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[theladyhibiscus]

Any fellow HSP in the house? 🙋🏿‍♀️

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From The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron

[never-forget-viva-la-pluto]

YES. If you go to therapy, this is what they should tell you. The language a medical professional should use is HSP or Highly Sensative Person. It is commonly associated with disorders resulting from prolonged trauma, ADHD, and Autism.

Your counselor should NEVER use the word empath.

Personally, my mother has called herself an empathy for ages, because she didn't have this term before. But she has acknowledged that this is the correct term to use. We still use empath though bc it's easier to say, but your medical professional should never use it.

Empaths are technically not real, but this term has been used before as a way of connecting with a real problem they didn't have the right name for. For context, the woman who coined it is only 78 years old.

[empyreumata]

36 Questions for Increasing Closeness

Instructions – Take turns asking one another the questions; each person should answer each question, but in an alternating order, so that a different person goes first each time.

Set I

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

What do you value most in a friendship?

What is your most treasured memory?

What is your most terrible memory?

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

What does friendship mean to you?

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…”

Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.

Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].

What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Final task / suggestion – Stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes.

 — — — Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness: A procedure and some preliminary findings. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 23(4), 363-377. 

[theadaptableeducator]

Mindset Monday Book Reviews: Elaine N. Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms

Elaine N. Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You is a pioneering exploration into a trait often misunderstood or undervalued in a fast-paced, stimulus-driven society. Published in 1996, Aron’s book has since become a cornerstone text for those who identify with high sensitivity, as well as for researchers studying temperament and personality traits. At…

[etherblog-surrealist-nexus]

Unveiling the Layers: Exploring the Untold Story of Sensitivity in the Captivating Film 'Sensitive - The Untold Story

Jonathan Cohen, who contributed to my book let me know about this amazing documentary and accompanying book which delves into the world of the highly sensitive. Embark on a cinematic journey with ‘Sensitive – The Untold Story,’ a groundbreaking documentary that delves into the intrinsic trait of high sensitivity, prevalent in 1 in 5 individuals and observed across 100 diverse species. This…

[surviving-without-you]

“Quando você parte para o mundo buscando inconscientemente essa segurança tão desejada sem uma grande experiência com o que busca, com frequência você repete os mesmos velhos erros, voltando a escolher muitas e muitas vezes o mesmo tipo familiar de pessoa que faz você se sentir inseguro.”

Elaine N. Aron, Pessoas Altamente Sensíveis

[new-tella-us]

Okay so I got the last kisser. And it’s a girl kisser!

The Diana Kisser is @dove-chan32931’s OC Dove.

Plus all the kissers on a sleepover. Apparently Dove is the little sister of the boys so I came up with this scene.

Meave and Elaine are being menaces to Dove meanwhile, Aron, Holly and Mika are watching a horror movie in the back though Mika is kinda weak to horror.

[the-final-sylleblahsome]

some of my dgs faves reading the self-help workbook i'm currently working with ("The Highly Sensitive Person" by Dr Elaine N. Aron)

kazuma: pitches the book into the Thames when asked to do the reframing exercise at the end of chapter 1

barok: cries effusively and cathartically. places many markers for important passages. makes cramped annotations in the margins. he's considering writing a thank-you letter to the author that he may or may not send

herlock: reads the preface, says he could write a better book, forgets about it, and loses it in his sitting room for years

ryunosuke: reads it slowly. makes kazuma mad by asking questions about its subject material. makes barok weep by even mentioning the title. is approached by herlock demanding to know why ryuu has not asked his opinion (he gets mad when ryuu points out he never read past the preface and therefore doesn't have a valid opinion)

gina: reads it on work breaks and talks with barok about the subject matter obliquely. gives olive green a copy on the downlow

hosonaga: sleeps with it under his pillow

enoch: bursts into flames walking near it

harebrayne: tries to read it but gets too overwhelmed by Being Seen. gets a summary from barok

stronghart: "Yes, I Am A Highly Sensitive Person. I Am The Most Sensitive."

klint: probably bought the copy that barok is reading but never read it himself

[thesophistiicate]

Do you have any uplifting, inspirational, books you’d recommend for bettering yourself and just overall better state of mind? Really feel like I’m going through it and being such a sensitive person, it’s hard for me to not let it drain me and have me crying all the time feeling hopeless in general

i’m so sorry to hear you’re going through a hard time 🤍 personally i find books about my passions are what really help me find my way out of darkness. i love books by writers on the topic of reading and writing, and reading or re-reading one like that helps me focus on passion in life. so whatever your passion or interests i highly recommend seeking out books on those topics.

