#it's my mental illness and i get to choose how to cope

[n0anix]

whatever *domesticates your Carnivàle Lecroux*

[crimsonkenjii-writes]

Aki brainrot. Must have child together.

Still coming up with a name for her. I saw Akihiro and Hana and I liked those two the most so far….

[pebbibrownstone]

you guys every just want to take a bite out of a tree? like just a huge dummy thicc with two c’s humongous chomper domper out of a tree?

[scrupulosity-comics]

hey is racism one of your obsessions? also white and ocd. if it is, how u cope with it? i'm really afraid all the time to hurt my loved ones who are black people, and they're the majority of my loved ones. and how do u identify whats racism from whats an intrusive thought?

Most of my race-related OCD is abstract stuff like “if I move out of my parents’ house and try to live my own life outside of their control, I will have to find somewhere I can afford to pay rent, which will probably mean moving into a low-income neighborhood, which would mean inadvertently helping to gentrify the community, which would gradually push the original residents out of their homes and disrupt community ties and support systems and creating housing insecurity, so therefore I can’t move out or move on”.

I think that’s just part of a larger existential terror that I can only ever make the world worse by living in it—a net harm to the universe, molecule by misspent molecule.

I have been letting this ask sit in my inbox for weeks now because I’m convinced that anything I say will be destructive. What if my answer enables or excuses racism? What if my answer fuels the anguish of the mentally ill?

The rational and compassionate part of my mind insists that your loved ones (and mine!) understand that you (and I) are white, and have likely dealt with white peoples all their lives, and are capable of judging for themselves whether you are good to them and deserving of their intimacy. It is impossible to go through life without hurting and being hurt by people you care about—always you will have blindspots and miscommunications and competing needs. That’s just part of the curse of consciousness and being a social species. We all get a little blood on our hands eventually, one way or another… friendship involves knowing this, accepting this, and committing to avoid it and then, that failed, to make things right.

Again: your friends know you’re white. They have reason to expect the best of you or they wouldn’t be your friends. They choose to have you in their lives; trust them to trust you, and to recognize the difference between a beloved friend struggling with a treacherous and unkind brain and doing their best in an inescapably racist society, and a racist who whose bigotry makes them unworthy of their time and affection.

I do think racism obsessions are a particularly difficult manifestation of OCD to cope with because they’re hard to discuss at all without feeling like you’re implicitly asking for absolution. With other types of OCD, it’s common to seek reassurance that what you’re obsessively afraid of isn’t true—but what feels more racist than asking someone to reassure you that you’re not racist…? LMAO.

They say the “cure” to OCD, such as it is, is just to learn how to embrace the existential horror of uncertainty. Tall fucking order. Hell on Earth! But in a bizarre way I have found the rhetoric that “everyone is unconsciously and incurably racist” to be unexpectedly helpful… there is no total psychological purging and mental purification we can undergo, no amount of ritual self-flagellation that will drive the demons out, no pristine state we can aspire to and hate ourselves for soiling. Only mundane everyday commitments to compassion and empathy and solidarity and cleaning up our messes. But even then, a thought isn’t a mess. A thought I’d not a thing that happened or a choice you made. It doesn’t represent an alternate timeline branching off into a parallel universe where you have acted on it and hurt people.

Earlier this year I was playing a video game—during my lunch break I got to wondering what happened if you failed a skill check that I had passed in my own playthough, so I looked up a clip on YouTube and was so triggered by the answer (the player character calls his companion a racial slur in the heat of the moment, without meaning to, even if you’ve played him as a committed anti-racist) that I immediately spiraled and was close to throwing up in the broom closet, and when I got home I opened my own save and tried to make the player character kill himself as catharsis. It was an incredibly unreasonable guilt response to a completely fictional scenario that I hadn’t even gotten in my own playthrough, but in retrospect it was a safe way to explore fear of my own internalized racism hurting somebody and what might happen if my intrusive thoughts came true. It sucked and it was terrible and I was angry at myself for being crazy about it, but it ended up being a small dose of exposure therapy and practice at not repenting for nonexistent through self-abuse.

