#unlike someone in the group.

[mejomonster]

the more i listen to behind the bastards podcast history stories, the more i'm like 'wow rich people really will do endless horrible stuff in pursuit of ever more wealth (even if they're already comfortable and could remain comfortable simply NOT doing more horrible stuff to others)' and also 'wow lack of empathy is a huge problem'

[ex-jock-enthusiast]

The incomparable @basquebeef has fattened up fast, and in the company of thegrowingrussian, he shows no signs of slowing down anytime soon!

[plutoslvr]

i am an advocate for pretty boy ives actually i think people forget or ignore that and his pretty boy privilege goes out of the window via W&W club association and is something that only happens to him. the only people immune are people actually in the W&W club which consists of a lesbian, two guys who for sure have secret third thing going on and a closeted bisexual who thinks his identity issues come from being a vigilante in his spare time

[lliquidllyrium]

I don’t personally think it’s so difficult to believe the companions didn’t grasp the full extent of what was going on with Rook and Varric.

“Varric” spent most of his time in the infirmary—where the real Varric’s clothes were being kept along with the pieces of Bianca. It was effectively a shrine, the closest thing they had to a grave without a body or ashes, unless they went back for him and got that too (edit: come to think of it they had to to get his jacket soooo my bad). Harding and Neve probably visited too, and it was probably pretty widely accepted that if someone’s paying their respects or “visiting his grave” as it were, you kinda just give them space. If someone hears Rook talking to him they likely assume that’s what they’re doing, visiting the grave and “speaking” to him. Without further context who would jump straight to the assumption that Rook is under the impression he’s still alive?

[zosonils]

i won't lie the way some sonic fans talk about lanolin has me concerned for the women in their lives

[petpluto]

I think it’s narratively interesting - if sad - how Angel leaves Buffy to give her a chance to have a full life, and she becomes progressively more isolated - even from her best friends and family - as the series goes on; whereas Angel, who has been isolated except for his relationship with Buffy for decades, gains a found family with multiple levels of emotional connection and growth after he leaves.

In all honesty, while I will always love Angel and Buffy and Angel’s relationship, it’s one of my aggravations with his reasoning for leaving. If he’d left because the relationship was hurting *him* (and I believe in some ways it was, at that point), I would think it was tragic and beautiful. But leaving for *her*, ignoring her wants and needs and removing one of the few people Buffy truly felt comfortable opening up to and being vulnerable with, ends with Buffy having fewer options in her emotional tool belt and feeling as if she is the part of their relationship that was the freak show.

Buffy felt comfortable opening up completely to Angel because Angel makes it clear to Buffy that he loves her, all of her, always, in ways her other long term emotional support pillars don’t always manage to articulate (even if they feel the same). She’s Xander’s hero, and Xander *can* and has been judgmental, so she’s not always comfortable being vulnerable in all aspects of her life with him. She and Willow are close, and Willow isn’t judgmental, but it does seem like Buffy feels the need to be alright for her, especially when she’s spiraling in season 6. She doesn’t want any emotions she has from Willow’s actions to hurt *Willow*, and she prioritizes protecting Willow over being honest with her. Dawn is her dependent. And Giles? She opens up to him and he leaves anyway.

And I think in a majority of these situations, Buffy would be better off being honest - or, in the case of Dawn, more if not entirely honest - with her loved ones. Xander can be judgmental, but he makes it clear in season 5’s Intervention that he can be empathetic and kind, and that his primary concern when it comes to Buffy is Buffy’s health and happiness. Willow is going through her own problems in season 6; but in general, she is also open and empathetic and kind, and her primary concern when it comes to Buffy is also her health and happiness. Buffy puts up these walls because she feels responsible for her friends’ emotional responses, and I do think part of that is her feelings of guilt stemming from her parents’ divorce ( her ‘father’s’ monologue in Nightmares is both horrific and a bit funny); and then Angelus’ murders; and then Angel’s and Riley’s (and then Giles’) exits from her life. Because the people she’s opened up to leave, she becomes convinced that she loses people when she shows them her imperfections and her flaws and her hurts.

Angel gains friends and family once he leaves Sunnydale. He doesn’t always open up to them, and he makes a lot of questionable decisions, but his world expands considerably post-break up. I love that for him. And it’s not on him or his issue to fix, either, but I do ache for Buffy that her circles get smaller and seem more brittle as the seasons go on.

[sweetsweetbumblebee]

having a crush is so embarrassing dude what the fuckkkk

[unproduciblesmackdown]

first 14th annual joe iconis christmas extravaganza rehearsal & director joe simpkin's birthday ft. video from jackie sanders / hellojacks & photos from jenashtep

[sir-walton-goggins]

Can't believe the game tries to make us believe Arthur Morgan is a bad guy when the whole game he just cares about EVERYONE except himself

[sightoru]

hey scout!

not sure if I'm remembering this correctly, but you moved to another state somewhat recently right? I was wondering what that process was like and how you did it. I'm in a red state and really want to go to a blue one. But I'm just unsure of how to even go about it since I don't have a remote job. Any tips would be appreciated, thank you!!!

