#violated boundaries

[voids-spacedust]

accidentally started thinking about this and this is the only place i can spam think about it without my friends seeing it so

TW FOR NSFW TOPICS UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND BOUNDARIES 🤪

so like last year i was in a relationship from august till we took a break in november and then new years till technically may but really it fell apart by march but we had signed an apartment lease so ha ha ha me doing anything

And this is specifically about like kinks and verbally/text engaging in them over discord since we lived in different states at the time

And we have a hard limit of degradation kink because of our trauma and the way our dad treated us. Like very serious hard limit with some pockets for some lean into things like being called a doll/treated like a doll/empty headed but not in a degrading way even though it’s typically seen under degradation

And this person knew this was a hard limit. This person knew it was a hard limit in my kinks long before he ever asked me out. And he also knew i was ace and not always comfortable with sexual conversations.

but it came up even when i asked it not to and if one specific part who was usually fronting was in front he’d say he was a sexual part and he couldn’t help it he was always horny but thats not the point of this post

the point is that i let him turn the doll commentary into a degradation thing knowing he knew that degradation was a hard limit of mine and knowing that he wasnt properly emotionally supporting me afterwards and i can’t remember if i tried to stop him i do know as a system we are terrified of confrontation and probably would have tried to ask without asking

but……. If we had said no…… if we had said a hard stop……. Would he have? Would we have been able to walk away if he didnt?

[celestiachan]

[harleymutt]

things you can should send in asks:

Degrading comments

Gross porn for me to watch

Instructions on how I should masturbate

instructions on how I should edge

instructions on how i should ruin

instructions on how i should punish myself

Invasive questions

Suggestions on what I should write on myself

Commands to shove ice in my cunt

Commands to touch myself, no matter what I'm doing

Commands to slap my dick or my boytits

Ways I could be a better slut for you

Things I should say to degrade myself

Much more (will be updated)

[flowerbloom-arts]

The Lonely Mountains (2023)

Original Dungeon Meshi drawing by sweepswoop_ on Twitter

[unpopularfanopinion]

I got distracted earlier and forgot to include this.

Imagine you have someone who is morally opposed to alcohol and it’s consumption. Okay fine. They don’t have to drink if they don’t want to. Nor do they have to allow people to drink in their home or business establishment. That is a boundary they are allowed to set for themselves. But would it be acceptable or appropriate for them to go into a bar(a business pretty much dedicated to the consumption of alcohol in a safe environment) and start demanding that everyone stop drinking while they are there. Harassing and insulting the workers and patrons all while claiming that they’re doing this because of their morals, and they are just setting personal boundaries and how dare the patron disregard them? Or is this teetotaler just being a massive disrespectful asshole, violating the boundaries and safe space of the bar and its patrons?

The recent discourse is about DNI’s being put into the tags on Ao3. Ao3 a space meant to be a safe space for fandom to post all types of transformative works without fear of judgement. Tags meant to insult and intimidate other users of the site. The people using those tags aren’t setting boundaries or protecting themselves. They’re violating the boundaries and safe space of the other users and the overall intent of Ao3. This is not the same thing as putting a DNI on your own personal tumblr, Twitter, or any other website.

[bilboyagathechickenfootedhobbit]

The whole public sex discourse is insane. But what goes beyond insane into heart-dropping, what the fuck where did we go wrong territory is this attitude of ‘who cares if kids see? They’ll be having sex one day eventually.’ Like???? Yeah, most likely they will. My six year old kid will one day drive an automobile. Does that mean I should just give him the keys this morning and let him drive himself to school? I mean, he’s going to drive EVENTUALLY, right? By that same token, I should also just give him a tumbler of whiskey and let him take a drag off a cigarette; I mean, he’ll probably try these things one day ANYWAY, may as well be today, right? And since he’s going to learn what sex is, why not invite one of his little friends over and show them how to fuck one another?

Oh wait, does that make you uncomfortable now? The idea of two six year olds being encouraged to have sexual intercourse? DOES THAT SEEM WEIRD??? Why?? I mean, they’re going to do it one day anyway, WHY NOT NOW??? Why NOT get your six year old wasted and zooted and teach them how to properly fuck?? Does that make you feel weird? What are you? Some lame-o virgin who doesn’t know how to party? Weak sauce. See, I happen to be a super cool edge-lord sex god who has had ALL THE SEX and therefore don’t care if anyone sees anyone having sex. Since I, the ultimate Sex Lord, have definitely already had sex it is now appropriate for every single human on earth, regardless of age or anything, to witness anyone else having sex. I mean, I’M okay with it, so therefore everyone else has to be okay with it.

