#tw: biphobia

[eddiestach87]

Ask yourself this, when talking about BuckTommy-and any of these line

If TAYLOR had said something of that nature, would you think it was in a sexual context? If he was with a girl at this point, would you be thinking of kinky sex?

No?

Buck and Tommy aren't thinking about sex 24/7. They do normal boyfriend things.

They flirt. They eat dinner

They go to the movie.

They have jobs.

They JOKE.

People need to chill

[jacquiarno]

It’s Bisexuality Visibility Month (also Suicide Awareness Month), and the biphobia has been constant and intense, even in our own bi spaces, mostly from fellow LGBTQIA+ people.

Bi women have been told they are tainted for being with men, that we are dirty and dick obsessed. We’ve been told we are perverted fetishists by both cis and trans lesbians, with even gay men joining in on the insults, with one even threatening violence towards bi women if they come near lesbians. We even got told we deserve to be abused, raped, and murdered by our male partners because that’s what we deserve for dating men.

Bi men are being accused again for being HIV carriers, with gay men saying they are only good for sex because they will end up leaving them for women. One trans man said he would kill himself if a man started dating a woman after him, not leave him for one but just start dating again and that person being a woman.

I haven’t seen insults directly about non-binary bisexuals, but I’m sure there would be and a lot of hate lumps us all together. All this hates stings me but I can’t imagine the pain of all this for non-binary, trans women, and trans men dealing with it all, and it makes me so disappointed and angry that fellow trans people in this community are hurting them.

Pride Month a lesbian wrote “I wish god would eradicate all the bisexuals” while another wrote “For Pride Month let all the bi people disappear” with both having thousands of likes and comments agreeing. Now during Bi Visibility Month, a non-binary lesbian with feminist in their profile posted “Happy bi visibility month, I hope they find a cure soon 💖”. While continuing to mock us after.

Our allies and so-called LGBTQIA+ advocates have been silent and have even participated in bierasure, laughing at us when we point it out, saying “It’s not that serious.” “Lol the bis are getting upset over nothing again”. Only the bisexual advocates and pages have spoken out against the hate.

The B in LGBTQIA+ is suppose to be for bisexual but this community says and treats us as awfully as the bigots do to all of us. Bisexual is the sexuality that is attracted to two or more genders, that we have the ability to love anyone regardless of their gender. But we’re treated as greedy, perverted, hyper sexual, unfaithful, which from bigots you understand and usually brush off, but from those within the community who go through similar prejudice and should understand, sharing the same ignorant mindset.

These spaces are suppose to be our safe havens as well, but are just as dangerous. We try making our own spaces and even that is invaded by these people, we are beyond exhausted. We need the other members of the community that aren’t biphobic to speak out more and shut these people and this hate down. Because the lack of empathy from this community is frightening and all this in-fighting will allow the bigots to pick us a part more easily.

[musical-chick-13]

Something I wish people would understand is that going "Well all men, literally every single one of them, is useless and evil and misogynistic and we don't need any of them" just means that. You will end up blaming women. If they get abused by men. Because you didn't need to involve yourself with a man, don't you know that all men are dangerous, what's wrong with you, what did you expect, this is partly (if not completely) on you for willingly cAvORtiNg with a man.

I shouldn't have to explain why putting the blame of abuse or assault on the victims is incredibly fucked up and unhelpful and just. Inhumane behavior.

Saying this completely seriously without nuance also means that you are essentially telling straight women (and bisexual women who happen to fall in love with a man, which, contrary to what people seem to think, is NOT THE SAME THING AS A STRAIGHT WOMAN!!!!!) that they cannot be trusted to pick a "good" relationship (silly girl, how can I believe you have any kind of brain in your head at all if you would fall in love with a man, the fact that you would dare to stoop so low means there's something wrong with you), and that whatever kind of relationship they have with their romantic partner in this context is inherently toxic and awful and meaningless.

Like. Idk y'all!! I'm tired of people making everything about men too, and people get waaaaay too bent out of shape by women bemoaning the patriarchy by making offhand comments about being frustrated by men. But most people do not actually mean "I hate every single man who has ever existed, they are all equally awful and dangerous to me and to every woman." And when people DO actually mean this, when it actually is a blanket hatred of every man forever, so much of the time it's just further used as a way to hate on women, and I wish we talked about that more!

[vioredynamite]

??? Weird thing to say when bisexuals are the punching bag of this community alongside trans women

I mean:

[suzie-guru]

Sometimes I think about the mom of my old childhood bestie told me - just a wee kiddo - her theory that everyone was bisexual and only bad people gave into being gay.

And I think about how much I would horrify her now, and I smile and fall even more in love with how I am bisexual/queer. Get fucked, ma’am.

[teiasviago]

DURING PRIDE MONTH???????? TO A BISEXUAL???????????

