#Emotional health

[jesusinstilettos]

I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:

It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.

Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.

1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.

2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?

3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?

4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”

5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.

6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)

[littlemissemotionalandvalid]

You are not a bother. You are not a burden. You are not a waste of space. You are not annoying every person you talk to. Your existence matters. Your presence makes a good difference.

[spiritualseeker777]

[myfandomrealitea]

Antis who proudly proclaim they're going to become a therapist so they can shut down and manipulate and unethically target all the 'nasty proshippers' make me laugh because they're going to get two months into any sort of qualifying course and be slapped in the face by the reality that therapists are obligated to remain objective and impartial and will lose their license if they're found to be using their position to be unfairly bias or negatively target clients based on their own personal beliefs and values.

"Objectivity helps counsellors avoid personal biases and allows them to focus on the client's needs without imposing their own beliefs or values." - American Counselling Association

"Therapy should feel like an inclusive and safe place for clients. Clients need to feel safe and supported in their work. And while all therapists have inherent biases and personal preferences, it is never appropriate for them to engage in discrimination, racism, sexism, or other forms of prejudice with clients." - Medcircle

You do not get into therapy to correct people. You get into therapy to help them. Therapy is not about the therapist.

[study-diaries]

Reminder

Your pain (physical/mental/emotional) is valid even if nobody can see it

Your pain is valid even if you have no physical symptoms

Your pain is valid even if there is no physical injury

Your pain is valid even if others tell you it's not

Your pain is valid even if you do not have a life threatening disease

Your pain is valid even if you don't have a diagnosis

Your pain is valid even if you do have a diagnosis

Your pain is still valid even if nobody believes you

Your pain is still valid even if you are too "young" for the problem/issue

Your pain is valid even if the health care advisor/anybody tells you that it's in your head

Your pain is valid no matter what the conditions are

Your pain is valid.

Pain does not discriminate between age, gender, race, nationality etc. Just because you can't see pain, doesn't mean it's not there.

[samxcamargo]

You don’t have to be healed to deserve the good things in your life.

-Josue Camargo

[feminineenergylife]

Self Care Tips

Mental

Speak kindly to yourself

Journal your feelings

Don't stress about things you cannot control

Don't take things too personally

Practice mindfulness & being present

Take time to do nothing & just BE

Physical

Drink plenty of water everyday

Get enough sleep

Never sleep in makeup

Learn your skin type (oily, dry)

Use exfoliation gloves

Moisturize your skin

Do what makes you feel luscious & pampered

Get out in nature

Move your body, take a walk, exercise to release tension in body

Sunlight is your friend

Spiritual

Practice daily gratitude

Practice daily positive affirmations (My feminine affirmations playlist)

Make time for your hobbies & indulge in this you love to do

Pick an uplifting song to listen to in the morning (mine is 'Successful' by Ariana Grande)

[deadassjsawhitegirl]

"bpd is this" "bpd is that"

can i just say bpd is more than a favorite person? i understand that part as ive experienced it but thats not all there is

as someone who doesnt currently have a "fp" i hate that thats all bpd tumblr is. js shit about your feelings towards other people, i understand but oh my god i wish there was more. it feels like romanticism of the mental illness that people are gifted the option of assisted su!c!de for. and thats not fucking right.

im sorry if this sounds rude or anything but it just makes me feel really alone in my illness and thats a shitty feeling to have, esp as someone who has bpd.

[loveyourlovelysoul]

This is your sign to stop for a minute and breathe. Take one big deep slow breath. Look out of the window, watch nature moving through season with calm, patience and steadiness. All is good, breathe again.

[septemberkisses]

So, pack up your car, put a hand on your heart

Say whatever you feel, be wherever you are

We ain't angry at you, love

You're the greatest thing we've lost

— You’re Gonna Go Far by Noah Kahan

[simplestudentplanning]

100 Hobbies To Try

Update: I wrote this at like 1 AM, so I was kind of half-asleep lol. A few people brought up that there were a bunch of duplicates in the list, sorry about that! I redid the whole list and ordered them alphabetically to avoid any repeating words. Hope you find the new list much more helpful!

Hobbies are a great way to practice self-care, and to have as a stress reliever. As uni students, we often find ourselves stressed out about our academic responsibilities, projects deadlines, and even financial concerns. We need some way to let out those stresses, and hobbies are one way to do it. You don't have to be good at them, you just have to enjoy doing them!

