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messyoungie · 2 days ago

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HABITS TO DROP WHEN GETTING YOUR LIFE TOGETHER

➝ CREATING UNAUTHENTIC & UNINTENTIONAL GOALS

the biggest mistakes you can make when creating goals is making goals that aren’t true to you and making goals for the sake of making goals.

it can be so exciting when you decide to get your life together. I mean, of course it is! there are so many possibilities! but when you start planning, don’t just write down the goals you see circulating on social media. what works for someone else may not be what works for you. don’t make your goals and habits based on what’s trending or popular in the self improvement community.

think about what you actually need for a minute. what is actually necessary? your goals and habits aren’t here to be glamorous, they’re here to help regardless of how simple or small they are. the point of thinking up new habits is to improve your life, so be intentional with your goals. what will practicing this habit or achieving this goal give you?

when you’re first starting out, your goals don’t have to be anything too crazy or intense. for example, let’s say you want to become a pink pilates girl and get into fitness. you shouldn’t jump right into it and say your goal is to work out for 2 hours 5 times a week. let’s consider some factors first. have you been living a completely sedentary kind of lifestyle? then try looking for exercises that’ll wake up dormant muscles. your goal should then be to repeat those exercises for how ever many times a week. then you’ll work your way up from there. (it’s important we don’t harm the body, so be mindful with your fitness goals.) what about your schedule? how much time can you actually give to working out? can your body even endure working out for that long?

anyways, hopefully you see what I mean. when creating goals, it’s not about having the “aesthetic” habits and goals that you may see on tiktok or tumblr. it’s about doing what is actually good for you and what’ll help you the most with where you are now in your journey. so please put some thought into your goals and where they’ll take you. creating unauthentic and unintentional habits will also mean you’ll be less likely to keep practicing them after a few times. at the end of the day, that doesn’t help you achieve anything and you’re left with a broken promise you’ve made to yourself. which leads me to my next point…

➝ NOT KEEPING YOUR WORD WHEN IT COMES TO YOU

let me start off by saying this— if you don’t even listen to yourself, why should anyone else? (harsh, ik)

a HUGE reason as to why people have no self confidence is because they don’t listen to themselves or keep the promises they’ve made to themselves. if you have no self trust, how could you have any self confidence?

now, building discipline can definitely be a challenge so if you want to start somewhere easy, nip your false promises in the bud and stop yourself from making them. that’s what I did when I was first trying to stop this habit. when my addiction to tiktok was at its peak I would always tell myself the usual “ten more minutes and then I’ll stop scrolling.” when I wanted to stop making false promises, I knew I had no control or discipline so the only thing I could do is be real with myself. I’d cut myself off when I heard myself say “five more minutes” because I knew it wasn’t going to happen. if I wasn’t going to quit my bad habit, then the least I could do is be honest with myself.

the things that you are constantly telling yourself, whether they’re mindless or intentional, matter.

so, stop telling yourself seemingly harmless lies. unnecessary false promises that you know are false will only fill you with tension.

➝ SEEING FAILURE AS AN INVITATION TO GIVE UP

this applies to so many things.

you wanted to be consistent with your reading goals but haven’t read a chapter in a week? dont give up. don’t tell yourself that being consistent is too hard for you, that since you missed a week this habit isn’t for you. make your goal a bit easier or give yourself another chance.

you wanted to spend more time doing art but it’s not turning out how you expected? dont give up. dont give yourself the title of a “bad artist” and never pick up a pencil again. move forward, give yourself another chance.

you wanted to quit your Instagram addiction but after a couple days you went back to scrolling for hours on ig reels? Don’t give up. dont tell yourself that this addiction isn’t gonna go away, don’t go back to the bad habit because you slipped up. give yourself another chance.

I think a lot of us (myself included) tend to give up at the first sign of failure, instead of reminding ourselves to keep going. it’d be wonderful if you could get it right on the first try. if you could read ten books a month right away after not reading a book in three years. if you could watch hours worth of tutorials and sketch the perfect portrait on the first attempt. if you could uninstall instagram for good and never feel the urge to go back. that would all be so amazing, but it’s not always the reality. expect the best from yourself and do the best you can, but also give yourself some compassion. keep in mind that you won’t always do things perfectly right away and that’s one thousand percent okay. when you feel yourself slipping up on your brand new goal, don’t end it there at the first failure. allow yourself to move forward, because the only other direction to move is backwards.

