#Most times I identify as a guy. sometimes I identify as agender

[forsaken-headcanons]

Cracks knuckles. The hyperfixation is getting too strong, gotta beam queer headcanons at these guys.

007n7 ; Transmasc, He/Any. Especially any pronoun that is similar to he/him with a different spelling (hx/hxm , h3/h1m , hy/hym , ect.) Probably bi or aroace spec, but hx don't got time for all that. (Raising a kid.)

Chance ; Canonically nonbinary, He/They. I'd like to add neos and xenogenders to that. That bitch uses gambling and bunny based genders and neos. Maybe gun ones too. What exactly? Don't know yet. Probably pan, but he never really picked a label. So he'll just say unlabeled most of the time.

Guest 1337 ; Trans vibes... I don't know in what way though. Maybe transfem? She has transfem vibes to me, She/Her. She hung around too many trans people, and boom, egg cracked /silly. I don't know her orientation, she just really loves her wife.

Builderman ; Gender apathetic, probably genderqueer, mostly uses he/him, but doesn't really give a shit. If you use something else, he'll just roll with it. He's got other things to do, than worry about something like that. Also unlabeled, because again, to busy to care. Dude is just existing and living his best life.

Taph ; They/Them and emojipronouns. Definitely uses xenos, don't know what though... And they don't use emojis because they mostly communicate with emojis, common misconception, they do it because they like emojis and seeing people's faces twist up at them. Definitely bi. They just have the vibe.

Elliot ; Dude, he doesn't even know what she is. He's just tryna make sure her teammates eat his pizza, and she makes it through the round /silly. Uses He/She. No preference most of the time, but will sometimes ask people to use one set over the other in certain cases. Mostly when he thinks people use one of her sets more than the other. Orientation? Fucking tired. Again, busy pizza worker man, she ain't got time for it.

Dusekkar ; Mirror pronouns. He'll use he/they as aux pronouns if needed, but she actually uses mirror pronouns. Agender. At least aromatic, maybe asexual. She just. kinda figured out he was aro and left it there.

Shedletsky ; Genderfluid. Any pronouns but also pronounfluid. Like technically she uses any pronouns, so you can't misgender him, put their preferences on what ix's favorite sets are and what feels most comfortable changes. He knows his sexuality is more complicated than just bi, but she never really looked into all that, so ix just says bi.

Noob ; Genderfluid <3. Along with they/them, ze uses neos, often prefers neos. Things like ze/zir, xe/xem, dae/daem, ae/aes. Basically, any non noun or emoji pronoun. Ae will just say dae use they/them though, since it's easier. Queer. Just. queer.

Two Time ; Points at canon. No complaints here. Nonbinary, they/them. Will sometimes use other pronouns. Sometimes they/them just doesn't fit right at the time. Typical doesn't last longer than a day or two. AroAce spec, maybe gray or demi? Azure's the only person they've ever really liked.

John Doe ; He's cishet to me, he/him. Or maybe transhet... I just know he's a guy (or guy esc) who likes women. (Especially his wife. He really loves his wife, even if he can't recall her.)

1x1x1x1 ; Her genderfluid nature captivates me /silly. BUT. He's also pangender and genderflux. They are literally every gender all the time. She just moves between which one she feels most connected to, and how much he's connected to it. Any pronouns. Literally couldn't care about attraction, they're too busy being fueled by rage to worry about that.

Azure ; They/He/It, either genderfluid or flux. Maybe genderfaun? Genderfaun. They haven't settled on a sexuality label. He used to say straight, since it likes girls, but since their relationship with Two Time, he isn't sure anyway. Technically he knows it can still identify as straight, but they just feel weird using the label since then. Then it got Forsakened, and hasn't had the time otherwise to worry.

Jason ; Transmasc nonbinary, He/Him. I do not care about anything the movies tell me. I don't know the other Roblox game he comes from. He's so fucking transmasc coded. I will die on this hill. Literally could care less about sexuality, but if it has to be labeled, gay or bi work best. Maybe even both. He doesn't know, doesn't care.

Noli ; They/He, bigender. I don't know what genders make up his bigender identity, they're just bigender. Sexuality is complicated and tied to his gender in weird ways. He likes women one specific way because he's [gender], and likes men a different way because they're [gender]. So they'll literally use many, many contradictory labels because of this. He's winning at life.

Guest 666 ; Agender and genderfluid at the same time. All pronouns, no preferences, but will let you know if he thinks you're only using one set. She uses all, and would prefer if people used all of their pronouns. Make things up, assign faer things. Beast doesn't care, just don't use a singular set. Like noob, I think ey just says queer. Sexuality is a complicated thing that red never really got around to tackling, so.

Mafia ; He/Him but in a distinctly genderqueer way. I don't know how to word it. His gender can't really be explained by normal terms. A xenogender could probably describe it, but who knows. Also queer. Honestly? I think everything about him can just be described as queer. Definitely could have better / more accurate terms, but he likes using the term queer best, so it's what he uses.

-- While I'm not giving them separate things, his "boys" are also queer. I say "boys" because at least one of them is transfem. She doesn't really care she's a boy though. All of them in a poly relationship. They all love each other. That's all.

Jane Doe ; Cis, she/her. But she has the biggest fucking bi energy around. She just radiates pure bi energy, it's actually insane. She could pull anyone. I believe this with all my heart.

I don't know how much since any of these make. I just had to get my ideas out of my brain / brainstorm ideas for these guys.

