#just stop already

[relephantirrelephant]

AITA for asking my girlfriend to stop knitting so much? My (30M) girlfriend (27F) is really into knitting and has been long before we started dating 3 months ago. At first it didn’t bother me and I thought it was cool she had a hobby but then I realized just how much she does it. Granted, she’s not pulling out the knitting hook at dinner or anything but it seems anytime we’re watching TV together or just hanging out at her place she’s always working on some project. She said she needs to keep her hands busy and it’s like fidgeting for her, but I severely doubt that she can be fully present. You don’t have to pay attention when you fidget and she literally always jokes that she doesn’t know how to count. She claimed it’s not all the time… but it’s definitely more often than not. She argued that she can follow TV show plots just fine but when I quizzed her on some details she couldn’t answer some of the questions sooo… I think my point stands. Then she said “If it’s an important conversation I obviously put my work down” but I think we have different definitions of what important means. I also told her I would like to be able to cuddle and physically interact with her during TV time. She said we can still cuddle but it’s literally not the same? I want her to be interested in me, not some pile of yarn. This might be petty but I think I might feel better about it if she knitted things for me, but it always seems to be bags or clothes for herself or like random squares. She did make a pretty cute toy for my dog though, that was actually nice. Anyway I sat her down the other day and told her my perspective, and instead of being willing to compromise, she told me that I’m the one that’s not listening to her and essentially called me an asshole. She’s a great girl and I don’t want to lose her over this but also not sure what to do. AITA?

Yes, you're the asshole. Not just because it's CROCHET instead of KNITTING, or because you demand she make something for you, or because she's 27 and you're calling her a "girl", or because you're pissed that you can't touch her whenever you want, or because you gave her a fucking pop quiz after making her watch TV. It's that and probably a gazillion other things you do.

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[rotzaprachim]

Literallllly so true king

[themundanedumpling]

me seeing someone playing that damned guitar for the nth time in a thai bl

[initforthecache]

hmmgggg Sonic you sure are lucky i love you Cause you're giving me major second hand embarrassment right now

[teapotenuse]

Facebook just smashed me with a copywrite take-down for posting a video of my dance performance exam

I'm just so tired man

[samtalksmusic]

these bots gotta go away bro, im not gonna click on that link :')

[segamarkiii]

WTF is up with all the porn bots? Can they like... Stop following me?

[unforth]

Y'all I know that when so-called AI generates ridiculous results it's hilarious and I find it as funny as the next guy but I NEED y'all to remember that every single time an AI answer is generated it uses 5x as much energy as a conventional websearch and burns through 10 ml of water. FOR EVERY ANSWER. Each big llm is equal to 300,000 kiligrams of carbon dioxide emissions.

LLMs are killing the environment, and when we generate answers for the lolz we're still contributing to it.

Stop using it. Stop using it for a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g. We need to kill it.

Sources:

[lazylittledragon]

can't believe we're all adults being forced into the club penguin level of censorship in 2024

[problemnyatic]

when will we talk about the willful helplessness epidemic on here. So many people on this god forsaken website demand to have any and all things that exist outside their personal experiences directly, personally pre-chewed and spoonfed to them. And when you do, they'll then ask for you to swallow for them, too, because, you see, in THEIR experience..,

[kneelbeforeyourdogbabylon]

Meanwhile

Oh, chapter should be around 7-8K?

[did-we-imagine]

In today's edition of shooting star - make a wish, I wish the USA would fucking stop encouraging wars and actually invest in free healthcare. 🤡 Say no to the death merchants (aka weapons industry) and yes to the life saving (aka all types of medical staff).

[lilacs-and-lavenders]

My mom is pressuring me a lot right now and I don't like it. I don't feel like going out at all. She is making me angry because she is incredibly inconsiderate and if I don't do what she wants she gets upset. Like that is not okay at all. I rarely get time to be alone and away from my parents. I don't want to constantly be around them 24/7. I want space. I'm not a baby.

[sergle]

ALSO IMPORTANT TO NOTE, people dropping mad mad sums of money on gfms and charities and stuff are extremely impressive but that DOES NOT MEAN that putting like $5 towards someone's fund or any good cause is any less valuable, a lot of crowdfunding is about momentum and those single digits add up super fast, you do not need to be Rolling In The Dough to make someone's day!! moving the dial at all is extremely positive!!

[shotbyshe]

4.3.24 - just stop already

If there's anything that I hate most about having to work with people is that when they say "ask questions" "ask whatever you want" they don't really mean it. They ignore you…or maybe it's just me that gets ignored…..

(while writing this I asked again, more forwardly, and the issue was resolved in my favor)

….I hate that I always have to be assertive to get people to take me seriously, and I hate it because it's not looked at as assertion, it's looked at as aggression…because of my skin and sex…none of which have anything to do with my abilities to do something.

I'm so tired of it. It becomes even more frustrating when I am right, and proved to be right. I don't feel vindicated, I feel looked over, and it always has to take a team of people for someone to believe or trust me. Meanwhile everyone else (who doesn't look and/or sound like me) are treated on the individual level, but I'm always a fucking subordinate. God forbid I show you a new/different/better way to do something! I can't tell you how many times I've been in situations where I've known more than someone who is supposed to know more because they've "been there longer", "lived longer", or "had more experience". RIGHT! "So why am I seeing things that are completely blind to you SIR! MA'AM!??!"

I am someone that is always looking at everything from every direction. I see more. I think more. It's a gift and a curse. I see everything and most people just have to see the front or the surface. I hate it! I could use this to my advantage but I'll still have to worry about that other thing: me not being believed or taken seriously. Then when I am taken seriously, I'm being laughed at, or told that I'm mean or angry. It's exhausting.

-- she