#> about desirdae

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> I am neurodivergent & disabled, 06/18 & genderqueer, Finnish entity, transspecies, alterhuman & holothere.

> Call me mainly Koiri or Ashlin on this blog, or Kalma.

> I don't have a DNI for my terms and flags, but I do block folks that are specified in my BYF if following. :)

> please use tone tags with me, it makes it easier for me to interpret y'all when it comes to answering questions and interactions in general. I have a tendency to interpret the tone wrong in text. Also please don't use fonts or colored text in the asks, thanks.

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— "The world didn't go too easy on you, did it, Kalma?"

BYF

- I belong into quite a few blankqueer/-punk stances in some way; reclaimed feralqueer, hallowpunk, redemptionqueer, darlingqueer, yandequeer, (ally) rabiespride, eepyqueer, para-health, Beastpunk, mangledqueer, Sataniqueer & freakqueer.

None of these labels will override *my* stances that I've laid in my BYF. Beware of this. (Also I'm going to get all the links in a bit lol.)

I am anti harassment, pro-para - anti-contact (+ a para myself) & pro- safe recovery, anti-censorship & I'm peacefic. I'm pro good-faith / contradicting terminology, I believe everyone has a unique sense of self and should be able to use the terms and call themselves what they want to reflect themselves. I stand with the 4B, land-back, black lives matter movements, and pro decolonization.

My political view is anarcho-leftist, however I do not go into that side much since this is a hobby blog.

I am not interested in ship- or syscourse and I find radical pros and antis extremely harmful from both discourses. Do not include me in them. (Besides I'm singlet thus I don't think someone calling themselves endo or supporting or not supporting them is something I should be "included in" on or concerned by. Pro & anti endos alike can interact if they want, just know where I stand and don't break your own DNI for the sake of it.)

Also, those who cannot separate fiction from reality or glorify and romanticize real-life murderers, S/A, mafias, criminals, and so on, you're not even on the thin ice if you follow me you will be blocked.

I do not fuck with (read: i am a heavy anti of) wrongfully used harmful transid folks, rad./queers, xeno.satanists. white supremacists, nationalists, facists, or racists & ableist at all. (Neo) Na.zis and supporters/apologists, pro-colonialists and -capitalists, pro-cop / blue lives matter / all lives matter believers. Neither do I fuck with those who glorify, romantize, or demonize (or speak over folks with) mental illnesses, personality disorders or disabilities.

Also label lumpers and exclusionists (""bi-spec"", aros to aces, aphobics, transphobic, multitransphobic, intersexists, etc), queer-phobic/anti-LGBTQIA+ folk. SW-/TERFs, Radfems, misogynist & misandrist alike; sexists in general. + folks who suibait, witch-hunt, and harass others or condone/support it.

—"you look like an animal, a cornered hound baring its teeth in front of certain death..."

Themed after a CoD oc named Kalma.

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Questions are always welcome, but please bear in mind that if the question is asked in noticeably bad Faith it will not be answered unless I feel the need to answer it because it's important.

[desirtips]

Not to be that guy but actually I'm fully being that guy. We canNOT start the desirdae community off with people normalizing stealing slurs. You canNOT say mutt unless you are mixed race. You canNOT use a term with the word mutt in it unless you are mixed race. "Transfaggot" and other slur terms of the sort were part of the problem with transids. We aren't bringing that shit here

-Toby

[buntress]

No actually it's against transitioning! Dissomei was created as a thing of "i feel like i should have this thing but bc i dont. it causes a dissconnect between my body and myself" while desirdae is meant as a "for whatever reason, i have an intense desire to be/do XYZ" and is specifically against transitioning when it comes to more harmful things such as desirharm/desirharmed/desirethnicity or anything like that. This has been said by the coiner of desirdae, is heavily pushed in every desirdae community, and not once have I seen transitioning being suggested by anyone so far. /info

I fully understand the worry, trust me. But as someone who does fit under things like desirharmed, but who is actively trying to heal and get better, having words to explain my experience and a community that lets me know I'm not alone while discouraging my wishes to act on these desires is immensly helpful. TransID's were awful bc they actively encourage people to transition in incredibly harmful ways, basically encouraging self harm, while desirdae is simply "I get it, you're not alone, don't do that."

tl;dr no they are NOT pro transitioning whatsoever and this has been said by the coiner themself, archivist blogs, coiners, and users alike p explicitly for the most part.

