#and would dogpile me.

[evilyaikemo]

I really wish people understood this instead of villianizing it immediately. Intrusive thoughts aren't silly impulsive thoughts, they're usually built off paranoia and *commonly* would land you in jail if you acted on them. Nobody with intrusive thoughts asked to have them, and nobody wants them. They're intrusive. They're disgusting and a lot of the time morally wrong.

I have intrusive thoughts, the sexual ones are 10x worse because I have hypersexuality. Mix thinking about sex to a distressing amount with all this and... yeah. They're more common to the point that even though I KNOW it's an intrusive thought and I KNOW I can't control it and would never want to hurt someone or want someone to hurt me, but it still makes me feel like it's a part of what I "want", just because it's common.

If you think you're supportive of people with intrusive thoughts, see "worse" ones, and then villianize us because it's TABOO, like it USUALLY IS, then you're not supportive.

I hate Tiktok's watering down of this shit. Say an actual intrusive thought and you're treated like a criminal who would actually act upon it. This applys outside of that damned app now.

Intrusive Thoughts are unwanted thoughts or images that you find distressing and/or disturbing. 

more information on what intrusive thoughts are!

what intrusive thoughts are: https://moodsmith.com/intrusive-thoughts/

how to cope with them: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/how-to/how-to-stop-intrusive-thoughts-and-live-your-life/

[bixels]

I watched Starship Troopers tonight.

[hygienic-soap-dispenser]

I present: the Nordics as the Derry Girls 💁‍♀️🏫✨️

Reference under the cut~

[lugarn]

it's a little fucked up sometimes when i think about the fact that the two biggest female writers in BL also have the most hate in interfandom

[revverencie]

i am so genuinely sick and tired of the way bisexual women are being treated in queer spaces nowadays.

statistically, bisexual women are at a higher danger of things like rape, sexual assault, intimate partner violence, stalking, etc. than anyone else when grouped by sexuality. yes this includes heterosexual women, yes this includes lesbians, yes this includes gay men. but the rest of the community as a whole seems to delight in stereotyping them as predators, accomplices to predators or undeserving of support just because of their identity. because people care more about the strawman of "bisexual woman with a boyfriend" than giving real people who are at a statistic vulnerability to actual violence a support network.

[thatswhatsushesaid]

reflecting on some of the posts i've seen dropped in the jgy tags over the last week, i've come to the conclusion that some of you just asked chatgpt to summarize the plot or character relationships for you, and decided that was as good as reading the book. why form your own coherent opinions when you can just ask the robot that lives in your phone to do it for you?

[campbyler]

i really admire how u stand up for urselves with the release dates and headcanons and shit. so many people think they can walk all over writers who are putting in so much work for them

thank you for saying this! i will say that we have received far more support than we have anything to the contrary, and we certainly haven't handled every situation that's fallen into our laps completely perfectly, but i do think there has been some mind boggling behavior we've been presented with and it's not something we were really anticipating having to react to. i'm beating a dead horse at this point, but we never imagined just how much attention this fic would get, and while it is so cool and fun and rewarding 99% of the time, there is that 1% that is unfortunately very loud sometimes. suni and i are sensitive people at best, and while we are good at ignoring when things get too rowdy, there are times that we have to put our foot down -- namely, when people are a) trying to stake a claim in ownership over this universe and dictate things about characters they had no hand in developing and b) putting us on a pedestal and turning our relationship with our readers into something corporate (not the band). to be dogpiled on after disagreeing with a headcanon (that was phrased as a question, mind you, and became a big deal when they didn't get the answer they wanted) or sent rude asks because life is making it hard to get an upload out are things that we think are hostile in a way that we haven't been. which again, is not to say we are perfect -- we get sassy, we can be really reactive -- but we both definitely believe in matching energy, and when things escalate we will rise to it. lol. we are so glad that we have this community of people who share the same passion for this universe that we do, and even more glad that the majority of that community is so respectful of us and our choices and give us space to be human, whether that mean standing up for ourselves or taking 6 months between uploads. it's been so reassuring to know that the work we put into this fic and this universe is not transactional 💗

[naomiknight-17]

When I first said I didn't like a certain transmisogyny related set of acronyms because they felt exclusionary, I got a lot of negative feedback, and some people insisted that I was being transmisogynistic or even a threat to trans women, and that I need to listen to trans women.

And I thought, okay. People are being really harsh with me right now but maybe I do need to learn more about this.

So I started paying attention to what the trans women on my dash were saying. I read the 'discourse' posts. I followed a couple of blogs that use that language to see what they were all about

On one hand, I did learn a lot about transmisogyny and intersectionality, but on the other hand I saw that the folks using these acronyms do not speak for all trans women. I saw some trans women on my dash directly calling out that terminology for the same reasons I did.

