#sex education

[certifiedsexed]

To the anon wanting me to post resources on fighting against the probably impending transgender US military ban, I'm afraid I will not be doing that!

Partially because this is a sex ed blog but mostly because I do not care if transgender people cannot join the US military.

I will offer one piece of advice though: if you are concerned about your ability to join the international terrorist group known as the US military because you are transgender, I wouldn't suggest looking into resources to fight against the ban at all.

I would suggest doing something radical, like scrapping all plans to join white supremacist groups and doing something much more worthwhile, like working at KFC and learning about anti-racism.

I'd say I'm sorry I can't be of more help but, y'know what they say. Fuck the army.

[hellyeahscarleteen]

One of the biggest messages I (and most other sex⁠ educators I know) wish everyone would receive and embrace is that when it comes to how you express yourself sexually with things like this, there is no “supposed to.” All there is, and should be, is what feels true and real for you, what you find feels good for you and what you find doesn’t.

It’s hard for people to really create and nurture a sexuality and sexual⁠ life that feels like their own – like an expression of who they are, rather than who someone else is, looks or seems like – and they enjoy if and when they’re trying to follow someone else’s script or somebody else’s idea of how to be or respond sexually. If we were making a list of the top⁠ ten things that tend to keep people from having sex lives they really enjoy, focusing on responding to sex in ways they feel they should, rather than going with how they are really, truly, feeling and responding would be right up at the top.

Human sexuality and sex are so diverse because people are so diverse. No one sex life, way of having sex or way of responding to sex fits all. The trick is to explore and experiment to find out⁠ who we are sexually, how we feel, what we want, what we like and what feels right for us, very individually. If anyone expects sex with one partner⁠ to be just like sex with another, or thinks that the way they watched one person responding to sex is how everyone else is going to respond, they’re going to need to adjust those expectations.

Heather Corinna, The Rules of Ooohs and Ahhhs (Hint: there aren't any)

[marlborocrow]

btw when a person tells you they usually don’t cum or have a hard time with it, pushing them to cum (“come on, baby, cum for me!” “are you close?” “i want to make you cum” etc) makes it less likely for them to cum and will in fact make them feel very pressured and have less fun because they now feel like you’re not going to have fun if they don’t cum.

the goal for sex isn’t to cum. the goal of sex is to enjoy yourselves. you can have fun without orgasms. orgasms are a bonus. stop treating sex like it’s not good enough if your partner doesn’t climax.

[zinepunk]

Now feels like a good time to remind people that the foundation of BDSM is consent. If there’s no consent, it’s not BDSM.

Rough sex can be done consensually.

Sadism can be done consensually.

Impact play can be done consensually.

Emetophilia can be satisfied consensually.

Even consensual non-consent is a thing.

Neil Gaiman had the money and the means to find willing partners for his sexual preferences. There are countless people out there who would be more than happy to perform the acts he wanted. If he wanted, he could have had exactly what he desired with the consent of the other party. But he didn’t look for that because, fundamentally, his interest was in assault, not BDSM.

Don’t let him trick you into thinking what he did was BDSM. It lacked the core element of all BDSM: consent. It was assault that he wanted and that’s what he did to those women.

[rongzhi]

Sex ed from a douyin account

English added by me :)

[certifiedsexed]

What is cellulite?

It's where areas on your body with more fat, like your thighs or bum, will wrinkle, pucker or even appear lumpy!

It's very common but a surprisingly large amount of people aren't aware how common it is or that its completely fine.

Hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questions, Anon! <3

[mxjackparker]

It recently came to my attention that a lot of people, even those who frequently use condoms, don't know that you need to pinch the tip when you put one on or don't know why!

Leaving air in the tip will cause it to expand (and maybe break) when ejaculation happens. Also, air in the condom makes it more likely for the ejaculation to push the air down the condom and make it slip off.

Share to save someone from a condom breakage!

