#> about desirdae

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> I am neurodivergent & disabled, 06/18 & genderqueer, Finnish entity, transspecies, alterhuman & holothere.

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- I belong into quite a few blankqueer/-punk stances in some way; reclaimed feralqueer, hallowpunk, redemptionqueer, darlingqueer, yandequeer, (ally) rabiespride, eepyqueer, para-health, Beastpunk, mangledqueer, Sataniqueer & freakqueer.

None of these labels will override *my* stances that I've laid in my BYF. Beware of this. (Also I'm going to get all the links in a bit lol.)

I am anti harassment, pro-para - anti-contact (+ a para myself) & pro- safe recovery, anti-censorship & I'm peacefic. I'm pro good-faith / contradicting terminology, I believe everyone has a unique sense of self and should be able to use the terms and call themselves what they want to reflect themselves. I stand with the 4B, land-back, black lives matter movements, and pro decolonization.

My political view is anarcho-leftist, however I do not go into that side much since this is a hobby blog.

I am not interested in ship- or syscourse and I find radical pros and antis extremely harmful from both discourses. Do not include me in them. (Besides I'm singlet thus I don't think someone calling themselves endo or supporting or not supporting them is something I should be "included in" on or concerned by. Pro & anti endos alike can interact if they want, just know where I stand and don't break your own DNI for the sake of it.)

Also, those who cannot separate fiction from reality or glorify and romanticize real-life murderers, S/A, mafias, criminals, and so on, you're not even on the thin ice if you follow me you will be blocked.

I do not fuck with (read: i am a heavy anti of) wrongfully used harmful transid folks, rad./queers, xeno.satanists. white supremacists, nationalists, facists, or racists & ableist at all. (Neo) Na.zis and supporters/apologists, pro-colonialists and -capitalists, pro-cop / blue lives matter / all lives matter believers. Neither do I fuck with those who glorify, romantize, or demonize (or speak over folks with) mental illnesses, personality disorders or disabilities.

Also label lumpers and exclusionists (""bi-spec"", aros to aces, aphobics, transphobic, multitransphobic, intersexists, etc), queer-phobic/anti-LGBTQIA+ folk. SW-/TERFs, Radfems, misogynist & misandrist alike; sexists in general. + folks who suibait, witch-hunt, and harass others or condone/support it.

—"you look like an animal, a cornered hound baring its teeth in front of certain death..."

Themed after a CoD oc named Kalma.

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Questions are always welcome, but please bear in mind that if the question is asked in noticeably bad Faith it will not be answered unless I feel the need to answer it because it's important.

[desirtips]

Not to be that guy but actually I'm fully being that guy. We canNOT start the desirdae community off with people normalizing stealing slurs. You canNOT say mutt unless you are mixed race. You canNOT use a term with the word mutt in it unless you are mixed race. "Transfaggot" and other slur terms of the sort were part of the problem with transids. We aren't bringing that shit here

-Toby

[buntress]

No actually it's against transitioning! Dissomei was created as a thing of "i feel like i should have this thing but bc i dont. it causes a dissconnect between my body and myself" while desirdae is meant as a "for whatever reason, i have an intense desire to be/do XYZ" and is specifically against transitioning when it comes to more harmful things such as desirharm/desirharmed/desirethnicity or anything like that. This has been said by the coiner of desirdae, is heavily pushed in every desirdae community, and not once have I seen transitioning being suggested by anyone so far. /info

I fully understand the worry, trust me. But as someone who does fit under things like desirharmed, but who is actively trying to heal and get better, having words to explain my experience and a community that lets me know I'm not alone while discouraging my wishes to act on these desires is immensly helpful. TransID's were awful bc they actively encourage people to transition in incredibly harmful ways, basically encouraging self harm, while desirdae is simply "I get it, you're not alone, don't do that."

tl;dr no they are NOT pro transitioning whatsoever and this has been said by the coiner themself, archivist blogs, coiners, and users alike p explicitly for the most part.

