#domesticabuse

[jirai-mori]

𝙸 𝚠𝚒𝚜𝚑 𝚒 𝚑𝚊𝚍 𝚏𝚛𝚎𝚒𝚗𝚍𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚞𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚝𝚘𝚘𝚍 𝚖𝚎

[blessingellyse]

WHY NARCISSISTS WANT CHILDREN 💯🎯⁉️📌

It Attracts A Lot Of Attention. Narcs Need Attention Far More Than Most People And Will Use Almost Anything To Get It Even Children And What Better Way Is There To Get Everyone’s Attention? Narcs Are Impulsive And Don’t Think Through Consequences So They’re Often Blind As To How Big A Commitment Children Are, Preferring To Focus On The Adulation Instead. Narcs Know That Word Travels Fast And If They Have An Ex They Want To Get At, They Might Have Children Just To Hurt Them. Especially If They Know That They Wanted Children Themselves. That’s How Petty They Can Be.

Narcs Hate Being Single And Certainly Don’t Welcome Someone Dumping Them. That’s Their Job So They Use Children As Insurance. Narcs Know That It’s More Difficult To Leave Them If They Share Children. Because Their Partners, Who Are Usually Empathic, Think Of Their Children’s Needs Before Their Own And Although May Be Unhappy In Their Relationship, Stay To Keep The Family Together. With Children In The Equation, It’s A Whole Different Ball Game. Because A Split Affects Them More Than The Couple And Many People Don’t Want To Be Responsible For Tearing A Child’s Family Apart. So They’re More Likely To Stay With The Narc Even If They’re Unhappy.

Increasing The Pressure To Stay In The Relationship Allows The Narc To Treat Their Partners Worse And Get Away With It. Narcs Learn How Far They Can Push Their Partners, Without Quite Pushing Them Away. They Learn Their Breaking Point And Push Them Just Bellow That Point. This Allows Them To Take As Much As They Can, Yet Keep Them Around So They Can Take Some More, Giving Them The Most Bang For Their Buck. The Breaking Point Is Likely To Be Much Higher When Children Are Involved Because No Right Minded Person Would Split A Family Over A “Minor Incident”, Which Narcs Are Experts At Making Them Seem. So The Bar Is Raised As To What Behaviours Would Spell An End To The Relationship, Allowing The Narcs To Get Away With More.

Even If The Relationship Ends, Children Still Play A Useful Role For The Narc. Because For 18 Years, The Narc Has Access To Their Former Partner And They Have The Law On Their Side. They Can Disappear And Do What They Want. Then When Things Turn Sour, Come Marching Back “For The Sake Of The Children". Narcs Don’t Particularly Care About Seeing Their Children. Which Is Why They Often Have Long Absences From Them, But They’re A Great Tool To Use To Get Their Feet Back Under The Table. Most Well Meaning Parents Won’t Deny Their Children Seeing The Other Parent. Even If They’ve Disappeared For A While. This Allows The Narc To Dip In And Out Of Their Life. And Work Their Charm If They Want Some Action. If The Narc Has Children With More Than One Partner, Then It’s Party Time. Because They Can Flit Between Several Peoples Lives. And When They Grow Bored, Discard Them And Move To Another.

Narcs See Their Children As Extensions Of Themselves And Some Want Children So They Can Live Through Them And Push Them To Accomplish What They Never Did. So They May Push Their Children To Become Doctors, Lawyers, Actors, Singers, Etc. Regardless Of What The Child Wants For Themselves And This Can Cause Problems Later In Life. It Can Be Like Fitting A Square Peg Into A Round Hole. People Need To Find Their Own Way, Based On Their Own Strengths, Weaknesses And Interests, But The Narc Is Too Focused On Their Own Ambitions To Consider This And Relentlessly Push Their Own Agenda.

The Narc Usually Takes Credit For Any Success The Child Has And Claims It’s Their Genes And Good Parenting That’s Responsible. To Outsiders They May Seem Like A Proud Parent, But The Only Pride They Really Have Is In Themselves. They See Children As A Boost To Their Profile. Because In Their Mind It Shows How Virile And Desirable They Are. Some Narcs See Children As A Numbers Game. The More They Have, The Greater They Must Be. So They Try To Have As Many Children As Possible, Despite Being Absent Parents.