All of these are so peak. I love them all.

[certifiedsexed]

gen/good faith question — is it disrespectful to lesbians or queer people in general if i were to identify as a he/him lesbian?

for context: i’ve always known i was into girls, and for some of my life, i considered myself a girl as well. there was nothing about me that made me want to make that choice, other than the fact that i was perceived by everyone around me as a girl and expected to be one.

and then i started to question my gender. i don’t really feel intrinsically as though i have a gender, but at the same time, certain forms of gendered language and some forms of gender expression make me happy and comfortable. at the same time, some forms of both those things don’t.

the thing is, most gendered language (i’m only using this here for clarity — i know that really no language is gendered and people can use whatever terms, pronouns etc to refer to themselves and that doesn’t have to correspond to stereotypical gender that usually goes with that term) and most gender expression that i enjoy are both usually correspond to those used by men, and sometimes those used by nonbinary people. for example — i like being called a guy, i like referring to myself a person, i like dressing in traditionally ‘masc’ clothes, and i would love to be perceived as androgynous sometimes.

but also, on the flip side, i usually like traditionally ‘female’ gendered language and expressions applied to me. this is a bit of a nuanced thing for me, though! i love wearing dresses and looking ‘feminine’, but only really in private, because to me they’re an example of cross dressing or messing with the gender binary because i don’t consider myself a girl (i don’t consider myself ‘anything’ in regards to gender, as mentioned above — i think the term is agender?), but most people don’t see it that way since i’m usually perceived as female, which puts me off it. additionally, i like she/her pronouns, but only at certain times, and not very often. i would also consider myself genderfluid, in the sense that the pronouns i’m comfy with change… however, usually, those pronouns are he/him, and often they’re they/them, but only occasionally she/her.

so people have asked why i consider myself a lesbian if i feel this way, and that’s due to a lot of factors. it’s because i was always certain of my sexuality before i was certain of my gender (and before i out conscious effort into thinking about it), and so identifying as a lesbian has and still does influence how i see and interact with the world. also, i’m not someone who will ever be able to pass in general society as anything but female — i have d cups, a high voice, am often told i’m ‘pretty’, and am very curvy. so i also identify as a lesbian because as someone who doesn’t intend to do much in the way of medical gender affirming care, the fact that i am constantly perceived as a woman unless i say so (and that’s not always respected) does also have a bearing on how i experience the world too.

i don’t know, i’m just really confused about if i can use this term or not. i’ve spent a long long time agonising over what discovering my gender identity and what that means for me will affect my sexuality, and a lot of that agony now no longer comes from not knowing about myself, but from feeling like i’m being disrespectful. i don’t want to hurt the queer community, specifically lesbian woman, or trans guys, and i feel like i’m doing both. but on the other hand… he/him usually really fits me. lesbian usually feels right too. i took a long time to come to terms with both of those, and so they feel very hard-won — like i can finally exist knowing who i am, and so to not be able to deceive myself in the way i’ve tried really hard to find is something that makes me really sad. but i would love any advice! :)

There is no way for your pronouns to be disrespectful to someone else unless we're talking about your pronouns being slurs that do not apply to you. Your pronouns have nothing to do with anyone else [exception aside].

Your sexuality is also no one else's business but your own. You don't have to justify your pronouns or your sexuality: they are not hurting anyone. You are not hurting anyone.

None of what you're talking about is disrespectful to anyone. Its just your personal identity. That has nothing to do with anyone else.

All of this has no affect on the lesbian or trans community by large except that one more he/him lesbian becomes apart of it, which is actually a win!

If you makes you happy, go for it! If it feels right, go for it! It sounds like you've found a label and pronouns for you and that's awesome! Congratulations. <3

I hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questions. <3

[midnight-fox-boy]

Why I identify as a "nonbinary (trans) man"

To keep the backstory short; I came out at 15 as a trans guy, very quickly had internal confusion over this because it felt.. complicated? I couldn't relate or fit in with cis guy peers OR online trans guy spaces (they were a bit more..toxic? At the time).

And even after I stopped trying to emulate and started accepting that it was okay to be different, that I didn't have to really fit into traditional masculinity to be a man, I still wasn't satisfied.

Cue multiple years of trying on different labels, researching, reading people's experiences. Nada. At 20/21 I had a light bulb moment. I could just be both a man AND nonbinary, instead of trying to just pick one or the other.

But then that begs the question, why? Why do I feel this way? Am I multigender? Fluid? Flux? Agender? Demiboy?...I don't know. And I probably never will be able to articulate in words how my sense of gender feels.

I can tell you that I know with 100% certainty that I'm a guy, even while I was questioning for those years I still started HRT and got my name and gender legally changed. I still went by he/him pronouns. I can tell you that I know I don't need to be masculine, because honestly I'm not really that traditionally masculine. I can tell you vaguely that I have some sense of androgyny or neutrality, but otherwise it just kind of feels like it's there lol.

And I always fear that people hearing my experiences will think they have to identify as nonbinary purely because they don't fit in with most men. Because you can be a binary man without being anything like most men.

But at the same time, I do think it's valid if one identifies as nonbinary partially because of those reasons. Gender is partially reflected by societal and cultural ideas. Not fitting into those ideas and wanting to use a different label for that reason is valid. Your gender is yours to label, and sometimes people choose a label partially because of how much they relate or don't relate to others. Like when someone who's mostly or fully binary feels more comfortable in nonbinary spaces or vice versa...or even the unknown numbers of people who aren't binary that still choose to identify as cis (*cough* my mom *cough*)

So yeah..I guess it's not really an answer. I'm a nonbinary trans guy because I am. I'm a man, in addition to other complicated and vague feelings. And my internal sense of androgyny does play a role. But nonetheless, I am a man.