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chickenoptyrx · 1 year ago

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....I just wanted to draw gators :T at this point these 2 are more 'a representation of my last 2 brain cells' then they are actual characters 😅

#im living vicariously through the cartoon guys #because i want to A. pick up gator (strong man style)#and B. ..pick up gator (hug)#ok but so i recently found out an area where i take stupid little walks for my stupid little mental health #has! GATORS!! (potentially. theres signs.)#and this is great cause seeing gators would def heal me as a person #but ok so when i look for hiking places i always look north cause the terrains more hilly #but now im lookin south more cause turns out i AM in fact far enough south to see gators!!#and yeah looks like theres a handful of nature reserves w hiking trails the same distance away as the little mountain trails i go to #its flatter and the trails are less extensive so ill hafta see if i think its worth it #but then too theres a really big black water swamp that.. further away then i wanna drive..#but also i drove 5 hrs once just to go to mammoth cave as a day trip so.. we'll see..#my friend says he wont go w me tho :T he'll just report me missing #this has been a tag ramble about my sudden outset intrest in seeing a gator #my bullshit #lol barely but still #also- i told myself not to over do it drawin the scales or coloring it #and as you can see i dont listen to myself ever #lol they look outta place but idc i got to draw 2 of my favorite characters and also ALLIGATORS :U #living the dream rn

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lunarharp · 1 year ago

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if i just told you i love you would this world change

#witch hat tag #orufrey #these kinda suck lol i feel like i cant draw right now *irritated sigh* BUT I FEEL EMOTIONS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#if you are gay go watch good omens season 2 right now. NO YOU DONT KNOW THO!!!!!!!!!#i know being this affected by good omens is probably cringe. I dont care any more. the last 1 minute of good omens season 2 was #some of the most affecting acting i've ever seen in my life. sometimes someone acts with the force as if their entire career led to that #like during the credits part the very end im not even talking about before that. holy god #aziraphale i know everything about you. i know what you are feeling right now. i can see everything on your face. we're going to make it #ER.... NOT THAT THIS HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH THIS POST. IT'S NOT SPOILERS !!!!!!!!!!!!!#I JUST FEEL THOROUGHLY CHANGED !!!!!!!!!!! SHIT GETS REAL FROM NOW ON.. LIKE IN GENERAL! IN MY LIFE!#tormented gay love tormented gay love TORMENTED GAY LOVE TORMENTED GAY LOVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#btw the first 3 images were drawn earlier with an entirely different feeling and an entirely different mood.#Why do you keep pulling away from me?#It is because i love you that i do this #the lyrics from one of my japanese orufrey songs (A SONG THAT THE CREATOR LISTENS TO!!!!) led to feelings #“あなたが知らない私を残さず見ててほしいの” but i'm not translating it cause it just sounds weird. if with his eyes oru's asking “WHY don't you want #to let me in? to see all of you?“ those lyrics are like ”I actually want you to see every last bit of the parts of me you don't know“#oru you have no idea how much i want to lay bare my whole soul for you #maybe it's an alternate version of chapter 40. to me #i need to draw something really fucking good or i'm not going to forgive myself. i will not rest in this life #until i have made the orufrey that fully satisfies me nor until i have seen what the manga is leading to #NO STORY MEANS ANYTHING WITHOUT TORMENTED GAY LOVE AT THE HEART OF IT. THATS THE HEART OF THIS WORLD!!!!!#........... so Hi im normal :) haha *goes and finally makes breakfast*

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elftwink · 4 months ago

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have to work on a project today and an unrelated thing happened that just made me so so so so so mad (just some irl personal stuff), which normally derails my entire day because i find it so hard to come out of the angry/upset state and tend to just circle back and obsess over whatever triggered it but! today after 20 minutes of that i had a council meeting about it (<- what i call my decision making process) the outcome of which was putting it aside (!!!) for later when i could actually talk about it and resolve it (!!!) & in the meantime we could just do other stuff.

