#narcopaths

[blessingellyse]

WHY NARCISSISTS WANT CHILDREN 💯🎯⁉️📌

It Attracts A Lot Of Attention. Narcs Need Attention Far More Than Most People And Will Use Almost Anything To Get It Even Children And What Better Way Is There To Get Everyone’s Attention? Narcs Are Impulsive And Don’t Think Through Consequences So They’re Often Blind As To How Big A Commitment Children Are, Preferring To Focus On The Adulation Instead. Narcs Know That Word Travels Fast And If They Have An Ex They Want To Get At, They Might Have Children Just To Hurt Them. Especially If They Know That They Wanted Children Themselves. That’s How Petty They Can Be.

Narcs Hate Being Single And Certainly Don’t Welcome Someone Dumping Them. That’s Their Job So They Use Children As Insurance. Narcs Know That It’s More Difficult To Leave Them If They Share Children. Because Their Partners, Who Are Usually Empathic, Think Of Their Children’s Needs Before Their Own And Although May Be Unhappy In Their Relationship, Stay To Keep The Family Together. With Children In The Equation, It’s A Whole Different Ball Game. Because A Split Affects Them More Than The Couple And Many People Don’t Want To Be Responsible For Tearing A Child’s Family Apart. So They’re More Likely To Stay With The Narc Even If They’re Unhappy.

Increasing The Pressure To Stay In The Relationship Allows The Narc To Treat Their Partners Worse And Get Away With It. Narcs Learn How Far They Can Push Their Partners, Without Quite Pushing Them Away. They Learn Their Breaking Point And Push Them Just Bellow That Point. This Allows Them To Take As Much As They Can, Yet Keep Them Around So They Can Take Some More, Giving Them The Most Bang For Their Buck. The Breaking Point Is Likely To Be Much Higher When Children Are Involved Because No Right Minded Person Would Split A Family Over A “Minor Incident”, Which Narcs Are Experts At Making Them Seem. So The Bar Is Raised As To What Behaviours Would Spell An End To The Relationship, Allowing The Narcs To Get Away With More.

Even If The Relationship Ends, Children Still Play A Useful Role For The Narc. Because For 18 Years, The Narc Has Access To Their Former Partner And They Have The Law On Their Side. They Can Disappear And Do What They Want. Then When Things Turn Sour, Come Marching Back “For The Sake Of The Children". Narcs Don’t Particularly Care About Seeing Their Children. Which Is Why They Often Have Long Absences From Them, But They’re A Great Tool To Use To Get Their Feet Back Under The Table. Most Well Meaning Parents Won’t Deny Their Children Seeing The Other Parent. Even If They’ve Disappeared For A While. This Allows The Narc To Dip In And Out Of Their Life. And Work Their Charm If They Want Some Action. If The Narc Has Children With More Than One Partner, Then It’s Party Time. Because They Can Flit Between Several Peoples Lives. And When They Grow Bored, Discard Them And Move To Another.

Narcs See Their Children As Extensions Of Themselves And Some Want Children So They Can Live Through Them And Push Them To Accomplish What They Never Did. So They May Push Their Children To Become Doctors, Lawyers, Actors, Singers, Etc. Regardless Of What The Child Wants For Themselves And This Can Cause Problems Later In Life. It Can Be Like Fitting A Square Peg Into A Round Hole. People Need To Find Their Own Way, Based On Their Own Strengths, Weaknesses And Interests, But The Narc Is Too Focused On Their Own Ambitions To Consider This And Relentlessly Push Their Own Agenda.

The Narc Usually Takes Credit For Any Success The Child Has And Claims It’s Their Genes And Good Parenting That’s Responsible. To Outsiders They May Seem Like A Proud Parent, But The Only Pride They Really Have Is In Themselves. They See Children As A Boost To Their Profile. Because In Their Mind It Shows How Virile And Desirable They Are. Some Narcs See Children As A Numbers Game. The More They Have, The Greater They Must Be. So They Try To Have As Many Children As Possible, Despite Being Absent Parents.