as a sensitive person if you’ve never read ‘the highly sensitive person’ by elaine n aron it’s worth reading. there is some debate online around “you’re not highly sensitive you’re just neurodivergent” but i don’t find those ideas mutually exclusive, and it’s a nice book to learn how to feel connected to your sensitive nature.

in the “self help” type category to bring back motivation and focus, i don’t mind the work of brené brown (i like daring greatly or dare to lead). if you feel you need more of a kick, mel robbins. but i don’t often read books of this type.

i realised checking my book shelves my taste probably leans more toward depressing so i’m sorry i couldn’t be more help 🥲 if anyone has suggestions please share!

take care of yourself and i hope things start feeling better for you soon 🤍

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Last picture I took: Rufus being weird in the window after I told him to stop barking at the neighbors 🐶

Last song: “Yoshimi Battles the Pink Robots” by The Flaming Lips

Currently reading: The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N Aron (recced by my spawn’s therapist), and Codependent No More by Melody Beattie (recced by my therapist)

Next reading: probably Mouth to Mouth by Antoine Wilson because I keep meaning to read it and @crinkle-eyed-boo Kim’s ballet fic when it’s posted 👀

Currently watching: What We Do in the Shadows

Next watching: probably the next season of The Wheel of Time when it starts but idk because I’m having a hard time focusing on television recently

Current obsessions: uhhh my new-to-me car, imaginary house hunting in places that actually have seasons, imaginary job hunting, the exes fic that’s currently living in my head…

7 things, tagging 7 people: @louandhazaf @crinkle-eyed-boo @larrydoinglaundry @evilovesyou @phdmama @jlf23tumble @wernerherzogs

[44ants]

Sensory Processing Disorder

One of the best books that I was recommended and read was 'The Highly Sensitive Person' by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. It truly helped me accept myself and get over my anger towards myself. I spent a lot of time wishing I wasn't the way I was until I started being more gentle with myself. I also recommended this book to my mom which helped us grow closer and have a better understanding of each other. 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. and 'What Happened to You?' by Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry were also very beneficial to me.

[a-girl-reborn]

READING LIST FOR 2024

• [🎀] - priority • [✔] - finished • [👁] - now reading • [💭] - next up •

💌 Human Kind (Rutger Bregman) [👁]

🍒 Utopia for Realists (Rutger Bregman) [🎀]

💌 Joyful (Ingrid Fettel Lee) [🎀💭]

🍒 A Paradise Built in Hell (Rebecca Solnit)

💌 Tribe (Sebastian Junger)

🍒 The Art Of Frugal Hedonism (Annie Raser-Rowland, Adam Grubb) [🎀]

💌 Sapiens (Yuval Noah Harari)

🍒 Weird (Olga Khazan) [🎀]

💌 The Art of Thinking Clearly (Rolf Dobelli) [🎀]

🍒 Civilized To Death (Christopher Ryan) [🎀]

💌 The Courage To Be Disliked (Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga) [🎀]

🍒 The Courage To Be Happy (Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga) [🎀]

💌 The Practice of Not Thinking (Ryonosuke Koike)

🍒 This Is How You Heal (Brianna Wiest) [🎀]

💌 Authetic Happiness (Martin. E. P. Seligman)

🍒 Flourish (Martin. E. P. Seligman)

💌 How To Stop Feeling Like Shit (Andrea Owen) [🎀]

🍒 How To Be a Good Creature (Montgomery Sy)

💌 The Hope Circuit (Martin. E. P. Seligman)

🍒 Homo Deus (Yuval Noah Harari)

💌 Healing Is The New High (Vex King) [🎀]

🍒 Wintering (Katherine May)

💌 The Strength In Our Scars (Bianca Sparacino) [🎀]

🍒 Ego Is The Enemy (Ryan Holiday)

💌 The Mountain Is You (Brianna Wiest) [🎀]

🍒 Getting Through What You Can't Get Over (Anita Agers-Brooks)

💌 Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess (Dr. Caroline Leaf)

🍒 How To Be Your Own Therapist (Owen O'Kane) [🎀]

💌 Living Consciously (Yvette Ratshikhopha)

🍒 Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents (Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD.) [🎀]

💌 Girl On Fire (Cara Alwill Leyba)

🍒 It's Not Fair (Melanie Dale)

💌 The Highly Sensitive Person (Elaine N. Aron PH.D.) [🎀]

🍒 Tiny Traumas (Dr. Meg Arroll)

💌 Be Not Afraid Of Love (Mimi Zhu)

🍒 The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (Philippa Perry) [🎀]

💌 The Art Of Noticing (Rob Walker)

🍒 The Child In You (Stefanie Stahl) [🎀]

💌 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think (Brianna Wiest)