As an additional sidenote, because while im unsure you mean this its an impression im getting from many people against desirdae: I don't think I want to have to say "hey dont do something harmful" whenever I talk about stuff like this to describe my mental health? To me that just feeds into more issues like my mental health somehow making me inherently dangerous. So when I talk casually about my desirdae experience, I don't want to have to clarify "im not in danger or a danger to others" everytime. On a coining post, yes of course, but the idea of having to constantly clarify my mental illness doesnt make me dangerous to myself or others sounds like actual hell tbh.

this is all /nm and /info, I hope it helps :3

desirdaes entire concept is being a transitioning counterpart to dissomei, yes? while also being antirq, yet we accept the labels of desirharm[ed/ful] , which kind of defeats the whole purpose, it's become transIDs reskinned, and frankly i feel like this is reflecting the anti community overall, i feel like the communities just reskinned it and used the " but were not pro-xyz" while the labels mean almost the same thing, with the only difference really being the name and a very thinly veiled "transition without harm" which after a certain point isn't possible, and yet we let and accept the ones like harmed/harmful thrive, when there is no way to transition to them with out harm. there is a point where the community recreated the transIDs. The way we've did it [in my opinion] is honestly worse, as it ignores itself, desirharm[ed/ful] are such contradictions, but are defended because of its prefix when its simply the same thing, there are many harmful labels we've created and we excuse it with the simple idea that it is different because we coined it.

[buntress]

⌖ What Is Non-Harmful Transitioning?

[PT :: What is non-harmful transitioning?]

As the term Desirdae has become more popular, a thing I have noticed is people not understanding what "non-harmful transitioning" means. Which is quite fair! It's a very, very vague term that can be used in a multitude of ways. So, in order to curb this slightly, I feel it necessary to elaborate on what, to me at least, non-harmful transitioning entails. If the original coiner, @ghosting-plural-userboxes or @desirdae-archive would like to add anything I would love that! Ty for making this term btw, it's been genuinely so helpful <3

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⌖ What is harmful transitioning?

[PT :: What is harmful transitioning]

I think in order to get into what non-harmful transitioning is, we should first get into what qualifies as harmful transitioning. So, to me, harmful transitioning is as follows ::

Transitioning by using methods of self harm, such as cutting, burning, bleaching ones skin, etc.

Transitioning by harming others, whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually // metaphysically.

Transitioning by putting yourself in traumatic situations, such as putting oneself in a situation to be groomed, assaulted, physically or emotionally harmed, etc.

Transitioning to have a disorder // disability one does not have, such as harming oneself in order to acquire a physical disability or enacting stereotypical behaviors to "act" as if they have a certain mental illness or disability.

Transitioning in a way that harms minorities of all kinds. Such as using blackface, yellowface, asianfishing, etc in order to "transition" towards different POC identities.

Transitioning to hateful and bigoted ideologiess that harm others.

Simply put, transitioning in a way that actively harms yourself or others is harmful transitioning.

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⌖ So, what is non-harmful transitioning?

[PT :: So, what is non-harmful transitioning?]

Having gotten some basics of what counts as harmful transitioning out of the way, let's get onto examples of non-harmful transitioning!

Dyeing ones hair as a form of transition.

Partaking in more foods of a specific culture in order to feel more comfortable, while acknowledging one is not part of that culture (this enters a grey area with headmates, as not everything is black and white)

Accepting ones disabled traits, that they already have, and learning that no matter how they experience it, it is enough.

Learning more about cultures in order to feel more comfortable with yourself, while still acknowledging you are not a part of that culture. (Again, gets muddy when it comes to headmates)

Getting piercings, body modifications, etc done by professionals as a form of transition.

Starting HRT or other forms of medical transitioning.

Getting cosmetic surgeries (nothing that would change the appearance of your own race, of course) done by professionals as a form of transition.

And likely many other ways to do it that aren't harmful! There are really, truly, so many ways to go about this that aren't harmful I promise you. I can think of an infinite number of ways to do this stuff non-harmfully.

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⌖ What makes Desirdae different from TransID?

[PT :: What makes Desirdae different from TransID?]

