#Disable Aces

[theacecouple]

IT IS TIME!

Disabled Ace Day, which takes place every year on Wednesday during Ace Week, is dedicated to awareness, visibility, and celebration of the intersections of Asexuality and Disability and advocates for material and social support of Disabled Aces everywhere.

Ways to celebrate

RSVP & attend the Disabled BIPOC Aces Panel

Panelists will discuss intersectional issues and speak to their own experiences within the asexual community.

This panel will be held on Zoom webinar (with captions available as an option) and will allow time near the end to take audience questions

About our host:

Justin Ancheta is a stuttering Filipino-Canadian who is working on a tarot book and a memoir-in-pieces drawing on his experience as a racialized bi+ ace person. He is @rampancy on Twitter and Instagram

About our panelists:

Charlie the Prophet is a trans (nonbinary), black American ace who has schizoaffective disorder. They are a relationship anarchist and believe strongly in the Beloved Community- a place where everyone can be seen, known, loved and encouraged to be their most authentic self. Charlie is a big music fan and just started learning guitar. They live in Atlanta, GA with their partner and two cats. To learn more about Charlie, check out their YouTube Channel

Courtney Lane is a Victorian hair artist, historian, and professional weirdo of many maladies. Also known as 1/2 of The Ace Couple and the founder of Disabled Ace Day and ACAR.

Dal Cecil Runo is a blind, mixed-heritage, asexual writer of science fiction and other genres

Johnnie Jae is an Otoe-Missouria and Choctaw journalist, artist, and activist. She is founder and editor of A Tribe Called Geek and Grim Native as well as Co-Founder of Live Indigenous OK & Not Your Mascots.

2. Attend Intersectionality, Asexuality, and Mental Health

Co-sponsored by SAIGE of Ohio and presented by Ace and Aro Alliance of Central Ohio's Mike Sauer, MA, LPC

Learn about the unique mental health needs and challenges facing the asexual community. Presentation is tailored for mental health professionals, care providers, and interested members of the ace community.

3. Play with us at Jackbox Game Night for Disabled Aces

A game night just for Disabled Aces to come together, hang out, and have fun! Aspecs of all disabilities, including invisible disabilities, are welcomed.

No group video games are perfect, but we will use as many accessibility features as are necessary and available to us including subtitles, motion sensitivity, and extended timers. Learn more about Jackbox accessibility features options here.

4. Watch Aces Playing at Attraction stream One Night Stand Ft. The Ace Couple

Twitch streamers Sharky & Satan from @acesplayingatattraction invite Courtney & Royce from The Ace Couple to stream One Night Stand by Disabled Ace game developer Lucy Blundell AKA Games by Kinmoku.

5. Listen to Episode #109 of The Ace Couple: Intersectionality, Adoption, and Mental Health ft. Asexual Goddess

We're joined by Asexual Goddess to discuss adoption, mental health, feeling like "The Token Black Asexual", and the new webcomic Trauma Episodes. We discuss racism in the foster care system, how adoption is disabling, being an asexual artist, and SO much more!

6. Join the conversation

Use #DisabledAceDay on the social media sites of your choice to share your personal stories and learn from others (please remember accessibility tools such as ALT text, CC, and transcripts when applicable!)

Enjoy <3

Psssssssssssssst! Disabled Ace Day is coming. Pass it on

[a-totally-reasonable-username]

I'm wishing a very Happy Pride Month to all the queer people who:

are disabled

are chronically ill

can't celebrate for health reasons

disability gets in the way of their gender representation

disability got in the way of a relationship

don't have anyone to celebrate with

have homophobic caretakers

Happy Pride Month to all disabled queer people

[stiffyck]

Good luck during pride month to all the aroaces who are gonna be blasted with "love is love" everywhere

Edit:

This post includes aplatonic people, loveless aros and any other people who fall anywhere on the aro and ace spectrum.

