#dni anti-endos

[cluttered-dragon-hoard]

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As per tradition, I've created some arbitrary, self-imposed rules about what I "should" or "can" post about on my main blog. This sideblog is an attempt to rid myself of those limitations by giving myself a place to post whatever the heck I want.

And by I, I mean We. Hello. Plural, disabled (mental, physical, and neurologically), neurodivergent immersive daydreamer here o/

We're bodily an adult

Many of us are alterhuman (lots of elves, a dragon, a jackal/fantasy jackal canine kitsune thing, and a shapechanger). We aren't really involved in the alterhuman or therian communities but sometimes it's nice to connect.

We're pro-endo, pro lgbtq+, BLM ally, etc. and won't tolerate bigotry or hate.

Most of this content will probably be reblogs but honestly? Idk yet. It's whatever we want to post. It'll probably differ depending on who's fronting.

We made our own profile icon and banner using digital art software.

[saltedcavessys]

sighhh gonna do one of these :3

5 notes - I’ll work on my main writing project

10 notes - I’ll organize my clothes

25 notes - I’ll start consistently taking care of myself :3

50 notes - I’ll work on an animation I scrapped a while ago

75 notes - I’ll finish setting up every PK and Octo profile

100 notes - I’ll finish one of my many writing projects

250 notes - I’ll clean my room entirely

1000 notes - I talk to the school counselor about possibly getting my deadname changed to my preferred name in the school system!!

no note limit per person or per blog, go wild!

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red - not reached

orange - reached, in progress

green - reached, finished

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edit post 1000: OH MY GOD HOW DID YOU??? GUH??? School’s cancelled right now because of the hurricane, but once we get back I’ll get on that!

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[thefruitybasket]

“You can’t be a system!! You and ___ both do this!!!”

We still share a brain.

“You and ____ LOVEEE this!!”

We still share a brain.

“You and ____ talk very similarly!!!”

We still share a brain.

[radical-boy-kisser]

Do people forget muscle memory exists

"Why do you and all your alters write basically the same way?"

Perchance because our hand has been writing that way since we learned how to write. Just a thought though

[children-of-moss]

The future should not be plural.

The future should accommodate for those with dissociative disorders.

The future should have further more thorough research in dissociative disorders.

The future should be more accepting of dissociative disorders.

BUT

The future should not be plural.

That means children are getting repeatedly traumatised at an impressionable age.

That means children don't have healthy coping mechanisms.

That means children AREN'T SAFE.

The future should not be plural, but it should be respectful and accepting to those who are.

[veinsveinsveinsz]

the percentage of people with DID is pretty similar to the percentage of natural red heads, but you don’t see people going around fake claiming people with red hair

[autopsycollective]

a reminder that the host isn’t the only person in the system who should be respected and made to feel comfortable.

the host is not ‘the important part’, we are all completely conscious and capable of our own thoughts, feelings and our own boundaries. our brain created us because it decided that we are all important and needed.

the host is not the only member of a system you should care about.

[cccat-in-a-meat-sack]

”I want to know your headcount” “I want to know who’s fronting” so do I, get in line

[lanternsandlightmares]

20 plurality lukewarm takes

(aka I don’t consider these to all be hot takes, because some of them are, in my opinion, warranting of a “well, duh”.)

Not every system has to be miserable to be valid

Endogenic systems are valid

Traumagenic but nondisordered systems are valid

Mixed origins systems are valid

Systems who have no fucking clue where their system came from are valid

Tiny systems are valid

Gigantic systems are valid

Systems that are all Brainmade are valid

Systems that are mostly introjects are valid

Introjects are not their source

Systems whose alters are different as night and day are valid

Systems whose alters are similar are valid

Anti-endos are sanist

Willogenics are not “roleplaying DID”

IT IS NOT FAKING A DISORDER IF YOU ARE NOT CLAIMING TO HAVE A DISORDER.

Plurality should be more informed about— it should be normalized to be accommodating of plurals

Final fusion is not a necessary step of the recovery process

Being a system can be hard. Being a system can be happy. The two can coexist.

You should always respect what different systems want to be called; some like alters. Some like parts. Some like headmates. Whatever their preference, respect it.

HEADMATES WHO SEE THEMSELVES AS PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE.