Simply the means of which one may transition. Desirdae is firmly anti-harmful transitioning for any reason while TransID is pro all forms of transition, harmful or not. You can see this in terms like transnazi, transrace, transplural, and many transharmful identities that it is often encouraged to transition into these things, despite the harm such things do. Desirdae, on the other hand, actively discourages harmful transitioning. So while things like Desirharmful, Desirskintone, etc do exist it is actively said by the creators that one should not harmfully transition into these terms. I will say, many do not make it clear that for some terms there is no way to non-harmfully transition*. But I chock this up to people being, rightfully, tired of constantly having to explain their experience with this term isn't inherently harmful. But it is still an issue I believe should be fixed when possible. * [PT :: there is no way to non-harmfully transition]

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I understand the worries many have towards Desirdae. We do not want just another TransID clone to take over and create yet another space full of radqueers who push for things like legalization of non-consensual relationships or what have you. That is a fair worry to have, and it was a worry I initially had as well. But in exploring these terms and the community that they have fostered, I have found that this is quite the opposite. It is a community based purely on consent, recovery, and a safe space for people to speak on their issues where as radqueer and transID often push anti-recovery and anti-consent rhetoric. This is the key difference between these two terms, I believe. One feeds into harmful behaviors and seemingly pushes people to the worst versions of themselves while the other is more of a "hey, I understand these feelings, I feel this way too, it's not OK but we can recover together."

If I missed anything, am incorrect about something, or if one has questions I myself am more than happy to answer. While this is not a term and community I created, it is one I am happy to be a part of and want to grow into something helpful.

Thank you for reading, I hope you all have a lovely day. Remember to be kind, anger towards fellow mentally ill queers does nothing but push the agenda of the oppressors <3

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archive of archives/helpful blogs i found

general/all mogai:

@archive-of-ire terms about anger, rage and spite

@archive-of-music musicagender & songic/songgender

@faunagender mogai terms related to animals

@floragender terms related to flora

@toygenders terms related to toys

@horrormogai horror-based labels

@pride-color-schemes flag maker, posted compilations of all flags for many terms which include alt text for each flag

https://www.tumblr.com/beyond-mogai-pride-flags they DO have like a bajillion reblogs of useful things but also frequently let racist/ableist terms fall through the cracks so browse at your own risk

@gender-jargon coins lots of mogai things and reblogs some terms

@neopronouns coiner and reblogger of a lot of stuff coins lots of things and reblogs mogai/liom

@radiomogai archives tons of things, mostly mogai

@io-archival unarchived terms, deleted posts and deactivated blogs

@mogai-transcriber transcribes/writes plain text for tons of things

@accessmogai transcribes/writes image descriptions/writes plain text

https://coinfight.tumblr.com/ archive of terms coined during coinfight

genders:

@fem-mogai feminine and female genders

@recordshop-archive genders related to songs, artists, and albums

@bitchgenders-archive -bitchgenders

@inviane-archive

@musicamogai

@catgender-archiver

@thing-genders-archive

orientation/attraction:

@orientation-archive.

@tertiary-attraction-archive

alteraffectis:

@alteraffectis

ficto:

@fictoflags

objectum/conceptum/objectix:

@object-concept-archive

presentation:

@presentationflag-archive

pronouns:

@pronoun-arc

@everypronoun

relationships:

@x4xarchive x4x (like t4t) terms

intersex:

@interarchive intersex related terms

@intersexflags aesthetic intersex flags

reclaimed slurs:

f-ggot: @faggyflags

after dark:

after dark = not safe for minors. be logical and don't interact with blogs dedicated to this if a minor

@mogaigonewild

other:

@flageditsarchive.tumblr.com/ aesthetic and colorpicked flags

@aestheticprideflagarchive aesthetic, combo, colorpicked, misc flags (inactive)

@harmlesspersonalidentityarchive thas me :3 various ids, especially focused on things like transspecies, dissomei, desirdae etc

@mogai-icon-archive pride icons

@conformant-archive conforming, like cis and straight, and variants of that

@cisqueer-archive identities involving cisness with queerness

neurodivergence:

general neurodivergence:

@mad-pride

neurogenders:

@neurogenderarchive

identiora/"other"

kin/therian/hearted:

@alterhumanflags

age:

age regression:

https://a-agere-archive.tumblr.com/

chronosian:

@chronosian-archive (inactive)

dissomei:

@dissodic-archive

desirdae:

@desirdae-archive

emsoul:

@emsoul-archive

intusui:

@intusui

species:

@specieschive

other/misc identiora:

@archive-of-form "Archive for terms related to having and/or desiring certain body traits. Includes aldernic, dissodic, transbody, desirdae, altersex, and misceverse terms."

