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while i am spewing my takes, might as well give my academia one.
i think that the culture of trigger warnings in social spheres is great. i really do. i think it’s awesome to know what might be coming and to help people feel more prepared to confront difficult topics... all that being said... i think it did some intense damage to academia in regards to reading.
to go into an academic setting and complain in front of the class to the professor about the book he’s chosen to use as course material for the basis of our modeling, stating that the book itself is triggering and that he should provide parts that can be skipped over... feels absurd. this is a college, upper division course. we’ve all been in college for SEVERAL years if we are taking this course. by now, you should know and understand that courses often include potentially triggering topics.
that aside, trigger warnings in an academic setting are a courtesy and not a requirement. if you have triggers, whether they be common or uncommon, it is on you alone to check for yourself if the book has triggering content and then reach out to your professor on your own time to see if it would be possible to provide a trigger warning / work out some kind of alternative. your triggers are not anyone else’s responsibility, which sounds like a tough pill to swallow but it’s true.
the syllabus actually INCLUDES the warning that some topics discussed may be upsetting. they always do because academia (especially creative academia) deals HEAVILY in those topics and uses them as a point of learning and discussion. to go to a professor in front of the entirety of the class and be rude about the content of a book (the book is dawn by octavia butler, mind you. a black, lesbian author whose work is famous for it’s masterful navigation of topics regarding oppression) required in the course syllabus because the syllabus does not include explicit trigger warnings.. is remarkably unprofessional and a gross misunderstanding of the way books and academia work. then, to insinuate that the triggering topics of the book (which is.. as i understand it.. a lot of it) don’t matter BECAUSE they may be triggering is a gross misunderstanding of the book content itself.
if you are in college—in academia—engaging with texts.. it is (i’d venture) common sense that you will encounter uncomfortable and potentially upsetting things. if you have triggers, it’s on you to be proactive about it and figure out alternatives for yourself with the professor. to take away a chunk of class time arguing that the trigger warning is not enough when there is a clear statement in the syllabus that states “as this is an upper division level, university course, it is likely this class will include content that some people may find upsetting”.. feels absolutely absurd to me. ask in private. email the professor for accommodations.
anyway... all of this to say that while triggers are common practice online.. they are not in the world and while they are useful, they are not requirements. you’re responsible for yourself and your own triggers. .
#that's my harsh take of the day#i think compassion is great#if it were me teaching a course... i would include trigger warnings for this book#but the fact is... it's not me teaching it#and i am responsible for my own triggers so... i do that shit on my own#and the WAY she approached the professor about it... (ie: very rude and accusatory) did NOT sit right with me at all#in academia... you're not entitled to trigger warnings#u are an adult. if u suspect that it might contain triggering content... fucking look it up and email the professor about it#don't consume 30 minutes of class time arguing.#idk if this is even coherent#and i probably sound so heartless#but HOO if you HEARD the way she spoke to this man who was just trying to go over the syllabus??? it was RIDICULOUS#i sympathize but i do nooott support that kind of approach... especially when it is disruptive of the rest of the class#she was just... so MEAN 😭😭😭😭#like... and he was TRYING TO FIND WHAT PART SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT#trying to explain that yes it has triggering content but that's... part of what the book is about and that we can't just skip over it#he was so nice to her about it#and she FULLY came at him#first over the mic and then in chat
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if you're a white person taking pleasure in the idea that Trump voters of colour are experiencing racist violence from white trumpers because "they got what's coming to them" I don't think you're anti-racist at all, I think you were just waiting for an acceptable target, and you're also fucking weird.
Bad Person Deserves Punishment For Their Sins give me a fucking break and get yourself out of the fucking catholic church. you're all prison abolitionists until you see someone you don't like.