I dunno. This has been a long uncomfortably personal ramble but I hope it’s helpful. I don’t know if your friends know you have OCD (or how it manifests) and I don’t know whether telling them would help. But allowing yourself to trust others to trust you is far more useful than beating yourself up for thoughts you don’t want. I have on occasion warned people that I am cautious about doing certain things with them—particularly drinking—because there is a risk that I may spiral and show symptoms humiliating and uncomfortable to both of us, and I don’t want to put them in a position where they witness or feel like they have to help me manage the white guilt elements of my disorder. These conversations have usually gone well, and the mutual understanding to boundaries takes some of the tension out, which seems to reduce the triggers. It’s messy and awkward and maybe it limits who is willing to be friends with me, but IMHO it’s better than surprising someone.

As for determining whether something is an intrusive thought or actual racism, I guess my answer is: does it matter? Would you manage them differently? Intrusive thoughts may be an evil voice in your brain, but racism is an evil voice in society’s brain.

[plurapony]

Why are you kissing the ass of an institution that hates everyone who doesn't fit their idea of "normal"?

Not everyone can access psychiatric care. You're coming from a place of privilege. And how dare you spout bullshit like "Anyone with a real mental illness would want to get better and psychiatric care is the best way to do that." It's not. You can't tell OTHER PEOPLE what's best for them.

How about MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS and leave anti-psych folks alone.

anons other ask that they sent.

first of all, holy fucking shit anon - did you even read the post? i genuinely wouldn't even consider myself pro psych moreso psych critical. the message of the post i made was "fight for better psychiatric care, not no psychiatric care"

we as a system are pony loving cringelords, we use xenopronouns and are pretty much every letter in the LGBTQ+ community AND we are autistic as hell believe me when I say we are NOT trying to uphold a system that wants everyone to be normal. we have seen the good that psychiatric care can have for people and we have also seen the bad, we know some therapists genuinely really care about making the world a better place for everyone and we want to do our part to make that happen.

cdds are a disorder and at this point in time the only method of affectively treating them is talk therapy/edmr which requires therapy. and yes i do come from a place of privilege as i am australian and i believe our healthcare can be a lot better than some other places. i would never ever judge others for not being able to access therapy especially because that's a position i would be in time and time myself. my point was living with this disorder and all it's symptoms can be a living hell sometimes and i genuinely don't understand how someone with that disorder wouldn't want to get better. genuinely i can't wrap my head around it.

anon you really sound like a miserable person. if someone has a cdd and doesn't want treatment that's their business, but if they start hurting other people it is no longer their business. our ex had been diagnosed with bipolar and bpd, didn't care to get treatment and instead abused the fuck out of us. our mother is very much against therapy and instead again will abuse the fuck out of us. and funnily enough both would use their trauma against us to make us feel horrible. both instances instead of healthily seeking out ways to cope with their trauma they turned to abuse and used their trauma only in moments where it would gain them to moral high ground. and why is this relevant? because it's people like you who scream "let people do what they want with their disorders" who don't give a shit when those people's disorders are used as a tool for abuse.

lastly ill say again so it's very clear. I AM PSYCH CRITICAL! there is good in therapy and that's good! there is also bad in therapy and I HATE that! therapy can also be hard to access and I also HATE that and I want to help change it! and how people choose to heal with cdds is entirely their business AS LONG as is not harming others. wew.

