#this user is a transmasculine lesbian

[lgbtq-userboxes]

[burntoutuserboxes]

[This user is a transmas lesbian.]

[velvetvexations]

My apologies if you've already been sent this post, but I came across it a few days ago and haven't been able to stop thinking about how laughable (and frustrating) it is. https://www.tumblr.com/princessefemmelesbian/766811116737363968/maybe-im-just-being-dramatic-but-it-does?source=share "[...] to say nothing of the fact that the largest people in this group (including, but not limited to, its creator!) have misogynistic rape/detrans kinks centered specifically around preying on lesbians and trans women [...]" "[...] defended viciously by every single transandrodork that I’ve ever encountered who argued with me (a lesbian!) that actually there’s nothing wrong with getting off to the corrective rape of women because two consenting adults can do whatever they want in the bedroom (yeah, right!)" Ignoring the fact that half of this is just lies, these people keep contradicting themselves when it comes to transmasculine people and kinks. I have seen several TRFs complain about transmasculine people attacking transgender women over their kinks, including, but not limited to... FTM detransition, forcefeminization, and misgendering. Why is it okay for one side to do, but not another? Are transgender men evil sex puritans or misogynistic porn addicts? Be consistent! (also worth nothing that OP scoffs at the idea that you don't need to justify your kinks when mutual consent is present) Beyond that..."die-hard, raging Zionists?" What? I honestly find it incredibly disgusting how these people will tack on any negative label just to further other and demonize people they disagree with. Tumblr discourse has nothing to do with /genocide,/ and I can't put into words how disrespectful it is to conflate the two, especially when this post seems to be addressed to young teenagers. I don't want to leave a big essay in your inbox, so I'll stop here, but it's nuts to me how these people can write this infantilizing, vilifying, lying nonsense and think they're in the right.

these people will never acknowledge that trans men into dykebreaking from the dom perspective are a vanishingly small demographic that are one or two Tumblr bloggers away from total extinction while there are about a billion transfems into dykebreaking

there is literally a very popular transfem user on this website who has TERFs comparing her selfies to disguised selfies on a trans supremacy kink dykebreaking blog

why do cis people like this think they're safe for transfems

why do transfems think cis people like this are safe

[our-agabpunk-experience-2]

Hello! We've found a term, like honeybee transfem and coffeebean transmasc, but for transneutral.

www.tumblr.com/cringeandproudx3/774778975079776256/hi-tumblr-i-have-no-clue-how-coining-posts-work

Mintchocolate transneu! (From user "cringeandproudx3")

Just wanted to include it since it's a smaller term but fits perfectly into this.

Have a lovely day!

Honey (she/they/it) @honeyscottage

I’m going to be 100% honest, and I’m open to discussion. But I don’t really understand this term

In an ideal world, terms like “honeybee transfem” and “coffee bean transmasc” wouldn’t exist. They would just be “transfems” and “transmascs”. They exist because of attempts to push those people out of the main labels by defining transfem as “a trans person who was assigned male” and transmasc as “a trans person who was assigned female”. That isn’t saying that honeybee transfem/coffee bean transmasc are 100% synonymous with AFAB transfem/AMAB transmasc. Part of the reason the term was broadened was for AIAB/AXAB/UAB transfems and transmascs, and there are plenty of honeybee transfems who were assigned male and coffee bean transmascs who were assigned female. But using the term implies a fight against defining transfemininity and transmasculinity purely based on AGAB. As far as I know (and I could be wrong) there is no similar push to define transneutrality that way. No argument that your experience with transneutrality is only valid if a doctor said a specific thing when you were born.

That isn’t to say that there aren’t problems in the transneu community regarding the sex binary. We can talk about how asking “Are you TMA transneutral or TME transneutral?” is basically a progressive-sounding way of asking “Okay but like, what were you born as?” We can talk about the constant reinventing the wheel of the gender and sex binaries by sorting enbies into “masc-aligned” vs. “fem-aligned”, “masc presenting” vs. “fem-presenting”, usually without any input from the nonbinary person themselves (using masc enby to mean any nonbinary person with a beard regardless of whether they actually identify with masculinity) and treating them as categories that never overlap (the constant arguing that “fem-aligned enbies can be lesbians but masc aligned ones can’t!” that forgets that plenty of nonbinary people identify with both masculinity and femininity). Are these the problems that the mint chocolate transneu term is fighting against? Because they don’t exactly feel like the same kind of problems as the ones honeybee transfem/coffee bean transmasc aim to address.

