#and in reality

[gamorahww]

#I love that jonathan really got this about fiyero's character#fiyero may not be a scholar like elphaba but he is still a thinker and a philosopher#even while only college age he already has a life philosophy: 'life's more painless for the brainless' and all that jazz#but that says that in trying to be 'mindless and careless' fiyero is trying to pursue happiness he doesn't have#because well...if he didn't feel pain why would he be so determined to not invest himself in anything?#fiyero at his heart is a nihilist -- perhaps he puts on the mask of an optimistic nihilist but he's truly not one#because healthy optimistic nihilists also practice self-care by nurturing strong friendships#and by seeking to *create* a purpose for themselves since they believe they don't inherently have one#optimistic nihilists don't deny any unhappiness or discomfort they might feel or run away from it the way fiyero does#instead they own it and accept that it's just part of who they are#for a long time fiyero has contented himself with just 'skimming the surface' of life and enjoying things superficially#so that he doesn't have to become emotionally invested in anything and potentially open himself up to being hurt#but then he meets elphaba -- someone who by her own admission *does* care too much and knows full well it would be easier if she didn't#and she's emotionally intelligent enough to see right through him and see how unhappy he truly is#and just like fiyero didn't feel elphaba needed to act like galinda...well she doesn't think he should pretend either#and yeah that's pretty damn validating#as much as I love galinda and elphaba's relationship I love that this is so central to elphaba and fiyero's - @imagitory

"An organizational psychologist, Adam Grant, sent me a message saying, “It’s a masterful portrayal of superficiality masking depth.” Out of all the things I’ve heard, that is the thing I’m going to get printed on a T-shirt."

- Jonathan Bailey for W Magazine interviewed by Max Gao

[girleulogy]

Starting every sentence with ‘actually’ because I’m an annoying California girl at heart

[it-grrl]

I mean, the fact that I successfully rescheduled the ADHD meds follow up appointment over a week before the prior appointment date probably means they're working at least a little bit right?

[thealternatemind]

realizing and accepting that I’m autistic has done a lot for understanding my mental health and healing but it’s also opening up so many old wounds and retraumatizing me in a way and I just

[deadlypoetacademia]

[eridan-ampora]

baby animals move like theyre playing a new video game & havent figured out the controls yet

[thejournallo]

ME MANIFESTING THAT EVERYONE WHO SEE THIS POST GETS WHAT THEY WANT.

(Masterlists)

[rivetgoth]

It's honestly crazy that discussion around testosterone HRT skews so much towards the beginning stages of it (to the point that you have dozens of guys thinking their transition is "failed" if they don't pass by like a year in lol) and what the initial changes of the first couple of months to years look like, like the classic laundry list of those early basic changes like bottom growth, voice drop, etc, when IMO literally none of that compares remotely to the depth and intensity of the long term total masculinization you start to experience like 3-5+ years in.

[myfandomrealitea]

I actually love hearing about reformed people's stories. I love hearing about people who were in toxic communities or people who used to objectively be dickheads talking about how they got out of that. How they made themselves better.

I hate how most people's initial reaction to stories like that are things like:

"How could you have ever done those things?!" "Oh my god, you believed those things?!" "Well it doesn't un-do the harm you did!"

People incessantly advocate for change but then refuse to allow people who have changed the grace of being acknowledged and given opportunities and chances.

I love hearing about ex-antis talking about how they don't spend their days being angry and sending death threats anymore.

I love hearing about ex-homophobes who realized there's no magic law about what is "natural."

I love reformed bullies talking about how they made amends with their victims and spend their days being considerate of others.

You can't scream about wanting people to change but then expect them to spend the rest of their lives stuck in the past and on who they used to be. You can't expect people to spend the entire rest of their lives grovelling and apologizing and demeaning themselves.

Instead of clinging to who they were, latch onto who they are.

Ask how they got out of it. Commend them on changing. Enjoy that there's one less cause of harm in the world.

[soul-from-another-era]

[rachel-sez]

Standing in a checkout line, when an older man asks me about my Goncharov t-shirt. I say "It's a movie, " when the person behind me chimes in, "Oh, yes, Scorsese."

The original gentleman goes on to tell me about the author Goncharov, his favorite of his novels, and a famous character from one of the novels. The three of us discuss whether the main character in the movie is intentionally named after the author, referencing that character, or whether it just sounded good to the film maker. We discuss how steeped the movie is in symbology.

Two of us are having a very different conversation than the third.

[lesbianralzarek]

"life doesnt get better, you just get stronger" does NOT include ages 11-17. life does in fact just get better from there. those years are dogshit. like, you do get stronger but its mostly just a factor of not being 11-17 anymore. positive thinking helps but it doesnt fix whatevers going on at 15, you have to brute force through that one raw

[acorviart]

not to sound like a boomer, but I need some people to learn how to write emails in a semi-professional (at the very least) format so you're not cold emailing a business/potential employer/any other stranger about formal matters in the exact same way you'd DM a close friend on instagram

the formality/language can loosen up in the email chain once you've established a rapport and you match the other person if they're being less formal, but please don't have the very first email you send a stranger be written in all lowercase ultra-casual sms slang with no greeting or signature and a billion emojis

[moomoorare]

I love nautical and seaside town horror stories. Tell me more about the fog and water that eats people