[yuri-for-businesswomen]

„but she wants to be a prostitute, so she should be allowed to be one“

the nordic model is not criminalising prostituting yourself, but prostituting others. the statement above actually means this:

„but she wants to be a prostitute, so men should be allowed to buy access to her body for their own sexual gratification“

and „i want to be in prostitution“ is not a statement that really says anything. it can mean:

i need money/im in debt

i dont have any viable alternatives or i would take them

im being discriminated against on the regular job market (due to misogyny, ableism, racism) and i dont know how to make enough money any other way

i have a family to take care of and exploring other options is too risky

i have substance abuse issues/im homeless and no employer will take me

being a sex object has been normalised and glamorised by the people surrounding me

i have been used and abused by men before so i at least want to make some money off it

im out of touch with my own sexuality and do whatever my sexual partner wants/want to experiment which means i let men do what they want to me

im mentally ill and this is self-harm to me, or i have issues keeping down a regular job

i want to rebel (against my parents, against religion, whatever) and its way too easy to enter prostitution so i chose this

i have been groomed and manipulated from a young age

my self-image and self-worth depends on men wanting to use me as a vessel for their desires

ive become numb to my abuse/ive accepted my fate of being abused by men

the brothel is my family and i have no security net or connections outside prostitution

i live in the brothel so i would be homeless if i exited

ive intellectualised prostitution to a degree i can rationalise the inherent abuse to myself and others

im very privileged and in the fringe minority who can actually pick and choose who pays me for sex but i dont see that only the fact that marginalised women make up the majority of prostitutes allows me this position

my level of education and skill hinders me from getting a job with a viable income

i need flexible working hours that no employer is willing to offer me

i want to open my own business but no bank is willing to give me a credit

im saving for something and there is no other option to make enough money to save some due to capitalism, misogyny and marginalisation

im desillusioned and disappointed with heterosex

ive been told this is my only option

ive been in prostitution too long to exit even if i wanted to

i cope with the abuse by defending it

ive been failed by institutions and people that were supposed to support me

i want to get out of an abusive relationship so i endure the abuse of prostitution to make enough money to leave him and prostitution/my boyfriend makes me

i want out but i cant right now

etc etc

these are not mutually exclusive either. it is clear that entering prostitution hinges on other mechanisms without which no woman would choose to enter prostitution: there is no intrinsical will to prostitute oneself. the ways that lead girls and women into prostitution are diverse but they all lead to one thing: being used by men as a sex object, which means being dehumanised on a regular basis.

[ladydeatharcheron]

“The HoW was rehab”

This is a common argument I see in our fandom when it comes to defending the inner circle’s actions towards Nesta in the beginning of acosf. And I am here to tell you that this argument is null and void, using the guidelines of a healthcare institution linked here.

1. The most important thing is to set a positive, supportive tone. Ensure that the individual is treated with love and respect and maintain a calm, level tone, even if they react unpredictably.

Here is the love, support, and respect the inner circle has given Nesta during her so called intervention:

“You look atrocious,” Amren said.

“Sit down,” Rhys snarled.

“Though I bet it’s hard to look good,” Amren went on, “when you’re out until the darkest hours of the night, drinking yourself stupid and fucking anything that comes your way.”

Rhys scented that fear. She knew it from the second one side of his mouth curled up in a cruel smile.”

“You,” Cassian said from the armchair to her left. “This bullshit behavior.”

The High Lord of the Night Court gestured to the sloping lawn beyond the windows. “We’ve got plenty of space out there for a brawl.”

2. Because many who live with mental illness feel trapped, it’s helpful to lay out a clearly defined plan with options for the individual to choose from.

Now here is the options that were given to Nesta:

“It’s not up for negotiation,” Amren said.

“Your apartment is being packed as we speak,” Amren said. “By the time you return, it will be empty. Your clothes are already being sent to the House, though I doubt they will be suitable for training at Windhaven.”

And this gem too:

Wow! I’m sure that the choice of being locked up with no way out (no, walking 10k steps is not an option for someone as malnourished as she), or being sentenced to die in the human lands didn’t make Nesta feel trapped AT ALL. Good job inner circle. Very touching.

3. However, someone living with a condition like depression or bipolar disorder is highly unlikely to react in the same way. A much smaller group of just one or two friends or family members will likely create an environment more conducive to success.