#assholes still do not deserve to be victims of bigotry#people will crow this up and down until they find someone they think is a big enough asshole to really deserve it#watch your cognitive dissonance kids#i really am only speaking to white people here. as a white person.#POC can feel however they feel.#though i still don't think it's an appropriate sentiment to turn into Political Praxis there is of course a need to vent#like idk i don't find any marginalised suffering under fascism funny. i think it's fucking sad.#i think it is sad when right wing gay people experience homophobia and i think it is sad when right wing trans people experience transphobia#and when right wing disabled people experience ableism and when right wing women experience misogyny#leopards eating faces is funny when it's about like. rich people or misogynists or whatever it's.#do you understand that this is punching down?#why are we wasting our energy hoping for the victimisation of specific marginalised people#this would be a great time to do some outreach but instead everyone is just fucking MOCKING THEM#you're so fucking stupid you don't care about The Cause you care about Winning#this shit makes me furious.#have some compassion#the system speaks#USpol#Trump#racism#politics
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Every Boromir hater makes my enormous love for him grow stronger. Sorry you couldn't understand him, I get him tho and we're holding hands and the whole of Gondor is laughing at you
#lotr#boromir#tbh i think id actually have a good time chatting w a boromir hater if they knew and understood the material but still hated him#cuz most people who dislike this man do because of very shallow reasons#'he was upset looking down at narsil' one can only wonder why that has baggage for a gondorian and the stewards son#'he didnt accept aragorn at first' yea i bet when a dirty ass ranger claims the throne of a kingdom without having lived there#when your fam took care of it for several generations it doesnt feel super great and you Might be a bit upset and worried about it#'he tried to take the ring from frodo' despite disagreeing w the councils decision he still earnestly followed them to destroy the ring#and he only fell after weeks of traveling as the ring whispered to him threats of destruction#one that unlike the rest of the fellowship was already Actively happening and had been happening for a long time#you see ur cities fall and people die everyday as the 1st line of defense against ultimate evil and we tell you not to use a perfect weapon#while said weapon tells you yes it will fix everything just grab it go on boy#and echoes words your father has been pushing onto you all throughout#it feels like people just have no sympathy compassion or understanding for all he's gone through or for the power of the ring#deep breath. im ok#im normal about boromir and my heart doesnt shatter at every rewatch of his death#id have followed you my steward.
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Me to myself at work:
Be like Hannibal. No shame.
You didn't know something? Not your problem. You know it now -- okay, whatever.
You missed someone's e-mail? Apologize and move on. No big deal.
You didn't do something you were supposed to because no-one had trained you? No shame. The company's fault.
NO SHAME AT WORK
You don't have to give your 100% because it's gonna kill you.
Take breaks, take care of yourself and remember: fuck grind culture.
#hannibal lecter#hannibal#I hope you guys don't yell at me because it's not 100% Hannibal-related :c#grind culture#work culture#work#antiwork#self care#self respect#self compassion#self love#no shame#no guilt#perfectionism#mental health#mental health awareness#self care is not selfish#ok tumblr just recommended “self cannibalism” to me and THAT'S A BIT TOO FAR#burnout#burnout recovery#you matter#nbc hannibal#hannibal nbc#I always add a bazillion tags and think everyone hates me for it#well what if they don't#(but let me know if you do)#(yeah I'm not that great at Hannibalistic “no shame” yet)
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#dahlia hawthorne#ace attorney#phoenix wright#dahlia x phoenix#alexa play dark red by steve lacy#my art#since i dont want to make a dedicated post let me use my notes to vent about how much i love dahlia conceptually and how much i wish AA +#writers weren't sexist#dahlia was given the shittiest set of cards when she was a kid and she was a victim of grooming by that terry loser#she is CONSTANTLY objectified and sexualised and i think her design as a skinny young looking individual makes it even more distasteful#but i think it works if the writers could have done something with that#what i love about dahlia and phoenix's relationship is the contrast - phoenix needs to see people as innocent before jumping to help them v#dahlia who has if you think about it is innocent to a degree given how fucked up her childhood was#dahlia could have been a great case study into compassion for phoenix as she has hurt him directly but in his role as a lawyer he has to se#past certain flaws so justice can be served#and it can PUSH his understanding of what is “guilty”#yes dahlia killed people but also i choose to believe her worldview was severely warped by her enviornment and she's a product of it#or if they wanted to make her a villain and stick with it i think as a rival ro phoenix she should have been a cautionary tale#of what happens when you never learn to move beyond the shitty hand youve been dealt with and live non judgementally#anyways ^_^
