#Best Self

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For your new year glowup…

Confidence Tips ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･

• Be optimistic, positive, and grateful. Gratitude and positivity are such good traits to have, having them, and expressing them will make you happier and more confident.

•Stop comparing yourself to others! Instead of being envious of another person’s success, learn from them and their success. Comparison is the thief of joy. Focus on your strengths, learn to compete with yourself rather than other others, celebrate others’ victories, and practice gratitude.

• Good posture. It is scientifically proven that having good posture will make a person feel more powerful, calm, and confident.

•Eye contact. I don’t think I need to explain this one too much. Eye contact is extremely powerful. Practicing eye contact in conversations will help you feel more confident, simple as that.

•Speak slowly and thoughtfully. This is actually something I am currently working on. Be mindful of what you are saying, and speak calmly. Don’t worry about needing to rush and spit out your words.

•Embrace and accept yourself. Many people think confidence is about changing everything about yourself until you finally like yourself. NO. Confidence is about loving and trusting yourself, realizing that you are enough.

Practice self love!!! Drink some water!!! Compliment yourself!!!

[aethersjournal]

IT GIRLS SET GOALS

🎀 Analysis

Goals are an important part of our lives. They help us achieve our purpose, fulfill our dreams and at the very basic level, they help us to take control of our lives.

I want you to analyse your day. How did you spend it? Did you have any tasks set for today? Is what you are doing right now going to help you become your highest self? Is it improving your life in any manner?

If the answer to the above questions is no, then I want you to reflect on it. Here, by goals I don’t just mean your academic/career goals but also your side hustles, hobbies etc.

🎀 Intentions

It is time to be intentional. Don’t just let life pass you by. Be an active participant in life. Make decisions about what you want to do and how you are going to do it. Ask yourself what matters to you. Focus on the things that are important to you whether it is a hobby, a person you like spending time with, skills you wish to learn.

Be intentional with how you spend time. Do not spend time only consuming content, but create something as well. Connect to the creative side of yourself. It doesn't matter what you create but generate ideas and challenge yourself.

🎀 Be curious

Revive the curiosity within yourself. What do you want to learn? What are you passionate about?

It girls are interesting people, and people who are interesting have different skills and passions.

This is not to say that you have to force yourself to do something if you don't enjoy it, but it is to make you question what it is that you do enjoy.

🎀 Don't be afraid to dream big

Dream big. Manifest it. Do not let people project their limiting beliefs onto you.

There are no limits. If you want it, you can have it.

All in all, you want to be purposeful in your life and with your time.

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[agirlwithglam]

You need to stop waiting for a certain time or age or location to be the best version of you. Become her NOW!

no matter what situation you're in, your future self would be able to adapt and thrive in any situation right? so ask yourself:

what would the highest version of myself do?

[dreeaams]

If you are struggling with manifestation and how it truly works, go watch this video. This is a GAME CHANGER!

She puts emphasis on this, what ever you truly believe to be true is completely true no matter what (that is with every single thoughts ever).

Here are many commus example:

Subliminals truly works if you believe that it works and vice versa

Tarot card reading truly work and can even take power over you if you believe it can take power over. But if you believe that it doesn’t do shit then it doesn’t do shit.

If you don’t have it you’ll have better! Babe please. This is not fucking true if you want this SP then believe that no matter fucking what, you have him. Please acknowledge that whenever you say things like that it becomes true.

She is also saying that your emotion (energy in motion) is a manifestation, NOT THE CAUSE OF A MANIFESTATION. This one really opened my eyes so when you feel a certain type of way, I say to myself this feeling/ emotion is a manifestation from a thought that I was thinking in the past, so you can dismiss because I chose to believe something that I want to believe. And POUFFF that negative feeling gets the fuck away.

Your inner dialogue same things as your thoughts are the ONE AND ONLY REASON WHY YOU ARE WHERE YOU ARE.

LET ME REPEAT YOUR THOUGHTS, YOU INNER DIALOGUES ARE THE ONE AND ONLY REASON WHY YOU ARE WHERE YOU ARE!!!!!

Stop listening to others that are not telling you this main belief please.

Anyways love each one of you take care beautiful princesses🎀

[princesssascha]

[wandoffire]

[lucozaynkisses]

How to feel more feminine 🎀🩰🫶🏼

For the longest time I’ve been trying to find ways to feel and look more feminine and I’ve found some things that really helped me achieve this so here are my tips. I want to remind y’all that you DO NOT have to be feminine. This is what I personally want to give off but please never feel pressured to be more feminine this is for anyone of any gender and sexuality to feel more feminine ONLY if that is what they want. I love u and u are beautiful regardless.