[milordan]

New month, new question: Lets talk gender. How do your Steps identify? Is that different from how you would describe them? Do they feel any particular way about their genders?

-Cigs

thank you for the question cigs (:

1. How they identify

2. How I would describe it

3. How they feel about it

Joe

1. doesn't necessarily use labels for himself, but is shrug-emoji-hand-wavy aware that hes agender or something like that if he Were to label it. uses any pronouns in theory, but people just assume that he's a man and use he/him pronouns for him and he has no interest in correcting people or having a discussion about his gender identity so no one knows that and everyone just uses he/him for him

2. yeah i would describe him as agender or non-gender. i wouldn't describe him as regene-gender and he wouldn't think of himself that way either. oh i would also use genderqueer to describe him

3. feels incredibly neutral about his gender and basically never thinks about it. he does not give a shit about it or how people perceive it/him.

Vanya

1. identifies as a cisgender man.

2. bigender man/woman. genderfluid. transgender.

3. if joe is "i suppose most people would see me as a man", then vanya is "i was always good at being what i was supposed to be." he does not question his gender because why would he. he is a man and he's always been a man so why would he think any different. but then he becomes marta and he feels happy and light and beautiful and for the first time in his life he wants people to look at him instead of just trying to be overlooked. but he still doesn't question his gender, even though he'd rather be marta most days than not; he just likes going girlmode. until he's Stuck that way and now he's feeling dysphoria in martas body and wishing he could go back to his own

Milo

1. who fucking knows how she identifies (ricardo definitely has no idea.) she's just a little guy. she's a kitty cat. she's a freak she's a weirdo. she's an alien. she's a pizza.

2. non/nyan-binary

3. she knows that she's not a man or a woman, a girl or a boy. she feels like she's a failure sometimes because of this, but she feels like she's a failure a lot of the time for basically everything so... she likes the androgeny that she's built for herself. she likes to just be herself without having to mask or change any of it

Sasja

identifies as "don't fucking looking at me". identifies as "ugly" . i think he thinks of himself as a man and therefore ids as a trans man, but it's moreso in a distancing himself from the farm / wanting to be the opposite of what the farm groomed him for than having particularly strong feelings about identifying specifically as a man, yanno ? his ideal form is as Terror and getting to stomp/climb around like a freak lizard monster

[deafeningfanlight23]

TSAMS Headcanons [But ME being uncreative tho :D]

PLEASE LEMME JUST IGNORE THE LORE RIGHT NOW AND INSTEAD HAVE SOME ✨POSITIVITY ✨ SPREAD HERE :'D

Alright, let's get this sh*t rolling >:D

Moondrop uses he/they/it pronouns and identifies as boyflux, sometimes feeling strongly male and at other times less so, occasionally identifying with the agender spectrum as well. [I'M F*CKING BAD AT EXPLAINING BRO BUT I'VE AN EXCUSE: I'm not your teacher, YOUR TEACHER IS GOOGLE NOW SO LOOK IT THE F*CK UP PLS 😭]

Earth believes Santa Claus is real, and if anyone would tell her the truth and shatter her dreams, her whole fam would straight up find out the person's IP adress and idk, sent Monty like a military to the location.

While Ruin was the adorable silly shark we all loved [BEFORE THIS PLOT TWIST HAPPENED-] he forced Solar to particapate in his stage plays. Solar would be the princess, and Ruin would be the prince who would save him :D They got the dresses from Earth, who complimented Solar RESTLESSLY how gorgeous he looked in them :D Lunar would just say:" Stylish twink >:D"

Lunar regresses his age during intense situations and when he's reminded by his trauma. Earth often takes then the caretaker role. [I've not many headcanons for Lunar 😭]

The Bloodmoon Twins love nature and are befriended with some animals in a forest. For example, they play with wolf puppies and go with them on hunts :D AND I HEADCANON THEM AS ASEXUAL AND POLYROMANTIC BECAUSE MY HEADCANONS, MY RULES-

The whole celestial family and their villains are asexual because I think it would be cool if all of them share a single trait and have a common ground :D It would be also logical cuz like, when all kinda have the same code or stemmed from other codes, then it would make sense that they share some traits? 🤔

Moon has a passion for anything related to horror, including true-crime stories and creepypastas that he only reads because he can laugh at them. He would be that type of guy who leaves troll comments on some random creepypasta fanfics XD

Eclipse actually really likes fashion and to simply look stylish! :D He even has a passion for it and spends hours choosing his attire, struggling to decide which one to take. Most of the time, he chooses a a black vest with a white shirt underneath, the sleeves of which are fitted tightly and extend to his elbows. He prefers to go with an old-fashioned and gentlemanly style. However, he doesn't necessarily reject more feminine styles and ocassionally likes to put eyeshadows or an eyeliner on as well. Earth and Eclipse share therefore a common ground because both really like fashion :D

Okay, there SOME POSITIVITY SPREAD! :D Maybe I'll post some angsty headcanons later on, BUT Y'KNOW, MY MOTIVATION IS FASTER GONE THAN A DAMN BUGATTI SO PFF- XD

[fraosinfandoms]

Just saw a post abt aroaceness and i felt like typingnout a whole post yapling abt my experience with being aroace and some FUN extras, shit grammar and typos included

To be more specific I am a demiromantic asexual that switches between being sex averse to sex repulsed. And while it doesn't contribute to my aroaceness it is also important to note that I am agender (they/them) and possibly panromantic but im to lazy to pick my brain abt that too much.

