#elaine aron

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A tweet by @Finnattentive: "The clinical research psychologist who created the concept of HSP and first wrote about it, Elaine Aron, based the HSP criteria on family members who have since been diagnosed with autism" How is HSP even a thing after that? Why I’ve rejected the HSP label big time for years now. Sometimes people have tried to apply it to me on my posts about high empathy, sense of justice, or sensory overload and I’ve had to gently correct with, “I mean, I’m autistic. I think it’s okay to just say that.”

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Any fellow HSP in the house? 🙋🏿‍♀️

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From The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron

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YES. If you go to therapy, this is what they should tell you. The language a medical professional should use is HSP or Highly Sensative Person. It is commonly associated with disorders resulting from prolonged trauma, ADHD, and Autism.

Your counselor should NEVER use the word empath.

Personally, my mother has called herself an empathy for ages, because she didn't have this term before. But she has acknowledged that this is the correct term to use. We still use empath though bc it's easier to say, but your medical professional should never use it.

Empaths are technically not real, but this term has been used before as a way of connecting with a real problem they didn't have the right name for. For context, the woman who coined it is only 78 years old.

[empyreumata]

36 Questions for Increasing Closeness

Instructions – Take turns asking one another the questions; each person should answer each question, but in an alternating order, so that a different person goes first each time.

Set I

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

What do you value most in a friendship?

What is your most treasured memory?

What is your most terrible memory?

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

What does friendship mean to you?

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…”

Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.

Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].

What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Final task / suggestion – Stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes.

 — — — Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness: A procedure and some preliminary findings. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 23(4), 363-377. 

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Mindset Monday Book Reviews: Elaine N. Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms

Elaine N. Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You is a pioneering exploration into a trait often misunderstood or undervalued in a fast-paced, stimulus-driven society. Published in 1996, Aron’s book has since become a cornerstone text for those who identify with high sensitivity, as well as for researchers studying temperament and personality traits. At…

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Unveiling the Layers: Exploring the Untold Story of Sensitivity in the Captivating Film 'Sensitive - The Untold Story

Jonathan Cohen, who contributed to my book let me know about this amazing documentary and accompanying book which delves into the world of the highly sensitive. Embark on a cinematic journey with ‘Sensitive – The Untold Story,’ a groundbreaking documentary that delves into the intrinsic trait of high sensitivity, prevalent in 1 in 5 individuals and observed across 100 diverse species. This…

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“Quando você parte para o mundo buscando inconscientemente essa segurança tão desejada sem uma grande experiência com o que busca, com frequência você repete os mesmos velhos erros, voltando a escolher muitas e muitas vezes o mesmo tipo familiar de pessoa que faz você se sentir inseguro.”

Elaine N. Aron, Pessoas Altamente Sensíveis

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I struggle to find my place in the autism community.

I'm 15, not diagnosed, but my parents have always known I'm autistic.

When I was a toddler/child, I flapped my hands, I didn't respond to my name, I had trouble telling people how I was feeling or what I was thinking.

I didn't know my parents knew, until I found a book in our living room. "The highly sensitive child" by Elaine N Aron. The book, in short, is telling parents who think their child is autistic that they're not, and that they are actually just a "Highly Sensitive Person."

My mother, once told me she would rather die than have an autistic child. She told me her life would be over.

I struggle. Day in and day out. Without help. I go to a special education school, which my parents swear is not "actually special education". I have frequent speech loss episodes, I use AAC 40% of the time. I wear headphones 24/7, even inside the house. My favorite stim is rocking, if I'm sitting up, I'm rocking.

I'm not a LSN late diagnosed autistic. I'm not a MSN-HSN early diagnosed autistic.

I'm an undiagnosed MSN autistic, with parents who would rather DIE than accept that their child is autistic.

I could have been diagnosed. I could have known what makes me different before I figured it out myself. I could have had an explanation for years struggling. I could have had teachers know WHY I was like that. I could have been placed in special ed earlier. I could had support.

I did it all on my own.

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Okay so I got the last kisser. And it’s a girl kisser!

The Diana Kisser is @dove-chan32931’s OC Dove.

Plus all the kissers on a sleepover. Apparently Dove is the little sister of the boys so I came up with this scene.

Meave and Elaine are being menaces to Dove meanwhile, Aron, Holly and Mika are watching a horror movie in the back though Mika is kinda weak to horror.

