#lithromantic awareness

[flip-flopping-frede]

This again, is a reflection of how much awareness these labels get, NOT how many people exist who use these labels.

Poll Two:

ive included the arospec identities that i see used most frequently, unfortunately i am limited by the number of poll options

reblog for sample size!! (and yes, I <2 sampling bias)

[bananahkim]

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

[flip-flopping-frede]

And this is a pretty accurate reflection of how much awareness these get. Frayromantic and lithromantic awareness simply doesn’t exist, despite those being two common labels for arospec who experience primary attraction. I’m not surprised by these results, but please don’t use polls like this to justify lithro and frayro exclusion from arospec awareness. If anything, this is a sign that the two common arospec labels for people who experience primary attraction desperately need more awareness.

Frayromantic is the arospec counterpart to fraysexual. Fray is the opposite of demi. The fact that there were less discovered frayros who were able to answer this poll than lithros should be a sign that the ace community is doing a bad job with fraysexual/fray awareness.

I just found 3 large fray accounts, and the most recently active one was active 3 years ago. There is no fray pride and there is no fray awareness. @ Aros and Aces, stop pushing the aro and ace labels onto everyone. Lithros and frayros are a vulnerable communities who really struggle with self hatred, and absolutely would want to be a part of the aro community /aroace community, to the extent of trying to “fit” themselves into aro and aroace experiences. I know this from personal experience as a lithro who struggled with self-hatred about my identity, desperately wanted to “fit” in with the aro community and hated that I experienced romantic attraction/felt it was the problem.

I'm sorry for anyone that got placed in the "other" category (bellusromantic, autoromantic, desinoromantic, and recipromantic) .

[noahizslay]

happy aromantic spectrum awareness week to all:

• aromantic people

• grayromantic people

• demiromantic people

• aroflux people

• lithromantic people

• frayromantic people

• arospike people

• arojump people

• desinoromantic people

• caedromantic people

• aegoromantic people

• cupioromantic people

• orchidromantic people

• bellusromantic people

• myrromantic people

• fictoromantic people

• all other arospec not mentioned before

y'all are so valid and i love y'all so much! hope y'all a really good time celebrating our beautiful existence and fuck amatonormativity!

bye my dear humans! 💚

[aro-sora]

“Some aros feel romantic attraction”

Very true! Let’s not forget about the aros who do feel romantic attraction and still for whatever reason don’t want a romantic relationship

[acexualien]

[feltedflyingfox]

LGBTQ+ Pokemon: Aromantic Spectrum pt 2

Aro Spec Celebi

Quoiromantic Celebi | Frayromantic Dratini | Non-SAM Celebi

Allosexual Aromantic Celebi | Aroflux Applin | Aroflux Larvitar

Akoiromantic Larvitar | Apothiromantic Applin | Arovague Minior

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

All of these are available on my shop!

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[flip-flopping-frede]

Aroaces do not speak for everyone in the Acommunity.

Aroaces are not the most marginalized group. Pushing this narrative of inclusion has reached the extent of erasure for more marginalized aspec identities.

Pushing this narrative of “lithromantic is included under aro” or “aro includes lithromantic” makes me feel like I’m not being heard as a lithro, who uses the lithro label + flag and doesn’t feel included. I feel like aroaces are trying to erase my identity and replace it with the aro label. “Aro awareness”-only doesn’t result in more awareness or visibility for my lithro label. Infact, “speaking over” lithros/arospecs/aspecs who don’t use the aro/aroace label, is a problem. It invalidates people and results in more exclusive awareness for the aro + aroace labels, and none for labels that desperately need awareness, like lithromantic, frayromantic, and fraysexual.

[ilikemicrowaves]

HAPPY ARO AWARNESS WEEK!!!