I realised I wasnt super interested in relationship stuff or the idea of dating someone way back when I was like 11. I even told my mom I would never have a boyfriend before I was 15, which she didnt believe. I first started identifying as demisexual when I was maybe 14 or smth, mainly bc I didnt realise there was a difference between sexual and romantic attraction. I also didnt super want to dig more into it bc despite uskng that label i still just saw myself as a straight ally (idk what I was on) and I never thought i could be part of the lgbtq+ community.

I also started identifying as demigirl around that time and using she/they pronouns. Clesrly my ass couldn't research properly bc i was so weong sbt that LMAO though ig thats part of the journey. Maybe a year later I also started doing some research on autism (trust me this is importsnt)

Then I eventually changed to calling myself asexual and shortly after demiromantic, and also as agender sometime after that idk its not like I wrote down the dates. Now that you know the entire backstory behind comign to the labels I use I can get to explaining how I feel.

It is important to note I use these labels to easily communicate how I feel, but I could 100% be more specific with existing labels if I wanted to. I dont want to though.

I love being ace. Not being sexually attracted to people doesnt bother me at all and I find the idea of it incredibly strange. This however does not mean i dont experience aesthetic attraction. Now bc i am still a minor as of writing this (2 months left guys) i wont go into my relation with sex and how I exactly feel abt that (thr most you get is the stuff stated at the start).

Now on the other hand, I hate being demiromantic. I am an absolute hopeless romantic. Id love to be in a nice cozy romantic relationship, however being demiromantic makes that very hard. It's mainly that in combination with my autism that makes it extra hard. Bc not only do i have to be very close to someone to be able to develop a crush on them, i am terrible at making friends in the first place and maintaining new friendships. Even if I get a crush (to any of my friends reading this, ignore! Or dont and confront me i cant stop you, you have free will) i would never in a million years tell them because i dont want to ruin a perfectly fine friendship. Either they dont like me back or we eventually break up, both perchance leading to awkwardness which might make us drift appart!!!! Cant let that happen now. It is incredibly unhealthy bc did you know that already having a strong attachment to a crush can make said crush last for 2-3 years? Absolute hell, i tell you. And then i am also never sure if it's actually romantic feelings or just really strong platonic ones (heck i still haven't figured it out after 3 years and then i get a new case to worry abt).

Anyway my thumb hurts from writing but if for some reason you are reading this and somehow you have a question my ask box is open.

[dreadisdelight]

PLEASE DONT READ IT YOURE SENSITIVE TO LGBTQIA+ TOPICS!!!!!!!!:

sometimes i just sit there and wonder what i identify as.

i grew up in an area where i didn't have much representation of anything, "gay" was an insult and colours were dedicated to specific chromosomes. if you grazed football as a girl, you were seen as a tomboy alongside if you even looked at claires you were just odd. i think some messed up part of me still believes that, despite every fibre in my being disagreeing with it. there wasn't much representation of being homosexual in a form or another, mainly just jacqueline wilson books i peered into with such curiosity and utmost wonder.

it sort of struck me that i was different when i was much younger too. hell, sleepovers with girls scared me since they smelled so "sweet" or they were much prettier than me. we all watched films with the odd kissing scene and wanted to peer into the mirror, maybe attempt at looking into it without shame. it didn't stick, yet it didn't wipe off. i kissed a girl on her cheek in my bedroom when i was about nine, fags the most ive ever done, and i don't count it fully either. i kissed a girl on her hand too but still, that doesn't count in my books. nobody ever had the "it's okay to be gay" talk with me but they never had the "being gay is a sin" either. it just sat uncomfortably in the room. all the pins and homemade flags were just pretty colours opposed to something with significance in this world. ive tossed the majority of the relics besides a pin i bought when i had a sense of freedom for the first time but that's about it at most. we still haven't talked about it, and we don't intend on it either.

i remember my mom watching a tv programme with me, her eyes flickering towards me whilst saying "i don't get why people come out. i get where she was coming from, as if it was natural, but she was also the figure who never brought up these sort of conversations. the woman who made me feel a sense of crushing burden when i felt a sense of anger. i just shrugged it off, and never gave my views on the matter. i think if i had the confidence, i would have said something along the lines of "it's because we live in a society where showing who you really are needs courage".

i think i did tell her i was pansexual when i was younger too, this was during a mist of things where id say random bullshit to them as a joke, hoping they'd want to linger nearby. i haven't said a word yet.

gender was another thing that puzzled me, which still does. i never really thought much about it, i just thought you were female, male, or non-binary. that's it. no more options, just three buttons and you could click one. i used to lie awake, my mind thinking about issues for me to go 'holy shit am i trans??' which obviously still happens; why would i be writing this out otherwise? i dipped into being demigirl to nonbinary to immediately agender and i sort of sat there, sticking a label on it like they have to me with other diagnoses. i go from wanting big tits and being the epitome of feminine beauty to wanting to have top surgery and going by a new name. i know gender is a spectrum, but some part of me knows everyone around me wouldn't accept me, thinking im more mentally ill than i am.