@aspectsofidentity

plurality:

all purpose plurality:

@plurality-faq

https://www.tumblr.com/plural-labels (inactive)

misc/other:

ficto-religions:

@ficto-religious-archive

general purpose misc/other:

https://everythingarchive.tumblr.com/

unsure how to categorize:

https://www.tumblr.com/gamercod old archive for one system's coinings

https://www.tumblr.com/daylightrecords/ old archive for one user's coining

https://www.tumblr.com/notcishetarchive everything not cishet. idk how to warn for... whatever happened there

https://www.tumblr.com/yanderessarchive

@rentrypixelpridearchive pride flag pixels for rentry

@other-pride-archive

neoagab:

@neoagab

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DRAGONQUEER/DRAGONPUNK

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A new label! Dragonqueer/dragonpunk (either name works, same thing!) is a queer stance about not being afraid to show how prideful you are about yourself, not being afraid to show yourself, or at least have a desire to want to express how you TRULY are and give the bird to the societal norm standards and those that hate you, existing to spite them; dragonqueer/dragonpunk beings can still live in caves (be closeted) too, however. A major aspect to dragonqueer/dragonpunk is also hoarding a shit ton of labels that describe yourself! Dragons love their hoards :) 

Due to history of dragons, they are seen as either evil and terrifying or benevolent and kind. Dragonqueer/dragonpunk aims to be both; be punk, be scary, be yourself, be unforgiving for who you are while also being a kind-hearted and loving being. There are dragons of all kind; western, easter, wyverns, wyrms, hydras, and so there is too in queer communities. Whichever kind of dragon you are is completely up to you, and you alone; you decide who you are. 

Dragonqueer/dragonpunk supports/believes…

LGBTQ+, MOGAI, LIOM, etc.

Xenogenders, neopronouns, etc.

Neoagabs/xenoagabs

Good-faith labels

Systems of all origins

Arissomei, desirdae, chronosians, aldernic, aldersex, allions, vesil, vior, xenonatured, eiment, etc.

Otherkin, therians, non-humans, alterhumans, etc.

Neurodivergent, mentally ill, disabled beings

Beings with munchausen's syndrome, factitious disorders, etc.

Hypersexuals 

Gender hoarders / gender collectors 

Multigender / polygender / etc.

Safe and anti-contact paraphiles (not acting on illegal shit??? This should make sense.. If its harmful. Dont act on it.)

Microlabels

Atypical dysphoria

PLUR

M-spec lesboys, turigirls, etc.

Contradictory labels

Systemarchy 

Pluralpunk/systempunk

Furries

Age/pet regressors

MAD pride

Reclaiming labels you can reclaim (queer, dyke, fag, freak, etc.)

Anti-psychiatry

Being endogenic/willogenic is not the same thing as being “transplural”

Educated self-diagnosis

Fiction affects reality

You can be trans without dysphoria

You can be a system without trauma

OC x canon is epic as long as its legal

Objectum and robosexuals

Supporting ex-cops, ex-gov, ex-military, ex-radqueers, ex-transids, etc. that have left their community and wish to recover

Abortion rights, womens rights, animal rights, etc.

Atheism

Kink at pride (when there are no bodily minors)

BDSM (as long as everyone consents and there are no bodily minors)

recovering/ex-religious beings

Consentual recovery for those that want it 

Supporting victims 

Dragonqueer/dragonpunk does NOT support/believe...