I fail to see the productivity in shoving Nesta in a room with a man she has repeatedly stated she wants nothing to do with, a woman she had a bad falling out with, and a High Lord that taunts her and abuses his authority to get her to do their bidding.

Here’s a Q&N because I can already hear some of you guys from miles away:

1. “Isn’t that giving Nesta a choice?”

No. An ultimatum is not a choice. Even Cassian admits that it is:

Cassian didn’t miss the look between Feyre and Rhys: the utter agony in his High Lady’s face at the ultimatum he knew was to be presented to Nesta…”

Here’s a definition of an ultimatum:

Ultimatum (noun): A coercive manipulation that utilizes the illusion of choice.

Hence, not an actual choice.

2. “Would you rather they had done nothing?”

No. Nesta needed help. A more constructive approach would’ve been an intervention with Feyre and Elain only. Her actual family. No insults, no jabs, no belittling. They could’ve laid out several options (did she want to train? perhaps dancing would’ve helped her more? maybe she would’ve preferred helping out in the library only?) and let her decide the one she saw fit. Locking her up is not an answer and I’m a strong believer that the most powerful High Lord and Lady of Prythian would’ve managed to make alcohol inaccessible to Nesta regardless of where she was.

To the people that consider it rehab after everything proves that it’s not, please note that the entire point was to get Nesta to stop drinking and sleeping around. Tell me, why is it that when she slept with Cassian, despite sex being her coping mechanism, no one batted an eyelash. That’s insinuating that the inner circle does not in fact care who Nesta sleeps with, as long as it’s under their control, no?

Thank you for coming to my ted talk.

[gravytrainnaturebornn]

the power of self-talk in the fight against self-sabotage (for binge-eaters and ppl who have never been skinny🫶)

disclaimer: this is not proana. this is for people who struggle with binge eating as a form of self-sabotage, emotional comfort, self harm, etc. overeating can cause just as much harm physically and mentally as undereating. please be safe. now, on with the show!

weight loss, but specifically extreme weight loss, equals change. change equals discomfort, so people tend to subconsciously avoid change. this is why starting to see progress on the scale or your body can trigger the urge to self-sabotage that progress and binge eat.

for people who have been big their whole lives, that fear is heightened by the fact that being thin is completely uncharted territory. by following through, youre entering a new world that youve never navigated before. your brain might get scared, say its much too big a mountain to climb, and tell you to give up. its easier to say fuck it because for most people, unhappiness is a comfort zone. if youre used to hating your body and wanting it to change, then actually *changing* it poses a very serious threat to your comfort and the lifestyle youre used to.

questions like: "what if i reach my goal and im still unhappy/unattractive?" "what if i dont look like myself?" "what if i reach my goal, cant sustain it, and then i gain it all back and humiliate myself?" can all make someone feel anxious about succeeding in their weight loss journey. and for people with overeating issues, this is a big trigger for binge episodes.

so how do you combat this instinct to self sabotage? well, im not a psychologist so take this with a grain of salt, but for me it helps to soothe these subconscious fears and train the brain to fight these urges. self-talk and thought-correction play a HUGE role in rewiring the pathways in your brain that lead you to bingeing. truly, practice and consistency are the only things that are going to cause a big change, so stick with it !

correcting problematic thoughts *immediately* when they form is key to preventing problematic behavior in the future, and that starts with being able to identify those thoughts. the moment you catch yourself thinking about food, cut yourself off with a correction. maybe even think about food on purpose a few times to practice recognizing and correcting it.

for example, if you just ate an hour ago, chances are youre not actually hungry yet. tell yourself that as soon as you realize youre thinking about food. i like to tell myself "i dont need to eat, and im not gonna sabotage myself by eating that." by acknowledging it and calling it what it is--literally an attack, by my brain, on my own progress--i immediately attach a sense of accountability to the actions that follow. there's no deniability. its no longer a passive choice. theres no mindless eating or "i wasnt thinking about it." if i eat after acknowledging the act of eating as self-sabotage, then that is me *actively* choosing self-sabotage over self-control. accountability alone can change a lot if you let it.