[the-mechanisms-system]

thinking about that post about how yeah, it's definitely possible and valid to be trans without dysphoria, but also a lot of trans people are underestimating the amount of dysphoria they experience that has faded to mental background noise

and thinking about how this almost certainly applies to systems and dissociation as well. like yeah, it's entirely possible and valid to be a completely non-disordered, non-dissociative system, but I think a lot of plurals are vastly underestimating the amount of dissociation they experience because it's common to them so they don't even notice. I know that's definitely how it went for us

[if not already clear, this post is inclusive of all origins]

[zeros-sys]

it's killing me that systems think they are faking or lying because they haven't had other alters front in a while, headspace has been silent, your communication is down, and overall just "feeling like a singlet"

because number 1, cdds have more symptoms than just alters, number 2 it's a covert disorder, and number 3, you are an alter!

no one experiences the same level of their symptoms for any of their disorders every day.

if my avoidance to food due to arfid is more noticeable some days, why is it different for having alters in osddid?

cdds are covert disorders. they will try and hide your symptoms because it's the whole point of their existence. don't blame yourself for a survival mechanism your brain created to protect you!

and I see so many people forget this, especially hosts, but you're an alter! if someone else doesn't front, that doesn't suddenly make you a singlet because you are still part of a system

you can make mistakes or be wrong, but don't fakeclaim or feed yourself misinformation in order to realise that!

[ghxst-system]

sometimes DID is "haha people in brain"

but most of the time its:

"fuck wait when did it become [time] why am i on my phone didnt i need to make dinner? oh no who am i whats going on"

*constant vague flashbacks as people float in and out of front*

"oh god when did i get here where am i?"

*deep dissociation*

*being unable to care for myself due to dissociation*

"i do this all the time why cant *i* do this why can i not remember?"

*forgetting important or even just every day things*

*can never think clearly*

*too many voices and thoughts that arent mine*

[tavgr0ss]

being a system is so funny like. oh something really shitty happened. well time to not know who i am for like a week lol!!!!!!

[sysboxes]

[text ID: This system uses both I/Me and We/Us pronouns when referring to themself.]

Like or reblog if you use!!

[cage-of-atonement]

Do things for your system offline.

Being a system affects life more than just online. (contrary to endo beliefs) While having some amazing resources online to help organize and track things, there are a million reasons to have your physical life have resources set up as well.

you'll never know if an alter might not even know what a phone is yet, and gods forbid if for some reason a new alter is alone without help. Trust me, we had a new alter try to just up and leave our fiance on a vacation. We have also had alters who definitely needed a picture guide on how to use the system discord lol.

Here are some ideas we do to help ensure our system is safe, but also helps alters feel more grounded and present with themselves!

Fronting Kandii bracelets, it can really help when you can't use your phone for switches, but also good for systems with significant barriers between alters and memory, so you can see who was here last!

a physical notebook labeled in bold for "if confused/lost read this" and inside keep important information; (what is a system, what the body name is, what your job is, and how to open and use a phone just in case, and also what to do to contact a gatekeeper or what to do if they can't, such as how to call out of work or avoid the family/friends asking what's wrong.)

another notebook might be helpful for alters to have fun decorating an 'about page' but also having your system journal individually as alters is REALLY IMPORTANT TO HAVE IN CASE YOU WANT TO TALK TO A DOCTOR ABOUT GETTING DIAGNOSED. It can really help the doctor see a track of things. We started our first journal in 2017, even outside of doctors, it's good for a physical medium for alters to express in.

these next ones are focused on alters having their own space and grounding in the real world!

having a small box or basket or something like that to keep their favorite or 'personal' items. our system likes having our own individual space and items, and for us it helps not only keep the peace, but also help us ground when we have our own things like clothes, comforts, snacks on hand, personal notebooks, etc.

remember kids, if your system is affecting you irl, when no one is looking then you are not faking! no sys doubting here pookies <3

[transspeciesguy]

Endogenic systems that have naturally been a system as long as they can remember, you're so cool.

Endogenic systems that formed out of loneliness, you're so cool.

Endogenic systems that formed for no fuckin' reason whatsoever, you're so cool.

Endogenic systems that technically formed from trauma but it's not the "usual" type of trauma so they labeled themself endo, you're so cool.

Endogenic systems that formed for fun, you're so cool.

Endogenic systems that are multigenic, you're so cool.

Disordered endogenic systems, you're so cool.