Here's a list of characters I hc as aro + a list of my ocs who are aro

Fairly Oddparents: A New Wish

Hazel Wells: Queerplatonic

Winn Harper: Greyromatic

Whispers Fred: Aroace

Peri Fairywinkle Cosma: Aroallo

Dale Dimmadome: Aromatic

Dev Dimmadome: Cupioromantic

Captain Underpants

Melvin Sneedly: Apothiromantic

Erica Wang: Oriented Aromatic

Bo: Aromatic

Wings if Fire

Turtle: Aegoromantic

Moonwatcher: Queerplatonic

Clay: Demiromantic

Sunny: Aromantic

Glory: Aromantic

Mightclaws: Aromatic

Sora: desinoromantic

Morrowseer: Queerplatonic

Mastermind: Desinormantic

Blister: Aromantic

Burn: Aromantic

Whiteout: Queerplatonic

Thoughtful: Queerplatonic

Onyx: Aromantic

The Amazing Digital Circus

Pomni: Aromantic

Caine: Cupioromantic

Bubble: Aromantic

Gummigoo: Aromantic

Zooble: Demiromantic

My ocs

Citrus: Aroace

Shackle: Aromantic

Oracle: Aromantic

Unicorn: Cupioromantic

Hazard: Aromantic

Bay: Aromantic

Zach García: Aroace

Sarco: Aroace

Ox: Aroace

Lazzy: Aromantic

Abel: Aroallo

Foulseer: Aromantic

Demise: Oriented Aromantic

Eyesore: lithromantic

[eldritchbeingofanachronism]

GUYS ITS AROMANTIC SPECTRUM AWARENESS WEEK ARO SPECS UNITE!!!!!

WE MUST STAND TOGETHER AFTER VALENTINE’S DAY AND THE ALLOS WHO THINK WERE NOT REAL YOU’RE ALL AMAZING AND VALID AND KEEP BEING YOU!!!

EDUCATE SOMEONE ABOUT AROMANTICISM! SMELL GOOD! TELL YOUR FRIENDS YOU LOVE THEM! PAINT IT GREEN! DOODLE ARO FLAGS! HAVE FUN WITH A WEEK ABOUT YOU!!

💚🤍🩶🖤

[lust-for-ultraviolence]

*Lithromantic: people who experience romantic attraction to others but do not want their feelings to be reciprocated.

Edit: Lithromantic can also be

1.Feeling romantic attraction but preferring not to act on it

2. Feeling romantic attraction that fades upon being reciprocated

3. Fantasizing about being in a romantic relationship with someone, but preferring the relationship in theory rather than in reality

4.Experiencing discomfort when being in a romantic relationship with one they're romantically attracted to

5. Feeling romantically attracted to someone, but losing interest in the potential partner/relationship when it becomes a reality

(credit to Monkey_thekinkymonk on r/lithromantic)

[misty79]

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!!!

What does being aromantic mean?

Aromantic is umbrella term that includes anyone who experiences little to no romantic attraction. There are many romantic orientations that someone who is aromantic may use to explain their feelings, including but not limited to,

Demiromantic: Only developing romantic attraction to someone after forming a close bond with them like a close friendship

Lithioromantic: Enjoy’s the idea of romance in theory and can feel some degree of romantic attraction but often does not seek out romantic relationships and does not need their feelings reciprocated

Cupioromamtic: Feels no romantic attraction, but still seeks out romantic relationships and enjoys typically romantic activities such as kissing and cuddling.

Greyromantic: Experience romantic attraction but it’s is rare and infrequent. Some seek out romantic relationships others do not, varies from person to person.

Apothiromantic: Experiences no romantic attraction at all, and some are even repulsed by it.

Common misconceptions

Asexual is the same as Aromantic

Being Asexual is feeling little to no sexual attraction and while it is often tied close together with Aromantism, they are two separate identities. There are many people who are both, Aroace, but there are also people who are only Aromantic or only Asexual.

Aromantic people can’t/don’t date

Aromantic people 100% can and do date. Many Aromantic people have a secondary label such as Lesbian, Gay, Straight or bisexual to further identify their romantic or sexual attraction.

Even those who are Aroace can date they just have QPR’s, Queerplatonic Relationships, which come in all different forms but in its most basic form it is friends with benefits and it’s between you and your partner to decide what those benefits entail.

Aromantic people don’t experience love

Even someone who is both Aromantic and Asexual still experiences love towards family and friends, it’s just platonic

They are lonely

Anyone can feel lonely from time to time and, while coming to terms with being Aromantic can be difficult and does often make one upset that they will never have this fairytale relationship, it is also super freeing and they learn to find comfort from family, current friendships and make new ones with the others in the community.

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If you think I missed something important or if you want me to talk about Asexuality please let me know and if any of this resonates with you I suggest doing your own research just as I did when I was discovering I’m Aroace.

