#Help For Grief And Grieving

[atalana]

so the good place is widely lauded on this site for its takes on morality and capitalism, which i totally agree with

but i think it should get more recognition for the line "all humans are aware of death. so we're all a little bit sad all the time. that's just the deal. we don't get offered any better ones. and if you try and ignore your sadness, it just ends up leaking out of you anyway. i've been there, and everybody's been there. so don't fight it. in the words of a very wise bed bath and beyond employee i once knew - go ahead and cry all you want. but you're gonna have to pay for that toilet plunger."

[goodforthesoulxx]

[claypigeonpottery]

sold

an urn for a beloved cat

[hyperfixatinator]

I have a DP x DC AU brainworm about Danny and Tim being long lost siblings (twins or otherwise).

Because both of them have faced evil future versions of themselves who've almost ended the world in some way through altering time. If Clockwork had been watching Danny's world-ending timelines, then who's to say he wouldn't keep tabs on Tim's as well?

Imagine that the brothers had to be temporarily separated at a young age to ensure a peaceful future. Danny had to be in Amity Park to gain his ghost powers and become the new Ghost King. Meanwhile, Tim had to stay in Gothem to become the new Robin, something he'd have been less likely to do if Danny stayed in his life.

However, their separation was only supposed to be temporary. What if both Dan and Future Tim were from futures where they never reunited as teens? Heck, what if both of them were from the SAME future?

The Nasty Burger explosion happened, Danny killed Vlad and absorbed his soul, and became Dan. Dan grew too powerful for the GIW to handle anymore, so the government tried reaching out to the Justice League. But oops! Future Tim already killed off and tore down that whole organization, meaning the world no longer had it's protectors to stop this new foe.

Though they were strangers, the future brothers unwittingly collaborated in sealing the world's fate.

Back to the present, the Observants wanted Clockwork to get rid of Danny and also Tim before that timeline came to pass. What they didn't understand was Clockwork's plan.

See, the Infinite Realms needed a new monarch to replace Pariah Dark, but not just anyone would do. In timelines outside of Dan's future, the U.S government would've started a war with the Infinite Realms anyway. One that would guarantee Earth's destruction and offset the balance of other realms near it.

The war is set to start in Amity Park, but the information blackout is preventing it's citizens from getting outside help. Mid-to-late teen Danny can't bring down the Anti Ecto Acts alone. He'd be struggling to keep the Realms beings from invading his home as it is. And the government's iron grip on the city makes it nearly impossible for news to get out to the masses.

Danny being the brother of a vigilante detective across the country is another story.

Batman's mentorship would give Tim the training needed to eventually track down his lost sibling. And through Red Robin's connections to the Justice League, Danny could get help overturning the Anti Ecto Acts while he keeps declarations of war at bay on his end. Danny and Tim's combined efforts could be what's keeping the world at peace instead of ending it.

Long story short: Clockwork kills two birds with one stone by uniting a pair of long lost brothers through the prevention of an interdimensional war.

[slondile]

Let me drown in my delusion , just as I once drowned in you.

[poeteunoia]

"grief is just love with no place to go"

(jamie anderson)

"i this hope grief stays with me because it's all the unexpressed love that i never got to tell her..."

(andrew garfield)

Credits: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: Notes on Grief / C.S Lewis: A Grief Observed / Shannon Barry quote via @academia-aesthetics / Fleabag 2016 / Jamie Anderson quote / One Day 2024 / Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Half of a Yellow Sun / Little Women 2019 / Amanda Gorman, Call Us What We Carry / WandaVision 2021 / Andrew Garfield quote / Ocean Vuong quote, source / Up 2009 / Lang Leav: September Love via @academia-aesthetics / "the grief is never ending but so is the love" monkey meme / commemorative bench plaque in Central Park, New York, photo:© Neva Micheva / Valarie Kaur, See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love / Glennon Doyle Leyton: Love warrior / Hotel Del Luna 2019 / Heidi Priebe: As Long As There Is Love, There Will Be Grief

[qoldenskies]

Just read CC and am now thinking of The Movie. Two Years on and Donnie's getting better and Casey comes in, this kid who has only known Donnie from after the curse and has no comparisons and probably doesn't even know about the curse at all-learning slowly that Tello wasn't always like this (something something kid learning one of their parental figures/role models was abused and realizing how that shaped their personality)

i imagine f!donnie in cc would be very different from how most people interpret his canon self for suuuureee. like once he's doing better he's still a very timid people-pleaser, and that even extends to his behavior with strangers/acquaintances. he's got a lot of the general donnie-ness back but he's not brash and unabashed anymore, and he's quick to second guess himself. i'm sure this would carry to adulthood, so i could imagine CJ would see him as a very kind parental figure, not realizing that behavior is linked to trauma (especially because i dont think donnie would leave the base much before his death, not unless he really has to, because of combat trauma and because his role is imperative in the rebellion. still think he'd die first though... just 'cause it'd hurt)

