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not even in a horny way but stretch marks are so aesthetically pleasing the way they add visual interest to an expanse of skin & form shapes telling a story of the body & how depending on the lighting the same ones can appear deep like little valleys or shiny catching the light like silver or a reddish pinkish blush color I love looking at them

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so i've written before about my experiments with feedism when i started this blog, and how digging into it helped me see i wasn't a feedist which at least helped me realized i was ready to finally take on my eating disorder/body dysmorphia in therapy.

i had a really positive experience with the feedists on here. everyone was nice to me; i exchanged a few friendly DMs here and there and honestly even when i said i wasn't a feedist i didn't lose any mutuals, which is cool.

now that i'm firmly into the "recovery" phase of all this, my body is settling into its new normal and i've been gaining weight again. i'm practicing affirmations to help me adjust and really push through the old fears, anxieties, whatever.

but, you know, one funny thing that definitely makes me kind of amused in all this is when looking at myself in the mirror (not an easy thing for me), i can't help but think "oh, my feedist friends will love this." and, idk as someone who has always struggled with being desired or thought of that way, it helps in a funny way.

(and if you're one of the feedist mutuals reading this, then thank you specifically. y'all are really helping me pull through here. 💖)

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i do feel like going forward dragging to the forefront the conservative desire to control all bodies should be talked about more.

it's puberty blockers. it's hrt. it's abortion. it's also diet culture. it's ableism. it's brutally-enforced gender roles, even for cis people. it's refusal to support the elderly. it's lunch debt. it's taking away union power. it's banning porn, banning drugs. it's fuckin no nut november. it's all connected.

and i keep saying this, but if we want to fight we *have* to push back on the body hatred. be more sex positive. be more trans positive. be more fat positive. accept that we all have bodies and they're all different and imperfect and they are us and that is fucking beautiful.

be body positive but, like, for real this time.

Here’s the thing I think conservatives don’t understand: I don’t care what someone else does with their own body.

You wanna get surgery or take medication to make you look a certain way? Okay. I don’t care

You wanna ctrl+alt+delete that clump of cells in your uterus. Sure. I don’t care.

You wanna use meds to block a natural aspect of your body’s system? Alright by me. I. Don’t. Care.

I don’t care because it’s not my body

“But what if they regret it?” So? Let them regret it. That’s their choice to live with.

“But what if that baby would have grown up to cure cancer?” Kinda short sighted on God’s part to only put that potential in one baby, yeah? (Also … you can’t cure cancer, but that’s a level of nuance for a different time)

“But what if they want to use that function in the future?” Funny thing about meds: you can just stop fucking taking them and things usually go back to normal.

I DON’T CARE WHAT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING DOES WITH THEIR OWN BODY! I don’t care 🤷‍♀️ it’s not my body so why should I have a say in it?

The choice is not “being left up to the states instead of the federal government”, it’s that the choice is being taken away from individuals.

Why the fuck to they care so much what other people do with their own shit??

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something has gone deeply wrong when "focusing pragmatically on issues you can influence and working to make life better for yourself and your community" is considered an unserious distraction while "endlessly exposing yourself to media about distressing situations you can't control" is considered political engagement

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Hey, just curious if anyone on here has any good recs for a list of journal prompts/exercises related to body image/self-love/repairing one's relationship with food and related topics?

I'm building up a little repository of good sources and have gotten some good results using them as therapy homework, but curious what else is out there.

Thanks all!

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Your art is amazing AND you draw fat characters?! This blog is a gift! Thank you for being one of the very few artists who actually draws fat representation, and positive fat representation at that!

Well I only have one Chubby character which is Cindy (⁠*⁠﹏⁠*⁠;⁠)

But I'm glad that you like my art and love my works of her! And it's true that not much chubby characters are drawn these days, ones that don't look so stereotypical

So here's more of my unposted art of her some of them are old ones

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Art Deco attempts

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I’m a simple woman. I find a song I like, I listen to it for three weeks uninterrupted until I find another one.

