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Me: *rolls up to medical office reception desk*
Me: (using AAC) "hi I'm checking in, my name is [x] and my birthday is [y]."
Receptionist: (to my caregiver, ignoring me completely) "is he here for labwork?"
Biting you biting you biting you
#ableism#leaving the house as a disabled person is just#*ableism*#*ableism again*#*different ableism*#isaacfloofs talk#also misgendering#why is that office one of the worst????#neurology and hematology my beloathed (nemesis)#(on account of the ableism)#anyway#pulmonogy is awful too tho (esp regarding drug use and fatphobia)#fuck doctorssssssssss#this is a medical industry hate blog#the doctor actually wasnt bad but hate this fucking receptionist#biting you biting you biting you
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I didn't want to write up a long explanation since its kind of obvious and straightforward like it basically happened just like this
but I did want to say that my dad's doing his best. I didn't draw this as like an indictment of his stubborn character or to paint him as transphobic or something. I know he's trying and hes old, so it'll take him a while to get used to me having transitioned. I get frustrated with him and do want to be mad at him sometimes when I get misgendered especially in public but he doesn't do it maliciously.
I can tell hes scared of a lot of things that come with getting to his age; it takes a serious effort to get him to the hospital sometimes and he ended up with pneumonia a few months back. hes seen his mother in law die to dementia and told me several times if his mind starts to go, drive him out to the woods to let him wander then leave. so I can't imagine whats going on in his head with all that worry when the person who basically looked just like him for 20 years suddenly... doesn't
I won't ever be able to properly portray it, but the look on his face when we compared hands was a little heartbreaking, for a split second I knew he didn't see his son anymore but it was someone he doesn't immediately know as his daughter.
#dwpsart#tw: misgendering#transgender#I guess I wanted to make something to express my feelings but also want to make sure people know I don't hate my dad over this
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Let’s keep this up!
So, in case you weren’t aware:
Name: Trick Weekes
Pronouns: they/them
Additions:
Jin Maley, voice actor for Taash, is non-binary and uses they/them pronouns. Erika Ishii, one of the four voices for Rook, is genderfluid and uses they/she/he/any pronouns. Gareth David-Lloyd, voice actor for Solas, uses he/him/they/them pronouns. Jessica Clark, voice actor for Neve Gallus, uses she/her/they pronouns. Jeff Berg, one of the four voices for Rook, uses he/him pronouns. Corinne Busche, game director of Dragon Age: The Veilguard uses she/her pronouns.
I've added the ones I could verify on IMDB or their social media profiles. If anything changes I'll do my best to add them!
#dragon age#BioWare#If there’s other devs out there you wanna add to this post bc they also get misgendered#please add them! I’ll make sure to reblog#I’m not on Twitter and only follow a handful of people on BlueSky#so Twitter additions are super duper welcome#let’s all be respectful together ❤️
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Bigots denying a woman her womanhood aren't actually granting her the status of "man" esp with all its attendant privileges.
Degendering is a form of dehumanization. The goal of misgendering/degendering a woman is generally to treat her as a disposable object, unworthy of even the conditional and dubious "protection" that women are supposedly due under patriarchy.
If they actually saw her as a man she wouldn't be targeted in these ways, and "man/manly/male" would never be spat at her like an insult.
#misgendering#degendering#this happens to trans women ofc and also butch women (esp trans ones) and some racialized and/or disabled and/or intersex women#it's a form of#misogyny#compulsory femininity
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Now that Ghibli's new movie is coming out soon, I've been thinking about anime films and wanna talk about my favorite animated movie ever, Tokyo Godfathers.
TG is a 2003 tragicomedy by Satoshi Kon, following three unhoused people––an alcoholic, a runaway girl, an a trans woman––who find a baby in a dumpster and set off across Tokyo to reunite her with her parents.
If you like the sound of that, go watch it because the rest of this post is spoilers and I have FEELINGS about this movie.
URGHH, the fact that only two moments of true kindness, generosity, and care given to the three protagonists without any expectation of reciprocity are given by a Latin-American immigrant couple and a drag club full of queens and trans women. The fact that, despite her loud and dramatic personality, Hana is the glue that holds the team together and the heart of the whole movie. The fact that this movie pulls no punches at showing the violence and inhumanity committed by "civilized Japanese society" against the unhoused. The fact that Miyuki craves to be loved by her parents and ends up seeing Hana as her true mother. The fact that Miyuki starts off accidentally using transphobic language against Hana, but slowly begins calling her "Miss Hana" out of respect. The fact that, according to Kon, Hana's role in the story is as a mythological trickster god and "disturb the morality and order of society, but also play a role in revitalizing culture." The fact that Hana so desperately wants to be part of a true family, yet is willing to sacrifice her found family so they can be with their own, and is rewarded for her good deeds in the end by becoming a godmother. The fact that, throughout the movie, wind and light have been used to signify the presence of god's hand/influence (this movie's about nondenominational faith––faith in yourself, faith in others, faith in a higher power. Lots of religious are referenced, such as Buddhism/Hinduism, Christianity, and Shintoism), and in the climax of the film, as Hana jumps off a building to save a baby that isn't hers, a gust of wind and a shower of light save her from death. The fact that god saves a trans woman's life because she proved herself a mother, and that shit makes me CRY.