Narcs Don’t Usually Have Strong Parental Instincts, So They Leave Most Of The Parenting To Their Partners And This Works Out Great For Them. Narcs Like To Saddle Their Partners With Children Because It Keeps Them Under Lock And Key. The Narc Knows That Their Partner Has Little Freedom When They’re Almost Solely Responsible For The Children And It Keeps Them Safely Tucked Away At Home Whilst They Swan Around Without A Care In The World. Parenting Is Draining And Narcs Like To Play The Energy Game With Their Partners. This Is Where They Tire Them Out Whilst Preserving Their Own Energy. This Allows Them To Dominate Their Fatigued Partner Because They Have Less Mental And Physical Strength To Fight Back.

Although Narcs Do Little Actual Parenting, The Outside World Doesn’t Know This And The Narc Talks A Good Game To Friends, Family And Co-workers, Creating The Impression They’re Doting Parents And Normal Functioning Members Of Society. Narcs Hide Behind A Family Persona To Disguise Their Dysfunctional Ways And It Can Work Wonders For Their Image And Reputation. Narcs Love People Thinking Highly Of Them. It’s An Ego Boost For One And It Also Helps Them Gain Attention And Favours Because People Are More Willing To Trust And Spend Time With People Who Are High Functioning. Narcs See Everyone Around As An Extension Of Themselves Rather Than As Separate Individuals. This Includes Their Own Children.

There Are Several Mistakes The Narc Parent Is Certain To Make During Their Counter-Parenting Journey. These Mistakes Will Undoubtedly Come Back To Haunt Them, Possibly Years Down The Line. Narcs Are So Self-absorbed They Fail To Stop And Consider That Children Eventually Grow Up And See The Damaging Behaviour With Their Own Eyes. Their Children Are Not Immune From Being At The Receiving End Of The Narc's Cycle Of ‘idealise And Devalue’, Where They Are Alternately Lovebombed, (Showered With Praise And Attention), And Then Subtly Devalued, Criticised, Withdrawn From And Put Down. This Leaves Them Confused And Hurt, And They Start Jumping Through Hoops To Please The Parent Enough To Re-Enter The Idealization Phase Again. This Is A Cycle That Repeats Ad Infinitum, Over And Over Again, Even When The Child Becomes An Adult Themselves.

Narcs' Children Will Be Triangulated And Played Off Against Others (Often Their Own Siblings Or Cousins), And Will Find Themselves Vying For The Narc’s Attention. They Will Be Gaslighted/Lied To By The Narc To The Point Where They Their Own Reality Is Dismissed As False, So That They Stop Trusting Their Own Perceptions Of Reality. They Will Be Demeaned And Shamed. If They Are Particularly Good At Something, Behind Closed Doors They May Find Themselves On The Receiving End Of The Narc Parent’s Jealously. Confusingly, The Narc May Then, In Front Of An Audience, Hold Up Their Child’s Talent As A Source Of Pride, As Just Another Way To Gain Positive Attention For Themselves.

It’s Not Surprising That Narcs Want Children For Selfish Reasons. Everything Else In Their Life Revolves Around Them, So Why Should This Be Any Different? But It’s Easy For Their Partners To Be Fooled Into Thinking That They Want Them For The Right Reasons, Especially When The Narcissist Knows What To Say. Narcs May Talk Romantically About How Children Will Bring Them Closer And How Much Joy They’ll Bring, Which Is All Very Appealing, But When The Children Arrive, The Harsh Reality Kicks In. The Narc Becomes More Narc Because They Can Get Away With It And Spends Little Time And Energy On Their Children Because They’re Still Hyper Focused On Themselves. Despite All The Promises They Made, The Sad Truth Is That Even With Children, Narcs Want Everything To Revolve Around Them And They’re Happy To Take The Focus Away From Their Children Because Deep Down, They’re Big Kids Themselves.

