#ace umbrella

[bizarreaizen]

i will always dislike the stereotype that cisgender men are just beings who only think / care about sex, so my cis men out there who are asexual or just genuinely don't think sex is that important, you are seen and will always be valid :D /gen

[ijustreallylikepirates]

Look at these Aroace queens:

That’s all goodbye

[super-ace]

🤣

[drowsyana]

[spenjelly]

In today’s news: i have been declared Demi by a bottle cap.

As someone who considers themself somewhere around quoiro/nebula or Aego, i am ok with this.

Disclaimer: do not go around saying this to Ace/Aro ppl.

[luxthestrange]

WHB Incorrect quotes#57 It was a Love Potion-

Ace!Mc*You bring out your "Angel repellant"...but accidentally grab the pheromone perfume Paimon gifted you*...Oh no

Camael: I want you, I need you You cut me, and I bleed you You're like some kind of sonnet All I want to do is read you And I love you

Ace!Mc*Already backing away and turning on your heels*I know

Camael: I mean I love you

Ace!Mc*Nods at him,slightly cringing*Yes, thanks

Camael: I said I love you

Ace!Mc: You did-

[catsithkelpie]

I propose an LGBTQ+ Bechdell test.

The criteria are:

•Must have at least 2 explicitly LGBTQ+ characters

•They must have a conversation

•The conversation cannot be about their identities or homophobia

Bonus points:

•They must both have names

•At least one of them has to not be a stereotype

Honorable mentions of shows that pass the LGBTQ+ Bechdell test:

•The Owl House (Disney+ [but Disney does not get credit because they nerf all gay])

•Dead End (Netflix)

She-Ra and the Princesses of Power (Netflix)

[siqk0]

with pride month almost over, here’s a piece celebrating my not so often seen colors

[fixateonthis]

I see a lot of asexual imposter syndrome on here. This is just a reminder that labels are DESCRIPTIVE and not PRESCRIPTIVE. In reality, language is imperfect and our words can only describe how we feel 80-90% of the way.

The following does NOT automatically invalidate your asexuality:

• having a diagnosis that affects your hormones, potentially causing low libido

• having any kind of sexual trauma that affects your ability to be comfortable in sexual situations

• masturbating or enjoying porn/erotica etc

• still having sex and even enjoying aspects of it

• having a physical limitation that makes sexual arousal difficult or impossible

• the list goes on tbh, these are just a few major ones.

At the end of the day, what's important is whether or not you WANT to have sex, whether you find someone sexually attractive and want to act on it, and whether you feel it is worth it. If you find comfort in the ace label and community, then that's amazing.

I am now 30 and have identified partially or wholly as asexual for the last 6 years at least. Hormonal imbalances run in my family, I have two invisible disabilities that sap my energy, I have religious and sexual trauma, I masturbate and sometimes read erotic fanfic, etc. At some point I've attempted to use each of these to describe my lack of interest in sex and convince myself I'm actually allosexual. I'm going to list my "interventions" and hopefully this will give some people some comfort. I've done the following:

• been to therapy addressing my religious and sexual traumas, deconstructed my religious upbringing

• started and stopped 3 different anti anxiety medications

• been married (religiously sanctioned sex)

• started and stopped two different kinds of hormonal birth control

• come out as bi, then lesbian, then nonbinary (each revelation ultimately doing nothing to "fix" my lack of sexual interest)

• dated men, women, and enbies (still no desire for sex).

• been treated for my disabilities to maintain a healthier lifestyle

• watched and read plenty of porn to peak my interest in others (it didn't)

• explored kink (makes sex easier but still not something I crave)

None of these "fixed" me (I'm not broken). My point is that after all of this, I would still rather play video games or watch a good TV show, or even just sit outside and drink coffee than have sex. It isn't even because I hate sex and the feeling of it, it's simply not a priority, or even in my list of top ten favorite things to do. Therefore I am asexual, and my gf is asexual, and we're happier in a partnership where we know our boundaries will be respected.

Stop beating yourselves up. Stop trying to poke holes in your identity. Just let yourselves FEEL how you FEEL. There are hundreds of shades of green, but green is still green, and ace is still ace. Go live your best life, and don't do anything you don't want to do.

[vampvore]

I use “ace” to describe my identity in the same way that people often use “queer”: as an umbrella term, because I feel the ways of my attraction are too complicated to be defined by other more specific words. I like ace, it’s flexible, it’s a little ambiguous. Just like I feel.

[bizarreaizen]

religious conservatives: no sex before marriage !!

asexuals: okay

religious conservatives: wait no, not like that. /hj

[ijustreallylikepirates]

YALL PLEASE HELP ME OUT 😭🙏🏻

I feel like I might be aroace but idk just yet

I’ve been fantasizing about being in love since like 6th grade but now that I’m finally in a relationship and kissing and stuff I just now realize how many normal things couples do I don’t want to do

Examples: making out, spooning, kisses anywhere besides like my face or my hands, sex (im already asexual tho)

It just feels so weird and I’m not enjoying being in a relationship as much as I thought I would

I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend tho because he is so sweet and would be so heartbroken if I broke up with him because I’m like his whole world but I also want myself to be happy

What should I do?

Do you guys think I might be aroace?

Please help

[super-ace]

Happy International Asexuality Day! 🖤🩶🤍💜

[i-am-trans-gwender]

What would asexual succubus and incubus be like?

[thecorvidforest]

happy ace week everybody!! and non-acespecs if you know an acespec person you should send them money this week <3

[marxm-03]

Hey Yall-

I have been thinking about my asexual identity recently. I've never really identified with the word, or even any microlabels within it. I've always just said ace due to the complexity of my emotions. I've always just said,

"I'm ace until I'm not (but only for my bf, otherwise I'm just ace)".

I have not found a single term completely describing how I feel. I've found multiple different ones that describe bits and pieces, but never the whole story. I recently found 2 to add on to my 3rd label to completely describe how I feel, and they are the terms Cupiosexual and Reciprosexual- along with the term Demisexual that I've already sort of identified with.

Since I couldn't find a label, I've decided to make one for myself.

If anyone relates or likes the label/ flag, please let me know. I'd love to share. Also let me know if you come up with any ideas for it, like a better name or flag addition. But I made this for my own peace. Anyways, I introduce a new ace umbrella microlabel-

ROMISEXUAL

([row- mee- sexual] prefix- romi; mix of romance, reciprocate, demi)

-When one only feels sexual attraction when it is reciprocated or initiated by someone they have a deep connection with. A sexual relationship may occur as a result, but is not required.

Color meanings:

Black- Asexuality

Royal Blue- Deep connection or relations

Lavender- reciprocated affection or attraction

White- Sexuality

There's also a version with the cupiosexual symbol, indicating want for a sexual relationship with asexuality or no sexual attraction otherwise:

I am very proud of the colors and meanings and I'm so happy to have something to finally describe me. I hope this can make some others happy too!

🌕

-Michael