#gatekeeping cw

[fictionkinfessions]

I've seen enough asks on here about the topic, so I just want to say:

If you identify as a system, GO GET THERAPY. Being a system is not a "normal" human thing and it definitely means you need fucking therapy. You can't just call yourself a system and call it a day. You cant just say you're KINNING, either, because the kin community goes back decades and it is bigger than some teenager on tumblr picking up kins from your mutual's posts. My honest, genuine opinion is that anyone with 100+ kinds or alters IS NOT ACTUALLY A SYSTEM. You are just young and impressionable and the world is in shambles right now and theres a sense of comfort in being someone else. Everyone wants to know who they really are and you will NOT figure it out until you're in your 40s. If it brings you comfort, fine. But go get therapy so they can tell you how to ACTUALLY cope with the real world instead of using "escapism." Escapism is not the answer to your problems and you still have to deal with them.

I say this as a person who felt inhuman since before I was 10yo. I even told my dad about it back then. And I've been watching the way the "community" has changed over time. You are not a polyfragmented system if you have 100+ kins, you are just trying to find an identity that fits you. Kinning nowadays is a good FIRST STEP. But I cannot stress enough that CPTSD, autism, and ADHD mix together to cause dissociative episodes. Maybe you should all look into it and find peace with yourselves before adding a new kintype to your list

All of this being said, yeah I do think having a bunch of kintypes is fine. It's okay for one alter to kin a handful of different people and shift between them. But you do not need individual listings for each separate one. You do not need to make a new proxy with pluralkit. I see people confessing to only seeing a character ONCE and kinning them. It doesn't work like that. Take some time to think about it. Its IMPORTANT to figure out if these similar kins are actually just the one person instead of assuming they're someone new. If you actually had 100+ kins (that you treat like individual alters) you would not be functional

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jenndoesnotcare replied to this post:

Every time LDS kids come to my neighborhood I am so so nice to them. I hope they remember the blue haired lady who was kind, when people try to convince them the outside world is bad and scary. (Also they are always so young! I want to feed them cookies and give them Diana Wynne Jones books or something)

Thank you! Honestly, this sort of kindness can go a really long way, even if it doesn't seem like it at the time.

LDS children and missionaries (and the majority of the latter are barely of age) are often the people who interact the most with non-Mormons on a daily basis, and thus are kind of the "face" of the Church to non-Mormons a lot of the time. As a result, they're frequently the ones who actually experience the brunt of antagonism towards the Church, which only reinforces the distrust they've already been taught to feel towards the rest of the world.

It's not that the Church doesn't deserve this antagonism, but a lot of people seem to take this enormous pride in showing up Mormon teenagers who have spent most of their lives under intense social pressure, instruction, expectation, and close observation from both their peers and from older authorities in the Church (it largely operates on seniority, so young unmarried people in particular tend to have very little power within its hierarchies). Being "owned" for clout by non-Mormons doesn't prove anything to most of them except that their leaders and parents are right and they can't trust people outside the Church.

The fact that the Church usually does provide a tightly-knit community, a distinct and familiar culture, and a well-developed infrastructure for supporting its members' needs as long as they do [xyz] means that there can be very concrete benefits to staying in the Church, staying closeted, whatever. So if, additionally, a Mormon kid has every reason to think that nobody outside the Church is going to extend compassion or kindness towards them, that the rest of the world really is as hostile and dangerous as they've been told, the stakes for leaving are all the higher, despite the costs of staying.

So people from "outside" who disrupt this narrative of a hostile, threatening world that cannot conceivably understand their experiences or perspectives can be really important. It's important for them to know that there are communities and reliable support systems outside the Church, that leaving the Church does not have to mean being a pariah in every context, that there are concrete resources outside the Church, that compassion and decency in ordinary day-to-day life is not the province of any particular religion or sect and can be found anywhere. This kind of information can be really important evidence for people to have when they are deciding how much they're willing to risk losing.

So yeah, all of this is to say that you're doing a good thing that may well provide a lifeline for very vulnerable people, even if you don't personally see results at the time.

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@rosekillermicrofic | prompt: losing | word count: 83 | t/cw: guns

Barty cradles Evan in his arms, rocking him gently back and forth. 

“Shh,” he whispers, cocking his gun with one hand. He leans down to kiss Evan’s forehead. “It’s alright, my love.” Evan’s breathing is uneven and ragged. His eyes stare up into Barty’s, and Barty can sense his fear. He hears shouting getting closer. “It’s okay, darling,” he says, hugging Evan to his chest and pointing his gun at the door. “We’ll get you out of here. I’m not losing you tonight.”

[fictionkinfessions]

open question, what do people think about kins using the word "source" to refer to the media they kin from?

ive seen a lot of people use source vs media to distinguish kins from fictives, and some even get mad at kins for using the word source

was just curious other peoples thoughts on this!!

my thoughts is that it's ridiculous cop brained hair splitting. please pick up a hobby, there are more fun things to do with your time than police yourself and others. There's way to do kinning wrong but that ain't it.

The words are synonyms. If someone is confused if a stranger is a singlet or system member they can ask. Whether they get an answer is up to the stranger, because they don't owe you personal info like if they're traumagenic or got some self conscious fictotypes. For examples. Just use whatever you vibe with, regardless of who you are.

Listen, knitting needles is like 5 bucks lifetime investment, a hank of yarn maybe 4-7 dollars if you got coupons or what store it is. Knit a BIG rectangle, sew up the sides, knit a long skinny 'scarf' for a handle and with a tapestry needle [2-4 dollars] sew it on. BAM. You got yourself a cute bag.

You can experiment with different knitting stitches, colors, knitting patterns, etc, to get yourself some cute bags and backpacks. Hell, I knit a bag with some duckies on it. QUACK QUACK! If you get acrylic or cotton yarn, that bag will last a damn long time. Hop on Ravelry.com for millions of free patterns and a big forum of of knitters and crocheters who'll gladly help a newbie into their hobby.

BONUS you'll be the hottest person at the gocey [grocery] store.

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I hate mfs who correct me on shit that’s like… one minor thing I forgot to differentiate. It’s one thing to be like “hey did you mean this?” or “I’m confused this doesn’t make sense” but like they always be condescending ash when correcting you. I made a tiny mistake by not being specific enough for you and now you’re speaking down to me. You ain’t a genius any more than I am and I’m not purposefully spreading misinfo like it was a mistake chill. People on the internet treat you like the devil incarnate when you make a simple error I stg 😭