I’m 100% open to discussion and to help myself understand.

[sirenium]

Do you know what I find funny? The fact that every time I make a positivity post about queerness at its fullest, people only have something bad to say about the lesbian part. They scream at me about how the icky men don't belong in lesbian spaces, because everyone knows all men are predatory (sarcasm).

These people only care about lesbians when it gives them an excuse to hate men. Fuck the fact that the butch community is filled with gender fuckery, and how that involves manhood. Fuck the rich history of transmasculinity and lesbianism. It's all 'lesbians can't be men! They can't like men!'

And when you say 'hey, that's not true. There are historic examples of lesbian identified people who did the very things you say lesbians can't do' you're labeled a lesbian hater. I guess I hate myself then, though since I am to some extent a man who also likes men, I was never a lesbian to begin with according to users on Tumblr dot com (again, sarcasm).

Give me a break. Stop cloaking your misandry with 'I just care about lesbians!' because you don't care about lesbians. You only care about the man hating gold star lesbians who piss themselves at the deeper queer community as you do. You would throw that elder trans man lesbian under the bus, because his identity is 'invalid' to you. You can't handle multigender people, or genderqueer people in general, sullying your precious label with their manhood. You cannot stand to see another lesbian dating a man, because suddenly they're the ones forcing people to date who they don't want to date.

Queerness is supposed to be an acceptance of who you are, as someone who strays from what is expected by cishetallo society. And yet, expectations follow you into the fucking community itself. And I get it, I'm basically a baby queer myself; I've only been out for like five years, and have barely been involved in my local queer scene. But through the little bit of experience that I have had, at least I can mind my own damn business.

Tumblr has some of the most insufferable baby queers known to man, as do other websites such as TikTok and Twitter, because they honestly think they have authority over someone else's identity. They actively try to enforce their ideas of lesbianism specifically onto other people, people who are just living differently. Nobody gets the right to say what a lesbian is or isn't, nobody gets the right to pull the 'invalid' card, because sweetheart, we're ALL invalid as far as the far right is concerned.

I used to find joy in my lesbian identity once I dusted it off, after thinking I couldn't be one the more masculine my gender got, but the amount of hatred I've personally experienced as well as witnessed dampens said joy. And that fucking sucks. So no, I don't hate lesbians, but I sure do hate the ones that have made the community so hostile towards those like me... and not because of their identity either, though they no doubt think that's the reason regardless of what the truth is.

[vaspider]

Hey! You reblogged a post earlier of a comic about lesbians wanting to have sex with each other, but one of the additions on the post was written by an extreme and proud transandrophobe who hates trans mascs. I don't want to say which person here in case this ask is posted because I'm extremely against callout posts and that sort of discourse. So if you want to know, you can message me. I also understand if this isn't something you want to engage in. I'm only sending this ask because the person is very, very proud about how much they hate trans mascs and regularly posts screenshots making fun of transmasculine people, but I don't blame you if you'd rather not know. I hate when people send asks making claims about who is "secretly a bigot," but the user in question is not secret about their harassment of fellow trans people. Anyways, please don't feel obliged to message me, and have a good day

Yeah, don't do this. I post everything, as it says all over the top of my blog. I'm not going to engage with this, and I'm not DMing someone I don't know for evidence or whatever. Either send me things or don't, but don't do this.

[nightmaresoldiercadet]

-The inbox is always open!

-An oc-centric askblog taking place within a slight au of the early Digimon Adventure anime timeline- characters are referred to with the english dub names and terminology.

-All shown (and unshown) characters within Myotismon's Nightmare Soldiers are ask-able!

-All asks are in-universe presented as text on a scrying surface- glass windowpanes, mirrors, crystal balls, etc.

