#healing trauma

[theereina]

The only child I have the capacity to take care of is my inner child. I do not currently want children, and I may never want children. My wounds are too deep. The amount of healing I need may take a lifetime, and I refuse to put any child through that.

Children deserve happiness without conditions. My health, both mental and physical, are conditions I WILL NOT subject any children to endure.

To the children I will probably never have, this comes from a place of love and selflessness. I just hope the world can understand.

[samxcamargo]

Book: Night Drives 💖

[adviceformefromme]

Who were you before the world told you who you needed to be? What did you heart seek as a child, the pure version of you? The you God created? The you before the trauma, the abuse, the insecurities? The you before the heaviness of the world that has been carried on your shoulders? To break free from the darkness in your heart you need to lean into the light. The light that is your truth, your authenticity. But what does this look like when you’ve been feeling so weighed down by the world? So filled with darkness? This means seeking the light. Seeking light in the music you listen to, seeking light in the content you consume, seeking light in faith, in the foods you eat. Reflecting on who is the light in your life and who is the darkness. Being a vessel of light as you go out into the world, holding the door open for the lady with all the shopping and pushchair, smiling at the drunk man who looks lonely in the street, learning to know and understand where the darkness lives in your heart and praying for healing. The light is what you have been waiting for, the light is what will save you from yourself. 

[avoicebehindthestars]

Ultimately, even hating Aziraphale and projecting your selfish ex onto him is a valid way to experience Good Omens. Season 2 has touched each of us differently. The queer found their representation, a narrative of their suppression, struggle and attempts to find a way forward. The ND saw a reflection of their daily challenges to navigate a world beyond their comprehension. Religious abuse survivors found characters much like themselves.

The lonely found love. The disillusioned found a dream. The hurting found a voice that spoke of their trauma. Perhaps it was the pain of choosing duty over desire, of suffering circumstances and wished that couldn't be reconcilled. Of being rejected, of walking out the door when you you were rejected and all hope was lost, or watching someone walk out the door despite your best efforts.

Good Omens found you exactly were it was supposed to. And it reached you. It gave voice to your trauma, your longings. It nudged you to look at it directly, to acknowledge it so you could be healed.

[empatheticnymph]

FACTS.

[spookysalem13]

As a trauma survivor. And someone who continues to undergo trauma daily in many forms. I understand this more than I'd like to admit.

I've become very quiet. I've become even more introverted than I ever was before. More focused on healing. Diving deeper into my spirituality. Going to therapy. Doing shadow work. Because healing is so important.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[bl0omss]

[sunrisethoughts02]

please remember that if processing old trauma/doing shadow work/any emotional processing becomes exhausting, this doesn’t mean it’s not working. Even physical symptoms — headaches after crying, etc — deserve care and loving kindness. you’re not failing, you’re healing, and this is your chance to create new patterns of care and love for yourself 💜

[ghostoflillith]

It is not your responsibility:

To take on someone elses healing

To process someone's trauma for them

To monitor and manage someone else's emotions

To teach people how to love

To try and get people to appreciate you

To "keep the peace"

To spend all your energy trying to keep someone happy

To try and prevent someone from cheating

To teach people how to apologize & take accountability

To try and get others to change toxic behaviors

To accept responsibility for pain you didn't cause

To try and get them to heal pain they have caused to others

To do all the emotional labor in your relationships and friendships

To accept less than you deserve

To blame yourself when people treat you poorly

To teach them emotional intelligence

To stay quiet when you are hurting

To lie and hide things for them

To protect people who wouldn't do the same for you

To help someone else grow

To teach people how to find healthy coping mechanisms that work for them

To allow yourself to be taken for granted for the sake of "love"

To believe them when they have been caught lying before

To teach people self love

To make excuses, explanations or justifications for someone else

To allow yourself to be manipulated because you want to believe them

To control other people

To awaken them

To change their beliefs about themselves and the world around them

To convince them why they should want to better themselves

To pull them out of the hole they've dug for themselves

To try to repair relationships you didn't break

To stay where you feel you no longer belong

To make yourself small to keep other's comfortable

It IS our responsibility to heal OURSELVES, and in doing so, inspiring other's to do the same.

No matter how many people have told you that you are a "healer," it is NOT your responsibility to heal those who don't want to be healed, aren't ready for it, or arent appreciative of you.

Some may never take this path, and that is their choice to make.

Protect your energy.

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

🙏🏼💕✨

[samxcamargo]

Book: Night Drives 💖

[traumaalchemy]

[yourspiritguide-quotes]

I am not what happened to me: I am what I choose to become

- Carl Jung

[arikasugar]

Do you have any advice about having anxiety and the need to be liked?

hey there, anon. I sure do.

