#unfollow my abuser

[eldritcheyecryptid]

Y’all. Don’t support @ligitnessbagels on Instagram, Twitter, AO3, and Tumblr. They’re emotionally abusive, borderline transphobic, fetishize mlm gay ships,idolized nuerodivergent characters but treated other nuerodivergents like shit, and drew a character of mine and posted it without giving me credit despite me asking for it. I don’t think I will ever fully recover from how they treated me, and am not comfortable enough to say all of it. This isn’t a post made to spread hate or throw a pity party, I just don’t like the thought of someone that emotionally abused me being supported by my mutuals and friends, nor want the same thing to happen to others. Don’t dm them malicious things, as that may cause them to come after me. Just unfollow them.

[crabussy]

I LOVE AND APPRECIATE MY FRIENDS WITH NPD 👊👊👊👊👊👊💥💥💥 OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[wastemanjohn]

“Women are happier without men” is an incredibly popular TERF dog whistle. Are you one?

oh fuck off. did you even read my post?

[seventh-district]

OCD will literally remove your brain's ability to register when a task is Complete and then create 10,000 incredibly ridiculous and extremely specific rules for you to follow in every single aspect of your life (to keep you safe, of course, it tells you.) and then tells you that if you don’t do them Correctly and Completely every single time it tells you to (it tells you countless times per day) then the Entire Fucking World Will End and then it’ll do this fucked up thing where it makes you believe that nonsense.

and then people that don’t have it will make silly little jokes about being soooooo OCD and make t-shirts with fun little acronyms on them like Obsessive Coffee Disorder and tell you how much they like it when things are organized and clean, too!!

and then you’re supposed to just. laugh. like you haven’t been robbed of your entire being and potential and been taken over by a mind and life altering disability

[moerusai]

— Be On Cloud, probably

[tang0w0tek]

*Serious Post*

TWs: Abuse

As some may remember, this used to be a Dream SMP blog. I was a fan of it, as well as a fan of Wilbur's. I found him after watching Tommy and Fundy and yes, I liked his content and songs. Once Lovejoy was made I enjoyed their songs too (Call Me What You Like is still stuck in my head unfortunately).

Now I'm not really into DSMP anymore, although I do read fanfic from it. I haven't personally watched Wilbur in a long time, yet I did enjoy SBI-centric fics. Wilbur's content was a big part of my journey into MCYT and I have to admit that.

However, due to the recent news, I am no longer supporting him. I was never a subscriber to his Twitch but did follow, and have since unfollowed him on Twitch. I unsubbed to him on YouTube. I removed the four Lovejoy songs from my Liked Songs on Spotify. I'm gonna unsub from his Ao3 too (I forgot about it until now and so haven't yet).

Domestic abuse is never okay, and Wilbur's apology really did read to be only about himself. I am glad he's getting therapy, though, if that really is true.

Fuck you, Wilbur. I hope you can one day see exactly why what you did was wrong, and that if possible, change and apologise for real.

Support Shelby.

[jacquiarno]

It’s Bisexuality Visibility Month (also Suicide Awareness Month), and the biphobia has been constant and intense, even in our own bi spaces, mostly from fellow LGBTQIA+ people.

Bi women have been told they are tainted for being with men, that we are dirty and dick obsessed. We’ve been told we are perverted fetishists by both cis and trans lesbians, with even gay men joining in on the insults, with one even threatening violence towards bi women if they come near lesbians. We even got told we deserve to be abused, raped, and murdered by our male partners because that’s what we deserve for dating men.

Bi men are being accused again for being HIV carriers, with gay men saying they are only good for sex because they will end up leaving them for women. One trans man said he would kill himself if a man started dating a woman after him, not leave him for one but just start dating again and that person being a woman.

I haven’t seen insults directly about non-binary bisexuals, but I’m sure there would be and a lot of hate lumps us all together. All this hates stings me but I can’t imagine the pain of all this for non-binary, trans women, and trans men dealing with it all, and it makes me so disappointed and angry that fellow trans people in this community are hurting them.

Pride Month a lesbian wrote “I wish god would eradicate all the bisexuals” while another wrote “For Pride Month let all the bi people disappear” with both having thousands of likes and comments agreeing. Now during Bi Visibility Month, a non-binary lesbian with feminist in their profile posted “Happy bi visibility month, I hope they find a cure soon 💖”. While continuing to mock us after.

Our allies and so-called LGBTQIA+ advocates have been silent and have even participated in bierasure, laughing at us when we point it out, saying “It’s not that serious.” “Lol the bis are getting upset over nothing again”. Only the bisexual advocates and pages have spoken out against the hate.

The B in LGBTQIA+ is suppose to be for bisexual but this community says and treats us as awfully as the bigots do to all of us. Bisexual is the sexuality that is attracted to two or more genders, that we have the ability to love anyone regardless of their gender. But we’re treated as greedy, perverted, hyper sexual, unfaithful, which from bigots you understand and usually brush off, but from those within the community who go through similar prejudice and should understand, sharing the same ignorant mindset.

These spaces are suppose to be our safe havens as well, but are just as dangerous. We try making our own spaces and even that is invaded by these people, we are beyond exhausted. We need the other members of the community that aren’t biphobic to speak out more and shut these people and this hate down. Because the lack of empathy from this community is frightening and all this in-fighting will allow the bigots to pick us a part more easily.

[boringwomanwithabook]

How on earth is it possible for my biggest Tumblr crush to think she's so unworthy of being loved 😮‍💨

I think sometimes people think I've got nothing going on because of my ability to crack jokes or be lighthearted, but that is simply not true lol, just the only armor I was given in this life. But there's a real person underneath there who's had a really fucking bad time on this planet and maybe people don't believe me, that's cool. Not here to convince you. My demons convince me enough as it is, day after day.