-Magic anons are allowed!

-I dont know how modern askblogs are properly ran and im scared to find out

-For mobile users, ask hints are here

-The starring character is Reflecmon, a mysterious newcomer to the Nightmare Soldier's ranks.

Here is her rough visual ref!

Every character introduced affiliated within the Myotismon arc is also up for asks, and profiles will be filled out accordingly as they are shown and introduced.

🪞Reflecmon

She/her, it/its - Cisfem Lesbian - OCD-tistic - ???

A mysterious Rookie stage. Has a strange sense of morals and is a bit of a clean freak. Dislikes cats. Somehow, isn’t truly a Digimon, and claims to be human.

💀???

They/them, he/him - Nonbinary Unlabeled - ???

Referred to as “Cap” by Reflecmon.

🪄???

He/him - Transmasculine Het Butch - ???

???

😾Gatomon

She/her - Genderless Sapphic

Goes by the title of “Captain Gatomon”.

[transbutchblues]

about me

Iphis • he/(she)/(they) & ze/hir (no feminine terms) • transmasculine butch lesbian • white • french • autistic • physically disabled (cane user) • undergraduate classics student • hellenic polytheist (worshipping many deities but especially Artemis and Zeus) • learning ancient greek & latin • beginning to learn akkadian as of october 2024 • occasionally a writer

about this blog

mostly classics stuff or hellenic polytheism things • my religious practice is heavily informed by my studies but i make a difference between my personal beliefs and the way i will discuss myths or cults • sideblogs : @iphisandianthee : personal sideblog, where i post about classics in a more unserious and funnier way + about my life sometimes || @dancingthroughthewilderness : mostly a religious + literary account, only reblogs || @perditaiuventus for my roman history obsession

links

— posts

The Locked Tomb analysis document (100+ pages, to be updated with new theories)

Divine transsexuality - trans gods & queer worshippers

Reminder : the Gods are everywhere

[prsk2dmv-transparents]

Headcanons for my Project SEKAI x Danny Phantom crossover fic series

Ichika: Nonbinary, bisexual, they/she/he pronouns (in preference order), anxious and autistic

Saki: Omnisexual, she/her pronouns, (juvenile) multiple sclerosis, chronic pain, auDHD, and mobility aid user (usually forearm crutches when necessary)

Honami: Ply lesbian, multigender, she/her pronouns primarily but also pronounfluid, anxious, depressed, autistic, and PTSD

Shiho: Butch, transmasculine, lesboy, he/they pronouns, autistic and depressed

[mogai-headcanons]

Edward Elric from Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood is an autistic disabled transmasculine T4T aromantic bi lesbian who uses he/him pronouns!

Winry Rockbell is an autistic T4T lesbian geargender mechangender trans woman who uses she/her and gear/gears pronouns, and gear's dating Edward and Paninya!

Paninya is a disabled bisexual bungender woman!

Edward is also dating Ling Yao, a bisexual transneutral princoric systemfluid plural person who uses no pronouns!

Ling is in a queerplatonic relationship with Lan Fan, a disabled transmasculien woman who uses any pronouns!

Ling shares a body with Greed, an aromantic bisxual bigender genderhoarder who uses all pronouns!

Alphonse Elric is a disabled autistic transhet catgender gendersleepy trans boy cane user who uses he/him and they/them pronouns!

They're dating Mei Chang, a transhet agender girl who uses she/her and 🐼/🐼s pronouns!

dni link

[tanjirou-no-au]

Yoichi: Trans Man. Bisexual. He/him.

2nd: Cis Man. Gay. He/Him

3rd: GNC Cis Woman. Aroace. She/They

Shinomori: Bigender Trans Woman. Undefined Sexuality. She/He.

Banjo: Cis Man. Gay (In the closet for most his life). He/Him.

En: Transmasculine Nonbinary man. Bisexual. He/They

Nana: Trans Woman. Lesbian (lost her wife, not her husband). She/Her

Toshinori: Trans Man. Biromantic Asexual. He/Him

Deku: Enby Cis Man. Biromantic Demisexual. He/They

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(Gestures to Yoichi, En & Toshinori)

AfO: The ‘lovely young girl’ to ‘Bastard Man OFA User’ is a heartbreaking phenoma that affects a third of OFA users by volume.

