#luxury mindset

[lamusedhermes]

I have recently came to the conclusion that I will lock in until I am done with law school. I will dedicate these years to the sole pursuit of education, physical definition, personal development, beauty, language learning and learning about general knowledge. My 20s are dedicated to building the rest of my life, and in no way will I waste them with futile activities “just because I will not be in my 20s ever again”.

Specifically because I will not be in my 20s forever I must build myself and my legacy now.

[sweet-lil-darling]

💕 There are men who enjoy investing in you.

💕 There are men who enjoy providing for you.

💕 There are men who enjoy maintaining you.

Don't listen to the ones who can't or won't treat you the way you want to be treated.

[venuslilgirl]

I am falling in love with myself more everyday.

[theblackfemininesociety]

🪞Inner Dialogue Diaries — Part One: Are Your Inner Thoughts Your Biggest Cheerleader or Harshest Critic?

Hey Besties and Future Besties of B.F.S,

As your accountability partner, I think it's important to highlight all the struggles women face during their feminine journey and give solutions and tools to help you conquer those obstacles.

Our fellow Femininity and Level Up content creators are doing a wonderful job with helping women look and even act like their best selves. We realized that we don't often see the real conversations about the daily mental reprogramming that has to happen in order to let your feminine energy flourish✨

🌟 The P.V.N Method:

There are two ladies that most of us know of, heard of and even embody on a daily basis. I would call them arch enemies but one cares for the other and the other can care less about them. Who am I talking about? The infamous "Positive Polly" and "Negative Nancy" we all have had our moments with both of these ladies both externally and internally.

Who is Positive Polly:

Miss Positive Polly is very upbeat, encouraging and optimistic. She is always looking on the brighter sides of things and people. She is solution oriented and maintains a hopeful perspective even in challenging times.

She relies on her friends FAITH and CONFIDENCE, together they create a supportive and encouraging environment.

Who is Negative Nancy:

Unlike Positive Polly, the infamous Negative Nancy isn't so glamorous. She is actually very dull suffers from perceptual blindness which causes her to having to depend on her fake friends “The Debbie Downers” (Scarcity, Fear and The Past)

Together they tend to focus on the on problems, obstacles, and worst-case scenarios. The Debbie Downers are often critical and sees the downsides in situations.

The P.V.N method is the practice of identifying which posse your inner voice is akin to, this is how you will perceive everything you are doing, analyzing and believing about yourself.

Which Posse does your Inner Voice belong to ?

The Daily Reprogramming:

After identifying what side your thoughts are on (positive vs. negative) it's time to download this information into your brain. If you are normally pessimistic, This is a daily ritual, yes daily. Sounds exhausting but all of the greats became great because they had to do this very thing.

What To Reprogram?

Self-Awareness and Reflection: Recognize when your inner dialogue leans toward Negative Nancy or The Debbie Downers. Reflect on how these thoughts are affecting your actions and emotions.

Reframing Thoughts: Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with more constructive, Positive Polly-style affirmations. For example, if you think “I always mess up,” reframe it as “I’m learning and improving with each attempt.”

Building Positive Habits: Practice gratitude, celebrate small victories, and set realistic goals to reinforce a positive inner dialogue. This helps shift your overall mindset from self-criticism to self-encouragement. (Click Here For Our Habit Breaking Guide)

Seeking Support: Support is a big part of your femininity journey, commonly as black women we feel like we need to do everything alone bt thats not true! Sometimes external support, such as talking to friends, mentors, or therapists, can help counteract negative inner dialogue and promote a more positive self-view.

🚨 The Good News: There is an ultimate kryptonite to depleting your negative thoughts 💭

[theereina]

[blissfulreads]

[coffeeoysterlayaway]

Not loud. Just unforgettable. Depth that disrupts

[vanillatwistgirl]

"Romanticize your life, but be delusional with a plan."

You are the main character. Dress up for grocery runs, sip your coffee like it’s a love potion, and walk like you have a secret.

Manifest the dream, but don’t just daydream—strategize. Make the Pinterest board, but also build the blueprint.

Soft life, but with spreadsheets. 🌸📑

[lamusedhermes]

Babe, you don’t have to start at 5 AM after Pilates, at 8.30 after a matcha, or at 10.30 after the gym.

You can start at 7.16 at home, at 15,34 after a long nap, at 19.46 after an afternoon of doom scrolling, at 9.21 before a boring lecture in an ugly building and so on. The only thing that matters is that you start.

[sweet-lil-darling]

🩷 Invest in your skincare.

🩷 Invest in your wardrobe.

🩷 Invest in your skill sets.

🩷 Invest in your knowledge.

🩷 Invest in yourself.

[venuslilgirl]

I am worthy of all the good things that are happening to me

[theblackfemininesociety]

💋 Leveling Up Lessons:

🎥: @tiyechambers via. TikTok

Truth: You are allowed to outgrow people.

Hey Besties,

We talked about the inner & outer work that happens when you choose to heal and become the best version of yourself ( femininity + level up journey ) but we haven’t touched on what happens when you out grow people in your life.

When you choose to elevate, you will mostly leave people behind who don’t want to do the same or aren’t on the same frequency that you are now on. This can be bittersweet, especially when you thought the same people who were with you at the beginning will be there with you in the end.

Today we want to discuss how it’s okay to outgrow, separate and even cut ties with people who aren’t living the life you are aspiring to live. We will also breakdown how to differentiate when to loving someone from afar and when to let go for the sake of your own happiness, peace and even safety.

✨🌱 Recognizing Growth and Change

Growth is part of life, and as we evolve, our priorities and goals shift. This can lead to a disconnect with people in our lives who don’t share our vision or support our journey. It’s essential to feel empowered to seek out relationships that truly uplift us.

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Loving from Afar vs. Letting Go 🥀

Figuring out when to love someone from a distance or when to cut ties entirely can be tough.

Here are some things to keep in mind:

1. Support vs. Negativity: Think about whether the person lifts you up or drags you down. Supportive people help us grow, while toxic relationships can hold us back.

2. Emotional Drain: Notice how you feel after spending time with someone, whether it’s in person or over the phone. If you constantly feel exhausted or unsupported, it might be time to reconsider that connection.

3. Your Safety Matters: Your emotional and physical safety should always come first. If a relationship feels harmful, prioritize your peace by stepping away. Sometimes this could even be when you see people start to be shady or judgmental about how you move now. Slowly pull back from this relationship, share less and guard your heart more. We don’t mean be rude and aggressive. Move with grace, you once adore this relationship so just accept it and deal with the accordingly.

The Art of Letting Go ⛓️‍💥

Letting go doesn’t mean you have to be bitter or resentful. It can be a graceful step back that acknowledges the good times you shared but recognizes it’s time to move on.

Here’s how to do it:

Speak Your Truth: If it feels right, share how you feel with the person. This might not be possible in every situation, but when it is, it can help both of you find closure. There doesn’t have to be bad blood, it’s just life pulling you on different paths.

Set Boundaries: If you want to keep some level of connection, make sure to set boundaries that protect your happiness and peace.

Be Kind to Yourself: Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up when you let go. It’s a process, and it’s okay to take your time.

[windonthewaters]

[richarlotte]

Tuesday’s Wisdom.

[foreverrryourssss]

2025