In Short, And To Put It Bluntly, Narcs Do Not Have What It Takes To Be Good Parents. They Cannot Put Another’s Needs First.

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damn

[ireallyamthemaincharacter]

Dude this is so me fr

[letsgetyourshifttogether]

Manage your expectations. The more you expect YOU from the narcissist, the more disappointed you’ll be. Expecting the narcissist to suddenly be normal, respectful, understanding and logical is a great way to be more and more disappointed. Let yourself be disappointed instead of gaslighting yourself into believing that they will one day “see the error in their ways” and holding your breath for however much time you think they need to see the light or whatever. (Tip: pour that energy and effort into yourself and your healing journey.) When you expect them to be exactly who they are, it’s a lot less shocking to observe them being exactly who they are. Instead of having expectations of other people (in general too, not just narcs), taking them at face value and trusting their behaviour over their words will save you an immense amount of stress. Of course, this doesn’t change the situation or eliminate the stress completely, but it’s a great start to have this shift in perspective in the back of your mind. 🚨🚨🚨PS: Registration is OPEN for my free webinar: Creating Your Own Closure After Narcissistic Abuse! It’s happening LIVE on March 28, at 2:00 pm EST. Go to the link in my bio to register! #Narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #narcissist #hiddenabuse #gaslighting #manipulators #verbalabuse #covertnarcissist #narcopath #projection https://www.instagram.com/p/Cp2OyyYMtwL/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[john-kline-artwork]

Jessica Jean Hinchcliff, narcissist meth addict.

[wawawawawawawawawawawawawa]

saw puss in boots

[assignedvampireatbirth]

Things a man needs to realize before he can properly woo me:

- He’s mine and mine only. He belongs to me.

- I’m god.

- He is nothing compared to me.

- He was put on this earth for the express purpose of being my pretty, loyal servant and devoted worshipper. In return, I shall spoil him with lavish gifts and by railing him silly.

- Beards are fugly, and wearing them is a fucking sin against me. And so is getting his hair done with those ugly shaved sides. Keeping his head full of hair and his face and body smooth is THE shit and he will earn 1000x more love, spoils, and sex for doing so.

- This world and everything in it belongs to me, especially him.

- I am ought to do whatever I please, and he is ought to do, think, and feel whatever I command.

- His mind is not his. Even if it isn’t mine yet upon meeting him, it will be soon.

- The moment he starts looking crusty and unkempt is the moment he is no longer blessed. Unless it’s his hair going in all diff directions when he wakes up. That’s hella cute.

- He is ought to not be overly slothly, yet not so ambitious or full of zest as to irritate me or surpass my own vigor.

- He is my pet. But not in an animal way. A lovely human way.

- Basically be 1950’s housewife willingly. If I need to force him or coax him to live a a life of servitude to and worship of me, he is NOT THE ONE.

[vent-antiendo]

The rest of the system does not like me.

They say I interact with parts of tumblr that encourage harmful behavior.

They aren't wrong. But I was never a good person, and I'm never going to be. I don't feel anything unless I'm doing that wrong thing.

I would rather be a bad person than never feel again.

In my opinion, from a cluster b perspective, there's no need to be a "good" person. People are selfish by nature, doing what gives them a good feeling and prioritizing that over others, even when they don't realize it.

For example, if someone does such a thing as donating to charity, they do it because it makes them feel good about themselves because they can help others. Nobody does anything without any personal gain, if you really think about it.

Doing "wrong" things (or "right" things for the "wrong" reasons), is human. I don't believe it makes you a bad person to do things that help you, no matter how destructive.

Just try to keep yourself and your systemmates as safe as possible, and try to not damage your mental health by interacting with those parts of Tumblr too much.