Toshinori, ex-Quirkless Vigilante: Jokes on you! We were never nice young ladies!

En, assasin turned vigilante, and Yoichi, angry feral man: *nod in agreement*

[eldorr]

Shadowlesbian

Official Flag (left), Original Flag (right)

An orientation term where your lesbian identity is affected by the fact:

One is transmasculine, a trans man, transneutral, nonbinary, or just not a woman (includes multigender and genderfluid/genderflux/fluidflux individuals), as one is either too dysphoric about being called a woman, experience a disconnection from traditional womanhood, and/or simply doesn’t identify as a woman or with womanhood. They may describe their attraction as any of the following: MLW; MLNB; MLX; NBLW; NBLNB; NBLX, etc – but they don’t identify their labels as WLW; WLNB; or WLX due to reasons listed above. With a multigender and/or genderfluid/genderflux/fluidflux identity, one feels not straight when with a woman and/or has a fluctuating level of dysphoria when they sometimes view their attraction as sapphic/lesbian in nature, or as WLW; WLNB; WLX. To express that disconnection, the prefix shadow- is used.

This term also includes those whose orientation is fluid and/or flux, who may not 100% identify with the label of lesbian; due to barely ever experiencing attraction to women (or attraction period), having an attraction to women that feels lesbian but also not, having an attraction to women that’s fluid between being queer and queern’t, and/or experiencing attractions under a lesbian/sapphic lens.

In simpler terms, a shadowlesbian may be defined as the following:

Being multigender and/or genderfluid/genderflux/fluidflux but never WLW, yet feeling like their attraction to women is gai/queer.

Being m-spec and not WLW, yet feeling a connection to the label.

Being too dysphoric about being called a woman/girl/being thought of as one, yet being either NBLW, MLW or XLW with a connection to the lesbian label.

Having a fluid/flux orientation where one’s not 100% a lesbian due to any reason, but retaining a connection to the lesbian label.

Simply feeling as if one’s lesbian, but also not.

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This term was originally reposted on June 27th, 2022.

So years (July 19th 2020) ago I coined the Shadow- terms on my original mogai blog. Since then I’ve deleted that blog and one-half of the Shadow- terms do not have rebloggable posts out there, so I decided I’d repost the terms.

A while after (February 27th 2021) another tumblr user (@/thepokedexisgay) decided to make simpler alternate flags to these terms. I’ll be posting a link to their flags at the bottom of these posts.

I made the original flags based off of my original all inclusive lesbian/gay/vincian/etc. flags, and since I’ve remade those and posted them, I figured I’d remake the Shadow- flags as well, simplifying them and following the color schemes of my new flags. So yeah, some “official” flags for these terms.

That being said, I made the new Shadowlesbian flag based off of my Flowerbed Lesbian flag, so along with that if you ID as Shadowsapphic/ShadowQ4W or whoever else I mentioned could use the Flowerbed Lesbian flag, you can also use this flag if you feel your orientation is Shadow-.

(I’d prefer people use these flags as the official versions versus the originals, however if u personally like the other flags whether it’s Alois’s (thepokedexisgay) or the original ones, or feel like making your own based on an alternate lesbian/veldian/enbian/etc. flag, feel free to go on ahead.)

Yes, most of the definition in this post is ripped directly from the LGBTA wiki, with some changes to it due to my current knowledge of labels.

Here is the link to the Shadowlesbian flag made by @/thepokedexisgay, and here is the [link] to the Shadowlesbian page on the LGBTA wiki.

[anonsystemblog]

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About user!

