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5 things i wish i could tell myself a year ago:

don’t give up on your dreams

getting to where you want to be takes time, but that time is worth it

you deserve better, and there is better out there

don’t be afraid to go out of your comfort zone while you’re trying to find your place in this world

don’t forget that you deserve love without having to earn it

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This is my favorite thing in our apartment.

My partner and I have this feelings poster next to our front door. Our friends are now conditioned to put a post-it with their name on their current emotion as soon as they arrive.

Original poster credit (x); "expansion pack" by me

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imagine looking in your rear view mirror and you just see this

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Reason to Live #12200

    To see your body become a home you like to live in. – Guest Submission

(Please don't add negative comments to these posts.)

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Right now I’m the bunny! Your definition of a good day will change with the day too, depending on your environment, priorities, and self! 1st Patreon goal hit!!! ;u; 💕I’m so thankful to everyone, those who can support me with pledges and those who can’t but still comment, like, and share my work! You all are the best- thank you for helping me keep Chibird going.

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*sends a message* they hate me they hate me they hate me they hate m *gets a reply* oh hey cool! *types something back* they hate me they hate me they h

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you've all gotta stop acting like "overweight" is a gentle PC alternative for the word fat and not itself an assertion of the ontological wrongness of being large. Over What Weight Precisely

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Ya know when people told me "when you're finally safe enough that you can leave survival mode and start to let go of and process your c-ptsd/trauma things are probably going to get really, really bad before they slowly start to get better" I thought that was reasonable. I did not understand that by "things are going to get bad" they meant "you're going to find yourself in the worst mental state of your entire life, but dw, that means it's working" and tbh I simply wish someone had been more clear.

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Body positivity is a step in the right direction for some people's recovery but the absolute number one thing that helped me was immersing myself in fat liberation. Starving was so much less appealing when I started to understand and believe that food and weight and being fat is morally neutral. It is possible and perfectly ok to be happy and fat. I'm thriving and I'm the heaviest I've been in years. I promise it's ok.

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食べる

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Cheese stuffed cheeseburger (x)

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Belly of the Beast - Da’Shaun L. Harrison

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FAT LIBERATIONIST FILMS

I noticed that the handful of lists on letterboxd for fat positive films only had Hairspray, Isn’t It Romantic, and I Feel Pretty (🤢) with the caption “I wish this list was longer!”

So I have taken it upon myself to compile a real list of real fat liberationist films: films that either confront the issue of fatphobia or portray fat bodies in a liberating way. I will not be including films where fat characters exist neutrally, only films with a message about fatness that does not promote weight loss.

I haven’t seen a majority of these films yet, so if you see one that you believe is not worthy of being on this list, please let me know! additionally, if you have ideas on more films that should be added, please share!

Films (left to right)

1. How to Carry Water (2023) dir. Sasha Wortzel

2. Piggy (2022) dir. Carlotta Pereda

3. Your Fat Friend (2023) dir. Jeanie Finlay

4. Dumplin’ (2018) dir. Anne Fletcher

5. Empire Waist (2024) dir. Claire Ayoub

6. PattiCake$ (2017) dir. Geremy Jasper

7. Läski (2019) dir. Kirsikka Saari

8. Aquaporko! (2013) dir. Kelli Jean Drinkwater, Anna Helme

9. Fat Hiking Club (2018) dir. Layla Cameron

10. Fat Front (2019) dir. Louise Kjeldsen, Louise Detlefsen

11. Disfigured (2008) dir. Glenn Gers

12. Riot Not Diet (2018) dir. Julia Fuhr Mann, Kristina Kilian

13. Straight/Curve: Redefining Body Image (2017) dir. Jenny McQuaile

14. In Our Skin (2017) dir. Rosa Beiroa

15. The Fat Feeling (2019) dir. Talia A. Darling

16. Dangerous Curves (2016) dir. Merete Mueller

17. Well Rounded (2020) dir. Shana Myara

18. Fat Chance (1994) dir. Jeffery McKay

19. Tales of Ordinary Fatphobia (2020) dir. Josiane Blanc

20. Fattitude (2017) dir. Viridiana Lieberman

21. (Not pictured) The Fat Body (In)Visible (2011) dir. Margitte Kristjansson

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If you don’t like fat girls, nobody needs to hear your opinion on anything.

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here's kind of a subtle aspect of recovery that i've been noticing: my friends are asking me to do food-based stuff with them.

that used to not happen as i was so prickly around food or at least didn't give any impression that i liked food.

but now i have multiple people being like, "hey, there's this new burger/pizza/ice cream/whatever at [x] restaurant; you up for trying it?"

(and the answer, of course, is always yes.)