Harmful and pro-contact / neu-contact zoophiles, pedophiles, necrophiles, etc. (yet again if its harmful dont fucking do it)

Minors in nsfw communities, minors in kink, or having public kink where minors are around

That “all men should die” or “all women should die”

Harassing innocent cishets

Active radqueers and transids/transx

Terf, radfem, transmed, sysmed, etc. views

Harmful religion

Demonizing or stigmatizing disorders

Singlets in syscourse

“Superstraight”

Heavy political views, such as conservative and liberal

Proshippers, comshippers, darkshippers, etc. (how hard is it to say no illegal, abusive, etc. ships holy shit)

Lolitas and shotas

Racism or prejudice of ANY kind

Ableism

Forced recovery

Mental asylums

Exclusionists

Bigots

Dragonqueer/dragonpunk is neutral on...

Religion in general (dragonqueer/dragonpunk is inherently atheist)

catqueer

THIS IS THE OFFICIAL DRAGONQUEER/DRAGONPUNK. PEOPLE THAT WANT TO "RECLAIM" THIS LABEL WILL BE FACED WITH FIRE !!!

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[yalixrq]

Desirdae, arissomei, and literally every other label like them are just antis pretending like they care about people with atypical dysphoria in their goal to do anything to eradicate radqueers. Antis don’t care about people with atypical dysphoria. Antis only care about identity policing and prioritizing their own needs over people with atypical dysphoria just because it is “what’s best” for the majority.

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Desirdae flag template ( PSD )

This is a 5000 x 3000 px template of the Desirdae flag format, you can download it at the link in the post source ( down at the very bottom of the post. ) I do NOT recommend using the preview image above for editing, it's been compressed !!

I made this because the previous flag template was a series of separate images at 2048 x 1229 px each and having it all together from the get-go makes requests faster for me! It also brings up the image quality / size to general wiki standards for flags.

I also made a .SVG version + separate .PSD template of the symbol ( which you can find here ) and split it into parts / colors in the template for additional ease of use ( and so it's easier to apply layer effects to different parts of the symbol, if you enjoy using those! )

I don't claim to have made this flag, the symbol, the term, or anything else. This is a simple coining resource!

( Like the term itself and my direct interaction criteria, I do not support / am against RQs + harmful transition and will block any direct interactions with my account related to either. I will not argue about this with you. )

Taglist - @radiomogai, @daybreakthing, @desirdae-archive

[thecorporatetower]

Hello. making a call-out for good reasons.

This is about tinetar-cheez8.

ghosting-plural-userboxes (also desirdae-archive) has already tried to make a callout post on the person, and expressing that critter does not want tinetar-cheez8 interacting with or reblogging from it.

(This post from a few days ago.)

Tinetar has proceeded to reblog desirdae against critter's wishes; even after already making a callout post. Even though desirdae is strictly anti-radqueer, they claim in their pinned post the radqueer tag is "just for reach".

Tinetar-cheez8 is also a xenosatanist (condone/are neutral on creating CSEM/CSAM, pro-contact, “AAM x MAP"). They are also "ragequeer" and use MUDs.

According to ghosting-plural-userboxes, it said tinetar has already disrespected other boundaries in the past as well. Critter has also said they changed their pinned post after it made a callout post on them.

And, wouldnt you know, when we went to go find tinetar as well, they didnt show up. Its no coincidence they tried blocking us too (probably due to us being open lately about helping with the desirdae archive, assuming.)

Its recommended tinetar-cheez8 be blocked.

(will make edits if needed.)

-Natasha/Angel

[pixxiesticksys]

I think a big problem with a lot of the people complaining about Desirdae is that they're just like. Expecting from us.

Like. As someone who experiences atypical dysphoria, I should be allowed to say "I want a word that describes my experience." Just because you don't want that doesn't mean that your want us finite. Quite frankly, I don't fucking care want you want. I want a word that describes MY experience

(bolded words I and My)

And some of you guys are being way too holierthanthou about this. This whole thing has existed for what. A fucking month? If that? Of course people who want to have one are going to hop onto make or find a word that fits their experience. I made words that fit my experience.