As an additional sidenote, because while im unsure you mean this its an impression im getting from many people against desirdae: I don't think I want to have to say "hey dont do something harmful" whenever I talk about stuff like this to describe my mental health? To me that just feeds into more issues like my mental health somehow making me inherently dangerous. So when I talk casually about my desirdae experience, I don't want to have to clarify "im not in danger or a danger to others" everytime. On a coining post, yes of course, but the idea of having to constantly clarify my mental illness doesnt make me dangerous to myself or others sounds like actual hell tbh.

this is all /nm and /info, I hope it helps :3

desirdaes entire concept is being a transitioning counterpart to dissomei, yes? while also being antirq, yet we accept the labels of desirharm[ed/ful] , which kind of defeats the whole purpose, it's become transIDs reskinned, and frankly i feel like this is reflecting the anti community overall, i feel like the communities just reskinned it and used the " but were not pro-xyz" while the labels mean almost the same thing, with the only difference really being the name and a very thinly veiled "transition without harm" which after a certain point isn't possible, and yet we let and accept the ones like harmed/harmful thrive, when there is no way to transition to them with out harm. there is a point where the community recreated the transIDs. The way we've did it [in my opinion] is honestly worse, as it ignores itself, desirharm[ed/ful] are such contradictions, but are defended because of its prefix when its simply the same thing, there are many harmful labels we've created and we excuse it with the simple idea that it is different because we coined it.

[nichelink]

nichelink: a newly coined niche relationship/relationship dynamic that differs from social norms, but is consensual and aware of potential risks.

differ from the norm: this is flexible and vague on purpose. see the ‘examples’ section.

probably niche: niche, probably not many people will identify as this, it’s just now been invented and posted on tumblr dot com, but it’s still a valid want and identity label.

aware of potential risks: this is inspired by the kink phrase Risk-aware consensual kink or risk-accepted consensual kink (RACK), and it means that everyone in the relationship is silently nodding and acknowledging there might be risks. you don’t have to prove yourself to others on this, don’t feel expected to tell everyone your personal business on how you’re managing this risk, because it’s not their relationship…

consensual: this is inspired by the kink phrase Consensual non-consent. basically it means that everyone in the relationship agreed to have the relationship play out a certain way, and the relationship may play out (maybe in a sort of roleplay-like fashion) like it’s non consensual, but everyone in the relationship is both expecting this to happen and still has the ultimate say on if things need to 100% stop or if it’s time for them to leave the relationship.

newly coined: i want to make it clear that existing relationship dynamics shouldn’t be shoved into this label because that feels disrespectful to those existing words, so essentially this means that existing words for it didn’t 100% describe this dynamic, so you can’t just say xyz thing is actually this term. (however, if you find one of these describes something you've already been doing for years, it's perfectly fine to start identifying with this of course.)

examples:

relationship where one person is treated as if they are an object owned by the other/s in the relationship

relationship where one person is treated as if they are a deity, and the other/s in the relationship are their followers

relationship where one person is treated as if they are a pet owned by the other/s in the relationship

relationship where one person is treated as if they are a child adopted by the other/s in the relationship

relationship where one person is transforming the other/s in the relationship into something

labels under this umbrella have a Ratings System.

All-Ages: a label that is suitable for all ages.

16+: a label that would be best if it was only used by people 16 years or older (bodily). this doesn’t mean that it’s NSFW or something, but should be used when the term has something pretty intense or serious about it which probably shouldn’t be practiced with younger people. all terms under this umbrella that involve identity modification or training are inherently 16+.

18+: a label that is inherently not suitable for people under 18 years (bodily).

grammar:

nichelinking: the state of being in this kind of relationship with someone else. “we’re nichelinking,” “we might start nichelinking”

nichelink: 1) the specific terms themself. “i coined a nichelink,” “definition: an all-ages nichelink where you…” 2) the relationship itself. “our nichelink,” “his last nichelink”

nichelinker: someone who participates in nichelinking.

there is currently no word for having a nichelink-related crush on someone, suggestions welcome.

inspirations

neurowiry

relationship anarchy

roleplay

found family tropes

desirdae

dissomei

my own personal experience of becoming someone’s “dad” - i made a friend in high school who i came out as transgender too, and then as a joke based on how people in the undertale fandom called toriel “mom,” we began referring to me as my friend’s “dad.” this joke stuck and then started genuinely being a serious part of our friendship. reflecting on this made me realize that there’s actually lots of relationships in life that’re similar, where you refer to each other as something unusual and it feels like it changes the entire status of your friendship. i liked the idea of making a word someone can use for this kind of friendship/relationship if they wanted.

i did a lot of writing about what this term means and can be used for and it ended up being long so you can read it on this page. (updated 1/10) here are some of the faq questions (but not all, so please read that page):

is this a k*nk thing?

no, it’s not intended to be. there are plenty of nichelink terms usable by anyone at any age. however if you’re an adult and you find a term appealing and start to use it because of k*nk things, more power to you, go right ahead.

is this anti r*dqueer?

