#Post-traumatic growth

[bleedingseeds]

I texted this exact sentence to my counselor in between sessions, and he thought it was so funny, he made me memes for it.

I feel so SEEN.

[pwrn51]

Transforming Your Life Without Changing

  Betsy’s guest is Dr. Beth Kurland, a clinical psychologist with three decades of experience. She is also a TEDx speaker, public speaker, mind-body coach, and an award-winning author of three books. Additionally, Dr. Kurland is the creator of the Well-Being Toolkit online program. Dr. Beth Kurland discusses her new book, “You Don’t Have to Change to Change Everything: Six Ways to Shift Your…

[omegaphilosophia]

The Philosophy of the Soldier

The philosophy of the soldier encompasses a range of ethical, moral, and existential considerations related to the role, responsibilities, and experiences of individuals serving in military organizations. It delves into the complex interplay between duty, honor, morality, and the harsh realities of armed conflict. Here are some key aspects of the philosophy of the soldier:

Duty and Service: Central to the philosophy of the soldier is the concept of duty—the obligation to fulfill one's responsibilities and obligations to the military, nation, and fellow soldiers. Soldiers often grapple with conflicting duties, such as loyalty to superiors versus adherence to moral principles, and must navigate these ethical dilemmas in challenging situations.

Honor and Integrity: Soldiers are often guided by principles of honor and integrity, striving to uphold ethical standards and moral values even in the face of adversity. The philosophy of the soldier emphasizes the importance of maintaining personal integrity, honesty, and accountability in all actions, regardless of the circumstances.

Morality and Just War Theory: Soldiers confront ethical questions related to the justification and conduct of warfare, drawing upon principles of just war theory to assess the morality of military actions. They contemplate the principles of jus ad bellum (justification for war) and jus in bello (justice in war), considering factors such as proportionality, discrimination, and the protection of non-combatants.

Loyalty and Brotherhood: Soldiers often develop strong bonds of loyalty and camaraderie with their fellow servicemembers, forming tight-knit communities characterized by mutual trust, support, and solidarity. The philosophy of the soldier explores the nature of these interpersonal relationships and the moral obligations they entail.

Sacrifice and Selflessness: Soldiers are willing to make profound sacrifices, including risking their lives, for the greater good and the defense of their nation. The philosophy of the soldier contemplates the nature of sacrifice and the moral dimensions of selflessness, recognizing the inherent dangers and hardships of military service.

Post-Traumatic Growth: Soldiers may experience profound psychological and existential challenges as a result of their military experiences, including trauma, loss, and moral injury. The philosophy of the soldier considers how individuals cope with these challenges and strive for personal growth, resilience, and meaning-making in the aftermath of war.

Moral Injury and Healing: Soldiers may grapple with moral injury—the psychological distress resulting from actions that violate deeply held moral beliefs or values. The philosophy of the soldier addresses the complex process of moral repair and reconciliation, exploring avenues for healing, forgiveness, and moral resilience.

Civil-Military Relations: The philosophy of the soldier also encompasses broader societal and political considerations, including the relationship between the military and civilian institutions, the role of the military in democratic governance, and the ethical responsibilities of military leaders and policymakers.

Overall, the philosophy of the soldier engages with profound questions of duty, honor, morality, and humanity in the context of military service, offering insights into the moral complexities and existential challenges faced by those who serve in uniform.

[lilianade-comics]

[Post AGIT] Dan gets his first job at a Nasty Burger

[ontheoutside-lookingin]

“She’s so sweet she’s always going out of her way to help others” quick someone give that girl all the love and safe space she deserves before being “sweet” (pathological people pleasing as a trauma response) destroys her and leaves behind a bitter empty shell of a person

[betweenthenotes]

Its gonna be okay just remember that no matter what your trauma is, someone’s made a spotify playlist for it

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

I hope you heal so much that taking care of yourself is one of your favorite things to do and I hope you can forgive yourself for everything you did before you got there

[bigsharter666]

I TURN TWENTY ONE IN TWO DAYS AND I HAVE SOMEWHERE TO LIVE AND A JOB I LIKE AND A DEGREE I LOVE AND FRIENDS WHO CARE ABOUT ME AND LIFE IS SO COLOURFUL AND I DONT WANT TO DIE ANYMORE AND I AM SO MUCH FURTHER AWAY FROM MY PAIN

[4spooniesupport]

I assure you the trauma is not all in your head. it's also in your heart, your nerves, and your stomach. It is in your trembling hands, your uneven breathing, your vision is suddenly gets blurry. It's not just your head that went through the thing. every cell in your body was there

[topazadine]

How I Am Kicking Agoraphobia's Ass

With a little help from Horse, of course

I have struggled with agoraphobia since 2017, when I was sexually assaulted. This is a common cause of agoraphobia, and it is more likely to develop in people who have CPTSD (ding ding guess who).

Anyway, I got so fucking sick of people telling me to "just go outside" as if it's so easy-peasy. Maybe for someone without agoraphobia, it feels seamless to stroll out to your car, but it's not so simple when your brain tells you that Bad Things happen when you leave the house. What are those Bad Things? idk, brain never told me. Just Bad Things.