The transid community has existed and evolved for fucking years and you guys are comparing it to a newborn subject trying to find it's place in the world. Nearly everything the community is at this point is words to describe things and pretty pictures and people are getting pissy because we aren't fucking philosophers. I'm so so sorry that my coining post for a fucking word did not have in depth every little detail of what is and isn't okay in my holy opinion as the only person who is ever right.

So WHAT if a fucking coining post doesn't have every single way to transition ever or in depth explanation of what transitions are harmful or a 15 page pamphlet on ethics and morality and how nuanced that shit is. It's a fucking coining post. It's a flag and a word to describe an experience felt by an individual it isn't the fucking holy word of your specific God.

I am sure that desirdae help blogs will pop up. I will gladly make a desirdae help blog of my own, if anyone wants that just let me know! I'm literally in the process of creating the desirdae discord server and one of the biggest reasons I wanted to create this was so that we could communicate. So that we could talk about tips for transition and discuss ethics and nuances. Try to help label what is and isn't okay and what is more in depth than that. Try to find workarounds for transition that is harmful. I'm (NOT??) sorry that this community didn't spawn in with every single little thing done in the way YOU want it done. Maybe instead of getting on your little blog and complaining, YOU make the posts discussing the ethics of transitioning for certain terms.

Whining and calling us self hating radqueers literally just shows how little of a say you should have in this in the first place ! You canNOT be a radqueer without identifying yourself as a radqueer

And since we're already here, why don't we just take a poll

We ALL are JUST fucking beings on TUMBLR of all places. And we're all just beings with REAL lives OFF of Tumblr too! This discord server would be going by so much faster if I wasn't sick out of my mind, but that's not where I am in life. Some of us have jobs, school, Important events, disability, disorders, inspections or tests or whatever the hell else. Not everyone alive has the time to make this community fucking pitch perfect in a month! We're doing what we can day by day. No perfection comes in a day. Or a month. Perfect is not fucking possible, it's not real

The newborn community needs time to move past the coin flags and be represented stage. But If you wanted to see something else from it, all you had to do was ask.

@desirdae-archive can we get a boost for that poll there?

[scr-ppup]

I'm going to be making self-indulged desirdae terms, however I will not be taking requests for them. /Info (for future reference when they start popping out of the queue.)

[desirtips]

I definitely think this opens us up for conversation about what we should do about/how we should handle people who claim to be desirdae when it's clear they're only using this identity because it's more palatable. Examples like

Desirdae but against desires (anti paraphilia would fall under this)

Desirdae but actively trying to/supporting harmful unethical transition

Desirdae but claiming there's no difference between it and transid and that it's just a more palatable term (or any other way of showing you don't really understand what desirdae is about)

And any etcs that I missed

And I supposed this may be a conversation better had on the discord. I promise I am working at it, weve gotten to a point where I do think we'll be able to start letting people in soon, we can at least start the conversation here

[many-of-mycelium]

InakshaTruth

(pt: inakshatruth. end pt)

(id: a 7-striped flag. the top and bottom stripes are grey and the thinnest, the second and sixth stripes are a slightly lighter grey and the thickest, the third and fifth stripes are light grey and the same width as the fourth stripe (double the width of the first and last stripes). the middle stripe is a pixelated pastel rainbow at an angle. end id)

an umbrella term for identities such as transID (including transgender), dissomei, aldernic, intusui, desirdae, chronosian, and anything similar

could also be used as a prefix for when you don't want to specify what microlabel your ID is under (for example, inakshagreeneyes could be a term by itself, transgreeneyes, dissogreeneyes, desirgreeneyes, or anything of the sort)

the first part of the word is taken from a Ukrainian (my native language) word meaning "other" // i used the feminine form of the word because the Ukrainian word for truth is a feminine word but you can change the -a for -iy (masc), -e (neu (typically only used for objects)), or -i (multiple) if it makes you feel more comfortable (for example, inakshipolyfragmented)

you can use it regardless of stance // even if i don't agree with you it's ok to use /gen // you don't have to use it if you don't want to though

the few things i ask you to avoid doing are "reclaiming" it (you can use it (yes even you)) and making fun of the name (i love my native language and if you say anything bad about it i'll be very upset)

[atypical-dysphoria-culture-is]

Little Guide on Atypical Dysphoria

[PT: Little Guide on Atypical Dysphoria]

Table of context

Section 1 : Explanation

Section 2 : Common Types

Section 3 : Don’t Do

Section 4 : How to Support

Explanation

Atypical Dysphoria also referred to as Uncommon Dysphoria, is when someone had a dysphoria for things not commonly seen in the average person. Atypical dysphoria is not connected to things like gender, height, or weight (though there are exceptions where the atypical and typical dysphorias blend.)