i don’t find it makes sense to say that something that isn’t a stance term/blankqueer term is anti this or pro that. but this term was inspired by r*dqueer “consensual abuse” relationships, and i did start working on this because i saw that there were a lot of people who craved a specific relationship dynamic or way of being treated who felt like they couldn’t get that outside of the r*dqueer community, so i wanted to make a risk-aware and safer alternative that is not attached to a harmful community known for abuse, transphobia, racism, etc.

if you crave being treated a certain way, yes even in a “harmed” way, this term is welcome to you.

can i coin my own?

not yet. i’m still working out the kinks (🥁✨) on definitions and guidelines. i also have a big list of terms i’d like to coin for it. you can send me a request at least.

can i post this term on…

wiki/term definition sites: yes, and you don't have to ask, but i would like to be informed.

pinterest/other social medias: no, never, i'm not comfortable with someone else posting my term for me.

tags: @antiradqueerguy | @radiomogai | @the-silent-fellowship | @harmlesspersonalidentityarchive | @beyond-mogai-pride-flags | @desirdae-archive | @dissodic-archive | @kiruliom | @anti-rq-gumi | @antiradqueerguy | @neopronouns // ask to be untagged

general flag for all All-Ages nichelinks:

general flag for all 16+ rated nichelinks:

[buntress]

⌖ What Is Non-Harmful Transitioning?

[PT :: What is non-harmful transitioning?]

As the term Desirdae has become more popular, a thing I have noticed is people not understanding what "non-harmful transitioning" means. Which is quite fair! It's a very, very vague term that can be used in a multitude of ways. So, in order to curb this slightly, I feel it necessary to elaborate on what, to me at least, non-harmful transitioning entails. If the original coiner, @ghosting-plural-userboxes or @desirdae-archive would like to add anything I would love that! Ty for making this term btw, it's been genuinely so helpful <3

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⌖ What is harmful transitioning?

[PT :: What is harmful transitioning]

I think in order to get into what non-harmful transitioning is, we should first get into what qualifies as harmful transitioning. So, to me, harmful transitioning is as follows ::

Transitioning by using methods of self harm, such as cutting, burning, bleaching ones skin, etc.

Transitioning by harming others, whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually // metaphysically.

Transitioning by putting yourself in traumatic situations, such as putting oneself in a situation to be groomed, assaulted, physically or emotionally harmed, etc.

Transitioning to have a disorder // disability one does not have, such as harming oneself in order to acquire a physical disability or enacting stereotypical behaviors to "act" as if they have a certain mental illness or disability.

Transitioning in a way that harms minorities of all kinds. Such as using blackface, yellowface, asianfishing, etc in order to "transition" towards different POC identities.

Transitioning to hateful and bigoted ideologiess that harm others.

Simply put, transitioning in a way that actively harms yourself or others is harmful transitioning.

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⌖ So, what is non-harmful transitioning?

[PT :: So, what is non-harmful transitioning?]

Having gotten some basics of what counts as harmful transitioning out of the way, let's get onto examples of non-harmful transitioning!

Dyeing ones hair as a form of transition.

Partaking in more foods of a specific culture in order to feel more comfortable, while acknowledging one is not part of that culture (this enters a grey area with headmates, as not everything is black and white)

Accepting ones disabled traits, that they already have, and learning that no matter how they experience it, it is enough.

Learning more about cultures in order to feel more comfortable with yourself, while still acknowledging you are not a part of that culture. (Again, gets muddy when it comes to headmates)

Getting piercings, body modifications, etc done by professionals as a form of transition.

Starting HRT or other forms of medical transitioning.

Getting cosmetic surgeries (nothing that would change the appearance of your own race, of course) done by professionals as a form of transition.

And likely many other ways to do it that aren't harmful! There are really, truly, so many ways to go about this that aren't harmful I promise you. I can think of an infinite number of ways to do this stuff non-harmfully.

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⌖ What makes Desirdae different from TransID?

[PT :: What makes Desirdae different from TransID?]

Simply the means of which one may transition. Desirdae is firmly anti-harmful transitioning for any reason while TransID is pro all forms of transition, harmful or not. You can see this in terms like transnazi, transrace, transplural, and many transharmful identities that it is often encouraged to transition into these things, despite the harm such things do. Desirdae, on the other hand, actively discourages harmful transitioning. So while things like Desirharmful, Desirskintone, etc do exist it is actively said by the creators that one should not harmfully transition into these terms. I will say, many do not make it clear that for some terms there is no way to non-harmfully transition*. But I chock this up to people being, rightfully, tired of constantly having to explain their experience with this term isn't inherently harmful. But it is still an issue I believe should be fixed when possible. * [PT :: there is no way to non-harmfully transition]

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I understand the worries many have towards Desirdae. We do not want just another TransID clone to take over and create yet another space full of radqueers who push for things like legalization of non-consensual relationships or what have you. That is a fair worry to have, and it was a worry I initially had as well. But in exploring these terms and the community that they have fostered, I have found that this is quite the opposite. It is a community based purely on consent, recovery, and a safe space for people to speak on their issues where as radqueer and transID often push anti-recovery and anti-consent rhetoric. This is the key difference between these two terms, I believe. One feeds into harmful behaviors and seemingly pushes people to the worst versions of themselves while the other is more of a "hey, I understand these feelings, I feel this way too, it's not OK but we can recover together."