Narcs Don’t Usually Have Strong Parental Instincts, So They Leave Most Of The Parenting To Their Partners And This Works Out Great For Them. Narcs Like To Saddle Their Partners With Children Because It Keeps Them Under Lock And Key. The Narc Knows That Their Partner Has Little Freedom When They’re Almost Solely Responsible For The Children And It Keeps Them Safely Tucked Away At Home Whilst They Swan Around Without A Care In The World. Parenting Is Draining And Narcs Like To Play The Energy Game With Their Partners. This Is Where They Tire Them Out Whilst Preserving Their Own Energy. This Allows Them To Dominate Their Fatigued Partner Because They Have Less Mental And Physical Strength To Fight Back.

Although Narcs Do Little Actual Parenting, The Outside World Doesn’t Know This And The Narc Talks A Good Game To Friends, Family And Co-workers, Creating The Impression They’re Doting Parents And Normal Functioning Members Of Society. Narcs Hide Behind A Family Persona To Disguise Their Dysfunctional Ways And It Can Work Wonders For Their Image And Reputation. Narcs Love People Thinking Highly Of Them. It’s An Ego Boost For One And It Also Helps Them Gain Attention And Favours Because People Are More Willing To Trust And Spend Time With People Who Are High Functioning. Narcs See Everyone Around As An Extension Of Themselves Rather Than As Separate Individuals. This Includes Their Own Children.

There Are Several Mistakes The Narc Parent Is Certain To Make During Their Counter-Parenting Journey. These Mistakes Will Undoubtedly Come Back To Haunt Them, Possibly Years Down The Line. Narcs Are So Self-absorbed They Fail To Stop And Consider That Children Eventually Grow Up And See The Damaging Behaviour With Their Own Eyes. Their Children Are Not Immune From Being At The Receiving End Of The Narc's Cycle Of ‘idealise And Devalue’, Where They Are Alternately Lovebombed, (Showered With Praise And Attention), And Then Subtly Devalued, Criticised, Withdrawn From And Put Down. This Leaves Them Confused And Hurt, And They Start Jumping Through Hoops To Please The Parent Enough To Re-Enter The Idealization Phase Again. This Is A Cycle That Repeats Ad Infinitum, Over And Over Again, Even When The Child Becomes An Adult Themselves.

Narcs' Children Will Be Triangulated And Played Off Against Others (Often Their Own Siblings Or Cousins), And Will Find Themselves Vying For The Narc’s Attention. They Will Be Gaslighted/Lied To By The Narc To The Point Where They Their Own Reality Is Dismissed As False, So That They Stop Trusting Their Own Perceptions Of Reality. They Will Be Demeaned And Shamed. If They Are Particularly Good At Something, Behind Closed Doors They May Find Themselves On The Receiving End Of The Narc Parent’s Jealously. Confusingly, The Narc May Then, In Front Of An Audience, Hold Up Their Child’s Talent As A Source Of Pride, As Just Another Way To Gain Positive Attention For Themselves.

It’s Not Surprising That Narcs Want Children For Selfish Reasons. Everything Else In Their Life Revolves Around Them, So Why Should This Be Any Different? But It’s Easy For Their Partners To Be Fooled Into Thinking That They Want Them For The Right Reasons, Especially When The Narcissist Knows What To Say. Narcs May Talk Romantically About How Children Will Bring Them Closer And How Much Joy They’ll Bring, Which Is All Very Appealing, But When The Children Arrive, The Harsh Reality Kicks In. The Narc Becomes More Narc Because They Can Get Away With It And Spends Little Time And Energy On Their Children Because They’re Still Hyper Focused On Themselves. Despite All The Promises They Made, The Sad Truth Is That Even With Children, Narcs Want Everything To Revolve Around Them And They’re Happy To Take The Focus Away From Their Children Because Deep Down, They’re Big Kids Themselves.

In Short, And To Put It Bluntly, Narcs Do Not Have What It Takes To Be Good Parents. They Cannot Put Another’s Needs First.

[the420gandalf]

I've been offline for years because of these reasons.

Help only comes when you fight back.

[sgcruz21-blog]

(via Book review: 'Leaving: How I Set Myself Free from an Abusive Marriage' by Kanchan Bhaskar)

[mumbled-tea]

Soul that lost to society

I cried and brawled with all my might to save her. But what was the meaning of initial acceptance When you planned to increase the oppression on me? Your presumption of male fetus wasn't my fault, it wasn't the fault of my princess either. what wrong did she do to you without stepping into the world?

I was ready to break all the chains and fight for her. But she shouldn't take birth in this tyrannical world. She deserves more than living a life like her mother, and I don't want any of my bruises to reach to her. I've never felt safe here so I can't assure her safety.