i don't know why i decided to type this out either. maybe to give myself clarity instead of chastising myself for what's happened in my world.

ive only ever dated afabs. one cis. one somewhere between demigirl and nonbinary and the other transmasc. i know i hurt them one way or another, and so did they. i speak to one of them a few times now and again but for the other two, i apologised to one of recent and it's stuck to my mind. the other i fucked up so bad it hurts to look into a mirror. i think amabs scare me and i don't know why. i attach myself to older guys in films and loosely to other people, remarrying shane in stardew over and over again. one minute i have a preference and then it drastically changes.

my friend once said that people who are lgbtqia+ must have some evolutionary default in them, which i believe heavily. i have autism and probably some other stuff undiagnosed (my autism is clinically diagnosed yall) so that checks out. i saw a survey a while back that most people who are lgbtqia+ are diagnosed professionally or self with something along the lines of adhd, autism, and other mental disorders. but that's all we are. disordered motions, grasping onto conclusion.

maybe one day i will find somebody and it will make perfect sense. maybe i won't find anybody. for now, i know that i can only try, and when i try i collapse in tears wondering why nobody likes me.

[thelegolashairappreciationclub]

After seeing that which feanorion is least trans poll i want to elaborate on my gender/sexuality headcannons for the finweans so lest go! Feanorions first.

Maedhros: he/they/she. ive said before that i HC Mae as having kleinfelter syndrome and i think part of the reason he's considered to be so striking in appearance is because instead of having the genderless androgyny of most elves he sort of expresses both extremes of gender at all times. He does not identify as genderfluid before his death. Very much understands that Something is up but hahaha we dont have time to unpack that. Also very much feels beholden to the identity of feanors *Eldest Son* and his identity as Heir. After rebirth they default to they for a while but eventually become comfortable enough to really enbrace their fluidity.

Maglor: ... i am so sorry but he is Extremely cishet imo. Very bohemian about it, definitely has Tried it all but came to the conclusion that no he is a man and he likes women in the end. Very much a wife guy. HOWEVER, it is important to me that almost everyone assumes he's gay or trans because he is deeply flamboyant.

Celegorm: he's cis insofar as he's not trans. I legitimately think in modern au he would have a fursona and he would consider that his gender, extremely based of him. Very bisexual but not at all romantically inclined. Also he only uses the bi label so he can clapback at people.

Caranthir: Agender, Asexual, Aromantic. Has got 0 time for any of that. Knows he's triple A but cannot be bothered to change pronouns or correct people so uses mostly he. This is regardless of his agab because i think he looks pretty similar to his brothers and so ppl usually assume he's male. He is married but its a queer platonic situation and he has a similar relationship with Haleth.

Curufin: He takes after his father, bisexual man. It makes 0 difference if he is trans or cis imo because i think he has always identified as such and was raised male pretty much as soon as he was able to verbalise his identity. Shocking lack of identity crisis in any situation, very secure in his identity to the point of being well... a bit of a dick to those who are less confident.

Amrod: Pansexual aro af. Doesn't really differentiate his attraction to others between platonic or sexual but also doesn't really care for romantic relationships. He is a cis man but he's also a theatre kid and thinks drag is very fun and absolutely an art style.

Amras: is panromantic and asexual. He is almost comically romantic. He absolutely finds The One like every 6 moths and is absolutely devastated every time it doesn't work out. Actually writes romance novels and even bodice rippers but finds real life sex to be gross messy and deeply awkward so he sticks to fiction. Is Cisn't. Like he's a man most of the time but he gets Too In Character sometimes and will occasionally just switch gender until she's finished her next book and then go back.

[the-hydra-sys]

The Nightmare Gang

X

X, the unofficial leader. His pronouns are "I don't care." and he's an all-round unpleasant guy. He's a prosecutor (mix of a protector and persecutor) who sets boundaries and enforces them harshly; he also tends to isolate us sometimes. He's been here longer than most alters, and recently came back from dormancy. He's agestuck at 19 - one of the youngest Nightmare Gang members - and is a half human half ghost. He's dating Ray.

Ray - ❄️

Ray is the Nightmare Gang's gatekeeper. He uses he/that pronouns. Ray is pretty quiet, he doesn't talk much and he's just pretty chill in general. He'll often stop X from being too violent or aggressive towards people, and frequently holds opinions that differ to X's, though the two are very close.

Deus - 🌈

Deus uses he/xe/any pronouns. He's a proud queer anarchist with a violently british accent. He can be flirtatious at times, but typically refrains from it. He's very against capitalism and strongly believes that ACAB. He's pretty relaxed but he's not afraid to make his opinions known.

The Guy - 💥

The Guy - who refuses to pick any other name - is the oldest mortal member of the Nightmare Gang at around 40. He uses he/they pronouns. He has a vaguely southern american accent and likes smoking, though he doesn't do it bodily. He's not afraid to get his hands dirty, and he likes arguing. His advice isn't always the best, but it's not too bad either.

Lija - 🕸️

Lija (pronounced Leah) uses feminine pronouns. She has antlers and a large scar on her face, as well as heart-shaped glasses. She likes sparring and fistfights, and much like the rest of the Nightmare Gang, isn't afraid to make her opinions known or be aggressive - even downright rude sometimes. She has a strong slavic accent, similar to Clara.

Our family is slavic, her name is slavic. We are not appropriating anyone's culture.