local man exuberant and jubilated to achieve feats of basic emotional self-regulation and was seen excitedly telling reporters he "never thought this day would come" and began giving a thank you speech to nobody in particular. more on this story as it develops

#good idea generator #more and more i find the most effective way to get things done is to have like. a council discussion in my head about it #my thoughts always feel really noisy especially when im upset & its easier to process what im thinking/feeling #if i imagine it as coming from many different sources with different opinions. rather than contradictory ones from me #bc then i get stressed about the contradictions. council discussion is easy bc you can let everyone say their whole perspective #so everyone gets listened to + then theres space to ask questions like 'is this helping or hurting?'#if you're wondering who 'we/everyone' is. its me. this is probably obvious but i never know what is typical when explaining how i think #or if im explaining it in a way that makes sense and is accurate to whats actually going on up there #arguably i dont think any language is ever truly 'accurate' to whats going on up there #feels like trying to see if other people see the same red as you do. what do you ask? and when you think you know how do you check?#anyway. i like the council because i used to just try to shut down negative or spirally thoughts #and it never worked ever it just made me feel more out of control. whereas now i have to listen to the whole thing #+ try to identify what the underlying fear or need is and try to address THAT #also awhile back i read the handbook for internal family systems therapy which has def influenced how i think of myself #now i have never actually done ifs or spoken to a practising professional so grain of salt and whatever #but i have found it is by far the way that makes the most sense for me personally to think abt myself and try to solve problems internally

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koishua · 5 months ago

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will be cutting out all processed sugars. thank you and pls wish me luck

#tp #listen i already quit chips for a year and it's been okay so this is the next step lesgedit #i mean the only thing is im obsessed with iced tea and ice cream so yeah...... hmm #will have to make my own iced teas from peaches and call it a day ig #we'll see #good thing is i love love love fruits so they'll do well as substitutes i believe #esp peaches #y'all have no idea how monumental me quitting iced tea will be. you do not ever catch me without iced tea in stock. ever.#in my bottle or bought in two liter boxes every day or in cans upon cans. twas an addiction i feel lightheaded #this is awful but worth it you'll see i'll be so healthy #this is me forcing myself to be healthy bc i dont eat out and only eat homecooked meals BUT the catch is my mom or someone else has to cook #otherwise i'll just starve ig OR survive on iced tea. just cannot be bothered to even make instant ramen for the life of me #SO!! now that my alternative is gone and i moved back home for a month im hoping i'll see good results in my health shdhfhfhfh #and maybe i'll get my four packs back 😞💔 miss me my ripped abs during covid y'all i was a muscle mother

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mihai-florescu · 7 months ago

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This really was our yumenosaki academy♡

#sooo baaad even if i graduate in summer theyre not giving me the diploma til end of 2024??#lets all brainstorm how i can get shu's human comedy monologue up on a poster advertising the grad show... for funsies really #its in my intro to the essay but it doesnt really have much to do with the visuals. which is what i'll need to submit for the posters #hmm well... no thatd look bad. i could go open indesign now but i dont want to i wanna go homeee #ive given up on caring about the project im just committed to the bit the target audience is me myself and its my requiem to art #but ive been telling people about my visual project and they all said theyre really excited to see it...? but it takes me months #of severe despair to get a good concept sorted out. im glad they all said they cant wait to see it... im curious myself #tomorrow ill try to play with recording it. then really lock in to the visuals #what are we thinking. digital spaceship or a real life installation?#the setting is you as the audience are an intergalactic truck driver passing by earth tuning in to the radio listening to a professor #studying humans give a talk about them. mini podcast ig? intergalactic cultural radio vibes?#you get it #so the audio is quite important but then also the setting #do i make it digital and ppl put on headphones and watch a screen?#or do i make it an installation irl #it wouldve been quite good if i made it in vr but i have 3 weeks no experience in the medium and um. well. yeah #i think it's a nice goodbye since i get to project my views on humanity through the alien and also he's a revamped version of #my first ever proper oc. carl the alien #isnt that a nice way to end this journey for now? i think so.