Stop saying "but theres platonic love and familial love-"

[pixl-place]

i don’t want to add to the discourse but as much as people wanna argue on here about ace Vik and all that shit it’s honestly been really nice seeing so much fanfic and smut that actually acknowledges disabled conditions and makes accommodations for them like usually disabled characters are cast aside or their disabilities are cast aside and smut is written with them completely fine or they’re just considered unfuckable and that they aren’t dating anyone or they’re labeled as ace (which is a big reason why i don’t like that headcanon for Vik personally i think the claim for the creator comes from an inherent place of homophobia and prejudice) so it’s been really cool to see so much representation and no one ignoring especially Vik’s disabilities but Jayce’s leg as well like yeah put your little gay ship in braces together and then they kiss and fuck nasty !!

[scribefindegil]

When you encounter a person who does not do something that you consider normative, you need to understand that they could be either stating a barrier or expressing a boundary. A barrier is "I would like to partake of the normative activity, but I can't due to other factors." A boundary is "I have made a decision not to participate in the normative activity."

Many people do not believe that boundaries actually exist! This is why it's so common to give a clear "No" on an issue and get inundated with people saying "But have you tried-" They can't conceptualize that anyone might actually want to avoid X thing, so they assume that you totally want to do X and you would love X so much if only they could figure out a way around whatever pesky obstacle is getting in your way. But humanity contains multitudes, and for any given experience you consider vital for happiness I promise there are people who are Just Not Interested.

If someone is stating a boundary, do NOT talk about how sad their life must be, and do NOT try to push them! Just accept that their life experience is very different from your own, and isn't that a beautiful thing?

Barriers are different. Barriers suck. With boundaries, the only problem is other people being dicks. With barriers, the problem is the barrier itself . . . and probably, additionally, people being dicks. There's really not a way to win in the people being dicks department when you don't do something that other people have decided is Necessary For Humaning.

If someone is talking about a barrier they face, still don't talk about how sad their life must be, although it's fine to commiserate with a friend if they're complaining. It's hard! Some barriers are pretty insurmountable; the person might not ever get to do X even though they want to. And a lot of people don't believe that this kind of barrier exists either; we're very much taught that you can do anything if you try hard enough, when that is simply not true. If someone tells you that they can't do something, listen to them and respect that.

The only reason for not doing X that people really acknowledge as real are the surmountable barriers. And these are real, but even in these cases you should always assume that the person knows themself best and not give advice unless they've specifically asked for it. But if they have asked, it's chill to try to brainstorm solutions with them.

As someone who has both things going on, it really sucks that people tend to assume that everything is a) a barrier issue and b) that they personally have the solution to it. Don't do this.

The only way you can tell if something is a boundary or a barrier is to listen to people and believe them.

Example:

If you offer someone a drink and they say, "No thanks . . . I haven't really found anything that I like yet," (barrier, potentially surmountable) it is probably cool to ask them if they're open to trying something new, and if they say yes ask about their tastes to try to find a drink they would enjoy! They might like it or they might not.

If you offer someone a drink and they say, "I can't, it interacts with my meds," (barrier, insurmountable) you can say, "Aw, that sucks!" and offer them something nonalcoholic.

If you offer someone a drink and they say, "I don't drink," (BOUNDARY) you should give them a mocktail and shut the fuck up.

[isabellascarlett1]

No Queer person owes you an explanation for their Queer identity.

No Plural person owes you an explanation for their Plural identity.

No Disabled person owes you their diagnosis.

[lovelessrage]

Since it is Disability Pride Month, let's talk about disabled aspecs. Aspecs who would prefer a solitary lifestyle but require caretakers. Aspecs who cannot live alone on what their benefits provide. Aspecs who, due to the ableism of society, are constantly prevented from living a single life. Aspecs who struggle with sexuality, sexual positions or libido due to disability. Aspecs who are tired with their labels being attributed to their disabilities. Aspecs who DO identify as aspec because they're disabled. Aspecs with screen readers locked out of community resources, aspecs who can't get into buildings for meetups because of inaccessible architecture. Aspecs who can't meet other aspecs in real life because of their conditions. Any aspec that can't fit the able-bodied mold and feels unseen and unsupported.