[mr-magoriums-im-sorry-emporium]

im answering you because going off your tags you dont want to start a fight or anything, but like... this also applies to every other disorder.

like. if you dont seek proper treatment for any mental illness, it can have harmful impacts on people around you. if, for instance, you have bad (untreated) anxiety and have a child, that could very easily lead to helicopter parenting and making your child feel smothered and scared of the world at large. if you have untreated depression, it could lead to you not having enough energy to properly care for your child, thus leading to neglect. if you don't have enough energy to schedule and bring your child to, say, doctor's appointments, that's Medical Neglect and can harm and even kill a child

this can happen with any disorder, but none of these other disorders are treated as being inherently abusive by nature. and the problem is that with npd/aspd/bpd, these disorders are treated like evil badperson disorder, and honestly? a part of the problem is when people go "hey. listen. no sole disorder is the arbiter of who will and will not be abusive, treat people like actual human beings," people will go "but if you dont get help you WILL become abusive!" like. we know. god dammit, WE KNOW. i think EVERYONE knows that about these disorders by now. it's been said a billion times over. all we're asking is to not have the things we struggle with equated with abuse all the fucking time.

we, and everyone, know that untreated mental illness can have detrimental effects. but for some crazy reason, that's only brought up in response to specifically people with npd, bpd, and aspd being asked to be treated like people and not an amalgamation of every shitty person in someone's life

Personality disorders are usually considered a response to a severely traumatic upbringing, so when people say "people with NPD/ASPD/BPD are inherently abusive by nature" what they're actually implying is "being a victim of abuse to the point of it permanently altering your brain will doom you to become an abuser yourself" and if you are comfortable implying that then I am kicking you and also biting

[loving-n0t-heyting]

what's flyingmonkeysanonymous?

its a website promoting a specific brand of "abuse recovery" centred around painting ppl with certain personality disorders (real or imagined) as neurologically predestined to abuse and exploitation. on the theory, these naturally evil individuals seek out naturally kind and nurturing individuals—empaths—to predate and manipulate them, giving rise to life-upending trauma for their victims (family members and romantic partners, generally). thats the core of it, at least; like all good insight porn and ppl bucketing, it contains like 50 thousand (usually equally vague) subdivisions and epicycles lovingly documented across the site as a combined form of rabbit hole enrichment and predictively accommodating almost every possible outcome

its just one particularly vivid and unhinged illustration of a broader trend, any time you hear ppl talking about "narcopaths" its a pretty sure sign they subscribe to smth like the above worldview. its really quite nauseating stuff, almost qanon-ish, and at times veers into literally demonising the ppl it breezily armchair diagnoses with narcopathic malevolent borderline personality disorder or whatever. good to be aware but bad to spend too much time "researching"

[alexandraisyes]

question about ASPD!

so i heard there’s a stereotype that people with ASPD like attention and act out to get it

ofc that’s a stereotype so idk if it’s true

but the reason i’m mentioning it is cuz, i have a friend that is diagnosed with ASPD (they showed me your blog actually), and they have this mortifying fear of being perceived-ish(?)

it’s like- pretty bad?

i used to think they had severe social anxiety-

it’s the sort of thing where they’d rather be nothing more than a background character people would forget exist, in their own little bubble with the very few people they hang out with pop in every now and then

so like-

this example contradicts the stereotype, so i though i’d ask your POV(?) thoughts(?) on it

Heya! Attention seeking is not a part of ASPD at all, and someone who has that trait while also having ASPD probably has a comorbid disorder! Cluster B disorders can mishmash, I actually talked about it on my thread so hold on.

There's actually a whole list of ways the different disorders can combine by more or less being a weird mix and mash of two different disorders in the cluster B spectrum (For some reason narcopath is the only ship name disorder). Also most of these are the common use name for the specific combos rather than clinical ones bc the clinical ones kinda suck and cause controversy - Narcopath (Sometimes referred to as Malignant Narcissism): Anti-social + Narcissistic - Covert Narcissism: Borderline + Narcissistic - Dramatic Narcissism: Histrionic + Narcissistic - Dramatic-Emotional Disorder: Histrionic + Borderline - Dynamic Histrionic: Histrionic + Anti-social - Covert Antisocial: Anti-social + Borderline

I also talked about this specific stereotype the other day. It's less of a stereotype and more of a mix-up with NPD. The two disorders get mixed up a lot by the public.