If I missed anything, am incorrect about something, or if one has questions I myself am more than happy to answer. While this is not a term and community I created, it is one I am happy to be a part of and want to grow into something helpful.

Thank you for reading, I hope you all have a lovely day. Remember to be kind, anger towards fellow mentally ill queers does nothing but push the agenda of the oppressors <3

[alterpathy]

Alterpathy: The practice of identifying, categorizing, and identifying with fictional and imagined illnesses due to a disconnect between your external and internal understanding of yourself - while also not intending to appropriate, romanticize, or cause harm to a minority group.

this is going to be a really long post because i want to cover all the basics. future coinings will not be nearly as long.

identifying, categorizing, and identifying with: making flags, coining terms, and posting about your experience. alterpathic conditions can also be divided into a couple of categories, which are detailed later in the post.

disconnect between your external and internal understanding of yourself: for some reason, even though you're aware that this isn't how conditions that affect the body work, you experience a reoccurring condition that is serious to you. this can be because of atypical dysphoria, delusions, alternate beliefs, delusions, or anything else similar.

appropriation, romanticism, causing harm: this doesn't mean that actions you take are automatically excused of harm, but it's a silent agreement and nodding between yourself and others that you're not trying to come from a place of ableism/bigotry.

ignoring/excusing bigotry: examples of ignoring/excusing bigotry would be implying that someone can "coin" a real mental illness/other condition in the same way you can coin a gender, implying you can "transition" into a congenital condition with subliminal videos or otherwise, and anything else that goes against science's understanding of illness and neurodivergence. there's nuance to this, of course, because the psychology field isn't an absolutely perfect field that can do no wrong - it's up to the person coining/the person identifying to look at the situation and act accordingly.

examples of situations that might bring you to identify this way:

being a fictive/kin/introject/etc of a character who had a disease or type of injury that was invented for their media, like zombie diseases, cyberbrain cclerosis, the cutie pox, hanahaki disease, etc, and feeling affected by it in any way

experiencing something in your system's headspace that's like a reoccurring illness

having limbs like wings, tails, horns, etc in your headspace with some kind of damage to them that causes you phantom discomfort

feeling anxiety/frustration because you're experiencing something on a metaphysical level which you know your physical body isn't experiencing, but it's still very serious to you and possibly even hurting your quality of life

grammar:

alterpathy: 1) the practice of naming/making flags/categorizing these, "here's my mogai blog and here's my alterpathy blog"; 2) this kind of condition. "my depression and my alterpathy make it hard for me," "i might have an alterpathy but i'm not sure"

alterpathic: descriptor that describes these conditions. "it's alterpathic," "how to cope with alterpathic..."

inspiration and some context on why we're coining this

this was largely inspired by the r*dqueer term of x*nomalady, because after the system looked into it, we did see a lot of cases of people who were genuinely experiencing something serious, but didn't seem to think that there was any space other than the rqc that would be accepting of someone identifying with a disease that technically didn't exist. these cases were mixed in with genuinely ableist people who displayed the behaviors i listed above in "ignoring/excusing bigotry," which feels wrong to me, and i think that people who aren't intending to harm anyone deserve their own terminology and space.

crossover

there is some crossover with dissodic, desirdae, intusui, ethix +etc good faith terms related to feeling like you have, internally have, desire, or identify with something you technically don't, and i think that's fine. you can identify with an alterpathic term and the equivalent of it in another term umbrella, that's fine. do whatever fits best to describe your experiences.

so, is this just x*nomalady but Good?

not exactly, i don't want this to be thought of as a 1-to-1 anti rq equivalent, because again, some x*nomalady people are just coining """disorders""" for fun because they think you can do that in the same way you would a gender. this is both an identity/experience, and a silent agreement to be critical of what you're putting out into the world. this is also not focused on "coining" new conditions unless that's really necessary. (not necessary = making up a new illness for funsies. necessary = putting a name to a reoccuring condition you've been experiencing in headspace, etc.)

in the same way that terms like dissomei and intusui aren't 1-to-1 tr*nsid but Good and are separate term umbrellas that have their own nuances and notes, this is a good-faith alternative for people genuinely experiencing this kind of thing.

can i coin my own?

yes, this is open to everyone to coin! though, i will be posting a couple of flags for some alterpathic things in a couple of days, so you might want to wait until those come out so you can see how i format the post.

