#oriented aromantic

[froglord999]

Coining Post - Oriented Aegosexual!

(based on the aegosexual and oriented-ace flags made by users; @hunterinabrowncoat and @bopboplugito)

Oriented Aegosexual is a micro label that describes individuals who rarely feel sexual attraction but also have some sort of attraction/orientation outside of their asexuality.

Individuals who identify as Oriented Aegosexual can still be aroace btw

BONUS COINING Oriented Aegoromantic same as above but aegoromantic!

[lgbtq-userboxes]

[bopboplugito]

First coining post!

Oriented Asexual

This flag was requested by a friend of mine, here’s what that friend gave for a definition:

“Oriented ace - very similar to oriented aroace, essentially for those who are ace but also have some sort of attraction/orientation outside of their asexuality.

Examples of possible oriented aces: allo(romantic)aces, aces who have a significant tertiary attraction, aces who are quoi/nebula/idemromantic or questioning their romantic/platonic / other identity but still feel like they have a non-ace orientation of some kind, non-SAM aces who still might want to label parts of their non-ace orientation, anattractional aces who have a non-ace orientation, partnering aces who feel like they have another orientation, people who know they are ace but don't want to split or categorize any attraction(s)/orientation(s) other than mentioning they exist, and probably more that I'm not thinking about but fit the guidelines

Oh yeah, also this can be combined with other things, so you can be pan-orientated ace, hetero-oriented ace, etc

There are literally only two general guidelines: a) ace (otherwise why would you be an orientated **ace**?), and b) have a (non-ace) orientation or attraction or affection or any other feelings that you feel are well-described by oriented

Some examples of orientated aces:

- Cody is a quoiromantic ace who feels a complex set of attractions they don't want to parse out and explain to other people, so they use the label omni-oriented ace

- Belle is ace but is gay for women in most other attractions, so she calls herself a lesbian-oriented ace

- Red is aroace but has a strong platonic and aesthetic attraction, so she might call himself an oriented ace

- Blue is anattractional but is also partnering and open to romantic and platonic relationships, so they use oriented ace to explain this

- Linda is an asexual woman, but he realizes he also attracted to other people. Linda's not quite sure who he's attracted to and how, so he decides to use this label

- I (the coiner G.E.) know I'm firmly ace but mostly don't label my attractions and disidentify with a romantic orientation because It's Complicated (TM). However, I still feel like I have an orientation based on non-attraction factors.”

So yeah, that’s that! I hope someone out there enjoys this flag :)

Bonus! Oriented Aromantic! The same as explained above but for aromantic instead of asexual! I could also make tertiary attraction versions, and feel free to make one yourself if you want! :D

[ilikemicrowaves]

HAPPY ARO AWARNESS WEEK!!!

Here's a list of characters I hc as aro + a list of my ocs who are aro

Fairly Oddparents: A New Wish

Hazel Wells: Queerplatonic

Winn Harper: Greyromatic

Whispers Fred: Aroace

Peri Fairywinkle Cosma: Aroallo

Dale Dimmadome: Aromatic

Dev Dimmadome: Cupioromantic

Captain Underpants

Melvin Sneedly: Apothiromantic

Erica Wang: Oriented Aromatic

Bo: Aromatic

Wings if Fire

Turtle: Aegoromantic

Moonwatcher: Queerplatonic

Clay: Demiromantic

Sunny: Aromantic

Glory: Aromantic

Mightclaws: Aromatic

Sora: desinoromantic

Morrowseer: Queerplatonic

Mastermind: Desinormantic

Blister: Aromantic

Burn: Aromantic

Whiteout: Queerplatonic

Thoughtful: Queerplatonic

Onyx: Aromantic

The Amazing Digital Circus

Pomni: Aromantic

Caine: Cupioromantic

Bubble: Aromantic

Gummigoo: Aromantic

Zooble: Demiromantic

My ocs

Citrus: Aroace

Shackle: Aromantic

Oracle: Aromantic

Unicorn: Cupioromantic

Hazard: Aromantic

Bay: Aromantic

Zach García: Aroace

Sarco: Aroace

Ox: Aroace

Lazzy: Aromantic

Abel: Aroallo

Foulseer: Aromantic

Demise: Oriented Aromantic

Eyesore: lithromantic

[rainbow-frogz]

I’m going to come out to my sister later.

Hopefully.

Wish me luck, I may chicken out again like I did the last three times.

But if I do I’m going to come out as omni oriented aromantic and explain tertiary and alterous attraction. I may also come out as asexual.

Once again, hopefully.

Wish me luck please, I feel close to death.

[stormy-caffeine]

Angled Opalian + Oriented Opalian

AroAce + Opalian combo flags!

Angled Opalian

Someone who is a mlm, mlnb, nblm, and nblnb, meaning someone who is non-binary and a man who is attracted to men and non-binary individuals, while also being both ace-spec and aro-spec.

Oriented Opalian

An aromantic asexual (aroace) individual that is non-binary and a man who experiences a form of tertiary attraction towards men and non-binary individuals that they feel is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation.

The flags were made by combining existing flags. Credit for the original flags that inspired these go to: Angled aroace flag by black-aros, oriented aroace flag by @biaroace, and opalian flag by @nlmgalaxy.

[theinsomniacindian]

Being loveless and an oriented aroace at the same time is so weird. One side of me wants to find a queer-platonic version of The One™ to live and die with while the other scuttles away from the slightest mention of love, sex and romance like a terrified beast

[aroacearchangel]

hey. do whatever you want btw. it’s your identity. kiss people for fun. enjoy sex. nobody’s stopping you. being aro and/or ace doesn’t mean you have to be repulsed by romantic or sexual activities if you don’t want to.

and also! things only mean what you meant them to mean. you can have platonic sex and platonically make out with your friends. it’s true. just be sure to communicate so that everyone involved understands and you’re good.