[silversiren1101]

If I hear "playersexual" thrown around one more time in earnest there's a non-zero chance I'll go into a blackout state and maim whoever says it if they happen to be in my physical presence.

This combined with the fact I legitimately saw a tweet blow up saying that bisexuality is "the Israel of queer identities" has me so terrified of and for this younger generation.

The kids are, in fact, not alright.

[piperslovebot]

Jojo siwa being biphobic…yet another person to unfollow on social media.

[scratchtovoid]

I don’t want to rb biphobia on my blog but I just saw a post on the dash that reminded me that the first hate comment I ever got on a fic was from a very angry guest account that left TWO rude homophobic comments on a chapter of Targ Girl’s Guide because I had one scene of Daemon and Laenor in bed together in a flashback.

And I don’t mean smut, like literally it was a short implied aftermath scene of them just lying in bed together… talking about Rhaenyra!

And this was on a fic I had tagged as bi Daemon too.

Daemyra shippers get enough bs and they’re my favorite ship so I do not want to imply this is some issue in the fandom when it’s really just a few rude people but those rude people need to get with it and accept Daemon and Rhaenyra are implied bisexual characters.

- Signed a Bisexual

[luneemeritus]

I feel like what causes people (BOTH straight and gay people) to be biphobic is the absolute misconception of what bisexuality is. Biphobic cishet people think bisexuals are "too gay" to be straight. Biphobic gay people think bisexuality is "too straight" to be queer. And this is the most absurd bullshit. Bisexuality is attraction to more than one gender, not half gay/half straight. Go fuck yourselfs biphobics 🙄

[swiftiesbuddie]

LOVE the biphobia from Shay and the entire 51 station in Chicago Fire /sar

[o0anapher0o]

Having been in various fandoms for a long time can make you really appreciate the progress we’ve made in the way we treat people in the public eye, especially queer ones. It’s very heartening to know that a lot of interviews and articles from the 90s would be absolutely unacceptable today. (Should you ever want to see utterly shameless biphobia in relatively mainstream media I’d recommend early Placebo/Brian Molko interviews/articles. Seriously that man had every right to hate the press as much as he did.)

On the other hand it also makes you see of how certain things have not changed at all that really should have.

I had seriously hoped I would never have to watch an interviewer trying to (more or less subtly) goad an artist into coming out on camera ever again the way I’ve seen them do that to Mika back in 2007/08.

Can we just leave people alone, please?

[zoeywades-spouse]

Lol you think Amber Turd is innocent as a Lesbian I dont support her and for her to make up that her beong bi is what led to her getting "abused" is ridiculous Amber is a narcissist

The insane biphobia anon you’re spouting is actually crazy

The CDC stated that the lifetime prevalence of rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner for bisexual women is 61.1% the highest out of any other sexuality and much higher than straight women

The bisexual community has time and time again said that we are experiencing at horrific rates domestic abuse, sexual assault, and sexual abuse and nobody listens. They ignore the trauma we experience and the fact that we are actually an incredibly vulnerable community

The stereotype that bisexual people are hypersexual literally leads to sexual assault and sexual abuse. Nearly half of bisexual teenagers have been raped. That is doubled compared to straight women. We have extremely high rates of mental illness and suicide and the highest out of any other sexuality for domestic abuse

These statistics are brought out of the lived reality of the insidious biphobic beliefs that so many perpetuate including you. And that biphobia affects so many of us including Amber Heard

Amber Heard’s bisexuality is a factor in the sexual abuse and physical violence she experienced. Johnny Depp even said biphobic and homophobic things about her multiple times.

Amber Heard was abused. Over 130 organizations and experts signed a letter saying that Amber Heard was abused and that they support her. Furthermore, in UK court they literally found Johnny Depp guilty of abusing Amber Heard on at least 12 different occasions

Also how dare you? How dare you use being lesbian as an excuse to be biphobic? I’ve never met another lesbian who uses their sexuality as an excuse to be biphobic so seriously shut the fuck up and leave lesbians out of this because I have all the respect in the world for the lesbian community and know that you don’t represent them or their values

Furthermore, you’re going to defend a man who stated that he would murder and rape his wife and laughed about it?? A man who said biphobic and lesbophobic things about Amber Heard. Those words are indicative of violence themselves but they also reflect Depp as abusive.

Finally, Johnny Depp’s defamation suit is just another tactic abusers use to silence their victims

But sure, anon, come into the inbox of a domestic and sexual abuse survivor who is bisexual to defend a biphobic abuser who abused and raped his bisexual wife. This message you sent me clearly shows that you just wanted to harass me and be a biphobic misogynistic piece of shit

[naruto-general-opinions]

[fightingdragonswithwho]

googles how to stop crying in the bathroom because your coworkers are being biphobic and you’re not out to them and you feel terrible and just wanna scream 🙂

[julia1x5]

"People who experience oppression aren't actually oppressed"