TDLR: considering yourself to have a condition that's not possible in reality because of some internal identity, but not in a fashion where you ignore/excuse bigotry.

can i post this term on…

wiki/term definition sites: yes, and you don't have to ask, but i would like to be informed.

pinterest/other social medias: no, never, i'm not comfortable with someone else posting my term for me.

subtypes:

when a different self began working on this, he set out two subtypes of alterpathic condition. unlike something like the age ratings in nichelink, these are absolutely optional, and you don't have to include these in your term definition if you don't want to/don't find it useful. but i think that if you're like me and like lots of details, these could be appealing, so i will include what he wrote:

Fiction-based. This is aimed at conditions that are established some way in a work of fiction/media, such as:Hanahaki Disease Slender Sickness Radiation Sickness (as seen in the Fallout series, not the IRL version) Environment-Based. Specific conditions that you can recognize are happening because of things already in your environment, like trauma, alterhuman labels, existing neurodivergent symptoms and so on. As an example, I'll mention the specific thing one of the alters in my system has that inspired me to make this subtype. He is a fictive of an angel character, but from my perspective it is vary obvious that his wings don't work and cause him muscle cramps in our headspace as a metaphor for an injury we had when were a child that gave us severe muscle cramps and required extremely painful and traumatizing physical therapy. That's something that was in our environment, so I'd call it environment-based. Subtypes are an optional category though, and you might not be able to decide/understand if yours fits into one or both, and that's fine. Also, I acknowledge that just two subtypes might not be enough to cover all the bases, and also there are probably tons of conditions that fall into both or inbetween, and that's fine. I want to "cross that bridge as we come to it", and let people who identify with this tell me their thoughts about what other words need to be coined.

flag inspiration rambles

this flag went through a lot of design phases. it was originally much more inspired by the general disability flag, because we imagined that most of the appeal would be to people who are actually disabled (mentally ill people, etc). the final flag became more inspired by existing terms for people who experience a disconnect between themself and their conditions. i saw many examples of shades of purple and pink, scalloped stripes/rounded shapes, and specifically these flags were the biggest inspirations:

dissocogni and dissophysi by @/acetrappolaswife (deactivated)

desirsick/desirill by @shrubmogai

other stuff

tags: @antiradqueerguy | @radiomogai | @archive-of-form | @everythingarchive | @mad-pride maybe? | @plurality-faq | @anti-rq-gumi | @doomsd8ydevice // ask to be untagged

"would (thing) fit this?" ask, there's tons of room for discussion and nuance.

this post was written mostly by nichie.

flag template:

hanahaki disease example:

nonfunctional angel wings example:

[corporatecoinings]

DRAGONQUEER/DRAGONPUNK

Emojicode : 🐲🌈🔥/ 🐉🌈🔥

LINK TO THE OFFICIAL DRAGONQUEER/DRAGONPUNK CARRD

A new label! Dragonqueer/dragonpunk (either name works, same thing!) is a queer stance about not being afraid to show how prideful you are about yourself, not being afraid to show yourself, or at least have a desire to want to express how you TRULY are and give the bird to the societal norm standards and those that hate you, existing to spite them; dragonqueer/dragonpunk beings can still live in caves (be closeted) too, however. A major aspect to dragonqueer/dragonpunk is also hoarding a shit ton of labels that describe yourself! Dragons love their hoards :) 

Due to history of dragons, they are seen as either evil and terrifying or benevolent and kind. Dragonqueer/dragonpunk aims to be both; be punk, be scary, be yourself, be unforgiving for who you are while also being a kind-hearted and loving being. There are dragons of all kind; western, easter, wyverns, wyrms, hydras, and so there is too in queer communities. Whichever kind of dragon you are is completely up to you, and you alone; you decide who you are. 

Dragonqueer/dragonpunk supports/believes…

LGBTQ+, MOGAI, LIOM, etc.

Xenogenders, neopronouns, etc.

Neoagabs/xenoagabs

Good-faith labels

Systems of all origins

Arissomei, desirdae, chronosians, aldernic, aldersex, allions, vesil, vior, xenonatured, eiment, etc.

Otherkin, therians, non-humans, alterhumans, etc.

Neurodivergent, mentally ill, disabled beings

Beings with munchausen's syndrome, factitious disorders, etc.

Hypersexuals 

Gender hoarders / gender collectors 

Multigender / polygender / etc.

Safe and anti-contact paraphiles (not acting on illegal shit??? This should make sense.. If its harmful. Dont act on it.)

Microlabels

Atypical dysphoria

PLUR

M-spec lesboys, turigirls, etc.