Now I cry by holding my womb after killing my angel, I was forced to support the society and to kill her. what more can I do now? Other than telling the tale of the soul that lost to society?

[rainsmediaradio]

Delta Commercial Motorcyclist Takes His Own Life After Wife Abandons Him Over Gambling and Domestic Abuse

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[tik4tatthetat]

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age or generation

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age or generation. It's essential for Gen Z and millennials to be aware of the red flags in a partner that could signal potential domestic abuse. Here are some critical signs to watch out for: * Controlling Behavior: They want to know where you are all the time, check your phone, or try to isolate you from friends and family. * Verbal Abuse:  They insult, demean, or humiliate you, even in front of others. * Blaming Others: They blame you or others for their problems and refuse to take responsibility for their actions. * Threats: They make threats of violence towards you, themselves, or others. * Digital Abuse: They use technology to track you, harass you, or control your online presence. * Abuse is a Pattern: One instance of bad behavior might not be abuse, but a consistent pattern of these behaviors is a serious red flag. Your Life-Your Future

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[jirai-mori]

[wcatradio]

In this episode of The Catholic Bookworm, Kiki Latimer interviews Sr. Helen Adaku Ogbuji on her book Dealing Effectively with Domestic Abuse (January 20, 2025) “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph 5:25).This work examines the different faces of violence in our society and how a woman’s body is sometimes treated as an object to be used. When one gender dominates and oppresses another, then the system needs to change. Following this line of argument, the African patriarchal society needs transformation.Many women have suffered abuse at home and in society. Often removed from decisions that affect them, these women live with false stories of violence at home, suffering psychological, sexual, physical, cultural, and economic abuse. Through the grace of God, the reconciliation process starts with the victim of violence. However, the Church must create certain local conditions before reconciliation can take place, including interpreting and using specific gospel passages that refute domestic abuse, emphasizing the recent documents of the Church that promote the dignity of women and family life values, and forming parish support groups to allow victims of abuse to experience healing through rituals, prayers, the sharing of stories, seminars, and workshops.The recommendations and methods enumerated in this work can be effective and fruitful in giving voice to the voiceless, liberation to the oppressed, and healing to the wounded women seeking redemption from their tragic stories.  Dealing Effectively with Domestic Abuse: The Ministry of Reconciliation and Healing by Sr. Helen Adaku Ogbuji, CCVI | En Route Books and Media

[intimeimmigration]

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[kimlouiseifyouplease]

Hello my friend,

I do hope you are well?

Now I admit to thinking occasionally about the past because, yes deep intake of breath, I portion blame on myself for allowing a man to act in such a manner toward me, that domestic violence took my mobility away.

Everyone thinks I am bitter towards him. I’m not I am angry at myself for not having the courage to walk away. That is why I look back sometimes at the person I lost Me.

Do I look forward to the future more more?

Not really, I am, if I’m honest a little scared what the future may or may not hold. How much has the past impacted my future it worries me, so I leave the future where it is in the future.

I think I am happiest here, now, focusing on what I have and can do.

Because the past is gone, I

The future is just a dream

What we have is the present, which in all honesty is a true gift 🎁

So I am wasting no more time on regrets or future dreams, I am living for the present

Have a wonderful day/evening

Till next time 🕰️

Kim…

[killer-fun-podcast]

Love Lies Bleeding is a crimey, trippy, violent… love story. Kristen Stewart’s best reviewed film EVER has deep and upsetting themes with the 1980’s setting giving us distance and the opportunity to take a new perspective on conflicts that feel familiar but fresh. Email us: KillerFunPodcast@gmail.com Follow us on Facebook: fb.me/KillerFunPodcast All the Tweets, er, POSTS: https://x.com/KillerFunPod Instagram: killerfunpodcast

[talkingpictures2020]

Wendy Sacks Water and the Art of Healing

For Wendy Sacks, water has become an insightful metaphor and a medium for physical and emotional healing. She makes photographs that speak of the complex nature of human relationships, both light and dark. In each she employs the symbolic and physical qualities of water in one of its three states: ice, liquid, and vapour. Indeed, it was the property of water to free her own body from the thrall of gravity that first began her personal journey as an artist…

Wendy Sacks speaks about the importance of water in her image-making at Talking Pictures.

[rainsmediaradio]

Delta Commercial Motorcyclist Takes His Own Life After Wife Abandons Him Over Gambling and Domestic Abuse

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