[anchorandrope]

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[angelsdean]

what makes someone fundamentally a good or bad person? and what's the point of making that distinction? not being a hater, i don't think dean is a bad person, i just really don't get it. he's just a person with the capability for good and bad just like everyone else

i agree with you but i think the distinction IS important when you're dealing with fans who refuse to see that there's a difference between doing something from a place of good intentions VS believing they are willfully acting malicious and "abusive" because they secretly wanna control everyone and everything. i think dean is a generally good person who tries his best but like any other person is bound to get things wrong sometimes, make mistakes, act imperfectly. i think we all have the capacity to do both good and bad but like, it's not a tipping scale where X amount of wrong-doings equals You Are Now A Bad Person (often Regardless Of What Your Intentions Were) which is where a lot of "deancr*t" fans come from, and in this case i do think the intentions of a character are important when we're analyzing characters motivations and actions and why they may have made a certain choice.

also soo many fans will crucify dean for something that other characters have done too!! and they clearly don't view that other character as a Bad Person and they're able to give nuance and understanding for why that character did that thing and why it still doesn't make them bad, yet they don't offer the same grace to dean?? it's exhausting so yes, i will make posts saying "dean is fundamentally good to his core" to remind people that doing a bad thing or making a poor choice or acting imperfectly in response to trauma / stress / fear does not automatically make you a horrible irredeemable "abusive" person.

also it's very like this for me, a deangirl:

deangirls talking to other deangirls: acknowledge the intricacies of dean's issues, flaws, and behaviors, where they stem from and why, and also discuss the other characters' flaws and behaviors and how other characters have ALSO hurt dean. and those actions do not make them bad people either !!

deangirls talking to the world at large who keep acting like dean is the sole character who a has ever made a bad choice or hurt someone: dean is good !! dean has done Nothing wrong !! pls stop and look at every other character in this narrative and recognize that they are all deeply flawed and complex

[katsigian]

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[lunar-years]

https://www.tumblr.com/lunar-years/764543744379944960/i-miss-my-mom-so-deeply-all-day-i-just-collect?source=share

I know this will be hard to hear, maybe not kind of me to send, but all your posts about your mom's passing and your grief... I keep feeling like I need to tell you that you are so lucky to feel this way. You're so lucky to have loved your mother and that she loved you. My mother is also dead, she died by suicide when I was a teen and before that she was very abusive to me. She had post party after my birth and it has been confirmed to me by multiple people - not doing it cruelly - that she never loved me. I would not say I loved her either. I have no good memories of her. You are so, so, so lucky in your heartfelt loving grief.

I’m very sorry that you’ve been through that and you did not have a good relationship with your mom. That must be very very hard. Sending you love and wishing you peace.

edited: I'm back because I'm realizing I actually found this ask upsetting. I very much realize how lucky I am to have loved and been loved by my mom. There hasn't been a moment where I didn't think she and her love for me were anything but fucking exceptional. And I DO appreciate that everyone is not lucky enough to have that, very much so. Forgive me, however, if I do think watching her slowly die over three years from rare fucking cancer that gradually stripped her of dignity, joy, and wellbeing, nor my grief at losing her too soon, is "lucky." Especially not when it's been less than a week since she died.

I do think/hope you were well meaning here, but since you've stated you were thinking "hey this will be hard for this grieving person to hear AND maybe it's not kind of me to send this"...maybe you could have...just not sent it! Because it really wasn't helpful at all on the day I put my favorite person in the ground.

[thesmokinpossum]

"killing all rapists and pedophiles would not solve all the problems in the world uwu" yeah, and finding a 100% effective cure for cancer wouldn't either but I don't think it's a good reason to stop trying ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[warp--space]

Hey, so you blocked me before I could reply. Which good on you, glad people are learning how to do that. But I'm ALSO a CSA survivor and i'd been following you and also have had you reblogging posts of mine from my various blogs for over a year. I have no idea what abuse I'm romanticizing as my ship with All Might is very specifically non-abusive, unless you literally just mean the fact that he's older than me which.... Isn't abusive lmao. And it's kinda shitty to send another person a message like this when you really could have just blocked and unfollowed me without turning it into a moral debate. Because sending this message seems like performative bullshit to upset someone. We are now mutually blocking each other but I'm still kinda praying you see this so you can maybe learn from this to just... Not accuse CSA survivors of romanticizing abuse. Because that's kinda fucking shitty to do.

It's literally either the fact that he's older... or the fact that we have pet names that straight people use all the time without any issue... Or it's something homophobic/transphobic. And I hope I never find out which, since I used to think you were cool.

Have a great day I guess. Hopefully as far away from me as you can get, as you are now blocked on all of my blogs because even if this was a misunderstanding, I don't want to be near someone who announces their departure in a shitty way specifically designed to upset other people.

[slutdge]

further on the post I made about my sister and how I can't forgive her despite not abusing me but for voting against my right to exist, I think that's also the issue I have with my mother is that even though she didn't dish out the majority of the abuse and I think if it had just been her level of abuse I could forgive her, unlike my father who was so horrific that I can just never forgive him no matter how much work he does or therapy he does or how much he changes (which he won't because he's so convinced he never did anything wrong as if anything could justify beating a nine year old into unconsciousness and sexually humiliating them lol) I really don't think I can forgive my mother anymore either just because she stood by him and is still married to the man who ruined my life. anyways broken record I need to fucking get out of here lmao, i wish someone would take the fact that im dying and deteriorating in this environment seriously lol i wish life sucking capitalism didnt force me to remain here. if youre going through the same thing i love you so much and i wanna let you know you dont deserve it no matter how hard your brain tries to convince you that you do.

[dogbunni]