You are remembering correctly! I moved in with az (@/haruchiyos) in June of 2023. HOWEVER, I moved from a blue state in New England to a Red state in the midwest.... so the opposite direction. Tho I will say I live in a very blue area, which was kinda blinding this election season since I was like 'wow yeah its so liberal here' I forgot about the rest of the state briefly.

However, I will tell you in the 26 years of my life I have lived in 4 different states, and moved cross country 4 times :') most of these moves were not planned. when I moved to my current state it was like 3 days notice and when I moved I thought I was coming back lol (ill put those details in the tags). ANYWAYS, you'll have the benefit of... planning lmao. I'd start with looking at jobs first, and community is important. if you know someone in a blue state that lives in a city you like, I'd recommend making a visit. it would also be easier if you have a place to stay for a bit, and someone who can look at places to live for you.

the benefit of working at a major company also comes to play here, especially if you can transfer stores/offices/ etc and look for jobs. you might also have the benefit of a degree, which could make finding/switching jobs a bit easier (when I moved, I only had az. no degree, no license. it took a month for me to find a job, but I also hadn't worked in 3 years which added to the struggle. I worked for the last year at a grocery store chain, then briefly as a barista, before moving into a healthcare role which is nice and im finally in a type of job where I feel like im not at a deadend lol). Remote jobs can definitely help, but tbh remote jobs are so hard to get and very oversaturated. everyone wants one, making it harder to get one. (one of my friends WFH, and their rec is to apply directly on job sites for it instead of ziprecruiter/indeed/etc, since a lot of them are scams)

Look into subreddits for your city of choice, find what people like about it. ask questions!! ask about cost of living, safer parts of town, what's hiring. my city's subreddit has so many posts like that. if you have the stomach for it, look into working for the government offices/ city offices/ state offices in that city. the benefits you'll get are great and they tend to start much higher than minimum wage.

for friends, try Bumble friends ! look on Facebook for meet up groups. community is so important, now more than ever (which is why I recommended moving to a city where you know someone).

for states, California and New York are what come to mind for very blue states. Northern California is gorgeous and I loved living in New York. NY is where I'd consider home and I still get very homesick thinking about it sometimes. I think Vermont in particular was one of the most gorgeous states ive ever visited and the people were very friendly!!!! like unnervingly friendly idk maybe it was the proximity to Canada lol. Ive been talking to my partner lightly about moving out of this state once they finish college in a year and a half, and I mentioned moving back to New England area in general.

anyways, this feels all over the place!! I hope this helps and as always, im here if anyone has any questions!!!

[loderlied]

posting on here is like my sisyphean boulder i'm constantly rolling tbh

[mercurymacaroons]

woagh 2 posts in one day

[alchemiclee]

I hope someone writes a good fic about the high cloud quintet with all the messy pieces of lore we have because i'm very unsatisfied with what we got and I want MORE OF THEM. don't know why i'm so obsessed with this tragic group of friends but 😭 IM SO FEELINGS ABOUT THEM but also empty because they didn't satisfy me with what they gave us lmao I require more. but that was the end and i'll never get more....unless someone writes a great fic about them.....!

[jnewinchester]

I figured this place is the best place to ramble my thoughts about otv&f especially Brodin. Because the community/fandom ain't active here anymore (other than the community of specific creators in the group)but they're not focused on the main group nor the ppl I'm fixated to so). So I can be cringe and free. None of my followers on birdapp & IG follow my tumbles either (other than a select few. Hello my beloveds yk who you are <33).

The (Swedish) hockey community is active enough to bury my Brodin posting on the results too. Bless

[butleroftoast]

Doodlin' in my travel notebook, trying to work out how to draw Morris's BG3 hair without him turning into Bruno from Encanto. Just for funsies while waiting for a flight, nothing pretty here.

I was so adamant when I created him that his features weren't long and rat-like because that would be clichéd. Now: SO LONG VERY POINTY

[hildorien]

The whole “Elrond and Elros didn’t actually change when they made their choices,” always feels like people are just looking at Elrond but completely ignore Elros completely shifting his whole personality (at least publicly) to being a king of men. Like, when you choose the gift of men that’s it. Your mortal and your whole line is now mortal. It seems that Elros took that very literally. And frankly, I think that is so much interesting because 1) makes the later numenoreans even more dumb stupid looking 2) actually acknowledges that being mannish is like a thing like Elros comes from very defined cultures and it shows that he loved that side of himself so much that he defined himself by it in return.