I organized my life around my agoraphobia for many years; it's the reason I have a remote job. And the "just go outside" advice never, ever helped. The best I could do was leave the house with an Emotional Support Human (or dog), but rarely, if ever, alone.

Now I'm leaving the house at least four times a week! Voluntarily! ALONE! Without getting scared!

And sometimes I even spontaneously decide to leave the house and go to big events where there are dozens of people. Just because I feel like it.

This is momentous. If you have agoraphobia, you know how intense that is.

So what did I do? What can you do?

It's actually so simple and I have no idea why no one told me to do this years ago.

Schedule a regular event that is so exciting that you simply cannot afford to miss it.

Something you care about. Something that's so insanely tempting that you would walk over hot coals to do it. Think about something you used to care about before you became housebound, or something you've always wanted to try. For me, it was (and still is) horseback riding.

But! It must meet these conditions:

It has to happen on a regular basis at a scheduled time. Say, 6 pm every Friday. If it's just "whenever" or "once every few months," you probably won't agree to go to it every time.

There has to be a cost to missing it so your Sunk Cost Theory is triggered. Ideally, there will be multiple costs: that could be disappointing someone who has agreed to go with you every time, and that you have already prepaid for it so you'd lose money.

It has to be something that makes you happy and is just for you, not an obligation. So, therapy doesn't count. Going to the gym also doesn't count if you feel like you have to do it for social reasons or health reasons.

If you want to make this an ironclad thing, it should ideally meet these conditions too:

You learn something while there, which develops a sense of efficacy and confidence.

It's a social activity where you will make friends.

It is a physical activity that releases endorphins. (Again, pick something fun, not just going to the gym if it's not fun for you.)

There are no costs to failing. If I screw up at horseback riding or rock climbing, I'm not going to miss out on a promotion or whatever. I might be mad at myself, but I don't really lose anything by not doing it.

It has an indefinite end date; ie, this is something you could theoretically do every week forever if you want to. So if it's a class you want to take, make sure it's one where you can sign up for more classes if you feel like it.

So how do you find your thing??

Think back to a time before you suffered from agoraphobia. Might be hard if you've struggled with it for most of your life, but you might have glimmers of what you liked before.

What did you enjoy doing, or what did you want to do but couldn't? For me, I got to horseback ride as a little kid but then had to stop for money reasons. Now I can afford to do it because I'm an adult with my own adult money.

Find classes or groups in your area that cater to Thing. If they don't exist or are out of your budget, go back to the drawing board and workshop a new Thing.

Sign up for the class ahead of time. Pick a time that is within the next two weeks but preferably within the next week so you have time to prepare yourself.

If it's a paid class, pay your deposit before you get there.

Tell people you are going - as many people as you can. Now you have social and financial pressure that will make you commit.

Now, the most important part.

Research the particular place you will be going during the time between when you sign up and when you go. Learn what to expect when you get there.

Read reviews. Look at pictures online. Analyze the Google Street View. Practice driving or walking there with directions.

If you're trying a new activity, read up on it. Get beginner tips for what to expect in your first session. Watch videos of other people doing it, and read other peoples' experiences trying it out. Visualize what it will feel like to be there and what you will be doing.

This is mental rehearsal and it makes it less scary to actually step into the place for the first time. You will feel more confident when you arrive because you know what you are doing, where you are going, and what to expect as soon as you arrive.

The climbing gym I go to had a "What to Expect On Your First Visit" page that helped me a lot, and then I watched a lot of rock climbing videos and learned about the techniques so I wouldn't feel stupid. I even looked up what climbing shoes look like and how harnesses feel so I wasn't scared when I put them on.

I can't promise it will help you, but I encourage you to give it a try.

Having something to look forward on a regular basis will make it less and less scary to leave the house because, after a while, you won't even think about how unnerving the transition from Safe Space to Unsafe Space is. More and more places will become Safe, and less places will become Unsafe (within reason).

The route you take will become familiar, as will what to expect when you get there. You'll be able to practice and perfect the technique of psyching yourself up to leave home until you no longer need to; it becomes automatic.

And, most importantly, you'll see that your home isn't the only place in the world where you can exist comfortably. Everything's out there waiting for you, and you deserve to be there, too!

[yourhealingjournal]

we have suffered enough; we’re allowed to be happy

[saturnniidae]

Often think about how it's kinda funny the way AFO tried to twist Tomuras skin condition into the itch being his inate need to destroy or whatever when he's had it since before Decay like. Dude it's just stress. Or autism. Probably both.

[vincentpriceofficial]

I like that when Louis and Armand find lestat in the torture dungeon he’s like “I came here to engage in self reflection” and then 70 years later he’s still just like completely going through it dying and moldering in the same hole. like okay I’m still working on it. I had a lot of reflecting to do

[marcoles]

Scream Filimimde Katilin Bu Maskeli Adamın Olduğunu Öğrendiğinde Kaç Yaşındaydın

[ontheoutside-lookingin]

Clinical misdiagnosis is more common than self misdiagnosis. Just for the record, in case anyone is still skeptical of self diagnosis :) it’s not up for debate btw

[only1lorrie]