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hella1975 · 1 year ago

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sometimes i think about the fact my grandparents literally overnight just cut us off and im like. how did u even do that. does it torment you

#eeaao's 'how did you let me go so easily' moment. like i dont let myself even THINK about this too often #bc i immediately beat myself back with the 'if it's hard for you then imagine how hard it is for mum. her PARENTS cut her off'#but like. idk. my nan i couldn't give less of a shit about which is something i always find so interesting #bc even as a child with NO basis for it or any understanding of her behaviour both past and present i still wasn't Comfortable around her #like children are smart actually. i just Knew her vibes were off and i Knew my mum was weird when she was around #like i truly dont think i ever loved my nan even when she was a very frequent part of my life #but my grandad? i ADORED him. id see him multiple times a week and he's the kindest man ive ever met #and hannah what i told you about my mum saying certain people have magnetic auras THAT WAS ABOUT HIM #like i cant actually put into words what it was about him but people just wanted to know him and spend time with him #but he was weak and let my nan walk all over him and when push came to shove he chose her and now ive not spoken to him in 3 years #& i KNOW he loved me. he thought the world of me like it's a bitter unspoken thing between me & my sister that we KNOW i was his favourite #he used to buy me egg butties at agricultural shows when my mum said no and specifically ask for two eggs #he used to sit and eat his soup with me when he came over to do work at the house #he used to play with me. he used to smile all the time. i can so clearly hear the way he'd go ''iya [my name]' with his proper rural accent #or how he'd tell anyone who would listen 'she's tough as old boots that one'#and i could make him laugh like NO ONE else could and he'd light up and go 'give over' and he genuinely enjoyed my company #i KNOW HE DID. and i havent spoken to him in 3 years. he'll be dead soon #and i cant talk to my mum about it bc it's her DAD it is so much worse for her and i cant talk to my sister about it #bc she wasn't close with him like i was and she just shuts the conversation down and those are the only two people #who know my grandad and know what he meant to me so im just here like. he literally stopped speaking to me overnight #i stopped hearing from him i stopped meeting up with him im so so angry with him the love is still there i dont know where to put it now #why couldnt he stay. why did he pick her when she's a loveless void of inhumanity. why werent we enough #hella goes home #my grandparents on my dad's side are also not in the picture funnily enough but idgaf about them. she got that grandparentless swag

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triglycercule · 25 days ago

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yada yada happy halloween to these FREAKS (and you guys :3 and myself i gusss :3) doodle from art class that i GUESS could be considered halloween...... idk ok idk ok something was up with me when i drew this

#look killer would like being praised more but to be fair since when has anyone been truly canon with him #to make myself not tweak out i can just pretend this is my fanon #i mean like mtt to me is the epitome of finding slight comfort in suffering when theyre not beating eachother up #dust and horror are affirming killer's terrible thoughts about himself!! how sweet :3 <3 theyre so made for eachother #horror looks like he has a second eye but dont be fooled i just didnt shade that in #i NEED to lock in on that animation. i dont think i have any homework today #i just have a short worksheet and then i'm good to draw i really should really really should im so sorry #disappointed in myself smh more than any of YOU ever will be #originally this was gonna be them in their halloween costumes looking down but then i was like #wait i dont wanna draw killer so ierased him and then just put horror and dust in their normal outfits bc i liked it #and i was like hold up hold up i gotta include killer somehow. SOMEHOW.and then this is the resuly #listen these guys dont freak around but they do various other things that are almost just as freaky as sex #that was more of a side blog thought triglycercule. i know. i will elaborate more there i guess #i ate so much candy today!!! and i didnt even go trick or treating!!!!!#theyre so smitted and enamoured with eachother :333 i love that for them #theyre so cannibalism core. theyre so if i cant have you nobody can core. theyre not soulmates but instead eachothers curse. theyre so UGH #only the murder time trio can match the other 2's freaks i fear nobody else can #its either less crazy or more crazy and these 3 are the perfect amount of balanced to even the other 2 out #i love that one kist animatic that that one really cool twitter kist artist drew #i know theres probably a really good horrordust animatic out there somewhere 2 #WHERES THE HORRORKILLER ANIMATIC HUH!!!! WHERE!!!!!!!#horrorkiller once again left out of the trio duo ships......... this is biased i fear #people just hate to see unhealthy bitched unhealthy smh. they can handle toxic kist but they cant handle toxic hrkl???? BLASPHEMY #triglycercule's rambling again (like a dementia patient) i should get to work #i found my first ever sand au fan out in the wild today. this is a moment in history i fear #i will never find another sans au fan in the world until i pass 30 years of age and im sad but whatever #i cant wait to get a job so i can start ordering stickers of my trio #i cant WAIT to get a pinmaker one day and start my very own mtt ita bag #i want a pinmaker so bad god. just so i can staple their faces all over #tricule rant