Raven - 🐦‍⬛

Raven uses she/xe/they. She maintains that you should question everything, and it is for that reason that she is regarded as an IWC alter - she tends to make people question things they normally take as fact. Xey identify as agender, and their sexuality is down as "fuck around and find out."

Zero - 0️⃣

Zero goes by she/it and identifies as femme-nonbinary. She has bubblegum pink hair and carries around a baseball bat. It's pretty violent and it's classified as a persecutor because of her violent tendencies.

[bronx-aro]

I use he/him and TECHNICLY xem/xem. Nobody uses those IRL, because i just neverbothered really telling anyone bout it. It's in all my bios ol the internet tho.

I DID, however use only Xem/Xem for a time where i didnt really have a friend circle IRL. It lead to a couple of confusing situations when talking with people on the internet. But i did try because those were my ONLY pronouns at the time. Switching over to basicly only using he/him wasn't really a choice i made as much at it was just... Easier than to explain everything. Same reason why i never bothered correcting classmates that used she/her when i'm transmasc: I don't know these people so i don't care.

And while i COULD do the whole explaining thing to my friends and family, it just seems like a lot of effort when he/him is right there and easier on everybody.

ALSO while i am transmasc, I AM NOT A MAN.

I am genderfaun (genderfluid that doesn't pass over fem gender). Yeah i am a full man sometimes, but not all the time! It's partially why i identify as nonbinary before i identify as trans. Because while i'm masc, i feel like identities like agender, demiboy, genderqueer, ect, make up far more of my identity than just "man" could ever encapsulate.

But explaining that i use he/him while not idnetifying as a man is such a chore, especially since most people around me still think that sexuality and gender around me are the same thing, or at least greatly affecting each other. Someone was genuenly confused as why i liked men if i was transmasc- because why "become" a man if it doesn't evolve liking girls? (no shame to that guy he's actually quite nice.)

So i kind of just let people assume about me, because either they are stranger and i do not care what they things (or at least it's funny like people going like sir? Wait no miss- No lo you had it right the first time. Amuses me to no end). Or they are people i'm close enough to say "hey can u use that/not say this"? And they will just do it without it having to explain my whole internal set.

hot (bitter) take but getting asked for your pronouns is kind of useless when you use anything but One of the big three. cis people short circuit when you answer with it/its or neopronouns or even just multiple alternating sets

one time a girl asked my pronouns, i told her it/its, she tried ONCE before asking if she could just use they/them. right in front of my salad. like why even ask me at that point

[luparaneo]

So posting that art made me remember something.

Kind of a funny guy to attach myself to, but I think I finally understand what a "comfort character" is now.

Story time! This is going to be cringe, but that doesn't matter because I am free. uwu

Long story short, I've become a bit of an accidental Ayato stan after getting him as a newbie with absurdly early pity when I first started playing Genshin. From there it became a minor obsession where I'd often joke that he lives in my head rent free. It just kinda happened, I don't think it was a conscious choice lmao

Last year in 2024 I even got a used DokiDoki cosplay that I spiffed up/made wearable, because I really liked his outfit and wanted to wear it at a convention! Ayato has immaculate drip, okay?

I already knew I had a thing for masculine clothes because I'd literally dream about wearing suit vests but when everything was ready and I put it on...

I. Felt. Magnificent. More so than I ever expected from a costume.

I really don't know how else to put it into words, but for that convention it was genuinely like I was someone else for a few days. Like I was meant to wear it all along, as corny as it sounds.

It still needs repairs (partied 2 hard lul) but ever since then I've been fighting the urge to wear it around just because of that feeling. Maybe I'll figure out how to make a soft fleece version of the overcoat someday? As I personally found out mass-produced cosplays aren't very durable, sadly..

Anyway, fast forward to this past March and I'm out of state to visit my family for a week. Little tangent, but I doubt myself regarding identifying as nonbinary/agender sometimes. I'll feel fake. I'm not out to my family because most of them wouldn't understand and I don't want to deal with the drama. It's tiring.

The whole time I'm telling myself that I shouldn't hold it against them because they don't know but every misgender, every misname, felt like a knife twisting into the very fiber of my being. I knew no cis person would have a reaction like that, thus my mental health was in shambles until I left.

Then when I'm back home, that VERY night I end up having a dream where I'm wearing this cosplay again. Like this dude just came waltzing out of my subconscious to plop his coat on me because he knew that would make me feel better. And the wild thing is, it genuinely worked.

Like what the hell, careful what you joke about because if you do it long enough you'll start believing it and it'll become reality. Or maybe my fate was instantly sealed and Ayato really did just set up shop in my noggin from that moment I saw the golden comet.

Well, I'm not complaining, he's a very polite roommate.

[lumikuutti]

The fact I finally come to the conclusion I don't actually want the term 'daughter' in my native language being used about me by my mom, is what actually sends me into a mini-gender identity crisis is so incredibly funny to me. Like, no, it wasn't the fact I'm getting tired of correcting my coworkers when we switch to English about my pronouns because while they're not exactly correct I don't get a visceral disgust just mild annoyance (my native language doesn't have gendered pronouns so it doesn't come up often, esp when most of the time they just use my name)

Not my friend previously straight up point blank asking me "hey are gendered terms okay with you or nah, wanna check because sometimes there isnt a good neutral option (despite our non gendered pronouns which is kind of hilarious like, we're so based there but everything else is hella gendered it feels)" and me telling them "ur fine, friends have gendered term privilege because I know you guys know that's not quite correct but what can you do"

No, none of that makes my brain go "wait, am I actually an Agender Demigirl rather than pure Agender or do I just want to feel pretty/cute sometimes"

It's literally my mom calling me her daughter and me not liking the term. It... it feels so backwards, what even???