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#dbtag#silly hours#god#I feel like that's a really clear and consistent thing throughout the entirety of the manga but OTL leave it to Toei!!!!#lays on the floor I wish people were less afraid of letting “good guys” be flawed and selfish and reckless without having to like.#idk vilify them?#like Goku does and always has had a ton of negative qualities about him but what keeps him a protag and what keeps those negatives charming#is that 1) he never promises to be anything Else. If you're upset by his behavior that's a you problem Goku's just doing Goku#He's only upset when Other People get hurt because 2) almost none of those negative qualities contain any malice whatsoever#even as a kid when he was 'i killed that guy' it was like 'i solved a problem why are you mad (gen)' not 'good fucking riddance lol'#and he kept that as an adult too even when he learned more about compassion he's still 'well if you're not gonna stop i have to kill you'#it's never 'fuck off and die' it's always 'listen buddy either you knock it off or i knock you out there is no option c '#and god i love that Goku. I spent so long thinking I hated Goku growing up but I only hated Toei's Goku. Toriyama's Goku is GREAT.#like look if an antagonist is just a hero with the wrong perspective a hero is just a villain with the right one#and the fact that Goku has all of the qualities of a villain with none of the malice or intention makes him SO POWERFUL as a character#Goku doesn't like bystanders getting hurt. That doesn't make him less chaotic and self-centered and simplistic in his worldview.#A hero sacrifices his loved ones to save the world -- a villain sacrifices the world to save his loved ones --#Goku sacrifices himself because you cannot kill him in any way that matters#idskahds anyway here's another essay in the tags for your wednesday evening scroll#the justification the interviewer gave was that the anime was for kids but my beef with that is that Hero Tropes strip chaotic characters#of their emotions. Goku's conflicts are emotional. Goku's power is emotional. Goku's childlikeness keep him authentically emotional.#MORE kids -- ESPECIALLY little boys -- deserve a male protagonist who leans into his emotions to persevere and win.#Super deciding his “angelic state” would kill him makes me want to tear my hair out lmao Goku's EMOTIONS are too strong to hold it.#you could've just asked toriyama about it why'd you decide on the most basic high-stakes shorthand possible OTL#aNYWAY#media analysis#in the tags at least lol
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lucy gray is peeta this, sejanus is katniss that, when are we going to talk about how peeta is who SNOW could've been
#manipulative silver-tongued snakes from rough but relatively privileged circumstances#who meet A Girl (from district 12)#but peeta has genuine love and compassion for not just katniss but also the people around him#so he uses his power for good#and katniss admires him a lot for this so i think it's easy to forget#that he's also mister “star-crossed lovers ploy”#mister “maybe we shouldn't quell the districts”#mister “haymitch i'm making you go cold turkey on alcohol”#and mister “if it weren't for the baby”#tho in all seriousness these thg/tbosas parallels posts are great keep 'em coming#the hunger games#the ballad of songbirds and snakes#peeta mellark#words
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Hyper specific theory aside, I do have to say I don't think Sofia is gonna spare Francis. Like I've seen people talk like Sofia's gonna feel bad, she's gonna think about her own mom—
I really don't think so.
Sofia has been very consistent about who she spares. Gia, Sal, and Eve all remind her of her own trauma in some way, with Gia being almost a younger Sofia, and Sal and Eve being examples of what she wishes her own authority figures had been like.
Mama Cobb... I can't see her being anything but horrendously abrasive with Sofia, and if she sees how Francis browbeats Oz... I don't see Sofia dredging up much empathy for her.
#sofia falcone#sofia gigante#francis cobb#to be clear since this is the piss on the poor website#i don't think that's justified on sofias part yeah?#sofia is not a good person she only has compassion and mercy for people who she identifies which is not great#and i think the show knows that i think the show has kept the girlbossing to a relative minimum
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Nobody prepares u for the anxiety of finding good homes for the puppies
#obvs dont really have to start thinking about this for at least a few more weeks#but i am having the anxiety#i want them to go to good homes :(#should i make a puppy go home packet for adopters? yes#how much info should i include? all of it#you WILL raise your new puppy with kindness and compassion#and scientifically backed evidence#meadow got a baby break and got to go out with me#absolute charmer we met TWO people who were like#wow. this is such a great dog.#they will be checking out her adoption listing once its up
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Seven, Brienne thought again, despairing. She had no chance against seven, she knew. No chance, and no choice.
