#trauma and healing

[earthangelrage]

I’ve been wanting to paint this in the style of Tracey Emin for years and I finally drew it on my iPad on procreate. I can’t wait until I’m able to paint this on a canvas. This is about how I’ve only ever felt pretty while having my trauma re-enacted through rough and degrading sex with a partner who did not give a fuck about my well-being. I broke my own heart each time that I recreated my sexual abuse but I also laid it out on a silver platter for the predator to devour it as well. This was a partnered effort that made me feel at home during the act and torn with shame and self disgust afterwards. This piece is the visual representation of sex used as self harm. I know that many victims of csa/sa who have acted out in both sexual and self destructive ways because of what we suffered before. I make this art for many survivors who can relate but also for the survivors who have too much shame to speak out about it. The world has shunned us enough for something that was out of our control so please have compassion and grace towards yourself. Love, Grace <3

[alicefromwhichplanet]

My new work! In this fiction I made my first attempt to create my OCs. They’re actually sparklings to be more specific:

Jinglestorm— Blitzwing and Bumblebee’s daughter, an orange jet, blue optics

Skystrophe— Megatron and Optimus’s son, a black truck, red optics (a bit inspired by Scourge)

Clobber— Strika and Lugnut’s daughter, a ground unit (like tfc Clobber) but in Strika’s color, red optics

This story is an AU of tfa/ my tfa fiction Heroic Nonsense. The three main characters, as members of a new patch of sparklings born after the Great War, also children of decepticon veterans/ autobot-decepticon parents, are going to blaze a trail to building a new world where autobots and decepticons are peacefully united, while exploring and healing scars left by the old warring world.

Follow their adventures! This will be a story about: trauma after war and how the gap between two race/fractions can be healed after war ended; the growth story of three children with complex identities.

Excerpt:

“Then why don’t you tell us about the beginning year of the Great War?” The old professor just can’t let her go. This time she isn’t sure. Her optics wander to her friends— Clobber sitting front right of her, is now staring at the window as well, her mouth agape in a daydream, her biggest optic half-shut, her history tablet almost shut down from power off. Slag! Her optics again wander to the back row. Skystrophe is there giving her a silent condemning look. His book is neatly opened to the page in use but he is clearly not going to give her the answer, and probably does not agree with her behavior of distracting in history class. Skystrophe loves history class, like his famous sire Optimus. Sometimes he is just insufferable.

Looking at Skystrophe’s silent condemning red optics, Jinglestorm is suddenly hit by an idea. She looks back at the professor and says with confidence:

“The Great War began about 5 million years ago. When the decepticon leader Megatron decided to start a riot.”

The classroom falls completely silent. Skystrophe suddenly looks down, pretending to be intrigued by his pencil. Alpha Trion frowns at the young bot, slightly nods and then shakes his helm, looking both satisfied and disappointed at her answer.

“Yes, that was written in textbooks before the war ended. But today, with the united government formed, and a peace treaty being reached permanently between autobots and decepticons— (his mouth corner twitches as he says that) today we say the Great War began when the former autobot government refused to pay decepticon miners full salary at year 917.”

He walks back to his podium with a slightly upset look, while muttering more comments. “The current government believes there are blames on both sides of the Great War, and they required us to be neutral about this part of history teaching. In the past we teach about the dangers decepticon riots posed to our society, but now they say the former autobot government was maintaining an unequal system on Cybertron as well.”

Jinglestorm nods attentively. “Yes. My carrier said…”

“Your carrier, Blitzwing, right?” Alpha Trion’s blue optics narrow as he looks into Jinglestorm’s optics. The girl shrinks a little at the coldness in them.

“You may sit down, Trainee Jinglestorm. ”

[gallavichfanficlibrary]

Hi me again...are there any fics of Ian caring for Mickey when he has a mental breakdown? Or dealing with his past trauma?

Hi hi! We've covered Mickey dealing with past trauma in a few asks. Here are fics where Ian and Mickey talk about the trauma of 3x06, here are more fics addressing Mickey’s 3x06 trauma, and here are the fics that focus on Mickey around the time he finds out that Svetlana became pregnant with Yev. Generally go through our trauma and healing tag :)

Some more suggestions:

What you and I have - Mickey is forced to relive a difficult part of his life, in the form of a very vivid nightmare. Thankfully, his husband is right there next to him, ready to comfort him and help put the past behind them.