Doing my nails

Going to bed in cute clothes

Keeping my room clean

Candles

Wearing one necklace at a time instead of a bunch at once

New makeup look to make my eyes pop

Thinning my eyebrows

This does not apply to everyone but I found that hoop earrings (specifically big ones) don’t match me and made me look less feminine for some reason

Lip combos

I have big brown eyes and I had blonde and light shades of brown hair for a while which made my eyes less noticeable, going back to dark brown made my eyes pop SO much more again

Sweet perfumes

Lip gloss or a lipstick with some shimmer is something else

Lotion (even though I barely put on lotion)

Buying more bags and carrying one with me always

Looking at least somewhat put together regardless of where I’m going

Looking cute at home

I always say this for everything but jewelry especially gold or a mix of silver and gold (if u do it right)

Long boots make me feel like the baddest baddie ever

So random but keeping a cute makeup bag in my bags make me feel so girl 🩰

That’s it for now babes

Feel free to message me with things you need tips on and I’ll make posts abt it if I can I love making these posts so much

Love u 🫶🏼

Xo, Ary 💋

[becomingher-era]

Delayed gratification ♥

Have you ever worked so hard at something and not seeing results. Have you posted for years on social media and still no results? Have you been working for months on your splits and still not achieved them?

You know what I realized? It's not about how long you've been doing the thing but about how often you've been doing it.

Just because you've been working on your splits for over a year doesn't mean you've been consistent. Let's be honest, how many months off have you taken, how many weeks have decided to skip your stretching sessions?

Sometimes, we need to take a step back and think: Have we really put in as much work as we think we have?

For me, for example, I know I have been very inconsistent with my splits stretching. I also know I've been inconsistent with my posting on instagram. Even though, I did improve, me missing days is the reason why I haven't seen decent results.

So, I'm writing this to inspire anyone who have been unmotivated to take a deep look at the goals you've been trying to achieve... have you really put in the work?

[feminineenergylife]

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Strategies I use to…

Reconnect with myself˚◞♡ ⃗ *ೃ༄

Hiiii, here is a list of some things I do in order to reconnect with myself!

When I feel down, overwhelmed, mindless, or just not like my usual self, these activities are my saviours.

• Physical activity!!! - You know I had to put this one first, girl. Strength training, stretching, swimming, running, walking, dancing, playing sports, etc. Physical activity makes me feel amazing and gives me a total confidence boost, I’m just in my element.

• Meditation - Deep breathing, relaxing music, clear mind, I love it! I feel a deep sense of connection with myself and the universe when meditating. It’s also just a great reset if you’re in a negative mood, I feel totally cleansed afterwards.

• Pampering!!! - face massage, gua sha, long hot bath/shower, full body massage, cute treat/drink, ice roller, positive affirmations, comfy clothes, favourite movie, and so on.

• Get creative - Getting creative is a good way to express and connect with yourself. Doing something artsy always reminds me of when I was a kid, and writing is a great outlet for my creativity.

Drawing, writing, sculpting, painting, colouring, knitting, crocheting, etc.

• Journaling - I love journaling so much. It’s a good way to check-in with yourself, learn about yourself, and release your emotions. I feel a lot more in tune with myself afterwards.

I’ll write about : Things I am grateful for, my dreams and desires, goals I’m working towards, my favourite things about myself, my feelings, etc.

• Expressing myself - Often, the reason for me feeling disconnected with myself is because I’ve hidden or ignored my true feelings/thoughts/self. I mean obviously masking yourself makes you feel disconnected with yourself…

My strategy is to openly express myself confidently. I share my feelings and opinions, and I don’t try to hide who I am. I don’t care what people think of me, I will never be ashamed or embarrassed of my authentic self.

[aethersjournal]

The It Girl Weekend Guide

🎀 Self Care

While you should always be caring and loving to yourself, weekends are the perfect opportunity to go an extra mile.

Start your day with meditation or maybe a small dancing session. Even on working saturdays that can feel like a drag, doing something fun can set the right tune for your day.

Clean up your space and room and put on a face mask. Try out a homemade face mask recipe (here's mine). While we might have busy lives, it is important to rest and regenerate to avoid burnouts.