People with ASPD tend to accidentally attract a lot of attention, from my experience and what I've noticed from others. We have a tendency for adrenaline-seeking behavior, which could put us in the spotlight. We're also very much surface-level people-people, if you know what I mean. Anyone we meet could be a potential ally, so we keep everyone on our good side as much as possible. That doesn't mean we're seeking attention, it just means we're a magnet for interaction because people love charisma.

I also have horrible social anxiety, and I'm a really paranoid person. I'm literally the kind of person that will cross the street to avoid a stranger, and my throat tightens up when I pass by someone while walking next to a road because I'm worried they're going to shove me into traffic. Paranoia just comes with the territory, most of the time, and I make it clear when I'm not willing to socialize. People tend to leave me alone because I am a walking "fuck off". The thought of being perceived is horrifying actually, and I try not to think about how large my fanbase is because that's also horrifying.

I'm just doing my own thing with my select group of people I interact with on a daily basis, and then a larger bubble of people I interact with less often. I don't have any desire to expand the smaller bubble, but I'm not against gaining more acquaintances should the opportunity present itself. But over all, I think people are tedious and they're all ticking time bombs because empathy makes you irrational.

[ireallyamthemaincharacter]

[kaiserposting]

can you tier list all your yns based on toxicity

Ok I went through my entire AO3 account for this 😭

Evil Narcopath - Junkyard Dog + the rewrite in my files, Most Ineligible, Power Trip, Dogma

r/personalitydisorders lolcow - Perpetual Chase for Greener Grass, Formlessness & Base Materialism, Black Flamingo

Heinous but not to the point of psychologically damaging people around them - Maneater, Duality, Thorn In Your Side + Truce, Fast Cars, Clever, Tether, The Weight, Deflowered, Like Teeth, Taming Demons, Dog Walking-verse, Gooch Grease, Painting Pictures

Justified - Rigid, Solved The Problem, Undecided, Bound To, Oblivion, Pest Control, HADO 98: Massage, AITA for tricking my coworker into showering, AITA for trying to cancel my bf?, The Worm Ouroboros, Language Barrier, Just One Fix, Exciting Electrifying Evil, Mean, Stench, What Does It Mean if I Can't Write a Love Letter?

Inoffensive? - Facial Recognition is Quirky, Fun Fun Fun, Irk, Schemes, Fleurs du Mal Fleurs du Vertu, From Shikamaru's Vernacular: Troublesome, Parabola, Lazy Hero, Priorities, Kind Of Maybe, Wack, Faux Pas, On Your Knees, Bad Company, How to Subtly Show Someone You're Interested

Innocent & Gorgeous - Kill Cheerleader, Slick Talk, Aliens Exist, (Ruining) The Christmas Spirit, Not Exactly an Elegiac Romance, Butterfly Paralyzed, Detox, Applin & The Flop Confession, AITA for showing my appreciation for someone?, Jersey #2, Coil, Molasses

Bonus tier for "I don't know really" - Voyeur to Belonging

[john-kline-artwork]

Jessica Jean Hinchcliff, narcissist meth addict liar.

[cluster-b-culture-is]

Tw ableism!

aspd + npd culture is "I can't be a narcopath, I hate myself and I am not a criminal." and slowly figure out you're being ableist and you're afraid of yourself.

At least you know where to start discover yourself after questioning yourself.