what i tell myself changes depending on the situation, but i find that repeating some of these phrases throughout the day helps to fight urges in general, and certain ones help for specific cravings and situations.

below are some examples of things i tell myself that have helped me fight the urge to self sabotage. they dont all have to be true when you first say them, the point is training your brain to think a certain way. it may feel unnatural at first, but the more you say them the more natural it becomes, until eventually it becomes apart of the way you actually think and you dont have to work so hard at it. remember: consistency. is. key.

okay ill stop blabbing! here:

•i allow myself to be thin.

•i accept the change that comes with losing weight.

•i am ready to see myself differently and cope with any complicated feelings that may come with it.

•i am prepared for my body to change.

•i will deal with my wardrobe when the time comes, and im not afraid of dressing differently for my new body.

•i will adjust to my new dietary needs and appetite when i reach my goal weight. i will not always be hungry; eating less will be my new normal, and i will be okay.

•i am not afraid of being hungry.

•food does not comfort me, nor does it solve my problems or make me feel better.

•i am ready to navigate a life that looks different to the one im living now.

•i am not afraid of reaching my goal. if i do feel afraid, i am confident in my ability to work through difficult feelings and continue towards my goal.

•im not going to sabotage myself by eating that.

•i accept that people will perceive me differently, and i am ready to navigate that change.

•i am prepared to receive comments about my weight loss.

•i am not afraid of getting what i want.

•i believe i deserve what i want, and im dedicated to working towards getting it.

•i am capable of adapting to new routines and habits.

•fear is not a reason to give up, and i will continue to work even if the possibility of change makes me uneasy.

•i am prepared to face the future, even though i do not know what it looks like.

•i allow myself to make mistakes, and i will not use them as an excuse to quit.

•my long-term satisfaction is more important than what i want in this moment.

•i am in control of my actions and i am capable of resisting the urge to binge.

•i allow myself to have the body i desire.

•i allow myself to change.

•i allow my life to look different and i am not afraid to see a new person in the mirror.

•i am excited to reach my goal, and prepared to navigate any changes that come with it.

•i am ready to meet and introduce others to the new me.

[jellvisk]

Chronic pain sucks, but I think something people don't talk about is how chronic pain also give you mental illnesses/worsen already existing ones, such as depression.

I fight everyday to not thrive, but simply to survive. That's not good enough, though, for the pain tears down my psyche and willpower day by day. My depression gets worse, and on days I'm feeling less depressed, my chronic pain will remind me it exists, tear apart my dreams for the day, and pull me back into that familiar pit.

Instead of just apathy, it has to also be pain.

Depressed and hurt, now at the bottom of the sea, how much worse could it get? I can barely focus on anything, let alone start any task because of my ADHD/executive dysfunction. Perhaps it would be easier to start tasks if I wasn't punished with literal pain for doing so; the illnesses all stacks ontop of eachother like some fucked up Binding of Isaac build.

Now I'm rewarded for doing giving in to my ADHD and doing literally nothing: because there will be less pain.

So I'm paralyzed: surely it couldn't get worse. But then I realize all of this is invisible. All of it, including my pain. So now that simple fact adds to the fuel to the flames that is my self hatred, because not even I will believe I am struggling if it can't be seen with my own two eyes. "I should just be stronger, I shouldn't be so lazy; my pain can't be that bad, there's no blood!"

Now here I am, chained by spikes, self loathing under the pressure of the murky ocean.

I try to reach my dreams, but then they're shot down by illness and then I'm punished.

I try to cope, so maybe I can fight my mental illnesses. Oops! If I cope, my body chooses violence!

This post has been mostly a personal ramble. All things aside, whatever you're facing, keep fighting.

