#abt ppl struggling to read

[redysetdare]

Ppl are all for trying to help/support you until you tell them their advice is unhelpful then they delve straight into ablism. It's almost comical how much this happens.

I just remember one time I was expressing frustration with struggling to read. I wasn't looking for help, I was just expressing my feelings about wanting to read but struggling to. Someone misunderstood my post and had suggested I do book exchanges. I explained politely to them that wouldn't work for me as the problem isn't my lack of book options and instead of idk moving on like a normal person they doubled down and got upset, insisting that t had to be the problem. I told them, no, my problem is literally I struggle to actually READ.

For the record: I have ADHD. One of the biggest issues I face is processing. Reading books often takes me ages because I struggle to process the words on the page. I end up reading and rereading the same pages hoping it will stick. Sometimes it never does. It doesn't help that my vision acts weird with text where it will shake, blur, and in some cases words change or move around. That makes it 10x harder to process anything on the page. I'm also unable to do the thing where ppl passively read with visuals in their head. I have to actively read the text which means visualizing and understanding what's happening can be hard.

I explain this. I say that literally sometimes I just cant read. And instead of understanding and moving on, they got even more mad and told me if I just magically stop being able to read I should go to a doctor because something is wrong with me.

They took me telling them their advice wasn't helpful and decided to get ablist about it. And that has stuck with me.

I struggle to say I face ablism sometimes, but I feel like this is the one time I can say I genuinely did. And it's been stuck in my head. It's so very familiar and so very frustrating that we are supposed to accept unhelpful advice or else WE are being difficult. WE are the bad guys for DARING to say that the advice given won't help. And that somehow gives ppl the right to be ablist about it... Because I guess we deserve it if we won't accept their awful help.

Idk it sucks I guess.

[rowarn]

// tw suicide : vent

[marsixm]

it makes me feel like a killjoy but whenever people who are equally as logged tf on as i am are tripping over themselves to be like omg did you see that gross j*mes ch*rles thing or the n*kado thing or whatever (genuinely cannot think of a more accurate term than lolcow unfortunately) im just like im sorryyyy idc how big of losers these people are but caring about this and treating it like a press release is also loser behavior

[vicontheinternet]

You should’ve see my face when I read ‘feminine’. This is why you will never get me to join that fandom. Do they not know that Shonda Rhimes is a BLACK woman who has made it her mission to be the sole reason why loving v Virgina doesn’t get overturned that woman lovers her a swirl. You’re not going to get a same race relationship out of her for main character. Also Micheal is John’s cousin why would he be white.

And let me stick this one here talking shit about this fandom I’ll drop this screenshot here. Let’s not try to remember what twitter thread or tweet this was from it’s two years old. Saying that Simon was a dark skin lead is crazy and they knew that not what op meant by dark skin women

[vrains-rewrite]

Me after watching 13/120 episodes of a show: hm, I think this entire thing needs a rehaul!

and 2 out of 3 are watching the dub? Really? There's no consistency to be found by "nostalgia" alone at this rate considering that.

I want to hope you are trolling people on purpose and this is a social experiment of some kind. Please be trolling

Hi, I am actually currently going through a rewatch of it and taking notes episode by episode. I have advised the other two to watch/rewatch the show for this, though quite frankly, they have their own specific areas of expertise, and don’t really want too much involvement outside of that.

Void is only here to help me write aspects of the worldbuilding that relate to technology, and to help me use the right terminology, because she is studying computer science at college (and. there’s many hackers in the show). Utopia is only here to help me write duels, because she plays yugioh competitively at our local cards store and frankly is the best duellist I’ve ever met. We had intended to explain this today actually in the intros (I was just waiting to speak to Utopia’s about hers before posting it).

I am in control of the majority of the plot and character depiction and arcs, but I want to credit my friends because I could not do this without them. I understand I’ll struggle to do the lore aspects mostly by myself, which is why I said I’d be open to other writers joining, with the permission of my friends.

I am an english & psychology major. Yugioh has been my special interest for much of my life, and, although I’ve used a different name and different blog because I don’t want my prior works to be associated with this, I’ve written fanfiction for this fandom before, with little to no complaints. I am not trolling.

I find it fascinating that you assumed this project to be some sort of social experiment, before the first chapter is even released, before you’ve read any of it. I can only assure you, this is me and my friends having some fun, it may become more than that, but as of right now its just a plan. I’d say ‘don’t like dont read’ but there isn’t even a fic to read yet, you’ve sent anonymous hate over the mere concept of a fic you don’t think you’d like.

- Teal

[xx-psych0-rabbit-xx]

btw not to be a disabled poor piss baby but the way ppl (SPECIALLY americans) treat struggling to recall things deemed common sense that you learned in school/straight up not knowing them as some personal moral failure is fucking weird lmao.every education system has a problem w failing disabled kids that cant follow along typical learning by just letting them fall behind w zero ways to catch up n my country has an issue w teenagers dropping out to support their families so they dont starve to death so it just rlyyy doesnt sit right w me when ppl claim if you cant remember some random fuck middle school class fact youre an idiot that doesnt remember bc you dont want to.i dont know how to explain to you all if a CHILD is being failed by adults to be taught smth its literally not their fault specially when in nearly all cases its bc of outside factors (i mentioned disability n poverty here but lets not forget stuff like abused kids being unable to focus due to stress or bc they lack a safe environment to study at home, for example)

idk ig my point is not everyone had a great home life w a stable financial situation n zero genetic conditions that let them get head pats from adults for being good at memorizing books, n its weird af to want to be superior than ppl who didnt have those bc its literally not our fault that as CHILDREN we were failed by adults n nowadays only managed (at BEST scenario, remember lots of ppl nowadays still cant even read bc they didnt even get the chance to do elementary) to remember actual essential basics that let us get by n not high school physics trivia.also if all those things r suuuuch big common sense idk why yall want to feel better than us for knowing them, by your own reasoning theyre completely worthless knowledge everyone has, no point in showing off you know smth like that, but ig at the end of the day its all abt feeling special for having success handed to you in a silver plate compared to the losers not born as lucky