She stepped out into the rain, Oathkeeper in hand. “Leave her be. If you want to rape someone, try me.”
- Brienne VII, AFFC
“I know the cost! Last night, gazing into that hearth, I saw things in the flames as well. I saw a king, a crown of fire on his brows, burning … burning, Davos. His own crown consumed his flesh and turned him into ash. Do you think I need Melisandre to tell me what that means? Or you?” The king moved, so his shadow fell upon King’s Landing. “If Joffrey should die … what is the life of one bastard boy against a kingdom?”
“Everything,” said Davos, softly.
- Davos V, ASOS
Ned had heard enough. “You send hired knives to kill a fourteen-year-old girl and still quibble about honor?” He pushed back his chair and stood. “Do it yourself, Robert. The man who passes the sentence should swing the sword. Look her in the eyes before you kill her. See her tears, hear her last words. You owe her that much at least.”
[…]
“I will not be part of murder, Robert. Do as you will, but do not ask me to fix my seal to it.”
For a moment Robert did not seem to understand what Ned was saying. Defiance was not a dish he tasted often. Slowly his face changed as comprehension came. His eyes narrowed and a flush crept up his neck past the velvet collar. He pointed an angry finger at Ned. “You are the King’s Hand, Lord Stark. You will do as I command you, or I’ll find me a Hand who will.”
“I wish him every success.” Ned unfastened the heavy clasp that clutched at the folds of his cloak, the ornate silver hand that was his badge of office. He laid it on the table in front of the king, saddened by the memory of the man who had pinned it on him, the friend he had loved. “I thought you a better man than this, Robert. I thought we had made a nobler king.”
Robert’s face was purple. “Out,” he croaked, choking on his rage. “Out, damn you, I’m done with you. What are you waiting for? Go, run back to Winterfell. And make certain I never look on your face again, or I swear, I’ll have your head on a spike!”
Ned bowed, and turned on his heel without another word.
- Eddard VIII, AGOT
“I know what I swore.” Jon said the words. “I am the sword in the darkness. I am the watcher on the walls. I am the fire that burns against the cold, the light that brings the dawn, the horn that wakes the sleepers, the shield that guards the realms of men. Were those the same words you said when you took your vows?”
“They were. As the lord commander knows.”
“Are you certain that I have not forgotten some? The ones about the king and his laws, and how we must defend every foot of his land and cling to each ruined castle? How does that part go?” Jon waited for an answer. None came. “I am the shield that guards the realms of men. Those are the words. So tell me, my lord—what are these wildlings, if not men?”