[ikamigami]

Although I see your point about how the show's titles make Moon seem, Moon is pretty mentally ill imo?

Like, not in the """scary dangerous moment 😱""" way that the show may not realize they're perpetuating, but I think Moon had just actually been recovering for a while. Not like, in the "everything is peaceful so now I can chill out" way, but in the "I'm managing my symptoms and I'm in the path to getting better" way.

It just seems that now, all the symptoms are resurfacing because of the constant overworking, grief that isn't being coped with healthily, and of course the nonstop stress. It's all leading to a huge breakdown, but the way the show is choosing to describe it is... less than ideal, I think.

Yeah, I get it. And I agree with you, dear anon.

I just wish that show treated Sun as seriously as they're treating Moon..

Am I asking for too much?

Many people think so.. including the writers it seems..

Though I don't think that Moon has any other mental issues beside depression and paranoid thoughts.. it's a lot already.. and with stress and grieve it's understandable that Moon is acting the way he is.. but it annoys me a bit.. like I said because of these double standards for main characters..

Also Moon had a mental breakdown already.. I know he can have another one.. but I think that some characters could've handle things with Moon better - mainly Earth and Monty.. I'm glad that Eclipse at least tries to help and that Sun seems to suspect something is up with Moon..

I know that Sun is probably also in the category "I'm managing my symptoms and I'm in the path to get better" but it's a bummer that they just push Sun aside so much and that we never heard from him about his trauma and other stuff..

Hope you don't mind a bit of a rant from me, dear anon ^^

[keresnotceres]

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CALL OF DUTY: MODERN WARFARE II (2022)

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TF 141: General HCs [sfw]

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tbc…

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You, With the Watercolor Eyes (Ghost x GN!Reader)

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tbc…

FLUFF:

tbc…

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The two of you are roommates. You’re a bottle girl for the local strip club Myth, Ghost had been coerced into discussing information at the strip club. You’re miraculously on shift, and you’re flirting your way into a damn good tip. Just so happens that Ghost doesn’t like to share (even if you aren’t really his). [nsfw]

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tbc…

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tbc…

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[thedoover-if]

is this my first snippet haha? this got a little long LOL sorry but ill put it under the cut so your feeds arent clogged

little explaining of each here haha

first: you have a drink or more most days of the week. most times you hang around the club, the bartender has to cut you off personally and threaten their colleagues not to hand you any more drinks while they try to arrange a ride home for you

second: i think i responded to an anon's mail a couple days ago but youre kind of aloof, pessimistic and you tend to space out a lot (kind of not there mentally)

third: this MC doesnt spend many nights alone. very much a "no strings attached" kind of person now. they let loose, have their fun for the night and then move on and forget the next. they havent had that emotional bond with anyone since their ex-spouse. its going to be hard for the bartender and the patient to open up to this MC because they dont want to get caught up in that whole thing. by the time either of them take that step therell be heart involved but whether thats the same for the MC is the real question...

fourth: 'tell yourself something enough times, and you start to believe it'. the complete opposite of the second. this type of MC doesnt allow themselves much time to wallow. and they bounced back insanely quick after the divorce but can they keep the happy front up...?

fifth: shuts down every attempt of their friends and family tying to get them to open up. most people only know that the ex cheated and you divorced because of that. they refuse to re-hatch the past and instead of processing the divorce they just ignored it. its like it never happened. so when the ex-spouse shows up at their front step that will completely catch this MC off-guard but youll choose how to react

fyi the bartender's opinion on the ex being back in MCs life will completely differ between a 24/7 happy MC and an MC that refuses to talk about the divorce if that makes sense? they dont like the ex either way but like i mentioned theyre protective and they will be more or less hostile depending on how the MC coped

for the MCs who try to make the ex jealous with the bartender or the patient i want to let you know that by the end of the game you can have pretty much ruined your relationships/friendships with these people cause they wont stand for it

hope this makes sense!!!!!!