Contradictory labels

Systemarchy 

Pluralpunk/systempunk

Furries

Age/pet regressors

MAD pride

Reclaiming labels you can reclaim (queer, dyke, fag, freak, etc.)

Anti-psychiatry

Being endogenic/willogenic is not the same thing as being “transplural”

Educated self-diagnosis

Fiction affects reality

You can be trans without dysphoria

You can be a system without trauma

OC x canon is epic as long as its legal

Objectum and robosexuals

Supporting ex-cops, ex-gov, ex-military, ex-radqueers, ex-transids, etc. that have left their community and wish to recover

Abortion rights, womens rights, animal rights, etc.

Atheism

Kink at pride (when there are no bodily minors)

BDSM (as long as everyone consents and there are no bodily minors)

recovering/ex-religious beings

Consentual recovery for those that want it 

Supporting victims 

Dragonqueer/dragonpunk does NOT support/believe...

Harmful and pro-contact / neu-contact zoophiles, pedophiles, necrophiles, etc. (yet again if its harmful dont fucking do it)

Minors in nsfw communities, minors in kink, or having public kink where minors are around

That “all men should die” or “all women should die”

Harassing innocent cishets

Active radqueers and transids/transx

Terf, radfem, transmed, sysmed, etc. views

Harmful religion

Demonizing or stigmatizing disorders

Singlets in syscourse

“Superstraight”

Heavy political views, such as conservative and liberal

Proshippers, comshippers, darkshippers, etc. (how hard is it to say no illegal, abusive, etc. ships holy shit)

Lolicons and shotas

Racism or prejudice of ANY kind

Ableism

Forced recovery

Mental asylums

Exclusionists

Bigots

Dragonqueer/dragonpunk is neutral on...

Religion in general (dragonqueer/dragonpunk is inherently atheist)

catqueer

THIS IS THE OFFICIAL DRAGONQUEER/DRAGONPUNK. PEOPLE THAT WANT TO "RECLAIM" THIS LABEL WILL BE FACED WITH FIRE !!!

@ghosting-plural-userboxes thought you'd wanna see this, just comment if you want us to remove your tag from this post ^-^

[gutsondisplay]

Only a couple more hours and then I can really bitch about antis, because with things going on in the world, I'm gonna feel a lot worse doing it when things get a lot worse

Because they seem bad now, they will in fact, get majorly worse

And I don't feel like being an asshole when that happens

Critique is necessary for those who hate, but it's also extremely fucking necessary to remember radqueer antis (at least those who talk about being so often) are almost entirely other queer people

So get out your frustrations now and try (unless extremely warranted) to keep your grievances to a minimum, because whether they or we like it or not, we have to kind of team up because things have ramped up. We needed to be forgiving and forgetting differences WEEKS AGO.

Get out all those shit feelings you have towards them, because hopefully we can work shit out so everyone can be at least alright

If you don't think politics affects you, fine, maybe it doesn't, maybe it doesn't yet, but it does now for literally everyone else.

Antis, as mean and sometimes stupid as they are, the hearts are in the right place and they are our queer siblings. We and them are majority made up of disabled, trans, homo, racial and religious minorities. And we need to protect each other

Our transIDs, their dissomei/desirdae/etc, our conabuse/NCCNC relationships, their nichelinks, our identities AND theirs are seen with the same hatred by republicans and people in government. They do not give a shit about our differences

It sucks

It all does

But get it out now because we're all gonna need each other, and it's fucking awful trying to work with people you hate

[scr-ppup]

I'm going to be making self-indulged desirdae terms, however I will not be taking requests for them. /Info (for future reference when they start popping out of the queue.)

[isobug]

Desirdae flag template ( PSD )

This is a 5000 x 3000 px template of the Desirdae flag format, you can download it at the link in the post source ( down at the very bottom of the post. ) I do NOT recommend using the preview image above for editing, it's been compressed !!

I made this because the previous flag template was a series of separate images at 2048 x 1229 px each and having it all together from the get-go makes requests faster for me! It also brings up the image quality / size to general wiki standards for flags.

I also made a .SVG version + separate .PSD template of the symbol ( which you can find here ) and split it into parts / colors in the template for additional ease of use ( and so it's easier to apply layer effects to different parts of the symbol, if you enjoy using those! )

I don't claim to have made this flag, the symbol, the term, or anything else. This is a simple coining resource!

( Like the term itself and my direct interaction criteria, I do not support / am against RQs + harmful transition and will block any direct interactions with my account related to either. I will not argue about this with you. )

Taglist - @radiomogai, @daybreakthing, @desirdae-archive

[forget-meabh-not]

Hi so for Desirdae terms would you do one for psychosis in general? Like we have mild psychosis due to being bipolar but we've had our experiences trivialized or told straight up that we're lying or faking since bipolar doesn't automatically come with psychosis symptoms.