#ramblings#long post#not art#personal#it's the ultimate found family movie#not without its problems. i really dont like its depiction of mental health#for a movie that does an otherwise great job spotlighting the unhoused crisis in japan and its society's oppressive distain towards women#and queer people. it really drops the ball on depicting one of the biggest contributors to the crisis#but otherwise this movie is so fucking full of love and kindness and second chances and how fucking good queer folks and poc are#it blows my mind that this film came out in 2003 and the main protagonist is a trans woman who's just the fucking best#the recent gkids dub is REALLY good by the way! they got shakina nayfack; a trans va; to voice Hana!#the dub made great strides to undo a lot of the original misgendering and mistranslations#also its a christmas movie#also the ost was done by the band that did earthbound's ost
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5k notes before Christmas and I'll tell my mom that I'm a transmasc lesbian
#I'm so sick of being misgendered by this woman#And I'd like for her to know#But I'd also like to be safe#But I'm also fucking done with it and whatever happens happens
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i am looking down at u in the well.
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a glass sun 1/2
#my art#my stuff#this is really fucking long so im gonna have to break it up into multiple reblogs#(howling) WAUGHHHHHHH#i love aishang by xiaoshiguniang#i love to implicate my alma mater in my art about being gay in the shittiest most conservative corner of singaporean society#by some terrible trick of fate i ended up in the conservative chinese christian cishet circuit from primary school to end of hs#obviously i am not most of these things but there i was. Depressed#and there i was after that at Liberal Arts College. the 4 years i spent there were a clusterfuck#but like a good and outrageous and lively clusterfuck#and i graduated in may this year and when i came back it was for the first time in 10 months. it was like. what da hell#like i love being here in specific ways but there is also the pain of being seen as something you're not constantly#can i blame them? i ask myself this every day. for most of my ex classmates and relatives i Am the only not cis person they know#idk my lottery number was bad this corner of society really is that bad#and so its like. idk dawg anyway i aint offering solutions but u get it like it fucks with your head to be misgendered either which way 24/#but to leave them behind would be to leave the only people who knew me for the first 19 years behind. and thats a lot of my life#i am 23!!!!!! ough#anyway. whatever. if u liked it i have a ko-fi#reblogos appreciated
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God I'm so tired of people acting like not wanting to attract a lot of (often negative) attention is somehow Capitulating To Bigots like. The other day I was talking to someone about my strategic deployment of pronouns based on how much of an issue I think a person is likely to make about it and they were like "oh I just do what I want I'm done catering to cis people" and I was like BUDDY. I LIVE IN THE RURAL SOUTH WANTING TO NOT HAVE TO CONSTANTLY GET INTO IT WITH PEOPLE ABOUT MY PERSONAL GENDER IDENTITY IS NOT CATERING TO CIS PEOPLE I HAVE A RIGHT TO WANT TO MOVE THROUGH THE WORLD WITHOUT CONSTANT INTERPERSONAL CONFLICT
Or like I was talking about how I hate swimwear options bc they're all revealing but if you choose to wear like, a t shirt and shorts, people still stare at you because that's socially unusual so it sucks either way and someone was like "I just do it anyway and if people don't like it they can die mad about it" and like... okay. I want to be able to go to the local pool and not either be uncomfortable with what I'm wearing or have people treat me weird about it. I would like for my presence and clothing choices to be considered neutral and it's fine for me to state that actually. This is not assimilationist or capitulating to people. It's going "hm I would love if stepping out my front door didn't have to be a revolutionary act!!!!!" Agghhhhh
#im visibly gnc all the time. i am not hiding who i am. but also????#people making that choice are suffering for it and its an incredibly personal calculation and its FINE AND NORMAL#TO BE LIKE I AM SO TIRED OF DOING IDENTITY MATH#SOMETIMES I WOULD LIKE TO BE ABLE TO NOT MISGENDER MYSELF IN ORDER TO NOT GET IN FIGHTS#BUT THATS NOT THE LIVE I GET TO LIVE
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being nonbinary in a world that refuses to acknowledge more than 2 genders is weird bc like. i've literally found myself thinking "what if i go on hormones so my parents misgender me but in a different way"
#just for variety. just to shake things up a bit. diversify my trauma portfolio#also it's weird for several hundred other reasons this is just what has been recently on my minds#also 'i don't necessarily want to present as a specific gender but i DO want people to be deeply confused about what they're looking at so'#I don't want to be MISgendered i want people to be so confused they give up even attempting pronouns#out of sheer psychological horror if nothing else#you've got neopronouns i've got NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!pronouns
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Trans men are literally just a joke to so many people. I’ve seen multiple Tik Toks like “When the trans man with HUGE BOOBS(!!!) in a crop top gets mad at me when I misgender him.”