Volume - Mickey doesn't like loud noises and fuck if living in the Gallagher house doesn't guarantee loud noise.

Cinderella Man - “You’re my husband,” Ian said simply. “Where else would I be?”

no more monsters (i can breathe again) - And a good night’s sleep couldn’t cure all the grief, all the anger and the pain and the fear, but it definitely wasn’t a bad place to start.

Offspring - Post S10. Mickey flips out when Franny is being too loud.

lemme show you the ropes - Family dynamics shift after the wedding. Mickey's not sure he's ready. Not sure he even knows what family is.

Hold on to what we've got - Something isn’t right, Ian thinks as he watches Mickey exhaling a shaky breath, storming out of the door and leaving a broken chair and a perplexed store manager behind.

[rainbow-rebellion]

Don’t mind me I’m just over here making unintelligible sounds at the season finale of The Way Home…. I’m happy, I’m sad, I’m confused AF and thank the gods they renewed for a season 3 next year, otherwise I might have gone feral after that cliffhanger they left us with

[flannelepicurean]

Just sittin' here having a thought about Teen Gohan sneaking off to do some training with Uncle Raditz for Incredibly Complicated AU Reasons, and putting a little too much WHAM on the ol' KA-BLAM one good time, and then he's having a panic attack because Uncle Raditz is concussed as all goddamn fuck.

And he calls Bulma, because she'll know what to do, right? She's used to patching up Saiyans, she's been doing it for years. And more importantly, when Uncle Raditz stops slurring that it's gonna be fine, calm down, and goes, "Oh, hey 🥴😵‍💫," and Gohan goes, "Please don't tell my mom...🥺" Bulma puts her game face on and starts handling things.

And when Bulma tells Gohan it's gonna be fine, and he can calm down, he believes her. But when she says his dad's coming over to help keep an eye on Uncle Raditz, Gohan un-calms a little bit. It's Incredibly Complicated.

But Bulma impresses on him that somebody's gotta watch Raditz and make sure he's okay until he quits being loopy and all manner of other stuff they gotta watch out for, and she can't do it 24/7, and neither can he. And since Vegeta and Nappa are elsewhere, dealing with A Different Plot Point, their options for people who are going to respect Gohan's privacy are a little thin. And it might not be a bad idea to have a very mature reflection on the whole idea of secrets and consequences and fallout on other people? Maybe? At some point? Regardless of how he feels about his dad.

And Gohan has to Deal With Some Things. And when Uncle Raditz is less loopy, Gohan tries to apologize, but Raditz is having none of it. He's kinda proud of Gohan, although he understands how uncomfortable Gohan is about the whole combat thing. And he says something he probably shouldn't, about how he had it coming anyway. Reaching back on a long implication about how they came into each other's lives.

And Gohan is having none of it. He doesn't care about that anymore. This is Uncle Raditz; don't say dumb shit like that, Uncle Raditz. Gohan has a big ol' wrangle with his feelings and says he couldn't live with himself if he REALLY hurt Raditz. And they both sit there, kinda floored and heartbroken about it for Incredibly Complicated Reasons.

And Uncle Raditz tells Gohan he's gonna have to go back to his dad to train, and keep it up regular, if he wants to keep going. They both know he's way too powerful for Raditz to really teach him what he needs. Vegeta might could, but he's back and forth a lot. And if Gohan wants the control, and the discipline, to go with all that power, he's gotta make it up with his old man.

Gohan thinks about what Bulma said, about secrets, and consequences. He thinks about asking Uncle Raditz if he knew. But he doesn't. It doesn't matter. He knows the truth, if he thinks about it, and it doesn't matter anyway. Besides, he's got to make some important choices, and he needs a clear head. Or as much of one as he can get, these days.

[chronal-anomaly]

i love writing in my modern verse because on paper it's so slice of life - which I personally find boring sometimes - but everything's colored in this air of healing, that even the mundane is a tool to help or a weapon to harm that healing process.

[jesusinstilettos]

I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:

It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.

Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.

1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.

2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?

3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?

4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”

5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.

6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)

[recoverr]

i don't know who needs to hear this, but guilt, self-hatred and shame are not sustainable sources of growth and healing. you can't hate yourself into feeling better, or being better. you can't repeatedly punish yourself for your flawed humanity and expect wholesome results.

[empoweredmindcs]

Unresolved trauma can show up in our relationships in ways we don’t expect. In this video, we uncover 10 ways that trauma can affect connections with loved ones, from trust issues to emotional triggers. Whether you're healing alone or with a partner, understanding these effects can help you build stronger, more resilient relationships.