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todayisafridaynight · 2 months ago

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Since you mentioned it, what did you think of Speak No Evil? I was thinking of watching it myself :0

i really liked it ............ my friend scoffed at me when i told her i was watchin it so take my opinion with a grain of salt tho </3

#snap chats #SHE DIDNT EVEN WATCH IT BUT W/E SPOILER FREE QUICK REVIEW DOWN HERE HIIII <3<3<3<3 #ive been made aware my tastes are. Questionable so proceed with caution vlklvjv im so sorry if i convince you to see it and you dont like i #moving on I Have. done nothing but listen to Eternal Flame for the past week its been stuck in my head ever since #BUT FR as i said I Really Liked It. i heard that theres another/original version so i wanna watch that at some point #if i care to remember and find it vjaelkjeakl but as This Movie On Its Own i had a swell time !!!#it does a really good job of teetering that line of #'this is just a quaint little sometimes-awkward get-together' and 'this is so stressful i just might throw up'#it did a good job of keeping me invested and on my toes i guess- it bitters innocuous scenarios really well which i like #like i wasnt sure WHEN whatever scene i was watching would turn sour but i always had that feeling it /would/- that lingering feeling #the horror in this is more psychological than violent- it only gets crazy by the last quarter honestly #which isnt bad! i like psych horror and Christ. the amount of times i was just grimacing in my seat like Suspense Is The Word #like imagine a dinner party where people only say controversial things and you dont want to blow up the situation #so you just try to be really polite about pivoting from the topic. but they keep going. thats basically the horror of this movie at its cor #i do have SOME comments about some bits but i wanna rewatch the movie at some point to be thorough on my comments jglejlakj #yk do a rewatch where im. NOT jokin bout with my brother- THO TBF DESPITE THAT I was still invested #like its premise is so. simple? in concept imo. but 'simple' isnt automatically bad in my eyes and i really liked how it played out #i dont watch movies much tho so maybe its been done different but there is ONE thing tht definitely made me like. HUH #but its nothing super major i dont htink? I MEAN IT WAS KINDA BIG BUT there were signs to it being revealed. still it made me vjLJ like god #i cant explain tho cause SPOILERS but ... Yeah. its not that crazy it just definitely took me by surprise for how quick the reveal was #tldr: if you ever wanted to watch an awkward dinner party where you couldnt do anything about it this is the movie to watch #and i like that. i like that because i hate myself apparently jVLAEKJVAEKLJ #coupled with horror it was also funny at times which i felt did help with that underlying 'when will this be tainted' horror #i really liked that ... when normalcy or the feeling of safety can be taken away in an instant #if you watch it and wanna talk bout it more in depth ill prob have rewatched it by then and id like to give a more. Detailed review #OR AT LEAST ONE NOT SO RAMBLY VELKAVJEALKJ im not good at reviewing things .... i just know when i like or dont like somethin ..#ive only had my bro to talk bout this with and he doesnt really. Give his thoughts or opinions too much like i do #so id be happy to talk bout it and get your perspective !!!! but only if you want Again if you dont like it im so sorry erlakjaekl #god theres so much more i want to say but im just rambling and i wanna be brief for you my friend vlakjlakvlkj #anyway yeah. those are my quick thoughts. i was Very Normal about james mcavoy for most of this movie ty for reading