[code-sprites]

Pride Shipping Containers - 05/2024

[callmemossbrain]

brushing your hair, aroace style. holding your hand, aroace style. leaning on you, aroace style. laughing with you, aroace style. cuddling while going to sleep, aroace style. braiding your hair, aroace style. dinner together, aroace style. long hugs, aroace style. inside jokes, aroace style. "babe, love, dear," aroace style. making fun of things together, aroace style. giggling at three am, aroace style. driving to see you, or you see me, aroace style. meeting each other's friends, aroace style. meeting important people in your life, aroace style. dropping off a coffee while at work, aroace style. opening the car door for you, aroace style. comforting hand on knees, shoulders, head, back, aroace style. sleepy drives, aroace style. "I have ibuprofen," aroace style. "don't forget your meds," aroace style.

platonic swag, if you will.

[reggieslocket]

reblog to scare the aphobes

[bloggingboutburgers]

The world DID work really hard to give me trust issues

[infiniteorangethethird]

"aros can still date!!": boring. tired. overused. frequently used to make aros look more palatable and acceptable to amatonormative society.

"alloros can still stay single!!": fresh. new. exciting. hearing it could change many people's lives for the better regardless of romantic orientation

[chronicallyleggless]

I WILL NOT BE ERASED! Userboxes pt. 2 (Full pack)

Side note: I’ve never seen the aroaceflux flag before (4th from top) and let me just say, it’s GORGEOUS!!

List of identities in order:

Aroace

Oriented aroace

Angled aroace

Aroaceflux

Asexual

Cupiosexual

Aromantic

Cupioromantic

Abrosexual

Queer platonic

[pikp0kcas3]

The Hazbin Hotel fandom’s issue with accepting aromanticism and asexuality

Now that it is officially Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, I want to talk about this!

I find that, as an aroace myself, I am constantly grasping at good representation and coming up empty— it usually ends up in one of two ways.

One: the character is portrayed as emotionless, cold, and robotic in nature. It’s the question aromantic and/or asexual people are often asked: “Are you heartless?” The answer is no, of course, but general media makes it out to be the opposite.

Or two: Their lack of attraction is seen as something to “fix” because they “haven’t found the right one yet”, and they end up with a partner as a “happy ending”.

It frustrates me greatly because of how little people actually see aromanticism or asexuality as a true part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

So when I watched Hazbin Hotel, and I found out about Alastor being aroace, I was over the moon. I was on cloud nine. I also saw how his voice actor has looked up the term as an attempt to learn about aroaces, which makes me OVERJOYED?? Amir is truly a blessing, and I love that he’s proud to embody a character that’s part of our community. It’s so beautiful to finally have a proper character, a fan favorite at that, who just so happens to be aroace— and that’s another thing I love about this.

It’s never explicitly stated in the show (though it is stated in interviews), but it’s rather clear when you’re watching, isn’t it? Alastor’s aversion to any sort of sexual advancement, coupled with Rosie’s blatant “I know you’re an ace in the hole” comment sort of spell out his asexuality pretty clearly, as well as what side of the spectrum he falls upon. In addition, his Valentine’s day card was strictly platonic, which caters to his aromantic side. It feels so validating to finally be represented, to finally have a character in media who shares the same lack of interest in romance and sex as I do.

When I entered the fandom to look for more content, I kind of expected to see the same respect for Alastor’s orientation there too. But that… wasn’t the case? I am fully aware that aromanticism and asexuality are both spectrums— of course, aromantic and/or asexual people can enter those kinds of relationships. I’m not denying that and they belong in the community as much as anyone else on the spectrum.

But, the more I see the same line again and again and again, the more it feels like an excuse to just ship what you want.

Usually I don’t mind shipping? I’m often a firm believer in people shipping what they like as long as it’s harmless and they don’t go crazy over it. I also know for a fact that Viv doesn’t have a problem with people shipping her characters. They are fictional, after all.

But in this case, people are ignoring the very thing that makes Alastor a part of the aroace community! People are ignoring his lack of romantic or sexual attraction!

Is this not the same as changing a gay character’s orientation to suit a straight ship? If not, how so? I’m told that we are a part of this community, so why aren’t we being treated like it? Why is it so hard to accept the people on the end of the spectrum who aren’t interested?

Something I’ve been noticing throughout my life is that society has not exactly progressed very much on the idea of accepting asexual or aromantic identities. Maybe we have, a little, since the old days— but hell, people in “the old days”, which in truth wasn’t very long ago, believed that asexuality was a medical condition to be “fixed” by taking the right medication or having sex. That’s a pretty low bar to clear. And on the romance side, you’re seen as a “late bloomer” or “boring” if you don’t express interest. These days, being friends with someone is treated like a gateway to them possibly becoming a lover. Not getting married, not going on dates, not wanting a partner— it’s all treated like a crime when it’s not.

Maybe I’m selfish, or sensitive, or I’m butthurt over nothing, or I’m making it all about me. Maybe I’m gatekeeping or whatever the term is. But please, please, please, I just want an aroace character like me who simply is not interested in sex or romance.

And I want fandom to respect that. I admire the creations that fans make— the art, the animatics, the writing and the character analysis. And I want people to keep creating because creation is indeed a beautiful thing.

But I really would like people to treat aroace identities like they’re important. Like it’s more than just a spectrum to get wiggle room to wrangle in another ship.

[angels-of-horror]

yes, i am “100%” aroace. i’m also the most hopeless romantic aromantic and the sluttiest asexual ever.

hope this helps!! ♡