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Real-life footage of me after Sinsmas:

(Send help)

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suck, and i cannot stress this enough, my cock to the fucking base

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Tips and ideas for how to respond when someone is being rude to you

For personal reasons I won't get into, I have a history of just freezing when some is rude / hostile / aggressive / condescending / patronizing / etc. It's obviously not something I'm happy about at all, most people who freeze or fawn aren't happy about it and would change it if they could.

One day I confided in my co-worker, a middle aged woman in her 50's, that this is something I struggle with. Considering how confident and assertive she always struck me as, I was shocked when she told me this is also something she's struggled with.

The advice she gave me is to just memorize and practice a few broad statements or reactions that you can pull out of your pocket so to speak when someone is being rude or disrespectful to you. It's not easy if you're someone who's been conditioned to freeze or fawn, but practice helps. Practice saying these things when you're alone. Put up a sticky note next to your bed or on your bathroom mirror with these phrases and practice them when you see them. Practice saying these with a partner or trusted friend, role-play scenarios where you might need to use these phrases.

Here's a few phrases that have worked for me. The nice thing about them is that they tend to shut down the situation rather than escalating, while still letting the aggressor know that you don't find their behavior acceptable.

"Are you okay?"

This works well in professional settings, because it's not like your work place's residential bully can run to HR about you asking if they're okay (but they might if you try to retaliate and give them a taste of their own medicine). However, it still effectively sends the message "I think there's something wrong with your behavior and don't accept it". It's also not likely the response they're expecting, so it'll likely throw them off and prevent further verbal aggression.

"Could you repeat that for me? I didn't catch what you said."

This one is most effective for people you believe to actually have a conscious and might regret what they said if they actually thought about it a little more. I find that often when I do this one, when people repeat the rude/snippy/patronizing/etc thing they either shamefully stumble over their words and show some remorse, or they change altogether what they say. In the off chance they don't regret what they said and end up repeating exactly what they said, this at least buys you some time to think of a better reaction since you're no longer caught off guard by a sudden rude and snippy remark.

"Can you explain what you mean by that?"

Similar logic to the last one. Often when people are being rude/snippy/patronizing/etc they're caught up in their own emotions in that moment and didn't think it through. This is a polite and civil way of putting their rude behavior in the spotlight and making them reconsider what they said. The other advantage to this one is that in case you did misread their intentions and they meant no harm by what they said or did, this gives them an opportunity to clarify that, instead of you just feeling bad over a statement or actions they actually had no ill intentions with.

If anyone has any further examples of reactions / responses / statements that have worked for them, I'd love to hear about them. I'm new to studying the art of how to civilly yet effectively shut down bad behavior from others, so I'm always open to hearing more suggestions.

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stolas look oUT— oh my god he cant hear me. he doesnt even know whats coming for him

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Get romanced, you princess

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1. That anti-Helluva/Hazbin is deeply rooted in mysogyny, queerphobia, anti-kink/sex puritanism, this we all know. Blitzø is "too traumatized" to think straight about his feelings with the evil Stolas, the consensual sex work he performed with Stolas is actually rape (two SWERF rethorics, btw!), Angel is a "wrong" victim, flawed characters are actually evil influences to the audience, female characters having the same quality as the male ones is actually being boring and "bad written", sex is bad bad fetish predator bad bad, villains can't happen to belong to a single minority group or else the author is a bigot, gay men existing is a fetish as if the two co writers weren't queer men themselfs who help Viv with the story SPECIALLY Stolitz drama, kink existing is bad and rapey, we all know the puritanism behind all this bullshit. But when it crosses the line of accusing real life queer people of being weirdo predators, you know the situation is BAD. Like. Really bad. So be careful everyone. And don't engage with exhausting discourse, it's really not good for your mental health, I only laughed at those comments because they were truly pathetic.

