laugh when he summoned the courage to look at her. Fuck, had he said that out loud? No. Clearly he wasn’t the only person who could read their business partner’s secret tells. Suddenly he felt transparent, and crimson-discomfort creeped slowly up his body. “Mind if I leave it here? Never know when a hair scarf related emergency might come up. I’d feel safer with you looking after it, since you clearly care so much.”

He rolled his eyes at her attempt to razz him. He should be embarrassed, he was, but not enough to insist she take it back. It was weird how much he wanted it, a piece of her in his apartment, but Sydney didn’t seem to mind, so neither did he.

[tvgremlin]

He stared at her for a year straight- that’s how

sorry but how the fuck did carmy know sydney's measurements for the chef whites??

[dulce-chisme]

i think carmy’s second passion besides cooking is drawing and his sketchbook is filled with drawings of sydney

[unladyboss]

WHENEVER CARMY'S BROWS RAISE. JEREMY ALLEN WHITE. THE BEAR. ALWAYS and IRL

Whenever he raises his brow it's an intense stare at her or in her direction or to do with HER

There's no hiding that (unless you use a green heart)

Let's get that straight. There's NO blinking here

[briochecheese]

I was watching a gay Japanese reality show and there was this guy that was looking at a twink the EXACT WAY that Carmy looks at Syd

I didn’t find the frame where Syd and Carmy are exactly in the same placement as the gays but YOU GET IT.

(btw they were cooking too, cooking is romantic)

[goddessxdivine]

this song + them, has me imagining various cheesy and corny love confessions between them. hearing “it’s never over” and i start picturing a tortured Carmy running to catch up to Syd who (potentially) left to work with Shapiro …. yeah i need a teaser trailer or something soon because i’m losing all sense of normalcy, i fear

[chefkids]

We are so back!!!

We are so over???

istg if they make sydney quit carmy and i will both jump in front of a metra train

[tvgremlin]

Just booked my appointment for my mildly Sydcarmy inspired tattoo. Idk what level of fangirl this is but it slaps.

[eveallmay]

when someone says they hate my favourite characters i put a curse on them in my mind, it’s so personal like those are my people how dare you speak on them

[xblackreader]

[ambeauty]

I never intended for there to be any public drama, when I addressed my concerns with the actions of that blog with their co-host. My intentions were to ensure that the Black woman co-host felt comfortable working with someone who has been harmful to the fandom with many of their own posts.

In the latest episode the DMs between the co-host and myself were mentioned several times but only one screenshot of conversation has been made public and that is for a reason. I can post the screenshots of my messages since you know there's no need to hide this interaction anymore and also more damning receipts of the some of the harmful things that person has done on their blog, but up until this point I have kept to myself because that was not my intention.

My intention has always been to protect Black women/people. That includes Ayo, that includes Sydney, and that includes the ones that I am in community with in this fandom. And that protection also extends to any other person who has felt harmed by this person in the fandom. Something that nobody asked me to do. The people that I spoke up for didn't even know that I was speaking because again I didn't do it with the intention of having to address any of this publicly. If I did I would've just come out and said this person is harmful and you should not support them.

So now that I have been called all manners of bitch, sneaky, nasty, and villainized (of course a BW calling out harmful behavior has led to this, like clockwork) I would like to know if the people in this fandom would like me to detail where that person has been harmful, with evidence to support it. Again I never have to speak to this person. Don't want to. I want this place to be SAFE. But if you feel like you want extra context and want to be clear on why this "drama" came to be I can provide it.

[yannaryartside]

Yeah like what would be the point for them to be with someone else? They have paid enough karma

I would never want to be either Carmy and Syd cause imagine being only platonic to someone who fits you perfectly in every way possible and knowing that no one else will ever level up to that

[rosewill]

if The Bear was an animated series