I cannot believe that at the exact same time on this hell site, we have a post going around threatening to kill adults for listening to TikTok’s on full volume in public and a post going around saying everyone is SUPES COOL with people just fucking wherever they feel like in public. So this site is more offended by auditory disruption than literal sex crimes being perpetrated against them.

Make it make sense.

[ardentpoop]

you guys really don’t get him tbfh

[houseswife]

wilson is like one of those bitches who puts nicotine patches on their partner in their sleep so that they’ll subconsciously crave their presence and associate their time together with the gratification of it. except instead of doing it sneakily, he openly (even reluctantly) exists as the main source of house’s vicodin prescriptions, not only providing him with the high but maintaining this pavlovian dynamic where he actively contributes to house’s pain relief & survival. he’s essentially his lifeline. and for the most part, he doesn’t even do it on purpose!!! because aside from the literal drug connection, that’s what his friendship is to house, too. what bonnie said about how wilson just tries to be a Good and Normal friend but ‘once you’re the subject of all that attention, it’s addictive’. in season 8, he says “I cannot be responsible for the happiness of gregory house.” and then has the audacity to look shocked when foreman replies, “You are responsible, though.” it’s like he’s painfully aware of their fucked up codependency but simply turns his face away from it. he’s even in denial until the very last moment, until it’s not only his upcoming death on the horizon, but the knowledge that they’re both free. I always found his smile after ‘I’m dead, wilson’ a little chilling. because it feels like he knows what that means — the larger, lethal implications of house disregarding any worry about his own future — and only then is he done fighting it.

[sleepy-boything-shit]

HI YALL PRONOUN UPDATE

he/they/she with my preference in that order!!

🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

[furiousgoldfish]

People will step over a boundary that you have made clear to them, and then act offended when you go from nice and warm to stone cold and unforgiving. Why did your assume my warmth was for people who violate me.

[bywandandsword]

It's interesting how Jonathan keeps equating himself with women, first with the gothic heroines of books, now "sitting at a little oak table where in old times possibly some fair lady sat to pen, with much thought and many blushes, her ill-spelt love-letter" and feeling the first bit of comfort in a while in what he identifies as a woman's room. I know tumblr keeps identifying Jonathan as the book's Damsel in Distress, but it's interesting that Jonathan is consciously identifying himself that way, rather than identifying with any number of the action heroes in books of the time.

I wonder what men in 1897 thought about it, and I wonder if it was a conscious decision on Bram Stoker's part

[apollos-boyfriend]

noooo artist i like don’t go down the puritan rabbit hole nooooo don’t subject yourself to content you’re uncomfortable with and ask people to go out of their way to report it to you you are only harming yourself nooooo

[darkshrimpemotions]

Stephenie was on some wild shit when she said "warmth and sunlight and being yourself effortlessly and caring about what makes you comfortable and homemade gifts that you love" cannot win against "cold and stone and feeling inadequate and having your wishes and boundaries ignored and condescension and expensive gifts that make you uncomfortable."

[violixir]

mouthwashing fandom. we've talked circles about curly's failures of anya and we're right about it, but it's time we start holding daisuke and swansea to that same standard.

[whyamihereat4am]

Lawlightmane is incredible because all of them are the most and least toxic one at the same time.

Misa is a yandere who can and will kill any girl Light is interested in and won't let him get away from her no matter how little he wants to date her, and she will 100% murder L with no remorse if she gets the chance.

L does a series of illegal and decidedly inhumane things to Misa and Light such as locking them in his basement for two months (and Misa got a torture room for some reason??), putting 64 cameras in an underage Light's bedroom, getting Light's father to fake-kill them, and grabbing Misa's ass For The Case™.

Lastly our dear misogynist serial killer Light is actually pretty chill about the yandere and the human rights violations but he is also frothing at the mouth trying to murder L so he can continue to kill people en masse at will, and he is happy to take advantage of, manipulate, and eventually blatantly abuse Misa because she is so devoted to him she just lets him.

You can quite easily frame each of them as the Problematic one or the victim who has to put up with the worst people on earth ruining their life, and honestly they deserve it. This nightmare polycule may be the closest thing they can ever get to containment that isn't death.

[sunnybearvampire]

i am not normal about the calypso episode i will never be normal about the calypso episode. something something queer joy and love and found family and you can't ruin that or take it away. finding yourself and expressing yourself fully for the first time and finding a group of people that will not mock you but encourage you with every last breath left in their lungs. seeing all of those unique and amazing people gathered to see you perform. fully for perhaps the first time realising that there was never something wrong with you, something was wrong with the world for not accepting you as you are, worthy and deserving of love. you are the unicorn. i am mentally unwell i shall never recover.