[pondhue]

honestly having a hard time trying to justify watching s8. we beat rick prime. imitation voice actors just feel Wrong to my autistic ass (tho i support them firing JR obviously). what do we hope for? more Diane backstory that will make her being dead/gone across the multiverse all the more painful? the birdperson child? am i a poser that "classic adventures" aren't enough for me?

edit: sorry in advance that this response is kind of long. i'm gonna be tagging it as #long text and #longtext for easy muting aaahhhh

anon your concerns are super valid. like, if you find yourself having a hard time, there's no harm in taking a step back and waiting to see what happens before giving it a chance. and if you still can't justify it for whatever reason, that's fine too. considering what Rick and Morty is and what it has become, it's completely understandable. i don't think you're a poser for feeling the way you do. i personally prefer that they steer from that too, and/or if they chose to still explore that route even now, i hope it's in a way where they deconstruct the formula rather than uphold it. Rick and Morty is the type of show where it challenges the viewer, but it also has the potential, i'd like to think, to challenge the people working on the show themselves (even more-so than it already has from what i've read/watched/heard). there's no harm in having expectations and going "i've had enough of this thing, i want something new". personally, i just see it as you being critical of media you consume and enjoy, which i don't think should ever be seen as a bad thing. if anything i think it should be practiced more (within reason of course). and i've also been asking the same questions to myself. i also have no clue what to hope for either, and after ruminating on it, i'm simply trying to embrace that maybe there's nothing to justify in terms of choosing to watch it or not. again, you could either wait until it comes out and give it a chance, or not! i'm choosing view s8 as all of us literally "sitting in the back seat of the ship" and being along for the ride, embracing the chaos. that's how it felt for me in the second half of season 7. it felt as if they were considering viewers who genuinely LOVE the show and just want it to get better (which could be cope on my part!! idk!!!) i think with how s6 went and especially with how s7 ended, i'd be more surprised if they went back to the classic formula (pre, like, season 5) after EVERYTHING that's happened thus far. not to mention that they're locked in with adult swim for like, many more seasons so i'm sure the concerns you're expressing here are definitely something they've considered and are likely now even more-so with the traction the show has been getting again. i truly want to believe that the minds behind R&M do not want to let themselves or the show itself grow complacent (again, could be cope and me just being really mentally ill about this show). sorry if this is incoherent/rambly/not what you were expecting when sending this ask. you really made me think more about all this though and i hope this answer suffices!

[i-eat-mold]

this is not a request and it is not about mold (i’m so sorry). i was just scrolling through your posts because they’re so fun, and i saw that you’re a bio major! i was just wondering what you were planning to do with that degree after college? i hope this doesn’t sound judgmental at all, im actually just curious! im a college student too and i love hearing about peoples plans (if you have no future aspirations career-wise and are just studying what you like or just doing what you gotta do to get a degree thats also a very valid answer)

What up my dude. Of course your ask is welcome here but I can’t guarantee you’re gonna be satisfied with the answer. To be fair I have been extremely depressed for the last few years. I could go on and on about that but there’s no point in dwelling in that rn. When it was time to choose what to do after graduating all I could think of was that I just wanted to do something that didn’t make me want to kill myself more than I already did. And that was biology. Maybe I should have studied engineering or chemistry or math or something useful like my parents told me. But the truth is that I don’t want to die as much now. Depression still lurks and it will and I get my episodes and I get weeks where the sun won’t stop shinning to me and I get my weeks of paralysis and doing really stupid things to cope. But now most days I can brush my teeth, I can get out of bed, I can shower and I can even take the trash out. I’m studying something that I fucking love and it’s still hard to get out of bed but I love attending the lectures and even studying. Do you know how much that means to me? Honestly if any of this resonates with any of you out there, specially younger folk who are terrified by their own mental illness, it gets better. Listen to me, it really does, you have to live through to see it. You can do what you need to survive. I won’t judge you. People love you.