I saw people using that terminology saying exclusionary and transphobic and intersexist things about other trans people and about intersex people.

So in the end, my opinion has not changed.

I am trying to listen to trans women, but they don't always all agree. And I think I agree with the ones who don't like that language

[robinsversion]

As someone who once had their art stolen by a mutual who has many times more followers than me and I only found out because I happened to click on her ig stories on the right day,

Get his ass.

[daincrediblegg]

Wait hang on before I follow are you pr*ship or are you a good person

I mean I personally don’t think those two things are mutually exclusive but like idk dude I’m just blogging here

[jourke-rourke]

i will say, i know that One gets mega-annoying with the whole love triangle subplot, but I do appreciate the guy outside of that, especially the way his protectiveness of others takes shape. E.g. during fights, numbers 2, 3, 4 & 6 tend to just focus on taking out the enemy, but One's first reaction is almost always to cover the most vulnerable people and protect them as much as possible. Both are forms of protectiveness, his is just a bit less violent and more self-sacrificial.

also he's big on physical touch + comfort, which I can respect. but unfortunately for him he's surrounded by crewmates who are touch-starved to the point that they do not know how to process any contact that is not violent

[cushfuddled]

YOOOOOO dude I used to follow you on DeviantArt years ago!!! I bailed when stuff started going to shit so I’m super glad to have found you again! Man, Twin Shadows is still in the top 5 of my favorite comics literally ever, including non-fanfiction. I still think about the way you depicted fire in it - so so so so cool. Even now, having not looked at it in years, I can vividly picture the movement of it and all the emotion it held. Can’t wait to catch up on your newer stuff too!

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[amethystviolist]

wow, you get bullied a ton in middle school and think you've grown immune to it, get to adulthood, and then unexpectedly find out that getting bullied actually feels ten times worse than it used to

[cottoncandysecretlair]

It's wild how on one side of my dash I see people talking about the real issues of transmasc erasure, "you're taking our lesbians away" terf rhetoric, and the ways that trans men are expected to accept ostracisation within leftist spaces without ever advocating for themselves...

Meanwhile on the other side, I see lots of "The MRA's are back, anyone that speaks about transmasc issues are transmisogynists, if you didn't immediately decide transandrophobia is an invalid concept then you're a bigot" type hysteria and it all just pisses me off.

Like trans men will spend their entire life til now perceived as women, expected to be quiet, expected to obey and be a resource to others without taking up too much space or having needs themselves. And upon realizing they're trans, finding their community, and thinking maybe this is a place they can find some modicum of comfort, the community says "no."

We don't want your voice or your struggles, because it doesn't fall in line with the rhetoric. It's not a part of the theory.

SJ theory generalizes, that's the nature of it. It's used to describe society as a whole, and how systemic oppressions operate. Broad academic theory isn't meant to for you to apply it precisely the same way to the individual.

That's what being intersectional is supposed to be about! You're not supposed to say "well systemically men are oppressors, so this man I just met is actively looking to oppress me" when you meet a homeless black man in a wheel chair.

I'm just so tired of the dynamic where in leftist spaces we can't share our stories and pain because they have to align with our ideas of who's the oppressor or not.

To this day, I feel terrified to open up about the fact that an older woman sexually assaulted me as a teen, because I'm so afraid someone will say I'm just targeting lesbians, or that my story promotes predatory stereotypes and shouldn't be shared. I can't talk about shit like that because I know that outside my closest friends, others in leftists spaces don't want to hear about that.

This is all over the place but I'm just so frustrated. Seeing people that have been boiling over, keeping their mouth shut, playing nice even when it's unfair to them, daring to open their mouths to speak all the while trying to be careful, only to still get attacked and made into bigots.

It's like there's no amount of bowing and saying your troubles are meaningless and insisting other people have it worse that will let you be "allowed" to talk about what hurts you.

We're supposed to be past one-upmanship and oppression olympics, it's not about who's had it worse it's about what we can fucking do about it TOGETHER.

And that means being able to drop your academic theory and shit to engage with the people in your community as fucking human beings. That means being able to seriously consider the validity of criticism instead of knee-jerk rejecting it.

Also please stop accusing literally anyone talking about intra-community bullying of talking over people being killed or shit like that, you know damn well that people are capable of caring about multiple issues

[i-cast-zone-of-truth]

He really just stopped in the middle of explaining how his parents’ interrupted coitus the night of his conception was the cause of everything wrong that’s happened in his life to do a few chapters of self-insert modern AU Hamlet fanfiction….

[heteroflexiblecastiel]

note that this is about FLAGS. which FLAG do you wanna scrap the most