#on boundaries

[venusruledmuse]

[thethirdbear]

i would rather adjust my life to your absence, than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect.

[daikon1]

I am no longer accepting “that’s just how [he/she/they] is” as an excuse for family members refusing to respect my most basic boundaries.

If you’re the type of person who insistently calls me by the wrong name because you don’t like my actual name or refuses to give an apology when I tell you you’ve hurt me, you’re welcome to be that way — but you are not welcome in my life.

[divinediva]

Show don’t tell with people always. I’m telling you people don’t hear. I have not found one person who truly hears me. Their ears are closed. They may hear you out but that doesn’t mean they hear you. That doesn’t mean avoiding convos or being dishonest. But when it comes to boundaries and preserving your heart… show don’t tell

[mudstoneabyss]

extends my hand ibuprofen style. Charles is on the same insane wavelength as Kevin gang join me in my "he killed his shitty ex" musings

[catcrumb]

[annasanthology]

[sky-heart-journal]

Boundaries are important, but they are also fairly specific. If your boundary is so unspecified as to amount to, "don't make me feel bad," then of course every negative interaction is cumulative. Context no longer matters, every mistake is on a permanent record.

[homocidalpotat]

Please do not send me asks for donations

Here's why (for if you find that statement impossible to understand):

I have NO money to give you.

I'm not popular enough that I will give you any reach.

I am a minor, and most of my followers/mutuals are too.

It makes me feel extremely guilty.

Seeing pictures of injuries or hospitals etc are triggering and/or upsetting for me. These pictures often have blood, gore, extreme medical situations, hospital environments, etc. I'm not saying I don't feel sympathy for them, I'm saying I do not want to see that.

They are always worded in a way that makes me feel like I am a murderer if I don't donate.

I said I don't want them, and my boundaries should be respected. They make me feel uncomfortable, and sometimes triggered or upset.

I can't tell what is a bot/scam and what isn't. Yes, I know most of them are not, or whatever it is you believe, but I don't have the time to do a full study of each asker.

I get a lot of spam from this. It is disappointing to see 10 new asks in my inbox just to be the same ask for donations over and over.

Please, just respect the fact that I have said this.

If you want this in your pinned post, please don't credit me. You can copy the words or take a screenshot with my username cropped out. You can reblog this but please don't go on about how awful your experiences have been. I get it, but also if you spiral two much you might end up accidentally saying something bad. This post has led to a lot of hate anons and harassment, so I would rather not have too much attention. Thanks...

I am pro Palestine and want to do everything I can to help but I'm not financially or mentally well enough to do much. I'm not in support of these people dying. Also, this post isn't just about Palestine. It's about ALL asks for donations. I'm not doing favouritism or racism. I just can't deal with it. Don't harass me for expressing boundaries. This post applies to people of all nationalities and backgrounds. Every situation- war, poverty, injury, anything. I'm not discriminating. I'm not being a zionist or a racist or an ableist. It's a boundary.

Yes, this post might seem controversial. But I did literally make this for my own personal experience and didn't expect it to get more than 12 notes or so. Don't add opposing views because quite frankly, it's none of your business. It's not my problem and I didn't mean for this post to get so many notes. Don't use the number of notes as an excuse to fight me. I just want a peaceful Tumblr experience. Also, if you are reblogging this, don't trauma dump. I keep notifications on for this post so that I can block people harassing me before shit escalates, so I can see every reblog. You can screenshot and repost if you want to talk about your problems, but honestly its no better seeing people saying "I'm bankrupt and I just got kicked out by my family. I also have a history of abuse and those images are so triggering that I want to die". That doesn't help me. Make your own post to say that. Please.

I am taking this post off private after slightly modifying it. Any conflicting arguments based on this post will result in my blocking and reporting of you. If you do not understand my point of view, make sure you fully read the post before saying this. I made this post for my blog. If you have any questions or don't understand this post, send me an ask that is composed, calm and polite, and I can talk it through with you.

Please note that by sharing this post, you are more likely to be targeted by bots and scams. You are also more likely to be harassed. Please be safe.

[everchased]

hahahahaaaa get safe and cared for, idiot

[venusruledmuse]

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

*hip checks u*

[thebibliosphere]

If there’s one thing that drives me insane it’s learned helplessness. And I know, I know it’s a stress response to trauma and a lot of people aren’t even aware they’re doing it, but unfortunately my childhood trauma is having to be the person who did everything because none of the adults had a handle on their shit, so unfortunately I have a short fuse when it comes to the kind of people who need a longer fuse and, well. You can see the conundrum this puts us in.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[tallymali]

genuinely what is the reason for the internet becoming so prudish?? who can i fight about this