Here's a list:

Acrylic pouring

Antiquing

Archery

Astrology

Astronomy

Baking

Beekeeping

Bird watching

Bookbinding

Calligraphy

Canoeing

Candle making

Cartography

Chess

Checkers

Collecting coins

Collecting crystals

Collecting funko-pops

Cooking

Crochet

Crossword puzzles

Cycling

Dancing

Diving

DIY electronics

DIY home improvement

Drawing

Embroidery

Fencing

Filming

Fishing

Frisbee golf

Gardening

Genealogy

Geocaching

Glassblowing

Guitar

Homebrewing

Hiking

Horseback riding

Hot air ballooning

Ice skating

Inline skating

Jigsaw puzzles

Juggling

Kayaking

Kite flying

Kite surfing

Knitting

Lego building

Letterboxing

Magic tricks

Martial arts

Meditation

Metalworking

Model airplanes

Model building

Model rockets

Model trains

Mountain biking

Origami

Paper folding

Painting

Paragliding

Parkour

Piano

Photography

Podcasting

Pottery

Programming

Puzzle solving

Quilting

Rappelling

Reading

Rock climbing

Rollerblading

Running

Sailing

Sculpting

Sculpture carving

Scrapbooking

Scuba diving

Singing

Skiing

Soap carving

Soap making

Stand-up comedy

Stand-up paddleboarding

Stained glass crafting

Stargazing

Surfing

Traveling

Urban exploration

Urban farming

Virtual reality gaming

Web design

Wine making

Wine tasting

Writing

Yoga

[littlemissemotionalandvalid]

Not forgiving someone who has deeply hurt you is okay. You can’t force yourself to forgive and forget all those traumatic events that were caused by others, whether last year or twelve to thirty years ago. You can’t put a number on your feelings and your memories.

[whatbigotspost]

@ kayatoastforthesoul.sg

[Image is web comic, with 2 sections, both depicting a cute art piece of two characters, one is a human in blue shirt with light skin and black hair and the other is a big yellow blobby friendly monster of some sort. The first art panel has the human sad looking and the blob concerned. It reads “trauma says ‘people will get upset with you and you set boundaries with them.’” The second panel has the blob friend holding the human up on its shoulders and they are cheery. It reads “healing says ‘the only people who will her upset when you set boundaries are the ones benefitting from you having none.’”]

Friends, read this and then read it again.

You are not always stuck in relationship dynamics that don’t serve you. It’s ok to figure out you need new boundaries at any time.

Safe people may be confused and need a moment to adjust and understand if you shift your boundaries on them, but they will ultimately listen and respond favorably and NEVER make you feel bad about it.

If someone is upset about or unwilling to accommodate boundaries this is the definition of a red flag.

What do new and changing boundaries look like? Needing more time to your self than you’ve had. Not using certain nicknames or pet names you allowed in the past but actually hate. Saying no to sexual activities you previously consented to. Accepting someone else’s decision to go no constant with a mutual family member. Asking for advanced notice before showing up at your house. Not dropping in to visit you at work anymore. Saying “no” and it being heard, unqualified, full stop.

Literally anything.

In kind, we must accept the boundaries that others set with us. You don’t have to like that your sister doesn’t want you to talk shit her best friend around her anymore, but you need to. It’s totally ok for your partner to need time to decompress when she gets home from work before you start talking about your day to her. Your coworker’s wish to news of a required work day with advanced notice is reasonable.

Again little stuff usually…but it all drives at the big stuff. Basically just show some respect and see others as autonomous beings ❤️ I promise you, if we all committed to that, truly, we’d be set.

[the-bar-sinister]

It's always okay to make things easier for yourself.

There is no special prize in life for doing things the hard way.

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Manage & Overcome Fear

Ultimately, fear is born out of anxiety over some sort of distrust –whether it's grounded in logic, emotion, perception, past experiences, etc.

Fear arises from an unknown – any new experience, opportunity, failure, relationship, changes in habits/routines, etc. So, ultimately, this fear is your way of coping with not distrusting others to do what you expect or desire and/or not trusting yourself to be able to cope with a certain environment, habit, responsibilities, changes, interpersonal conflict, etc.

To depersonalize fear, recognize that it's an anxious/emotional response to either a reasonable or illogical unknown/uncertainty. Then, I see what my realistic options are on how to handle the situation and proceed with my following actions by answering these questions:

Looking back at this moment in a year's time, what do I wish I would've done?

What red or green flags are my anxieties discounting or telling me to overlook?

How many of my concerns are grounded in reality, and how many are based on assumptions or negative self-talk?

If a friend was handling this situation, how would I proceed?

Once you answer these questions, you're forcing yourself to take the emotions out of the situation and see all of the key players + moving parts more objectively to make a rational decision.

You have to calculate the best possible outcome for yourself, but ultimately, the goal of overcoming fear is to stop holding yourself back from what you want and live without regrets.

[study-diaries]

Reminder!

It's okay:

If you're not currently interested in studying

If you've lost interest in some thing you like/love

If you need a break

If you just need to sleep for the whole day and be lazy

If you just want to watch/binge shows and movies

If you don't feel chirpy sometimes

If you feel sad/angry/or any other emotion

If you feel stressed or pressured because of work

It's okay if you are not okay