One of these had the OP’s comment of “Why are so many people in my comment section being transphobic towards trans men?”
It’s because you made this a safe space for people who hate trans men!!! You decided to describe trans men’s bodies in dehumanizing, sexualizing ways to make a joke out of us! In what world does “smh trans men are SO EMOTIONAL and expect us to instantly know everything about them and cater to them even though it makes my life so hard (I have to change a word),” not come off as repackaged sexism?
If you say that this is a made up situation, these people will immediately claim that this happens and has happened to them. It’s interesting that either they’re lying or they’re admitting that they’re sexualizing a real man’s body in a way that could easily trigger his gender dysphoria.
#transandrophobia#transmisandry#sexism#trans men are easy targets for them because they can claim that these trans men (who allegedly do not pass and just look like girls)#have male privilege#like#do you hear yourselves???#it makes me dysphoric and this has never happened to me#so sorry that I’m not a skinny man with a binder or top surgery!#I also hate how every one of these that I’ve seen are women!!!#you’d think that women would relate to being spoken of like sex objects but apparently it’s cool when they do it#‘I am not transphobic. I just don’t respect trans men and treat them like women and misgender them on accident so they deserve to be—#misgendered on purpose on the internet for all of my followers to laugh at! But I said that I hate transphobes once 🥺🥺🥺.’
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Listen i know warframe plants stuff that ends up paying off or following up only years later. But i need to know what the fuck is up with the warframe baby right fucking now. I need the baby warframe spinoff. Are they gonna make the fucking baby grow up or are we gonna have a playable baby. Is the baby gonna try to kill us like his dad. Are we like godparents or something. Can the baby shoot death lasers like his mom. Many questions
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Tired of people applying concepts of gender and gender hierarchy specifically made for cis people to trans people and thinking we're the problem when we point out that it doesn't fit.
#men privileged women not#so various groups will both correctly gender and misgender all trans people#and try to put one in the evil group#and when they're not cisnormative then the answer is yes they are#and try to come up with some theoretical notion why without asking them#notaterftip#not sarcasm#transgender#trans#yes this is about transandrophobia but can be applied to all of us#the same thing is done to justify transmisogyny and ignore nb people#im speaking as someone who's sick of being left behind in feminist discussion but also very aware that most of it excludes trans women too
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when i say "any pronouns" it does not mean "you are allowed to default to exclusively using the pronouns that you view as corresponding to my presumed sex or gender presentation" it means all fucking pronouns.
#i also personally do not use it/its pronouns but i stopped specifying that in my bio because i found it was more common for people to...#...use that info to intentionally misgender me than it was for anyone to use those pronouns for me genuinely/without malicious intent#people are already resistant enough to using it/its for people who specify that they use them. like pulling teeth.#almost no one is using them without being specifically prompted to do so#+ id much rather be occasionally misgendered by someone who didnt know they were doing so and was operating within my *specified* parameter#than be regularly misgendered intentionally because i specified what not to do.#ceci says stuff#100#200#300
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I like how I gave Frida two flags when she only needed one, meanwhile David has to squish both flags together. To be fair, it’s just like Frida to be incredibly organised and bring multiple back up flags, and for David to panic and not do that.
#which direction is his transgenderism? don’t ask me complicated questions#look all I know is that little guy ain’t cis#we as a fandom do make him mtf a lot which is AWESOME#but it’s also really sweet to imagine him as ftm#especially since he grew up with Frida#I imagine she helped him a lot when transitioning when they were little kids#frida is totally the kind of little kid to angrily correct adults misgendering people#David is probably too shy to correct people but frida is not#Hilda probably doesn’t know what being trans is until she moves to Trolberg and she thinks it’s so cool when she finds out#also nb Hilda! I think she uses she/they#she’s just like yeah I’m sort of a girl and I’m proud of that but I’m also definitely nothing close to a girl#like she doesn’t have a preference for either#I could see her using any pronouns other than he#I don’t think she’d use he#idk why#anyways those r just my headcanons happy pride!#hilda#hilda the series#netflix hilda#hilda netflix#art#my art#digital art#fanart#drawing#Hilda (Hilda)#David hilda#Hilda david#frida hilda#Hilda frida
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transgender detector going haywire rn…
#the fact that this was in the down low (THEE gay episode) too#this is either transmasc chase getting pissed about being misgendered#or transfemme chase reacting in indignation to being outed#take your pick#this bad boy can fit soo much gender in them#house md#robert chase#gregory house#hatecrimes md#greg house#like I’m trying so hard not to see chase as anything but an annoying cishet man#but the sheer level of queer implications they throw at him makes it insanely difficult#remy thirteen hadley#the more I think about it the more canon it feels#because he doesn’t even have long hair anymore. he’s not so twinkishly pretty as to be mistaken for a girl at this age. so what was this!!!#he has STUBBLE#+ somebody mentioned in the rbs that this is also trans!remy proof and. omg ur so right#enby thirteen rights#or whatever other headcanons y’all have for ‘em!!#prodigal siblings#prodigal twins
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