Honestly what even is gender Still don't really get it, which is how I ended up identifying as Agender anyway, I just literally never thought about my gender ever until...someone brought it up? I think? Or I saw a post and had a random queationing thought??? Don't fucking remember since it was years ago and I barely remember something that happened a year ago if that most of the time.

But now I AM thinking about this shit and it's weiiird Originally I heard feminine terms about myself and didn't question SHIT, it just was, total apathy or smth idfk Now I hear feminine terms and go "eh, that's not quite right but whatever" and I used to add a "she/hers fine just not my pref" to everything until I stopped because I didn't really actually want people to use she/her I just didn't outright hate it, that was 100% the people pleaser in me But then on the other hand, try to use anything more masculine than dude (which is for me gender neutral) and I go "STOP, CEASE AND DESIST" because it's ten times as wrong as feminine ones.

And suddenly I'm questioning my own ass identity all over again after I thought I had it all figured out.

Will I start using Demigirl too, who the fuck knows, not me for sure, but if you see it here's the origin of it LMAO

[skayafair]

The Critter Girl

I like a lot of characters in Ghost Wax, but one who seems to never come up in others' posts is Dottie Jean. And I really don't get why, because I LOVE her.

Or my Shadow does. Right, let's get sidetracked for a bit.

There are mainly two ways to talk about social topics: a direct and an indirect ones. The indirect way incorporates real world problems and aspects into the story's narrative and covers it with plot twists and metaphors and worldbuilding and character arcs and so on. The direct one talks about the topics head on, often literally.

I think Ghost Wax is closer to the direct way of incorporating these themes since most of them are easily recognizable: there's a thin layer of mataphor and covering actual issues with supernatural coating, but that's about it. In Kat's episode about a "succubus" the description sounded like a textbook NPD, and the way she described the kiss sounded like a whole relationship with a narcissistic person feels. NPD even was mentioned there, although in a "this is similar but more than" context. So, easy.

A lot of stories taking the direct approach appear... as if they consider their audiense very dense? They spell out all the message as if it cannot be understood otherwise. Ghost Wax, however, is not the case. While it does talk about social and mental issues pretty head on, it does so carefully. It doesn't consider the audience stupid - although the creators' standing on the questions discussed will be provided, and this is another thing I liked. E.g., in the episode about the fire guy he sounded like a total dick. And very convincingly portrayed, I've heard guys like this multiple times. In fact, he was so convincing and cocky that I started to suspect the creators side with him (I've just started listening and did't know what to expect yet). I actually think it was brilliant. If there was no reaction from the focal characters, it would feel like this. However, when he was being very dismissive about the name of his wife he killed and couldn't even remember it, Voncid or Luca - I suspect Voncid - gave him a very disapproving look. It wasn't a big moment, but it was enough.

The show goes on like this. Sometimes the characters values are spelled out, and it doesn't feel like they're trying to teach a lesson to the audience but merely state their own views. The characters giving statements feel overflowing with personality and are very alive - ironically - and by this I mean true to life. I found myself drawn to listen more and more mainly for this reason: for a show about dead people's memories regarding their deaths it sounded too alive. And this subtle but direct way to talk about social things was a big advantage. It's interesting - I think it must be not very easy to keep the balance.

The thing I wanted to say before talking about Dottie Jean has to do with all this.

In episode 40, Shadow, Adrianna meets the shadow part of her personality come alive. I'm glad she's been stopped by the order because I do think she had more chances to slip off to the deep end than Dottie if left to her own devices, but the shadow thing is real. Jungian psychology and all that.

I was so glad it got its own episode. I feel it isn't talked about enough when it's so important. I met my own shadow about two years ago, and it showed me wonders. Dark wonders, sure, but... I was fascinated I was even capable of feeling such things. I never knew before. By all means I should have felt repulsed, probably, after all the Shadow is everything we reject in ourselves, but... no. I felt like an essential piece of me finally found its own place. I was happy to meet her. It's interesting, by the way, that I strongly identify as agender, but my shadow is definitely a her.

It took us a while to find balance. For a long time she felt like something separate, something I had to control. But I also felt love thanks to her - a twisted kind, sure, but it was the only way I knew how. Seeing it in this dark light helped me realize the issues I have and start making my way to fixing those.

My Shadow is my friend. I may despise parts of me, but I loved my Shadow right away.

Since the last year I've been feeling more and more united, various shards of the personality finding their rightful places and melting into a single being. I'm not entirely a single piece even now, but parts of me are connected pretty strongly compared to before. And my shadow is no longer a separate thing - she's me. I feel so much more confident now, it's hard to describe. And I like the way I am now much more than what I used to be.

So you see, I think I understand Adrianna pretty well and consider her story to be told really well, as close to life as it could be. Hence why I'm glad the order got her and is going to teach her to unite with her Shadow - it will only make her happier.

Still, I recognize some feelings I have as something coming from my shadow part, even if it isn't perceived as a separate shard anymore.

One of such feelings is my adoration of Dottie Jean. What I mean is - I understand why she may not be the favourite for the most people, but... my shadow really, really likes her. I really like her.

In real life I wouldn't be so enchanted, sure. But this is fiction with supernatural circumstances. So there.