Some videos that helped me were;

Jaiden Animations: Being Not Straight

Spacey Aces: What are Queerplatonic Relationships (QPR’s)? | Aromantics Explain

Anthony Padilla: I spent a day with ROMANCED REPULSED AROMANTICS

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lithromantic toko pride icons

like/rb if using + credit

[anonymous-harpy]

So as a totally random post I finally feel comfortable/confident in saying that I'm most likely at least A e g o s e x u a l and I currently feel like L i t h r o m a n t i c covers my feelings on romance

And in my queer moment of "It all makes sense now" I actually understand why when I first got into fanfiction and fanfiction-adjacent content why I made OCs to ship with characters I liked

And also why when it came to reading fanfiction I never was able to actually visualize myself as the "Reader" insert. I would always read the (Y/n) [Your name] ect as LITERALLY being "Your name walked/did/said" sure the eye color, skin color and hair color i might mentally match to myself

But like

Hear me out

Depending on the personality the "Reader" character would have even those superficial details would change in my head to fit the personality.

And even when I used to write Insert Readers I always viewed the "Reader" as an actual character that fit the character I was simping for

ALSO THIS FREAKING EXPLAINS WHY WITH ONE CHARACTER there was a vicious drought of content so I broke down and read a OC/cannon and guess what? Aside from the writing being better than the average "written by a teenager" garbage I was accustomed to I just REALLY enjoyed it because it wasn't another "Reader" but a genuinely fleshed out character

So like... I used to write Insert Readers and then started drifting back to OCs. And now with the fanfiction I've been writing all did one "Reader" character in a non-romantic fic and I think I was halfway through it when I realized "i don't like reader characters" and I was so confused but I finished it because damnit I liked that fic (never again, not even for non-romance. There's just going to be an "Alex" for every situation now) As far as reading Insert Readers i just do the same thing I used to- I don't REALLY envision myself there, I don't even try and guess guess what? I enjoy them even more now!

Heck I used to L O V E shipping fics the best! I still do! And this just EXPLAINS everything for me! At least with fanfiction

So am I mourning that I'll probably not have a "typical" relationship if any?

Well kinda. It is a little saddening to think I'll probably be alone since I'd always be told "Maybe one day you'll find someone to be your partner like us" my parents always referring to one another as a team, but at the same time I'd already crossed this bridge before when I first believed I was possibly Demi-sexual, then gray-sexual- and I doubted that anyone I'd meet would tolerate a spiceless romance

Besides, I realize barely have the energy and desire for maintain friendships let alone a romantic one!

I'm up for a queer platonic relationship, just... No smooches or romance. Only fanfiction and garlic bread in this house ZD

And I noticed the majority of this post is focused on my Ace status

Welp, the romantic thing is just... Idk a work friend just moved out of her plumb full family home and into an apartment and no more than a week had passed before she got a boyfriend. I don't know or care if they're doing any funny business (i don't ever want to know either), but just the idea that he's spending the night at her apartment- because she told me that's happening- and theb that they've seen each other EVERYDAY since they made themselves an official couple- I cringe. It's insane. I cannot fathom it and yet it's... Normal for people to start dating a month or two after MEETING each other? Sleeping together on the third date (haha, old fashioned and such a lie I don't believe anymore 😐)?

Maybe I am just old fashioned but... Fuck I don't even feel comfortable letting a "damn" slip from my mouth until I've interacted with another human being for a month.

That's why I like my fanfiction and Roman novels. I'll buy the speed dating there, but no in real life.

In other news- I've set a personal commitment to myself to keep writing layered romances and queer platonic relationships (I don't think I've written the ladder but I intend to goshdarnit) both in my fanfiction and in my novels! I don't care how I have to present it to a publisher I'll eventually take the to to go "Oh! This is an ace romance, this person is actually Aromantic, ect"

I want more awareness of Ace and Aro spectrum individuals! You are all valid! You are not broken! You are human and have a right to not be pressured to conform to the expectations placed on you. And just because your on the spectrum and maybe feel a desire for romance or intimacy, that doesn't means you're not stil Aro or Ace, it's a spectrum after all. I know what a crush feels like, but I don't want the feelings reciprocated. That doesn't invalidate me from being on the Aromantic spectrum though.

[perfectlyyoungtimetravel]

Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week Day 05: Comfort/Platonic

he made the blanket himself!

So let's talk about Lithromantic! Lithromantic people feel romantic attraction but would rather keep the relationship platonic. They can also feel platonic, aesthetic, queerplatonic, sensual and sexual attraction

Credits: @comyet

Materials used: soft pastel crayons and HB-2 pencil

See you today!

[acexualien]

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week! 🥰💚