- Jon XI, ADWD
Them 🫶🏽
#jon snow#brienne of tarth#davos seaworth#eddard stark#asoiaf#valyrianscrolls#yeah it’s about defiance#you have tradition of trampling over people who are lesser or weaker#but each of them said no ❤️#Brienne could’ve left the children on their own but decided to make a stand#Ned is told that one must do terrible things for the good of the realm but he refuses because this little girl’s life is important#davos is told that he must sacrifice one child to save an entire kingdom but he thinks this one child’s life matters#Jon is told that to save the watch he must leave the wildlings to their doom because who will feed them and the watch but Jon says#I swore to protect all men I will not sacrifice some to save others#it’s love and empathy and compassion and the defiance that comes with it#at the great personal cost of one’s own life
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genuinely obsessed with how harrowhark has exactly two (2) big viable ships and literally both of them follow the dynamic of
“gf who cannot credibly claim to have smiled for longer than 15 non-consecutive seconds in her entire life” x “gf who hasn’t lost her smug grin even once even when everything absolutely and objectively sucks ass for her all the time”
like harrow clearly has a type
#like tbf ianthe and gideon are smug grinning for different reasons but STILL#if i had to place ianthe and gideon on some sort of political compass id say they both score high on stupid smirk#but they would be on opposite extremes of the emotionally constipated category#actually this implies that there should be a 4th quadrant#with a character who is open about their emotions but also never ever smiles#actually wait i think that might be camilla#ANYWAY rant over thanks for sticking with it tho xoxo#if you got this far down in the tags i hope u have a great day#harrianthe#griddlehark#ianthe tridentarius#gideon the ninth#gideon nav#gideon the ninth spoilers#harrowhark nonagesimus#harrow the ninth#tlt#the locked tomb
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do people like. Not realise that it is possible to be critical of two things at once or
#seeing some wild posts about the situation of Bangladeshi hindus. Be safe you all#I think we can condemn these attacks while also calling out Islamaphobia in India. One doesn't cancel out the other.#and—here's the mindblowing thing; you may need to sit down for this—it might actually be possible to do this without drawing up#graphs and charts to show evidence of why your pain is greater than someone else's pain.#Different resources and help being required in different countries. Spotlighting one does not have to eat into the resources of the other#No one should need to prove that 'actually WE are suffering more' like do we not have#the capacity for compassion for two different situations at once or are we 5 years old?#also there's literally no need to drag another ethnicity into this; our country doesn't exactly have a great record on islamophobia...#please let's show our concerns and support WITHOUT sounding like online h*ndutvas please please please thank you#and before you respond in my inbox: anon is off; fuck off. Why do you think this is in tags and not in the post?#I don't want to talk to you and I don't have to. Didn't write this to get argued at by you.#B*P hounds can go be mad somewhere else.
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!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#A great episode tbh especially given the low budget. I feel like they really did their very best#And even though what I'm going to say next is probably going to be all critic - because I nitpick things and that's what I always end up–#talking about - I still want to underline that it was a very solid and enjoyable episode!!!#Alright the ss/kk was so 💞💞💞 every scene I had to rewatch twice or thrice akhscbashfb they're so cute!!!#Except for the riding scene tho. That scene gives me massive second hand embarrassment every time I just wish it will end as fast as–#possible pffttt. Mmmmhhh... The drawings weren't even too bad all accounted. My main complain is about the quicksand scene...#I feel like that one should be a slow quiet emotional scene. I never licked the choice of using the song as background soundtrack :/#I feel like it ruins the mood of the scene (it was still good though)#I also... Generally don't like the direction they seem to go for with Akutagawa's character in the anime‚ he seems quite a bit flatter–#compared to how he is in the manga. He can't be angry and evil ALL the time you need to show that softness get through from time to time.#If not what even is the point of his character. Yet in the anime he's angry (and not distraught) when he loses the mine craft and he's–#angry when he's questioning Atsushi about his motifs and he's angry when he's bragging about Atsushi's abilities to Goncharov and he's–#angry when he makes the promise with Atsushi at the end of the episode and eventually he'll be just as angry even when telling Atsushi–#to run away as he's sacrificing his life for him. It is pretty flat at the end of the day.#If I can say something about K/ensho Ono without being killed I think they do contribute to making him feel angry all the time.#But that said it's all probably poor directing choices (or simply choices I don't agree with).#Also‚ about cuts. Usually I try to be lenient about it– I understand it's hard to fit in everything and b/sd already does a very–#good job by adapting the manga almost panel-by panel. It's just that... You skip Akutagawa showing compassion for Atsushi after the–#orphanage director died. You skip Atsushi sharing the same compassion when Akutagawa loses his targed in the mines chase. You skip the–#“Nothing special about that. // I suppose he's far crueler than my own mentor.” line. And sure each of them may be negligible by their own#But together they wave a consistent web of relationship between the two characters you know? And it's a loss to omit them all#Well no mind. Again it was still a great episode overall!!!!#I think the colors in the mines could have been prettier in the mines but we can't have it all#Off to season 4!!! Omg I can't believe we got this far :DDD#random rambles#FINALLY was able to catch up in time for the season 3 finale!!!!!!