I do believe Dottie is under a partial mind control of Mr. Green Stripe, but I also don't think it's just that. He - it? - only enhanced her own feelings and gave a push in the direction he wanted. I hope and choose to believe she could stop if she actually wanted to. But she doesn't. And that's perfect.

First off, she sounded autistic to me. Not a fan of crowds, prefers quiet life alone with her favourite pastime and animals, talks about the smells in a special way, and has a REALLY strong special interest. Frankly speaking, she sounded nice from the get go, but then she explained how and why she likes taxidermy so much. Not just making things and preserving life in a frozen moment - personally I'm not a fan of taxidermy, it falls into the uncanny valley for me, so I disagree with the impression, - but learning how the organisms work, their inner mechanics. THIS was what I understand well. That's how I live, too. It honestly applies to everything, but with living beings - I'm an artist, so to draw convincingly, I need to understand how things work, too. I'm also a linguist so it's very interesting how the languages work, how they came to be the way they are, the underlying processes. Same with human psyche and literally anything else. It's interesting to get to the root of everything in order to understand it and how it works. Besides... I really like skeletons and skulls. Not the fakes - only the real ones. The only one I own is my own, but I happenned to find some critters' bones once or twice, and was fascinated. To me, skeletons are evidences of lives that they used to carry. Every single one has a life story of some creature, every. single. one. And their structure is so fascinating, too? So yeah, that was such a satisfying moment.

And then. I hate poachers. I dislike hunters, too - ones who hunt for sport, not to have something to eat and wear, but at least their activity is regulated by the law. I still can't stand them. But poachers set my teeth on edge (again, I understand if someone can't get a license due to some financial reasons, for example, and needs to hunt for food, but that's about it). How dare they. When I was a kid I dreamt of becoming a superhero who punished those who hurt the nature - even though that superhero was a shapeshifter with an animal spirit.

In real life poachers are often let off too easily. Just like Dottie says - they have the money, and the only thing that ends up being hurt is their ego at most. Jail is a rare enough occasion.

So excuse me if I cheer for at least a fictional woman who lives out my dream of bringing those fuckers to justice - for good. Yes, it's a dark joy, I really don't like seeing anyone hurt at all in real life. But here my shadow found a safe outlet.

Dottie is one of my most favourite characters in Ghost Wax, and I hope she continues her crusade. I was SO HAPPY when she escaped after protecting the shifter guy. Shifters being portrayed this way in the show is another favourite moment of mine but I'll talk about it in some other post I think, this one is long anough as is.

If season 2 is going to come out in the future, I hope to hear more of Dottie Jean. She's a total badass and brings me utter delight with each appearance.

P.S. I also like how the creators show their stance on her: they state through Voncid that she needs to be stopped and controlled since murder comes easily to her and soon anyone may look like a suitable target - and technically that's true. But they still let her get away, providing with a story even Luca agrees with, and that speaks volumes.

[loser-bassist]

My gender is complicated because I’m a guy but I’m genderqueer/agender but if I were to say that to cis people they’d then believe they could call me by any pronouns (and then proceed to default to she/her) because to them genderqueer/agender is just genderfluid and genderfluid means all pronouns.

I’m a guy most of the time but sometimes my gender feels infinite and undefined and beautiful and I’m not traditionally masculine anyways so privately identifying out of the binary helps me let myself take back my own identity and femininity

anyways eyeliner and outfit looked good!

[theunluckiestdevil]

Dr. Tomas Müller (The Bandaged Thanatologist)

Tomas uses they/it pronouns, no particular preference for one over the other most of the time. They don't really see themself as Any gender, really, they just! Exist! They're a doctor. A researcher. A scientist. That's what's important. Sometimes they feel more like a sterile laboratory than a person. A modern term that might fit them is Agender, or possibly some sciencey xenogenders. Though they can't be bothered with actually putting a name on it.

Romance? Also no. Until someone can give them a straightforward and quantifiable way to identify romantic feelings, they aren't particularly interested in partaking. It has no shortage of love, of course, but diving that up into smaller definitions feels like a useless endeavor to it. Why lock certain activities behind something everyone describes differently? A feeling that they aren't even sure they experience. They're in a relationship that might seem romantic from the outside, but Tomas wouldn't call it that. It's..... private, is what it is, and Dr. Müller isn't interested in sharing further details.

As for sexuality, they aren't sexually attracted to anyone. Not opposed to partaking, but it doesn't exactly seek it out. I call them asexual, and they exist somewhere under the aroace umbrella as a whole.

Mel Gratz (The Bumbling Byliner)

He thought everyone saw gender as an accessory? Isn't that just thing he's supposed to do as a person?? Like, have a hair color, or be a specific height? You're telling him he doesn't have to stick with boy?? <- he/they but won't figure it out for another couple years. His gender is Reporter.

He doesn't super understand what romance and sexuality mean yet but one day he'll figure out that he likes guys. And gals! But not yet, he's busy figuring out how to be a human little kid first.

The Furtive Orderly

Gender: Orderly. Romance: Orderly. Sexuality: Orderly.

Mind your business.

#7

What is your character's relationship to gender? Romance? Sexuality? Are there any modern terms that you would use to describe them? Are there any historical terms or descriptions they'd use for themself? Has your character's relationship with these things changed over time?

[vampstel]

I feel SO bad right now and it’s annoying. I just wanna draw in peace. Like why am I suddenly being attacked by intense anxiety and dysphoria?? I am literally just drawing wtf