[transmechanicus]

“I’ll be fine i just need to uhhhhhhh idk kill” but like…what if i did haha

[opens-up-4-nobody]

Dyslexic to dyslexic miscommunication. Just two brains malfunctioning at eachother.

[anomalouscutie]

i get so stressed talking to people online how tf am i supposed to convey tone without my vocal cues fucking help me

[aeide-thea]

very much an off-the-cuff post so there may well be bugs, i'm still workshopping my thinking here, but—

i seem to see posts fairly regularly in which a member of some marginalized group A is objecting to attempts by less marginalized group B to make connections between discrimination against A and harm experienced by B (the main thing i have in mind here is when people attempt to align themselves with visibly-trans people by pointing out the ways that transphobic legislation also impacts gnc cis people, theatrical crossdressing, &c, but there are definitely also examples along other axes)—

and like. the main objection i've seen from A is 'why do they have to connect my experience to their experience in order to care about it? why can't they just agree that i shouldn't be discriminated against as a matter of, like, compassion for fellow humanity?'

and this reaction does honestly always just seem a little, idk, naive to me?? like, i don't know, it's gotten very popular ime to complain about normies' clumsy attempts to Understand Instead of Just Accepting [this feels potentially linked to like. the way many of us now prefer silently clicking 'like' to producing our own original, maybe clumsy, responses? but don't @ me on that point], probably because a lot of the time they aren't genuinely seeking to Understand but just to point out all the ways our queerness &c doesn't fit their received (unexaminedly conservative) understanding of the world, which feels to us (very reasonably!) like renewed pressure from the establishment to make ourselves fit that established framework, and so we resist… but at the same time, idk, maybe i'm just outing myself as lesser-than-thou here, but for every sort of person i was raised to distrust and have since arrived at genuine loving acceptance/appreciation of, it's involved first coming to understand their frame of reference at least a little? not to say that there isn't a place for shutting up and listening while you're still working to understand, because there definitely is! but i do kind of think this idea that's become popular in certain liberal circles of like, 'you don't have to understand my experience, you just have to respect it,' is fine and true for keeping peace with strangers, but really isn't a recipe for winning friends or influencing people—it's a recipe for keeping people at arm's length where they can't hit you. and then people turn around and want to apply that rule to coalition-building, and get all shocked-pikachu-face when others seek to identify more active points of connection.

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another ~Radical Objection to Liberal Approaches~ i've seen, though often not specifically in this context (of discussing the way attempts to oppress A have knock-on effects for B), is like—'there's no point in deconstructing their logic because it's fundamentally illogical! insert that sartre quote abt anti-semites!' and like. no, there's absolutely no point in debating their logic with them. but fundamentally when people assert a logical resistance to bigoted positions they are not doing it to Own The Bigots, imo, or at any rate shouldn't be; they're (we're) doing it to reaffirm the basis of their/our own camp's position, namely, we see your knee-jerk fears and reject them; we substitute instead a patient allegiance to logic, that reasons its way into compassion.

that said, obviously there's a conversation to be had here about, like, platforming bad positions, and to what extent deconstructing them is implicitly platforming them! but. i do think that complaining that logic won't win over bigots is missing the very fundamental point that the logic isn't for the bigots: it's for us. we're talking to ourselves; we're affirming ourselves. and yeah, we need to understand that this sort of intra-party discussion doesn't, on its own, constitute sufficient activism! messages need to be communicated beyond the bounds of the party! but i do think i disagree that there's no place for it.

[clownattack]

just saw some server screenies of one of the elitists mansplaining/completely talking out of their ass to me abt my own oc and like

lmao again for a person who keeps talking abt reading comprehension they sure dont get their shit right lmao.

[bishonenspit]

international eroica fans are some of the most ungrateful fans of anything i have ever encountered i stg

[fivenightsatcorans]

the problem with the similarities between portrayals of the ‘twisted mind of the killer racked with guilt’ and real-life depression or anxiety is that you get hundreds of pat bateman kinnies or alex cockwork orange kinnies or raskol kinnies who relate to these guys, and these guys are to a one unambiguous bigots (regardless of whether the author was or not) who killed people out of a sense of entitlement and boredom, but who feel bad about it or are forced to feel bad or feel a disconnect from the rest of the world. and all the audience sees is the guilt and nausea and isolation, so it’s harder to comment on the attitudes that caused that pain in the first place because you’re not allowed to talk about that part, or it was good that he killed, or just there’s other things everyone wants to talk about

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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[belladonnafleur]

welp

[sweenstar-reblogs]

I’m just going to start reacting to any and all bigoted rhetoric like it’s done out of moral bankruptcy rather than genuine ignorance 👍 it feels impossible to give others the benefit of the doubt anymore