If not can you do one for bipolar disorder? Tbh all our symptoms have been trivialized in some way or another, though we would rather not get into too many specifics on that front.

Thanks regardless!

- @razorbacksys

Desirpsychosis: a desirdae term for those who desire/yearn/want psychosis. some examples of why are your psychosis being trivialized by others, atypical dysphoria, being shamed all your life and struggling to be open about it, struggling to recognize when your experiencing psychosis etc.

this term is pro transitioning for those who DO have psychosis! an example of transitioning would be starting to be open to close friends about your psychosis, or starting to ignore others trivialization. this term does NOT support the transitioning for those who don't have psychosis.

THIS TERM IS STRICTLY ANTI RADQUEER

tags: @desirdae-archive @sharksnwaves @dreaming-of-mogai

[agentukelele]

Desirdae Communication

Please talk about your experiences. Please talk about them in the tags.

If you feel scared to, make a sideblog and post it on there.

This deserves to be more than a coin fest with no one talking about their identities.

Talk about it in a reblog of this post, even! Look, I'll go first!

I have schizoid personality disorder and susptected NPD with mild histrionic leanings. If that sounds like a contradictory mess it is. It makes me appear "normal" to outsiders. I still have few interests of my own and I have no desire to have them. I take scraps and leavings of interests from the few I ever get close to. But i WANT interests. I want specific hobbies and likes but I cant be assed to have them. Moreover, of course, I want ATTENTION for liking things like I see other people do. This is the main driving behind my hipster/manic pixie/attention seeking identities.

And as always, @desirdaecultureis is still open taking asks. Please don't let this be just flags.

[anti-rq-gumi]

I’m officially leaving the radqueer community.

I joined a transid server for advice on transitioning. And I saw one person talking about trying to smoke a lot in hopes that they get cancer.

It felt like a gut punch. Call me a hypocrite all you want. I’ve turned a blind eye to much worse transition goals. Murder. Human trafficking. RAMCOA trauma. But those things were always (I know this sounds horribly offensive to the victims, I’m so sorry) abstract concepts. I knew they happened somewhere. To some people. But they were never real.

Not so with cancer. My grandfather got addicted to cigarettes at age 15. He got lung cancer. The first time he was in the hospital was before I was born. They told me he was in remission. But it came back and put him in the hospital again. He lived. But you could see the difference in him. Then when COVID-19 hit, he couldn’t go anywhere. Because his lungs were already vulnerable. And he was, all the while, still smoking the fucking cigarettes! Knowing what they had done to him, what they were still doing to him! Because the addiction was too strong.

Radqueers would say that attempting to give yourself lung cancer is included in “radical bodily autonomy”. And I know this makes me sound like a terrible person, but if that’s what radical bodily autonomy is I don’t want it! Staying in that community would be a betrayal of everyone who I’ve ever worked alongside at American Cancer Society fundraisers.

I don’t know where I’m going to go from here. But I might follow your blog. If you could recommend any other blogs, that would be really nice, thank you.

You brought up a really good point about finally seeing the harm in that mentality when it affected someone close to you. That's a completely understandable experience to have. It goes to show that when radqueers talk about pursuing various types of self harm lightly, it does end up insulting those that deal with those struggles that didn't ask for them. And that's something that people can learn to understand even if they don't have personal experience with the subject. That's why it's important to listen to communities you don't belong to.

I'm sorry you had to experience so much insensitivity to those serious topics. I wish you well on leaving the radqueer community. You're welcome to follow me if you'd like. /gen

Other anti radqueer blogs I'd recommend are @/antiradqueerguy, @/anti-hony, @/report-rqs, @/anti-savent and @/antirq-yahiko. I frequently reblog from all of them. @/recovering-radqueers and @/recoverymatters222 are both dedicated to helping people recover from their time in the radqueer community. If transid alternatives interest you I recommend looking into dissomei and desirdae, both of which are anti harmful transitioning.

[flinnirthefruityfiend]

My name is Flinnir, Flin, Flinny, or Sunny. I go by he/him mostly, but I also go by it/its, dew/dews, sun/suns, bro/bros, hen/hin. I'm a trigender trans man (neoboy, shadend, nubesgender), king cobra, suninflumasc

I am an age dreamer, a singlet, a hoarder, PoC, punk, hippie, musically goth, ethical vegan, POSIC+, agnostic, a foodie, and Floptropican. i'm spiritual, and i believe in animism and astral projection

I am black stripe asexual, glassoriented, fateesthromantic, romoweird, gay (achillean+ceteroromantic), romance favorable, sex averse, sex repulsed, monoamorous, aspec4aspec

I am aplatonic, asocial, afamilial, analterous, aqueerplatonic, nonaesthetic + apothiaesthetic, uniderium, demisensual, and mostly aspec otherwise

I am unavailable in terms of relationships

BYI, alterhumanity, and specific info below

Nonhumanity (transspecies)

I am a dragon phylobeing, pheonixal, purecore, monokin, involuntary, spiritual, psychological, and physical. i am an elder, eldritch, sapient, semi-aqautic, and tropical. spiritual origins will be written soon. no breath weapons. i have 4 legs, a horizontal fish tail, 3 eyes, a toothless beak, and 4 horns. i'm immortal and roughly the height of a horse. i eat fruits, seaweed and sea carrion.