Another important thing to remember is that self care is more than just taking care of your physical environment. It also includes taking care of your mental health. Journaling is an excellent tool to become aware of and to work through your emotions and thoughts.

🎀 Setting Goals

If you want to have a good and productive weekend, first you have to set goals. By goals here I not only mean your work/school/uni goals but also things you want to do. This could be going out with your friends, or visiting some place you want to, maybe a show you want to catch up on, a hobby you want to indulge in etc.

While work is important, so are the things you want to do. Time passes so quickly, so it is important to live your life to the fullest. By saying this in no way am I implying to neglect your responsibilities, as they are always high on your priorities but to also focus on your desires, dreams, the people you love and the things you enjoy.

🎀 Romanticize

I know you have probably heard this one about a thousand times, but it is important to realise and see the magic in the small and ordinary moments in your life.

Live in the present moment. Do not miss out on the things you appreciate in your life and the things that are right in front of you.

🎀 Recharge and Reorganize

While it is important to stay on track with your goals, it is also completely okay if you have times where all you want to do is nothing.

As the weekend is coming to an end, as in the dreaded Sunday evening, plan your week and prepare the required items for Monday morning.

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࣪𓏲ּ ᥫ᭡ ₊ ⊹ ˑ ִ ֶ 𓂃࣪𓏲ּ ᥫ᭡ ₊ ⊹ ˑ ִ ֶ 𓂃࣪𓏲ּ ᥫ᭡ ₊ ⊹ ˑ ִ ֶ 𓂃࣪𓏲ּ ᥫ᭡ ₊

Remember, not every day has to be good, and that's not going to ruin your life.

࣪𓏲ּ ᥫ᭡ ₊ ⊹ ˑ ִ ֶ 𓂃࣪𓏲ּ ᥫ᭡ ₊ ⊹ ˑ ִ ֶ 𓂃࣪𓏲ּ ᥫ᭡ ₊ ⊹ ˑ ִ ֶ 𓂃࣪𓏲ּ ᥫ᭡ ₊

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my plan to quit smoking

i’m a smoker for 3 years, a pack per day, and i got fucking tired of my addiction and everything bad it brought me. this is what i’ll do to successfully quit

this is my personal plan prepared by me with the help of my psychiatrist + ex-smokers i know irl. this is not a medical advice.

⟢ quitting cold turkey brings me more harm than goods. i’m stick with nicotine gums

i already quit once with Nicorette gums. it took me 2,5 weeks to finally be 100% nicotine free and i managed to keep it for 48 days. unfortunately i was pretty mentally unstable at the time and relapsed. now that i’m stable and with a great supporting group, i’ll be able to manage it better.

no more than 6 gums of 4mg per day;

every two days, decrease by one gum until reaching zero.

⟢ i increased my med dose to help with mood swings and depression

since i suffer from crippling depression and suicidal ideation in abstinence because of my bipolar disorder, my psychiatrist told me to increase one of my meds’ dose by half of my current dose to help me.

disclaimer: this is just during the time of abstinence. i have regular psychiatric follow-ups. it’s not recommended to adjust your medication without consulting your doctor first. don’t make reckless decisions on your own.

⟢ if craving makes me dysfunctional, i’ll smoke kumbaya

kumbaya is a nicotine-free smoking blend made from herbs like chamomile, mint, clove etc. since i used to smoke a pack per day (i was consuming about 40mg of nicotine per day), i know i’ll suffer a lot from cravings and abstinence, so i already bought some Lemonblend kumbayas.

⟢ exercise everyday

most ex-smokers i know irl became runners or gymrats after quitting. they switched their main source of dopamine from nicotine to something healthy and this is exactly what i’m gonna do. i already exercise everyday at gym, but if abstinence demands, i’ll start running or doing more exercises at home too.

⟢ i’ll keep something on my mouth

i dislike Freud, but he was right about oral fixation. sometimes i don’t smoke because i need nicotine, i just need some emotional comfort by putting something on my mouth. since a lot of ex-smokers gain weight because they switch their smoking compulsion to eating compulsion, i’ll stick with sugar-free gums/lollipops, toothpicks and drinking water.

⟢ i’ll be mindful about my smoking habit

do i really want to smoke or i’m just bored? then i’ll do something to keep myself busy. do i really want to smoke or i’m just hungry? then i’ll eat something nourishing or drink water. do i really want to smoke or i’m just stressed/sad? then i’ll do something to boost my happiness or keep me calm.