#Detachment

[thepeacefulgarden]

[inhereiamsafe]

I held on for too long. Hoping he’d change. Hoping he’d see my worth. But all he did was show me how little I actually meant. Years of loyalty, of love, of effort, all thrown away like it was nothing. He chose lust. He chose games. He chose everything I’m not. And I finally get it now. He was never mine to begin with.

So this is me… letting go. Not out of weakness, but strength. Because I’m done breaking my own heart just to keep someone who never cared enough not to hurt me.

God, I release it all to You. Every memory, every question, every piece of pain that’s still clinging to my chest. Guide me through this. Help me heal without needing closure. Help me forgive myself for staying too long. Help me rebuild what he tried to tear down in me.

I’m not waiting anymore. Not hoping. Not holding on. I’m walking away for good. With my head high, my heart guarded, and my peace intact. Lead me forward, Lord — to better, to healing, to me.

Amen.

[puer-luna]

[diaryofanenchantedprincess]

Let them.

Just Let them.

If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM.

If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM.

If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM.

If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM.

If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM.

If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM.

If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM.

If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM.

If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open, AND LET THEM.

Let them lose you.

You were never theirs because you were always your own.

So let them.

Let them show you who they truly are, not tell you.

Let them prove how worthy they are of your time.

Let them make the necessary steps to be a part of your life.

Let them earn your forgiveness.

Let them call you to talk about ordinary things.

Let them take you out on a Thursday.

Let them talk about anything and everything just because it’s you they are talking to.

Let them have a safe place in you.

Let them see the heart in you that didn’t harden.

Let them love you.

- Cassie Phillips

[mournfulroses]

Nikita Gill, from Your Heart is the Sea: Poems; "Detachment," originally published in 2018

[feral-ballad]

Kim Addonizio, from Lucifer at the Starlite: Poems; “You Were”

[Text ID: “longing / to be anything other than yourself.”]

[sk-lumen]

Mastering detachment is about shifting the narrative focus from other to self. Where attention goes, energy flows. That's how you reclaim your power and energy. "Am I good enough for them? Are they thinking of me? Am I too much?" should all turn into "Are they good enough for me? Do they respect my boundaries? Are they good for my wellbeing? Are they meeting my standards?"

[loawithtina]

LOA PERSPECTIVE

Do you remember when we were kids and wanted something to work—whether it was a game, the computer, the PlayStation, or a DVD? We wanted it so badly to load, to finally work, that to "make it happen," we would pretend we didn’t care. As if it didn’t matter whether it worked or not. And, silly as it sounds, somehow… it worked.

There’s a reason we did this—most of us, more than once. Without realizing it, we were using the Law of Assumption and the Law of Detachment. We believed that if we stopped paying attention to it, if we let go, it would work. And, oh, what a coincidence—it did.

It’s the exact same principle for manifesting anything in life. You may deeply desire something right now, just like you truly wanted that game to work back then. But like a child, just pretend you don’t care. Act as if you don’t even want it. That’s how you step into the state of already having it. And when you do that, you’ll witness the same magic we did as kids.

The wisdom was always within us. We’re not learning anything new—we’re simply returning to what has always been and what we have always been.

[prettieinpink]

HOW TO STOP SELF SABOTAGING + DOUBTING

MAKE YOUR GOALS/HABITS AN IDENTITY. Your lifestyle makes up who you are, quite literally. If you want to wake up early, then start identifying yourself as an early bird. If you want to get good grades, then start identifying yourself as a studious student. And so on. 

This helps with feeling more accountable and committed to our goals and habits. However, don’t use this as a reason to overexert yourself. 

THERE IS SOMETHING UNDERNEATH CERTAIN BEHAVIOURS. All of your bad habits stem from your subconscious. This is why mentally healthy people tend to think more about their physical health. 

The best way to recognise patterns beneath your bad habits is just to talk to yourself. In any way or any form. Identify it, see what might’ve caused this subconscious thought and then work towards a way to replace the feeling that these bad habits give with a good one. 

DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME. The more you fixate on the long-term results, the more longer, strenuous and exhausting your journey is going to be, especially because you’re going to want to give up as soon as results don’t appear. Focus on the short-term results. 

You exercised? Now you feel good inside. You studied hard and understood everything? Great job for being so productive. You did that one really scary thing? What a great start!

THE PART OF YOU THAT DOES BAD HABITS IS NOT BAD. It is the complete opposite of bad. It loves you and wants to keep you safe, so it refrains you from doing anything ‘scary’ (which is typically new things in our lives) and makes you fall back on ‘safe’ habits which are a coping mechanism. 

So, instead of berating that part of you that participates in bad habits even if you know it’s bad, understand it. As these coping mechanisms usually stem from our childhoods, we turn to these habits when we feel stressed, anxious or depressed. 

[thepeacefulgarden]

[classycookiexo]

[theambitiouswoman]

Detachment isn’t:

Ignoring or suppressing your emotions

Becoming cold, indifferent, or unfeeling

Cutting people off without communication

Avoiding responsibility or tough conversations

Letting go of love, care, or connection

Detachment is:

Allowing things to unfold without forcing outcomes

Releasing control over what isn’t yours to hold

Being present & engaged without attachment to results

Responding instead of reacting

Prioritizing inner peace over external validation

[yourmoonie]

CHOOSE YOUR REALITY

🍌 The Banana Example 🍌

Ever heard the saying, "Everything is neutral"?

It’s true! The reality you experience depends entirely on where you place your focus. Even something as simple as a banana can show you the power of perception.

You can choose what to believe in:

On one hand:

✨ Bananas are full of fiber, Vitamin C, and other nutrients that can boost your health.

On the other hand:

⚠️ Eating too many bananas might lead to side effects like migraines or bloating.

See how both are true? You get to decide which version of reality you pay attention to. You have that CHOICE

IMAGINATION and your perception CREATE your reality

So whether it’s a banana or something bigger in your life, you get to select the reality you wish to experience by focusing on what serves you.

This principle applies everywhere. Want to think about food differently? Even fast food, like burgers, can be viewed from a new lens. 🍔

Did you know? A burger isn't inherently unhealthy! If you break it down -> lettuce, tomatoes, beef, bread <- each ingredient has its benefits. Choose to see how these elements nourish your body rather than focusing on the ‘junk food’ label.

🥤 The idea that fast food is unhealthy is more about quantity and balance than the food itself. Moderation and mindful eating are key!

So, whether it’s about food, relationships, or your dreams, remember: you have the power to choose the reality you want to live. Shift your perspective, focus on the good, and watch how your world changes.

Choose/Select your reality wisely because your attention is your greatest power!

[feral-ballad]

from Anthology of Armenian Poetry, ed. & tr. by Diana Der Hovanessian and Marzbed Margossian; "David of Sassoun"

[Text ID: "I do not feel part of the world."]

[bread-pitt1]

Cillian Murphy presenting best actor to Adrien Brody at the Oscars !!

[nephritebabie]

but what about the pain detachment brings?