Rather it can take the form of a multitude of things, such as conditions like BIID (Body Integrity Disorder), Munchausen Syndrome, Headmates within Systems, Delusional Attachments, etc. but it can be also found in some general groups as alterhumans, systems, age regressors, and more.

Those who use this term do it as a acknowledgment of who they are and their own minds. This term isn’t to justify, condone, or produce actions that could hurt themselves or others.

Common types

This section will list each and will use the emoji combos this blog’s associates with them!

🧠🌀 Atypical Dysphoria (look above)

🧠⭐️ Xenic Dysphoria (Term used by Xenic folks to describe their dysphoria)

🧠🦽 BIID (Body Integrity Disorder) / Disibility Atypical Dysphoria

🧠🐾 Spieses Dysphoria (common in alterhuman communities)

🧠🍼 Age Dysphoria (Common in age regression communities)

🧠🕰️ Time/Era Dysphoria (someone who has dysphoria in what era they should be in)

🧠🖐️ Race Dysphoria (may be in groups like adoptees)

🧠💊 Addiction Dysphoria (Someone who has a dysphoria around addiction related things)

There are more out there but these are ones you may see on this page!

Don’t Do

Atypical Dysphoria, like anything out there can be fine when in check. But it is always good to make sure that you stay in a healthy mindset. Especially for things like BIID where one may end up wishing to remove certain appendages to relieve the dysphoria.

But in reality atypical dysphoria is something anyone with it should keep a watch on. Certain dysphorias may lead you down bad paths or doing dangerous things in the sake of reliving it. So please, if it gets bad, find a professional or someone in your life you trust to talk about it. You should not struggle alone with these types of things.

Remember, for anything that may be dangerous, harmful to yourself or others, or may end badly in any way. Please make sure to make sure you are in a good space, mentally, physically, financially, etc. before doing anything. Don’t harm yourself to achieve something.

How to Support

I’m short, listen, be there, and be a open arm. If someone suffers from a extreme or harmful dysphoria make sure to help them stay as stable as they can. This can be as simple as listening and being there for those who do struggle.

If you notice them fallowing down darks paths so your best to get them out, it like any other down mental state.

Atypical Dysphoria is not exclusive to any community. No one can claim a type of thing that affects more than just one group out there.

Atypical Dysphoria does not automatically mean they’ll use terms like TransIDs, Dissomei, Desirdae, or Intusui. Someone may just call themself that and go on their Mary way.

It’s best to respect the boundaries of folks who do happen to stuggle with this!

(Edit) @atypical-dysphoria

[desirdaehearth]

Welcome.

Desirdaehearth is a blog dedicated to providing advice, tips and other support to the desirdae community. ❣️

Links: desirdae coining post.

My tag for reblogs of helpful information is "#advice/info : rb"

Credits: psd. dividers.

desirdae is a term which is strictly against forms of transition* that cause harm to oneself or others. that's what this (and other help blogs!) Is for, in part: to provide desirdae individuals with advice for nonharmful transition* if they so wish.

* i use the term transition here for simplicity. what i mean by this is forms of moving towards one's desired things. for example, a term like desirautism is typically used by autistic people. it is used by those who experience imposter syndrome with their symptoms, who want to unmask, who are unable to obtain a formal diagnosis but wish to, etc. so moving towards the desire could involve: assuring oneself that autistic people are all different, telling loved ones about one's autism & seeking support, allowing oneself to stim freely, etc. It does not involve a non-autistic person acting in ways stereotypical of autism in order to 'become' autistic.

Apologies for the length. I just want to provide clarity. ❣️