[rttlesnk]

lmaoooo shout out to the time i was sat in sex-ed and my teacher was talking about how abstinence-only education is harmful and how we can prevent getting STDs and I couldn't for the life of me figure out why abstinence-only wouldn't work bc not having sex is rlly rlly easy, like, just dont have sex? anyway turns out not everybody is ace, and they actually want sex and had sexual urges, meanwhile i was out here thinking that people chose to do it bc it soubded fun

[incognitopolls]

Anon feels like getting their first period was almost traumatic because of how deeply ashamed they felt about it, even though everything about it was normal and they knew it would happen.

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[victusinveritas]

When I hear the argument "but the fetus is half my DNA, I should get a say," I think, You HAD a say earlier, but once the situation exclusively involves her body, it's up to her what happens now.

[certifiedsexed]

Certified Sex Ed Post!

We should teach children about miscarriage during sex ed. Here’s why

I feel this in my bones

Miscarriage and still births are still so taboo, which contributes to/exacerbates the feelings of isolation and despair which often follow. And it's not at all helped by the misinformation that's out there.

Some of the most unhelpful types of advice I frequently see involve versions of 'avoid stress', which, if you think about it for more than a minute is not only something of an empty platitude, but also makes no sense given the number of full-term babies born into extremely stressful conditions throughout human history

Properly understanding and talking about the potential vagaries of pregnancy might also go some way to challenging anti-abortion rhetoric, which tends to fetishise pregnancy (always at the expense of the pregnant person. And reality). It was quite apparent that some of them don't understand how pregnancy works when those US politicians started waffling about 're-implating foetuses' during in ectopic pregnancies... I dare say people like that have never heard of a molar pregnancy, for example.

Basically, we need to demystify pregnancy for everyone's sakes

[vague-humanoid]

[scriptscribbles]

Ncuti Gatwa you have my undying love

[horny-mushroom]

Let’s not pretend doms don’t need after care too.

Ask them if they are satisfied, whether they came or not. Do they want to cum?

If they need anything to drink.

Perhaps they might be cramping from putting a lot of effort.

Tell them they did well and which parts you enjoyed the most.

Compliment them for their work.

Cuddle up to them.

Offer help for the clean up afterwards.

Order food together.

Sex can be something casual, but might be intense too. Either physical or mentally. Take care of each other and regularly communicate with each other. No question should be taboo. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

[foldingfittedsheets]

I feel like one of the major ways sex ed failed me was the utter lack of discussion about vaginal discharge. Around 13 I started just… leaking fluids. It was on a set schedule, every day after lunch there’d be an uncomfortable wetness down the front of my underwear.

It was awful. Every movement was wet and cold unpleasantness in my pants. I’d go stuff toilet paper into my underwear and it would pill up and stick to my damp skin. That went on for a year.

I finally discovered panty liners and started wearing them daily, but with the unconscious fear that the overall juiciness of my pussy was unnatural.

I’d read people saying that cotton underwear would dissipate moisture and stop it from being a problem but no amount of natural fibers could evaporate what my crotch was producing. Since that wasn’t enough for me I worried I was abnormal.

I didn’t like wearing panty liners every day. It felt sweaty and wasteful but the alternative was to be wet and miserable. I still worried about it. But when I finally asked a doctor they just asked if it was more than my usual discharge. I said, no, it’s always been this way. They shrugged and assured me that meant my body was behaving reliably. Also if your discharge discolors your underwear that’s also normal cause of chemistry reasons

That reassurance didn’t come until my 20’s.

Finally a few years ago I discovered cloth liners. They’re reusable and clip into the crotch of underwear. I was ecstatic to finally have a non disposable option. I love them. Although the mainstream ones have polyester wings and I’m very excited to try the new all cotton ones I just got off Etsy. I think they were originally intended as light period protection but were robust enough for me.

So if you’ve ever worried about how wet your pussy is: it’s normal. It’s self cleaning, it’s doing what it’s supposed to do. You should worry when the amount changes and if you’re like me check out cloth liners, they’re excellent.

[chaneilkular]

CHANEIL KULAR as Anwar Bakshi Sex Education 2x06