I wish you a safe and peaceful Disability Pride Month, whether you can find pride in your condition or not. Your aspec perspective and identity is valued, needed, and respected here, and I hope soon it will be respected everywhere.

[mirrorcatcreditcard]

There are some headcanons that I cannot rely on a fandom to support me or even care about with. Those ones are usually the aro and ace ones and mental disabilities that aren't well-known as the ones most spoken of.

So, to remedy this situation, I make everyone in my fics on the aro and/or ace spectrum(s) and (usually) give them a disability. Yk, as a treat. Because I know someone out there wants to see themselves in a character or sees themselves in a character and has nobody to make content about it. Yk?

[t4tmetalsonic]

in light of recent events

[hollybillie]

Uploaded my little collection of Pride sweaters on ACNH today!

Creator code: MA-9079-1228-6161

LGBTQIA+ Pride: MO-VYVL-19S7-4G7L

Disability Pride: MO-WQ6K-FVB1-T344

Trans Pride: MO-8XRM-M6D9-7DFQ

Ace Pride: MO-J6NP-JXL5-M90X

Non Binary Pride: MO-RSC8-F2TM-4W77

Pan Pride: MO-FL65-BM11-2YXQ

Bi Pride: MO-J2TL-06R3-LFG7

Lesbian Pride: MO-QX40-3Q9G-GCXN

Intersex Pride: MO-613M-P210-RV8R

Gay Pride: MO-SFGS-JC1F-DQ2Q

Aro Pride: MO-RF56-RY7R-LTW9

Poly Pride: MO-YD72-HMRP-8G5L

Genderqueer Pride: MO-923D-NFGD-Y3F3

Genderfluid Pride: MO-YF5S-2LP2-RJNC

Demi Pride: MO-65DQ-8QYB-F8RQ

Agender Pride: MO-SMK7-B7XN-PNXH

[punkeropercyjackson]

Why every alt tboy look like this or like this

[theacecouple]

TOMORROW!

October 23rd, 2024 is the 4th annual Disabled Ace Day!

Disabled Ace Day, which takes place on Wednesday during Ace Week, is dedicated to awareness, visibility, and celebration of the intersections of Asexuality and Disability and advocates for material and social support of Disabled Aces everywhere.

With a vitally important election coming up in the US, we will be talking politics tomorrow on the The Ace Couple podcast by discussing the laws that create marriage inequality in our country for Disabled people, for Asexual & Aromantic people, and for Black Americans.

Obergefell v. Hodges may have allowed for same-sex marriage at the federal level, but it does NOT mean that we have true marriage equality in this country.

We encourage Disabled Aces from around the globe to talk about your own experience, be it personal or political, to raise awareness this Ace Week.

Disabled Ace Day logo by Emmalee Larghi Dahlgren

[genderqueerdykes]

🏳️‍🌈 New additions to our shop! Severely disabled trans person stabilizing after recent bout of homelessness♿

hello, my name is equinox, i was recently homeless for 6 months. i am an intersex genderfluid trans butch lesbian. i am multiply disabled, i am autistic, schizophrenic, and bipolar, and have hypermobile eds, arthritis, fibromyalgia, degenerative disc disease, chronic fatigue and other physical health issues. i am struggling to make ends meet right now after paying a deposit and first month's rent after living in a hotel for 2 months where i was paying at minimum $1,200 - 1,400/month to live there.

my food stamps are on hold right now because the government is "receiving 400 - 500 applications per day" and it is somehow my fault for not thinking to come in in perosn to talk to them depsite the fact that they told me i am approved online. i have been starving for months. i need to eat in order to work to pay my bills. thank you for considering helping me, it goes very far

[amayaclair]

Red hair and natural dildo

Telegram: @cuyiesara

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[ace-and-the-rpg-horrors]

happy Disability Pride Month to Saki Tenma, Souma Miyata and Kanade Yoisaki <3

[nerevarbignaturals]

Disabled aros I love you. Disabled aces I love you. Disabled aroaces I love you. Disabled aroallos I love you. Disabled aceamatos I love you. Disabled people whose attraction labels are anything that's considered outside of the societal norm I love you