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Idk y’all, I don’t think “she was there, be ready” means “how dare you worship the everlight.” I think it was probably more meant to be “be prepared because you will be disappointed in your goddess” which. She very well might be! Ashton doesn’t know. Pike also won’t know, so he tried to warn her as best as his 6 charisma ass could
#idk man I think we all assume the worst of ashton sometimes but Ashton does have compassion and care#they’re just not great at expressing it#cr spoilers
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what do you consider the heart of californication? like really carries through the series & makes it compelling
thank you for this question, i really love it. to me, it's a number of things, starting with that the show cares deeply about hank and takes him seriously in a way that the culture doesn't. in a way, yes, he's their dog and pony show with the funny one-liners and the salacious pull. but the arc of the series is unequivocally aligned with him and his desires and his needs and his values.
hank wants to be with his family, wants to be better for them, wants to not let them down- and the show needs him to fail at all of those things. for the dog and pony of it all, for their viewership and for their thesis and for the food in their mouths, but it simultaneously feels bad that he is failing. simultaneously knows that this isn't what he wants, and that it's sad. and it can be as simple as a dream sequence or a look or a quiet final scene, but every single episode is ultimately going to remind you that everything you're laughing at is a loss.
which, like i said at the top, speaks to a level of respect that the show had for the character that is just gone in discussions of the series. they take the time to recognize that he is missing something. he is losing something and he is without everything that means anything to him, this is the cost. equally important, duchovny respects that character and understands the same.
i was listening to an interview last night (trish you heard this) where he was speaking with some podcast dudebros and one of the hosts said that he always wanted to be just like hank moody, and then he made some "bad decisions" and got there, and he doesn't like it. and duchovny said that every time people come up to him saying "i'm just like hank moody," he says "i'm sorry."
men watch and they want to be just like hank moody and women watch and they want to fuck hank moody so bad, and all of you miss what the source comprehends: that it's an irreparable deficit.
other than that, i feel like what roots that show is that it really isn't all that cynical. not in the way that it could be. and the show believes in hank.
there is a lot of kindness and hope (often false hope) that runs underneath most every relationship and interaction and dynamic in the series and i really really appreciate that about it. it's like in the pilot when hank is being mean and he wants marcy to yell at him and she just says "go home, honey. sleep it off. tomorrow's another day."
there's always a little bit of understanding and grace amongst the crazies and i think there's something really special about that
#gave up on this <3 you're gonna pick up what i put down. i trust#people on this show love each other. that's the heart of californication#at the end of s3 when one of the women that hank had slept with (felicia) says 'it's all done with great affection' about#them dragging him to HELLLLLLL all day lol#'come here. be happy in new york.'#and she goes back in to her husband. happy and laughing#that's just one of my favorite scenes because everyone on the show wants the best for each other#and it isn't just people being lenient and softer than deserved with hank#he is extremely loving to family/friends/random women#and all of the characters are so good and thoughtful to each other#it's nice in a way that stands out in a sardonic comedy that's reduced to 'tits and ass'#there is so much compassion and care cycling through everybody#that's what carries the series for ME. and i don't think i could really explain it further#even random scenes like lew ashby coming into the bathroom to talk to becca when she's sobbing and won't let her mom in#there isn't any reason for him to do that. it isn't because he wants to fuck karen. it isn't because he's a particularly charitable person.#it's because it's his buddy's kid and he wants her to feel better#i don't think there's a character on the show who wouldn't do that for bec or for the core 4 or for mia#but anyway i know what you mean and i think those things are mainly what grounds it#that it's ultimately compassionate and that it respects its lead#californication
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i just think that if we start by talking about who "deserves" compassion, we're at the wrong end. that's all.
#i just#compassion isn't something that is earned by suffering#you don't have a single bucket filled with compassion and you hand it out piece by piece starting with whoever#has proven their suffering the most#like thats not#thats not how we should treat people#there are very. very very few. as in: don't think ive met someone ever in my life type of few. people in society#for whom i think compassion should be revoked#but then i live a very insular life#and ive spent the last couple of days listening to talks about holocaust rememberance - fascism hate speech and radicalization#so idk frame of mind maybe not great
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