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[cosmichighpriestess]

The Dark Empath

We were born into darkness. We lived in the dark for so long that we learned how to transform the darkness into light. From a higher level our soul knew that we would not have to live or even want to live in the dark forever. We were raised by narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths even some, we can see through any manipulation tactics. The difference between a narcissist and a dark empath is the dark empath or light empaths enlighten themselves and see through the illusions of darkness. Whereas the narcissist stays stuck in a toxic cycle loop, blaming everyone and everything for their problems creating chaos from their unhealed wounds.

The dark empath steps out of the toxic cycle loop, heals their wounds and steps into the truth of the light. It's as plain as day to us what they are doing that everyone else is asleep to in our reality. We are are labeled as being too dark at times, scary, intense and even named the most dangerous personality type, we are-- for the wicked ones for the evil injustices you see in this world because we expose the Truth with our bulletproof boundaries and unbreakable soul.

Trigger warning: We are no threat to the innocent and vulnerable because we were once innocent until our innocence was stolen from us. Who else but us can see through these malignant narcissists, narcopaths, sociopaths, these dark warlocks, dark alchemists and actually change the world? The dark empath exposes these demons we saw through from the very beginning. We were chosen and came here to call these shameless demons out. For a while, we will let you think you have had the upper hand, that you've won the battle meanwhile letting the narcissist expose themselves by thinking they are manipulating and using us successfully. We always win the war. The dark empath can read you for filth in one minute and have these demons terrified of being exposed and shaking and begging for forgiveness. We actually don't enjoy doing this, we wish we didn't have to. But we don't mind confrontation or having uncomfortable conversations. Our silence was for your protection, not ours. We state facts, we speak truth through God, we are not the ones to judge; leave the judging to the narcissist.

Some people will tell you the dark empath is manipulative, emotionless, has no empathy but that is false matrix programming. They say that because they misunderstand our assignment from Source. Understand, these narcissists were murdering and burdening our pure hearts for decades. We're wise on manipulative tactics but an un-evolved empath will only manipulate, lie, cheat only with the narcissist that abused them for a short period of time. We know hurting anyone is a lower vibrational act and we know we will feel God's wrath for hurting someone without just cause. ANY violence, any hate, any lie, any pain, any curse, any abuse or lower vibrational act is inexcusable; telling the truth, and exposing the truth is not evil or lower vibrational. We just speak truth and it upsets everyone not living in their truth. Demons do not like to be confronted with the truth and they will retaliate against us. But we will not be silenced.

Why? We refuse to tolerate abuse and ignorance. Because the holy spirit is within us telling us exactly what to call out. The last thing we ever want to do with all this power is scare or invoke fear in the fragile narcissist because we know being in their body is torture enough. They hate themselves, they are completely disconnected from who they are- we know our loved one is underneath there being used by their demons but if you disrespect us, guilt trip is, blame us, shame us, threaten us, lie to us, gaslight us, betray us, belittle us, abuse us or anyone we love, we will show no mercy for the highest good of all. We've already lived and survived in the darkness we already lived in hell our entire lives, we know how to enjoy our time there and we know what we refuse to tolerate.

We know what we want and we know what we don't want and no one can bend us to their will. No one can buy us, control us, or manipulate us. It's not the narcissist you should be afraid of, it's the dark empath that is the most dangerous, but not for the pure hearted, not for society, but for the evil wicked ones playing in the dark and thinking they are getting away with it. By the time they come across one of us they are done. They are finished. Their karma is the end to their toxic ways. Their reputation is ruined. Any mistruths they speak will be carried by the winds, to the ears of the spirits, angels, archangels, deities, demons, ancestors that watch over and protect the dark or light empaths. They are humiliated by God, not by us. They will never be in our life or inner circle ever again. We do not consent to our energy being siphoned by these demons ever again. They will have to watch from the sidelines for the rest of their lives. We are the definition of resilient and not for the weak. We are both light and dark. We embrace our shadow side from a positive aspect versus a negative one. We are the curse breakers, we are the light bearers in the dark. Beware the wolves in sheep's clothing.