🍒 The Pivot Year (Brianma Wiest) [🎀]

💌 How To Hug A Porcupine (Dr. Debbie Joffe Ellis) [🎀]

🍒 Why Simple Wins (Lisa Bodell)

💌 Don't Overthink It (Anne Bogel) [🎀]

🍒 Why Did Nobody Tell Me This Before (Dr. Julie Smith)

💌 Mother Hunger (Kelly McDaniel) [🎀]

🍒 The Art Of Self-Therapy (Nick Trenton) [🎀]

💌 A Witch's Guide To Crafting Your Practice (Lisa McSherry) [🎀]

🍒 A Gentle Reminder (Bianca Sparacino)

[panther-os]

The book Grace is reading while Tommy's on a date in 3x14 is The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine N. Aron. This isn't a book specifically about autistic children, but it is definitely one with content that applies to nearly all autistic kids and only some allistic ones.

So new headcanon: The book is Tommy's, because her twins are autistic, and Grace grabbed it off the shelf instead of a different one because she suspects Charlie is, too. (And Charlie definitely is because now that I think about it, I really do headcanon that Judd and Grace both are, they just need very little support - which means since Grace is a black woman she's undiagnosed, and since Judd is a white man born in most likely the 80s he got an "Asperger's" diagnosis instead of an ASD1 diagnosis and he's been told all his life it's something he grew out of (aka learned how to mask better).)

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To Be Read July 2023

The Mind

The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity―and Will Determine the Fate of the Human Race by Daniel Z. Lieberman & Michael E. Long

The Brain: A Very Short Introduction by Michael O'Shea

Consciousness: A Very Short Introduction by Susan Blackmore

The Mind-Gut Connection: How the Hidden Conversation Within Our Bodies Impacts Our Mood, Our Choices, and Our Overall Health by Emeran Mayer MD

Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion by Jia Tolentino

Sensitive is the New Strong: The Power of Empaths in an Increasingly Harsh World by Anita Moorjani

The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron

Laziness Does Not Exist by Devon Price Ph.D.

Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind by Scott Barry Kaufman & Carolyn Gregoire

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel A. van der Kolk

Music & The Mind (Art Philosophy, Aesthetics, Neuroaesthetics)

Saved by a Song: The Art and Healing Power of Songwriting by Mary Gauthier

The Song Machine: Inside the Hit Factory by John Seabrook

This is What it Sounds Like: What the Music You Love Says About You by Ogi Ogas & Susan Rogers

Why You Like It: The Science and Culture of Musical Taste by Nolan Gasser

The Story of Music: From Babylon to the Beatles: How Music Has Shaped Civilization by Howard Goodall

Of Sound Mind: How Our Brain Constructs a Meaningful Sonic World by Nina Kraus

Aesthetics: A Very Short Introduction by Bence Nanay

Equipment for Living: On Poetry and Pop Music by Michael Robbins

How Music Works by David Byrne

General Non-Fiction / History / Science

The Russian Revolution: A Very Short Introduction by S. A. Smith

The French Revolution: A Very Short Introduction by William Doyle

Linguistics: A Very Short Introduction by P. H. Matthews

Mathematics: A Very Short Introduction by Timothy Gowers

After the End of Art: Contemporary Art and the Pale of History by Arthur C. Danto

Flappers by Judith Mackrell

Marketing for Dummies, 6th edition by Jeanette McMurty MBA

Sinatra: The Chairman by James Kaplan

Get Happy: The Life of Judy Garland by Gerald Clarke

Self-Improvement

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff

Self Compassion for Dummies by by Steven Hickman PsyD (in progress)

The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- and Start Standing Up for Yourself by Beverly Engel

The Assertiveness Guide for Women: How to Communicate Your Needs, Set Healthy Boundaries & Transform Your Relationships by Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW

Anatomy of a Breakthrough: How to Get Unstuck When it Matters Most by Adam Alter

Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive by Kristin Neff PhD

The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander

Be Angry: The Dalai Lama on What Matters Most by His Holiness the Dalai Lama,

Anger: The Conflicted History of an Emotion by Barbara H. Rosenwein

The Power of Fun: How to Feel Alive Again by Catherine Price

In Awe: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder to Unleash Inspiration, Meaning, and Joy by John O'Leary

Creating a Life That Matters: How to Live and Love with Meaning and Purpose by Manis Friedman & Rivka Goldstein 

Fiction

Babel by R. F. Kuang

The Last Bookshop in London by Madeline Martin

A Journey to the Center of the Earth by Jules Verne (narrated by Tim Curry)

In/Spectre #2

The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt (in progress)

The Poisoner's Handbook ed. Raymond T. Bond