I had pretty severe anxiety for most of my life that stemmed from this overwhelming need and desire to please others and keep them around. it kept me from setting healthy boundaries and eventually gave me an identity complex because I didn’t feel like I could be myself and have people like me at the same time. I would often settle for less than what I was worth as a result, because I didn’t want to be the cause of any confrontation or negative reaction from others. this took me a long time to work through in therapy and through self help prompts. let me share some with you.

start by unpacking and examining your anxiety and desperation to be liked. where did it come from? when was the first time you felt that way? did you experience any trauma that could have lead to feeling this way? what beliefs make up your anxiety? why do you have those beliefs? write it all down. once you boil it down to “I feel anxiety about (x) because (y) happened to me, and the trauma / feelings from this experience changed my beliefs about (z)” we can move onto the next step.

ask yourself how you would feel if the negative experiences that contributed to your anxiety and people pleasing played out differently. reimagine those memories in a way that worked in your favor, in a way that didn’t cause feelings of sadness or resentment or fear. maybe this is imagining a healthier relationship with your parents than what you really had, or imagining a reality in which you did not end up dating That Person Who Traumatized You. understand that had those things gone differently, you would have completely different beliefs about your self worth and relationships today.

you likely wouldn’t be full of fear of dread and obligation. but how would someone without the baggage of all those negative experiences feel? what would someone who came from an emotionally supportive and healthy background think about themselves? maybe they would have higher confidence, or a sense of intrinsic value for who they are and what they can offer others. maybe the courage to set boundaries and be honest, even at the expense of being disliked. now take a moment to digest the fact that this is the truest version of yourself. the one who would have thrived with the right love and support and environment is who you are at your core once you throw out all the bullshit.

now, emulate that. remind yourself of this often. remember who you’d be if not for the people and situations that instilled those feelings of fear and inadequacy into you. tell yourself that those negative beliefs you have about yourself are untrue any time they pop up. take the changes one day at a time. practice exposure therapy. take baby steps outside your comfort zone whenever you can. surround yourself with people who value you. read daily affirmations. little by little, start doing things your true, highest self would do. this is by no means an overnight fix, but eventually, you’ll see your own worth, grow your self esteem, and overcome your anxiety.

good luck, sugar

xoxo

[ruminate88]

Dealing With Digestive Issues After Being In Emotional Turmoil:

11/28/24

I’ve had digestive issues off and on since covid and let me tell you about my journey and give advice. During covid, I started with burning in my stomach/esophagus and tried to see a doctor but they wanted to do a video call visit not an in person visit and all they wanted to talk about was “covid”. I felt I wasn’t getting any help AT ALL and started diagnostics on my own…. (Which isn’t always wise but sometimes you have to)

I treated myself as if I had an ulcer cuz of the symptoms and I lost random weight all at once. I knew nothing about digestion health or emotional abuse. As treating myself with an “ulcer” sure, I got a little better but randomly at times the symptoms came back. YEARS I’ve struggled to know truly how to manage my body…. I’m still a work in progress!!!!

Just in the last 3/4 months, I’ve found women’s digestive gummies with probiotics AND I started eating more fiber. HUGE DIFFERENCE in my body. Theeeeen, last week I ran out of the gummies and thought I would be ok till I got more…. Wow, immediately I struggled again over the weekend 😮 So, no I have to live on probiotics for right now.

stress also hurts you physically. You can’t just eat all junk. You have to eat good proteins and fibers. Avocados and Peanut butter are super hard to digest although they are delicious lol I love both and sometimes I let myself indulge but sometimes I pay for it too. 🫤

In the show “Everybody loves Raymond”, Robert says his ex wife gave him “Spastic Colon” which is basically IBS… but it shows him chugging down Pepto bismol and I gotta be honest…. That stuff does NOTHING but make it harder to use the bathroom and it turns your tongue black often if you drink too much. (Back then maybe probiotics wasn’t popular) You only have heartburn when you keep eating food that won’t digest correctly… pay attention to your body!!!! Nausea also accompanies when you can’t digest your food. Don’t eat too much fiber that will also hurt you but eat a healthy amount. Some cereals like Raisin Bran has fiber and also having black beans with a meal helps too 😜

Your soul, mind and body are one. When you’ve been in emotional turmoil for so long, your body is reacting to your emotions and it worries!! Trust me!! Please take care of yourself and digestive issues are just ONE of the health issues you encounter when you’ve been in emotional turmoil for so long ❤️‍🩹 (I was with 3 different partners) Hope this helps! You’re not alone!!

Digestive Issues symptoms? Mostly feeling overly full, heartburn sometimes, can even have a hard time swallowing if your esophagus is raw, cramps, nausea, struggles to use the bathroom normally, sluggish and feeling no energy. Also, BEWARE; heartburn can disguise itself as hunger so you’ll keep eating. Being thirsty can also make you think you’re hungry. Drink LOTS OF WATER! Lower your caffeine and junk food intake. You’ll see a big difference in yourself. Keep active! Even walking around your house more or walk outside on your street. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 All the best to you!!

oh AND carbonated drinks… really hard on your esophagus. I gave up drinking soda pop altogether and I’ve seen a change there. 👍🏻 Years ago I was a heavy Mountain Dew drinker but that stuff is sweet poison!! It’s sooo bad for you 😝😝😝😝