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some of my dgs faves reading the self-help workbook i'm currently working with ("The Highly Sensitive Person" by Dr Elaine N. Aron)

kazuma: pitches the book into the Thames when asked to do the reframing exercise at the end of chapter 1

barok: cries effusively and cathartically. places many markers for important passages. makes cramped annotations in the margins. he's considering writing a thank-you letter to the author that he may or may not send

herlock: reads the preface, says he could write a better book, forgets about it, and loses it in his sitting room for years

ryunosuke: reads it slowly. makes kazuma mad by asking questions about its subject material. makes barok weep by even mentioning the title. is approached by herlock demanding to know why ryuu has not asked his opinion (he gets mad when ryuu points out he never read past the preface and therefore doesn't have a valid opinion)

gina: reads it on work breaks and talks with barok about the subject matter obliquely. gives olive green a copy on the downlow

hosonaga: sleeps with it under his pillow

enoch: bursts into flames walking near it

harebrayne: tries to read it but gets too overwhelmed by Being Seen. gets a summary from barok

stronghart: "Yes, I Am A Highly Sensitive Person. I Am The Most Sensitive."

klint: probably bought the copy that barok is reading but never read it himself

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Do you have any uplifting, inspirational, books you’d recommend for bettering yourself and just overall better state of mind? Really feel like I’m going through it and being such a sensitive person, it’s hard for me to not let it drain me and have me crying all the time feeling hopeless in general

i’m so sorry to hear you’re going through a hard time 🤍 personally i find books about my passions are what really help me find my way out of darkness. i love books by writers on the topic of reading and writing, and reading or re-reading one like that helps me focus on passion in life. so whatever your passion or interests i highly recommend seeking out books on those topics.

as a sensitive person if you’ve never read ‘the highly sensitive person’ by elaine n aron it’s worth reading. there is some debate online around “you’re not highly sensitive you’re just neurodivergent” but i don’t find those ideas mutually exclusive, and it’s a nice book to learn how to feel connected to your sensitive nature.

in the “self help” type category to bring back motivation and focus, i don’t mind the work of brené brown (i like daring greatly or dare to lead). if you feel you need more of a kick, mel robbins. but i don’t often read books of this type.

i realised checking my book shelves my taste probably leans more toward depressing so i’m sorry i couldn’t be more help 🥲 if anyone has suggestions please share!

take care of yourself and i hope things start feeling better for you soon 🤍

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𝚕𝚊𝚜𝚝 𝚜𝚘𝚗𝚐: hear me out - exo.

𝚏𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚌𝚘𝚕𝚘𝚛: blue, rose gold, light pink.

𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚢 𝚠𝚊𝚝𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐: i've been watching dougdoug's youtube videos lately, and i always watch tingting asmr before bed. i'm also planning to check out the bg3 cast playing dnd but it's such a long session i haven't found time yet.

𝚕𝚊𝚜𝚝 𝚖𝚘𝚟𝚒𝚎: red white and royal blue.

𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚢 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐: the highly sensitive person by elaine aron. my sister gifted me this book because she thought i might be an hsp. it's a bit hard for me to get through so i've been reading it on and off for about a year or two.. don't look at me.

𝚜𝚠𝚎𝚎𝚝/𝚜𝚊𝚟𝚘𝚛𝚢/𝚜𝚙𝚒𝚌𝚢: i love them all but savory if i have to choose.

𝚛𝚎𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚙 𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚝𝚞𝚜: none.

𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝 𝚘𝚋𝚜𝚎𝚜𝚜𝚒𝚘𝚗: it was bg3 until a while ago. after that maybe "our life: now & forever".

��𝚊𝚜𝚝 𝚐𝚘𝚘𝚐𝚕𝚎: spider and the fly cp2077.

𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚢 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚘𝚗: i have 9 wips for several different fandoms and i'm slowly working through them. i also have some schoolwork i need to start..

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Last picture I took: Rufus being weird in the window after I told him to stop barking at the neighbors 🐶

Last song: “Yoshimi Battles the Pink Robots” by The Flaming Lips

Currently reading: The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N Aron (recced by my spawn’s therapist), and Codependent No More by Melody Beattie (recced by my therapist)

Next reading: probably Mouth to Mouth by Antoine Wilson because I keep meaning to read it and @crinkle-eyed-boo Kim’s ballet fic when it’s posted 👀

Currently watching: What We Do in the Shadows

Next watching: probably the next season of The Wheel of Time when it starts but idk because I’m having a hard time focusing on television recently

Current obsessions: uhhh my new-to-me car, imaginary house hunting in places that actually have seasons, imaginary job hunting, the exes fic that’s currently living in my head…

7 things, tagging 7 people: @louandhazaf @crinkle-eyed-boo @larrydoinglaundry @evilovesyou @phdmama @jlf23tumble @wernerherzogs

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Sensory Processing Disorder

One of the best books that I was recommended and read was 'The Highly Sensitive Person' by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. It truly helped me accept myself and get over my anger towards myself. I spent a lot of time wishing I wasn't the way I was until I started being more gentle with myself. I also recommended this book to my mom which helped us grow closer and have a better understanding of each other. 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. and 'What Happened to You?' by Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry were also very beneficial to me.