^^ and speaking of that idea, ohhhh my god the way his death would tear the family apart. it might be fun to posit the idea of him dying when CJ is particularly young (as opposed to canon where both him and raph were confirmed to have died in their late 30s, this is an au we can go wild), so he remembers donnie MORE by the impact he left on his family, the way that they cracked and splintered apart and fucking lost it. oh my god they lost it. whoever was responsible for his death was nothing more than a crater in the earth when they were done with them LMFAO

seeing the way they all interact with him would both make it make sense and also be... disconcerting as fuck, because donnie is still actively struggling at that point, so he's a lot different. CJ's an adult now and he can TELL that isn't politeness, that's the behavior of someone that's genuinely terrified. i think he'd look at him like he was staring at a ghost, and it'd be uncomfortable for donnie who doesn't like being stared at. maybe they'd bond after everything is said and done though

[334iwatchshit]

season 8 makes me SICK

[crushed-oranged-angered]

Gonna be so for real, seeing lots of posts calling Caitlyn Kiramman a ‘complex female character’. And sure she’s hot and I’ve got like some lesbian solidarity with her and she’s had all of one trauma (dead mom) and that made her want to become a mega-cop war-criminal or whatever but that doesn’t feel like enormously complex to me that feels like the bare minimum. Maybe I watched too many action movies when I was like 14 but I feel like we have so many options to point to for complex female character like Jinx or Mel or Ambessa or Vi or Sevika like why is everyone pointing at Caitlyn who has like. Respectfully. The least going on other than revenge?

[whumpypepsigal]

Silent Night (2023): “Help me.”

[psychologeek]

Whumptobrt #30+31: TimKlone (end scene)

Whumptober index - there are at least 5\6 parts in the series before this No. 30: recovery | Holding Back Tears | "What have I done?" No. 31: asking for help | Making Amends | "I'm alive, I'm just not well." (Elliot Lee, Alive, Not Well.) If anyone wondered "I'm alive, I'm just not well" is a perfect summarry of my current state.

"What's her Kryptonian name?"

Tim stays silent for a moment.

"She... doesn't have one," he finally says, quietly. "

He looks at his daughter, avoiding her father.

"Tim-"

"I- I couldn't, I'm sorry. I know, I could have asked Clark or Kara or- but it didn't feel right. It didn't feel- I'm sorry, I couldn't -"

And there's a hand around him.

"It's okay".

"No, it's not," Tim still doesn't look away from the child in his arm. "It's - it's also her culture. Her traditions. I was - I shouldn't left her out".

"You didn't," is the  quiet reply. "You did your best, and that is enough."

Tim is-

Tim is sitting there, a baby in his arms, and there's another's hand who wipes her face as he cries.

(There's another hand that holds him).

~

"How do you say light?"

The question comes out of nowhere.

"Light?"

"No," Kon says. "Not in English. In that language you sometimes humm in. I remember you once gave an hour long lecture about why Kryptonian names doesn't make any sense. Something about Kal means easy or lightweighted?"

 There's a moment of confusion before Tim realises.

"Or"

"Or what?" Kon looks confused. "What are the options?"

"No, that's how you say light in Hebrew. 'Or'."

Kon's eyes widen with horror,"I'm not calling our daughter Orel! "

"It's actually pronounced Or-el, not o-re-l," Tim corrects him unnoticed.

"I mean, you can also have 'Ori', which means 'my light', or Uri- which is aort of, more ancient and less used? But it means 'my fire'. It's actually also considered to be one of the angels that sits over a newborn's cradle to-"

"Ori," Kon mumbles behind him. "my light. I like it. Ori-El. It's you and me, both of our history, but together. New. And it's a reminder: I'll always have a place to call home, I'll always have a light to guide me. Even in the darkest times."

~

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[sakuraspoke]

a burden shared // papa emeritus iii x reader

“I cannot imagine the pain you’re in,” he says, his hushed voice shaking with emotion.

You're not sure of the last time you spoke, and it's reflected in the brittle croak that comes from you.

"A lot."

Terzo's hand slips from your cheek to your chest, resting over your heart, feeling the erratic beat beneath his fingers. “Let me carry it for you,” he whispers. A gentle request, but a firm one. “Just for a little while.”

1.3k words, sfw, tw grief // read on ao3

[angelnumber27]

It’s so embarrassing and heartbreaking being in so much pain over losing someone while knowing they don’t give a fuck if you live or die. Your favorite person becoming a stranger is a special kind of hell.

[seeking-phantoms]

A safe place because I need it, too. How are you doing? I’m fine, how are you? I lie. I’m not fine. Not even remotely. I’m scared. I’m depressed. I’m confused. I just need to see her one last time, to say goodbye. But I can’t. So I take to harmful tactics to get her out of mind… And it’s not working. The helpful ones are hurting. The unhelpful ones are hurting in a different way. My chest is so heavy. I just want to curl into a ball and cease to exist.

[slondile]

I thought I knew her so well, but I don't know her at all. I hope she knows herself as well as I thought I did.

[ickypuppi3]

i think two characters drifting apart is worse than one of them just dying actually because. what do you mean they changed each other irrecoverably but circumstances mean they now live separate lives what do you mean one of them might look at the ocean and be reminded of the other one in a way that causes that very specific pain in their chest except the person they’re thinking of isn’t even dead, they’re just a stranger. what do you mean they’ll never get back what they lost what do you mean their conversations will now be awkward and stilted like two people meeting one another for the first time wh