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making fun of other people due to second-hand embarassment is the mind-killer. It is the mentality of the channer, it is the progenator of cringe culture. You will not ridicule those who give you second-hand embarassment. You will consider the fullness of other people's lives and the expansive possibilities for what may explain their behavior before painting a demeaning picture of them in your mind.

You will not become the high-school bully you were forced to endure growing up. You will not seek the power once wielded against you to now wield it against others. You will be better than the people who hurt you. You will choose to heal yourself instead of hurting others to mirror your pain.

You will examine your impulses and knee-jerk reactions and interrogate their impact and their reasoning. You will sit with yourself and be vulnerable with the uncomfortable truths you find in doing so. You will be honest with yourself about what is reasonable, about what is hurtful. You will choose to forgive yourself, and you will resolve to do better.

You will not belittle others out of second-hand embarassment.

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executive dysfunction really is a complete fucking nightmare. all the decisions you could make, but you won't. All the things you know you should do, you want to do, but you won't. Yeah yeah we all know it's a symptom but it feels and looks like just.... deciding not to be responsible.

It's easier not to, so i guess I just won't. I promise it's not laziness, I swear. It's not me just giving up on things that affect more than just me, I swear. Maybe if I say it enough I could hope to believe it myself.

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If you can't cope with the reality of having been wrong, done something wrong, or hurt someone without melting down or having a crisis, you're not safe for anyone to be around, btw. Fucking up is an inevitability of being alive. You literally need need to learn to handle situations in which your actions caused someone else to be hurt, because this is never going to be a thing that just stops happening. Being able to just be wrong, or misinformed, or ignorant, or straight up the one who committed an unforced error to others' detriment while maintaining at least a thin veneer of decorum and reasonability is not optional.

You're not owed forgiveness by others, but you need to learn how to forgive yourself for running afoul of your own value system, otherwise you will render yourself incapable of internalizing when you actually have, thus rendering the value system itself utterly useless at guiding your behaviors, and rendering you effectively devoid of one, besides "I'm never wrong, I'm never the bad guy," I guess. And I'm sure you don't need me to explain how that can only go horrifically, catastrophically wrong.

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much to ponder on my thinking pillow

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Literally the most important words ever spoken

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under the lake

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© pet_foolery

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this is an incredible map

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"xyz DNI" blocking people is YOUR job, sorry. You cannot ask the world to simply move around you, you have to take control of your online experience or you will be fucking miserable forever. Most people don't read your bio/pinned/carrd before touching the posts that cross their dash anyways.

Also maybe worry less about if someone who likes something you hate clicks on your tumblr post. I promise it is not that fucking serious.

Also-also if you have this DNI because your friends/moots said or implied you have to otherwise you're somehow Bad and/or will be punished by them if you don't, that's kind of fucked and maybe you need less controlling friends.

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if i had a tumblr clique we'd be called the penis posters and well. we'd

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last night i dreamt tumblr added like a billion buttons to the mobile app so instead of this

we got this

and everyone just rolled with it but sometimes the wide naruto got too wide and blocked off all the other buttons and people would just post "got naruto'd again :/" and the only way to reset him was to log out and log back in

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Eventually you have to stop choosing self-pity and decide that if no one else is going to make things better and more tolerable around you at least you can start trying to. It still feels like shit but at least you feel less like shit after instead of feeling like shit and then feeling like shit afterwards too because you sat there feeling like shit to the exclusion of trying to improve things.