I am equinehearted, mermaidhearted, fictionhearted (edward kenway), tropicalhearthic, merperson archetrope, and trauma induced chameleon archetrope

I am sunvesil, sunshine lexibic, elder lexibic, floral lexiden, seaweedroma, petrichoroma, ocean flavored, oceanformatial, persamonster, desirsurfer

I am gothmusic emsoul, nascinonhuman, nascianomaly, nascilover, mono-altrenic, dragonviechronal, dracohoardic, colleuphoric, ienogs eiment

I am self-diagnosed with autism after researching it, and I have enough symptoms to be diagnosed. medically diagnosed with asthma, and i have maladaptive daydreaming disorder + neuronarration, alexithymia, chronic nausea, and identiety

I am an INTJ (Ni, Fi, Ti, and Te), 5w4 sx/sp 514, capricorn sun, pisces moon, virgo rising, capricorn stellium, aquarius stellium (western astrology)

I am recovering from self harm, suicidal thoughts/actions, being underweight, and intrusive thoughts, though i dont talk about it much. tags to filter: tw sh, tw sui mention, tw sui ideation, vent

I am triggered by detailed talks about NSFW, gore, infidelity, taxidermy.

spotify playlists: goth | pop and indie | rock and metal | bossa nova

no DNI, but before you interact:

boundaries: do not call me pretty/handsome/beautiful or ugly/hideous etc. do not flirt with me, platonic or otherwise. please do not factkin me. don't call me therian/otherkin. I prefer being called not human, alterhuman, and nonhuman. do not claim i "identify" as anything; if i label myself something, that's because i FEEL that way or i AM that way, and it isn't made up.

i support endogenic plurals, Palestine, PoC lives matter, objectem, split attraction model, clinical lycanthropes, furries, abortion, regressers/dreamers, AroAllo/AlloAce and other contradictory labels, pro-recovery, animal rights/ethical veganism, ethical nonhuman packers, label hoarding + anyone who doesn't label themself, environmental consciousness, self diagnosis with extensive research, ACAB, non-hateful misanthropy, non-pedophilic/zoophilic/misogynistic/etc kinks

i do not support/arent comfortable with transphobes (including: people who don't think gender is real, think xenogenders are exclusively for fun, trans-androphobes/misogynists, truscum, transmeds, TME/TMA), radfems, radqueers/xenosatanists/harmful desirdaes and dissodics, darkshippers, unconsentual factkin, generative AI, death penalty, taxidermy, objectification of cluster B, harmful paras, aesthetizing/fetishizing any group (includes aestheticlinks/aesthetic otherlinks, as I am uncomfortable with being aesthetized as a nonhuman), religious/spiritual proselytism, hateful discourse

[theoneandonlyseth]

INTRO

Helloo, I'm Seth and I go by he/him prns. :-) I'm the host of a system & a Morphtive.

I made this blog because I don't really get to talk about being a host or my sources very often. (im a Seth fictive from ennead if you havent guessed) Expect rants about myself and my life.

Not sure what else to say, I'm a bi man and I do use some desirdaes. I've allowed my headmates to talk on here too if they want so they might also post.

I don't really have a DNI because they don't really work anyway so I'll just list my stances and you can decide if you want to int or not.

I'm pro endo, pro good faith labels, anti radqueer, neu proship and more I'm probably forgetting rn.

At the end of the day I dont really care who interacts with me as long as they stay civil. :-)

Sourcemates PLEASE interact!

[desirdae-archive]

small intro blurb

hai hello! This blog is run by TVoWF! You don’t really need to know much about us except the fact that we are the coiners of Desirdae!

link to desirdae coining post

link to the rentry(WIP)(ask for edit code)

Emoji code/combo: 💫☁️ or 🌟🫙

Tagging guide

#Desirdae - All Desirdae Terms

#Desirdae Subacatgory - subcatagories like desirharmed

#Theme: [Blank] - What the terms about

#No ID: flags that have no ID

uhhh yeah that’s pretty much it-

OH YEAH!! We also take requests for desirdae terms on this account….uh yeah! Our requests r never closed on this account :3!