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When will they invent a completely 100% silent vibrator that's also like. jackhammer strength

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yeah, this!

one thing people need to realize is that hatred of people living in certain bodies is a vector of radicalization.

ever notice how TERFs start off identifying as left-wing but then it's only a short time before they're rubbing elbows with fascists?

conservatives hate and fear bodies and they want very badly to control all bodies. so if you admit your little pet hatred of a certain body you think is "bad," they'll find you and they'll get you feeding that hatred and before you know it you're marching with the nazis.

if you're a leftist and you hate trans people, fat people, people of color, disabled people, or even people who use their bodies in ways you personally dislike (e.g., sex workers or hell even just people who enjoy sex a lot) whatever body you think is unacceptable, well you're not gonna be a leftist for long.

kill the body cop in your head. please. for all of us.

garden variety conservative transphobia is going to get worse but radical feminism is also going to get worse. if youre a cis women terfs are going to try to recruit you and make you believe that the reason your rights are at stake is because of trans people. they're going to tell you that all men are your violent oppressors and they're going to include trans women in that category. they're gonna tell you about women who are gender traitors and joined the enemy and they're going to point to trans men. don't believe them. trans people are not your enemy, we have no power over you, and we desperately need your support and your solidarity.

be aware of radfem pipelines and dog whistles too. be skeptical of anyone that talks about the divine feminine or correlates birthing, menstruating, or female reproductive organs with womanhood. be especially skeptical of people who use those biological things as reasons to why women are more spiritual, or more in tune with nature, or just that they're better than men (read: anyone they decide is a man)

radical feminism is an expected reactionary outcome from cis women who are being oppressed by conservatives, especially when all they practice is ciscentric, liberal, white feminism. they feel the need to be radicalized but don't have the experience and information to pinpoint the true source of their suffering. trans people are not your enemy, AMAB people are not your enemy, anyone who identifies as a man is not your enemy. we're all being crushed under the same stone

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reminder for y'all that liking oral sex and being willing to perform it aren’t requirements for being attracted to women.

you don’t have to like giving oral to be a lesbian.

you don’t have to like giving oral to be a multisexual who is attracted to women.

you don’t even have to like giving oral to be a straight man.

you are not required to like oral sex or to perform oral sex in order to “prove” that you’re “actually” attracted to women. for that matter, you are not required to enjoy or to be willing to perform any sex act in order to “prove” that you’re actually any sexuality or to “prove” that you’re actually attracted to anyone.

it’s okay to not like sex at all, no matter what your orientation is. and it’s okay to just not like specific sex acts. you aren’t obligated in any way, shape, or form to have any kind of sex you don’t like for any reason and you’re especially not obligated to have sex you don’t enjoy because there are people out here trying to say you’re not actually your sexuality if you’re not willing to have certain kinds of sex—none of this suddenly becomes untrue just because the sex act we’re talking about is performing oral sex on a woman.

it’s no less gross for a woman to try and pressure you into performing a sex act you don’t enjoy and don’t want to perform than it would be for someone of any other gender identity to do so and it’s not okay for a woman to tell you that you’re “not really a lesbian/not really bi/not really whatever” if you’re not willing to perform certain sex acts on her or on any other women. these things are sex shaming, manipulative, and abusive no matter who they’re coming from.

please remember that you’re allowed to have sexual preferences no matter what your orientation is. you’re allowed to say no to certain sex acts and have that respected. no one of ANY gender identity has the right to shame you for that or try to pressure you into performing sex acts you don’t want to perform. no one of ANY gender identity or sexuality has the right to deny your orientation based on your sexual preferences.

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is it too much to ask to come home to a stuffed cutie who got a little drunk waiting for me and accidentally devoured all the leftovers in the fridge?

because I don't think it's too much to want my darling calling out to me from the couch, whining for me to rub their swollen, stuffed belly, looking all flushed and cute.

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Fat girls are hot.

You agree. Reblog.

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death of subcultures and death of third places are directly connected and you can’t convince me otherwise