2. Oh my god the anti trying to speak on behalf of latinos and being so confidently wrong uuurrrgggh

Latino is not a fucking ethnicity. It's not a race either. @/spaaceinvader is absolytely wrong. Latino is a CULTURE. Several types of differet cultures mixed together and different from one another — Argentina is different from Mexico, Chile is different from Brazil, Uruguai is different from Cuba, etc. And yes, white Latinos absolutely exist. But even if Vivienne wasn't born in El Salvador, she was born in a Hispanic family.

Also, yep, poc can have a lighter skin! Vivienne has white passing but she is mixed race, she paints her hair blonde which confuses a little (The way Brazil analyzes this topic is a bit different because the miscigenation here is much bigger from the rest of the world, important to note this, however, Viv IS a woc, having a lighter skin doesnt take you away from your culture).

Less mysoginistic, queerphobic puritan anti trying to have a normal conversation with me

"Queer people are fetish predators for disagreeing with me!" Oh bae I know this rethotic very well

I love how they say they're not saying that the characters are fetishized and then say that they are fetishized. I don't really see how Fizzmodeus is fetish fuel, especially adding in how much emotional conflict Fizz had. Feeling he wasn't good enough to be with Ozzie, so he dealt with being abused just so he could stay by Oz's side.

...Kinky /jk

Also, I hate the casual erasure of other sexualities. "All of Vivzie's gay men" excuse you....all four of them you mean?? Like Andre, Angel, Stolas, and Fizz are the only ones that are actually gay, excluding bg characters (correct me if I'm wrong). The others are like bi, pan, demi, or we don't know their sexuality yet.

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Im feeling a little bit motivated today :3

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Stolas….My King

👑👑👑👑👑

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Idk why, even tho I know they can use magic, but it never hit me that they could turn into actual hellhounds x3

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"I tried so many years to make it comfortable for us; to have this family, but it was never enough. The only reason I have endured your constant insults and cruelty was for that girl to have a normal life." - Stolas S2 E1

"Also, son, you are destined to sire a precautionary addition to the Goetia family." - Paimon S2 E1

Some of you all are completely misunderstanding the second half, I am not downplaying the love Stolas has for Octavia, I am not saying that at all, what I am saying, is that Octavia is 100% going to think she was a 'obligation' when she finds out she was born to be a 'precautionary addition to the Goetia family'.

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Stolas breaking down and crying desperately after Via left him was so heartbreaking, I think this moment and Full Moon were the only times I cried watching HB. My baby🥺

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ALSO.

I'M NOT OKAY

SINSMASS SPOILERS

WHAT WAS THIS EPISODE

ALSO MILLIE IS FUCKING PREGNANT. SHE'S PREGNANT. SHE'S PREGNANT. VIA. VIA. VIA IS A POWERFUL DEMON THAT SAVED HER DAD BUT BUT BUT. BUT SHE LEFT HIM. SHE LEFT HIM THINKING SHE WAS THE REASON HE WAS UNHAPPY WHEN IT WAS THE OPPOSITE.

I. THE. THE STOLITZ MOMENTS. AND KISS. AND HUG??? LIKE???

HOW DO I FEEL AFTER THIS?

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I'M NOT OKAY

SINSMASS SPOILERS

WHAT WAS THIS EPISODE

ALSO MILLIE IS FUCKING PREGNANT. SHE'S PREGNANT. SHE'S PREGNANT. VIA. VIA. VIA IS A POWERFUL DEMON THAT SAVED HER DAD BUT BUT BUT. BUT SHE LEFT HIM. SHE LEFT HIM THINKING SHE WAS THE REASON HE WAS UNHAPPY WHEN IT WAS THE OPPOSITE.

I. THE. THE STOLITZ MOMENTS. AND KISS. AND HUG??? LIKE???

HOW DO I FEEL AFTER THIS?

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source

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Thinking about Love Never Dies and how an actual, hand-to-God thing the Phantom says with his own mouth is, "Give me the gun, Meg."

"Who should we send in for hostage negotiations? Probably someone level-headed and normal like, you know, the Phantom of the Opera."

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I'm working on Fem Erik

I'll post more as I work on her concept art