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lateseptemberdawn · 5 months ago

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Ngl bad parents give me such an ick like stay tf away from me ew

#this cousin of mine has twins #twin boys #and while i sort of understand why she is the way she is with them #i realy cant wrap my head completely around it #because well #its such blind idiot stupid fucking BAD behaviour especially for a mother was especially towards her children #especially when theyre twins and youre so blatantly partial the favoured one KNOWS hes favoured #like. she has absolutely ruined her second boy and absolutely cannot handle him and yet slaps him every chance she gets #doesnt listen to him refuses to indulge him even the least bit shows zero affection and ive been here three days and man can i see #that child is fucking parched for affection specifically from him mother because he is neglected #he knows he is neglected #he is scared shitless of her and acts out of his way to get any attention he can because that is the only time his mother will hold him #be it with sharp fingers and a hold that digs into his skin #theyre literally just 5 years old #the neglected child i a fucking dream come true. is already smart as FUCK #does anything you tell him to do RIGHT THAT SECOND #the only flaw is that he doesnt listen when anyone tells him not to do something which isnt even a flaw for fucks sake #thats a fucking child hes gonna ASK #and you shout at him and dont amswer him and when he keeps asking you hit him #my heart fucking cries man #the other one knows his mother favours him and despises his brother and that evil fucker (i know its not his fault) lies #and gets his brother hit and then fucking TEASES HIM ABOUT IT THREATENS HIM LATER ON LIKE I AM SO DISGUSTED #HOW MUCH OF AN AWFUL PARENT DO YOU HAVE TO BE FOR YOUR KIDS TO BE AWARE OF HOW TO MANIPULATE YOU AT THE AGE OF FUCKING FIVE #F I V E (5).#they. are. FIVE.#i seriously want to keep him to myself because she will ruin him #and whats more disgusting is when shes getting him to do stuff shes all like “baby do this” and the moment hes back and standing close she #pushes him away? looks at him disgusted? says “why do you bother me so much”??????#that is child is the most fucking neglected child ive ever seen and seriously man why does this happen and why do I HAVE TO WITNESS IT #the favoured one is pure evil and NO ONE SAYS ANYTHING TO HIM HES DUMB ASF CANT EVEN WRITE ONE WORD WITHOUT DYING DOES NOTHING DOESNT LISTEN

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sucktacular · 11 months ago

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Shower good. 👍👍👍

In bed now. Considering making a hot bowl of instant noodles ...

#sucktacular sucks #man i wish i had chicken wings so bad...#id go comatose for realsies after tho and ive got stuff to do later jfjsnfn #also listening to my angsty teen music and just mm 💕💕#RED i know youre singing about Jesus and stuff but Not To Me youre not. 💕💕💕#christian rock didnt need to go so hard #but they did and its so hopeless romantic my existence is nothing without you -core #my only regret in life is i never did a Beyond Birthday x L Lawliet slide show/amv yo any RED music #or even The Birthday Massacre #and thats really sad #i failed myself #(<- saying jokingly)#but if i ever do make a new video i def wanna do one for RED or TBM or even Breaking Benjamin #one day perhaps #i dont think ill use fan art unless its painstakingly sourced and i ask the artists permission #but i can def see myself trying to do some kind of still image slide show with my own art #but id have to story board that out and draw it all and thats. so much...#but man i was really inspired by reggi's collab #anyway

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dirt-str1der · 2 years ago

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I literally had a dream about reading the worst fan fiction like fucking ever kiryu was just randomly a yandere and nishiki was trying his best to survive also kiryu turned into a dragon (deez nuts) halfway and let nishiki kill him for being a bad boy but he was so upset about having to kill his bro that he just lay in the corpse for a bit and thats when i decided to stop reading and i literally opened tumblr in my dream to complain about how bad it was like the writing went back and forth from being terrible to incredible and i found myself enjoying some parts and despising others. I skipped the first few chapters so i had to tab back out and read the summary like why are they in a beach resort and the summary didnt just tell me nothing but it was also double spaced between each line and very fucking irritating and while reading it i kept thinking this is extremely ooc and boring like they would not fucking say that