[judeaftersickness]

hii im river this is my a little life sideblog. main is @0kultra!

this blog will most likely be for quotes and art lol but ill update this post as necessary if i start posting more things :-)

tags below <3

characters!!

- jude st francis

- willem ragnarsson

- malcolm irvine

- jb marion

- harold stein

- andy contractor

themes!!

- chronic pain

- forgiveness

- friendship and found family

- identity and self-perception

- isolation and connection

- love and sacrifice

- power and control

- trauma and healing

- trust and betrayal

- vulnerability and intimacy

misc

- language and imagery

- quotes

- mine

[captaingimpy]

Review of Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey

Netflix’s Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey is a four-part documentary that plunges viewers into the dark, disturbing world of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (FLDS), a polygamist sect ruled by Warren Jeffs. The series is relentless, not just in its portrayal of Jeffs as a calculated predator, but in the way it unpacks the systematic manipulation and oppression he enacted…

[gallavichfanficlibrary]

Hiii

do you know any fanfics that talk about how Ian got groomed and how it's a problem etc? The Show never really acknowledged how it's not ok and Ian just thought it was fine. Maybe sth were the family finds out or Ian just talks about it casually without realizing thats not a normal thing? I don't rlly care haha

Thank uu

Hii! You're absolutely right, Shameless authors just used it as a joke in HOS and never aknowledge it. Didn't even let Ian realize it on his own.

We did answer a couple of asks on Ian's past sexual abuse/grooming, I think this list is the most elaborate one.

And I know that this series is on the list, but do go through all the fics of the All You Wanna Do series. It's a very underrated and undercommented series about the explorations of Ian’s sexual trauma. So good!

I also suggest looking through the list that implies Ian having an eating disorder since he did mention in canon that he was starving himself while working at the club, so it goes hand in hand with the whole sexual trauma thing.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[bugsybaritone]

I know I dont post my art on here a lot, mainly because when I do post it I don’t get any notes BUT I made a self portrait recently that is very meaningful to me and I want to share it with as many people as I can. Scroll past the pictures to get an explanation of why I chose this as my final for my drawing class this semester!

TW: fake blood

Back in January I was in a car accident that totaled my car, thankfully I walked away almost entirely unharmed except for a single 1-2mm laceration on my head. Despite walking away perfectly fine with no lasting physical effects this accident has stuck with me and even now I can barely talk about certain details without crying. For days following it I still felt like I was covered in glass and blood, it took me weeks to stop seeing it every time I closed my eyes and I still have nightmares about it. I miss my old car and in a way I’m grieving the loss of it alongside my trust in other drivers.

For my portrait I decided to capture the raw emotion of it: the sadness, grief, and anger that this happened to me. I chose to portray what I looked like when it happened, so I put the outfit that I hadn’t touched since I peeled it off in the hospital on for the first time in months. I used to love that outfit and now I can’t bear looking at it. I sat down in front of my camera, set a countdown and closed my eyes thinking about that day. Thinking about how in a matter of seconds my first car was ruined and I was longer an accident free driver, about how it felt when it finally sunk in ten seconds after it happened and what it was like looking through my windshield silently asking the people I could see in their cars through their windshields what I should do. There’s dozens of moments from that day that I sat there remembering to get the reference photo for this drawing, it was hard to not only make myself relive it for a picture but also to draw it as well.

This isn’t the first drawing I’ve made related to the accident and I don’t think it will be the last.

[herrebelfaith]

“Our personality is formed in response to the world we’re born into… We create a character and we fill that role... One of the people who lives within us contains all our neuroses, all of our fears. This is our ‘personality.’… But the other one is our god-self.“(via Finding Your Self: Personality, Trauma, and Spiritual Wholeness)

[gallavichfanficlibrary]

Any stories where Mickey has a good adult role model?

The first fic that comes to mind is Etherized Against the Sky - a canon-divergent from 1x09, in which Mickey has to tell the truth about the shooting with Kash and gets taken to a group home.

In Don’t Leave Me to Bleed Kev and V are Mickey’s foster family and you could say Kev plays a role in Mickey's life.

Mickey has parental figues in Cooperative Gameplay and Intro to Quantum Dating, but those are not the main plotlines of both fics.

There are some fics that show adult Mickey getting help later on in life, like a lawyer or a therapist, but we don't think that's what you meant.