Also I fucking love bugs that’s why. Maybe I’ll get into research or biochemistry or if I’m really really lucky I can do marine field work and sail around

All that said I’m so happy that you like my blog! I love sharing the little worms in my brain with you all silly little gay people inside my phone

[positive-vibes-in-trying-times]

hello y’all!

i’m claudia and I made this blog because I’ve seen how many people (including some of my close friends) have been affected by this recent shift in the leadership of our country! my aim for this blog is to 1. cheer people up with some lighthearted stuff and 2. allow people to rant/talk seriously about the election results and how they have affected them. i’m hoping this helps people even if it’s just something little <3

disclaimer: as much as i would love to, i usually won’t be able to get back to asks right away or post all the time. unfortunately, im also busy 😭. this blog, for me, is a way of coping and doing my small part to help the community affected by this!! that doesn’t mean ill have enough time or mental stamina to respond to everyone on time. <3

What will I be posting on here?

I will be reblogging small things that might help people to get a little bit of joy :) i personally like cute cats or animals, but lmk if there’s anything else!!

I will most likely be creating polls as well. for example, choose something to do today that might help, like hug a pet or loved one, drink some water/eat a snack, take 5 deep breaths, etc!

I will also be reblogging asks!! feel free to send in any whether it’s ranting, telling a personal story, etc! lmk if you don’t want it to be shared, though!

- I will tag any potentially triggering things as well as rants/etc (basically just anything about the election!!!) with “tw” and hide it under the cut, so you can filter that tag or skip those posts if you would like!! similarly, the positive ones that don’t talk about the election will be tagged with “:)”! -

What is my DNI list?

Obviously, don’t interact if you support trump in any way, shape or form. seems like a given i hope 😅

Also, for personal reasons, please don’t interact if you are against aromantic/asexual people or genderqueer people!! i am both of those and while i would prefer not getting my identity mixed into this, it’s a given for all my blogs!

Also I would hope obviously, don’t interact if you are against abortion or women’s rights, racist, homophobic, or sexist in any way, or are for banning books esp in schools !!

- You will be blocked and reported if any of these!! like my blog name says, positive vibes only <3 -

umm i think that’s it!! feel free to send in asks about rants, any questions, experiences, etc!!

stay safe yall <3

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National Suicide Prevention Hotline: CALL or TEXT 988

The Trevor Project (for LGBTQ+ youth) Hotline: 1-866-488-7368

[angria]

Maybe TW? I don't know what to call it...ableist language? State treatment of mental illness, SH, SI. Nothing in detail.

Another good MH session with a larger turn out than last week. Although, one woman in attendance came up to me afterwards and ended up talking with me for 20 minutes about her daughter, who has severe, chronic mental illness. Who is under legal guardianship and in a state hospital.

The specific details this woman shared were definitely triggering on top of being caught off-guard by the amount of detail she was going into so quickly. I was trying to validate her desperation and her need to take care of herself while also not getting defensive of her daughter. Certain things the woman said about SH and suicide where completely misunderstood and me trying to explain x,y,z is part of being sick while not invalidating the woman's frustration. Her daughter cannot "rationalize" the same way the woman can ("Why can't she just choose to get better?"). To her daughter, SH and suicide make sense and are adaptive ways to cope with her history. They are "rational." The woman did tell me my class and what I told her afterward helped. She kept asking me "Should I just accept this?" I shared my own experience with the word "acceptance" and how I replaced it with "acknowledgement." She seemed to brighten to that wording.

But oof. Was not prepared for that happening this morning. When already feel like suicidal shit and carrying my own heaviness. This just reaffirmed I cannot handle clinical social work. I have such a hard time not internalizing and absorbing others' emotional experiences and not comparing my experiences with others (look, other people have it worse...who are you to be suicidal or SH?)

(also, I did ask the woman if she had external support and to check in with someone before leaving. She was upset, but not using suicidal language. And she said she talks to her therapist and E regularly about the situation).