We are an Anon System

We are 19 bodily, Transmasculine Queer, Lesbian, Aroaceflux and polyamorous, we are a paraphile (🗺️/⚰️)

Our collective pronouns are : he/him it/its hy/hymn xe/xem rot/rots and 🫀/🫀s

Our stances are: Anti-Contact, Pro-ship, Pro-Fiction, Anti-Censorship Anti-Abuse, Radqueer

Antis will get blocked

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[calamityquellerei]

new pinned! pretty similar to the last one just with some added clarification as well as a DNI/BYI.

my name is Ei. i also go by Aoi, Baiyu, and Arabella!

in terms of marginalized identities i'm a bit all over the place. i'm a POC (Black, Falasteeni, Chinese, Japanese + others*). i'm queer as in fuck you and also as in lesbian and grayaroace. i'm intersex and transfeminine. i'm physically disabled and chronically ill. i'm Mad/mentally ill, including schizophrenia, personality disorders, and others. i'm a traumagenic disordered plural system. i'm intellectually disabled, autistic, and adhd.

*others refers to racial identities that i am not as connected to, and therefore am not comfortable listing.

full disclosure that i am also thin, hearing, seeing, non-religious, and usamerican. i only list these so people know what experiences i cannot speak on.

i'm an activist! i'm currently part of @bfpnola's advocacy committee, advocating for intellectually disabled, intersex, and Falasteeni lives.

i'm semiverbal (all the time not "go semiverbal") and a full time TTS user. i have been semiverbal my entire life.

i'm also a cult/OA survivor, although i don't talk about it very often and would prefer to not be asked about it.

DNF/BYF under the cut!

Before You Follow: - i support all plurals including nontraumagenic, nondisordered, median, spiritual, etc. plurals - i support the full decolonization of Falasteen. i do not support israel's existence as a state. - do not ask who is fronting or which alter made a post, even if we are good friends. - i support and love transmascs! i believe in transandrophobia and i firmly believe transmascs face unique oppression/discrimination because of their transmasculine identities. - i do not believe in TME/TMA labels, as nobody is "exempt" from any form of oppression. - i reclaim some slurs but not a lot and not often. if you reclaim a lot of slurs very often i support you! - i use support needs and severity labels for my autism (i have medium support needs/moderate autism).

Do Not Follow: - people who are going to drag me into syscourse. i'm pro endo, but i also don't mind interacting with most anti endos and neutrals and idc if you follow me as an anti as long as you're not going to harass me or try to make me do syscourse with you. - israel supporters, two-state "solution" supporters, anyone who doesn't support the full decolonization of Falasteen. - people who don't believe in transandrophobia - people who use TME/TMA labels - people who think support needs labels for autism are useless or "dividing the community" - anyone who regularly posts about shipcourse or is going to drag me into it - people who say "go semiverbal" or "go nonverbal". this only rly applies if you've been educated and choose to ignore the people educating you, if you genuinely didn't know and are open to education that's different. - people who use the term "theyfab" outside of an educational/reclamation context. even if you think the person deserves to be called it or if you claim it's not a derogatory term.

[notmuchtoconceal]

bro, i know i just said never, but also --

i have way too many opinions about thomas harris's novels and i honestly feel like bryan fuller is one few nerd alive big enough to get into the nitty-gritty of this man's heroic grappling with his projected mental illness and latent bestial nature in a manner which is cathartic and revelatory, but also -- the man fucked himself over by staying too engaged and doting too hard on his audience of mostly tumblr users.

his de-masculinization of Margot Verger may be the only time i have felt compelled to deliver a hot-take. for those of you not in the know, the literary Margot Verger is a bodybuilding butch lesbian who was rendered infertile through steroid usage and is now reliant on his (I'd meant to write her, but this may be revealing) abusive and disabled child predator brother for semen, so that she may sire an heir with their family's DNA and so claim their father's meatpacking inheritance through him.

he had expressed concerns about portraying a --

I'm not sure, I believe he felt that Margot Verger was a transman and didn't wish to portray his transmasculinity as a product of abuse, but to me that is an over-literal reading of the text. I believe the passage in the Hannibal novel he may be thinking of //

(I had, before my sole viewing of the Hannibal TV series, re-read the original trilogy, as well as watched Silence of the Lambs twice, before and after the source novel, as well as both adaptations of Red Dragon and Ridley Scott's film of Hannibal. I was hyper-attuned to the origin of every one of his remixes, and every time I watched an interview where he stated he was remixing, I could see exactly what he was doing. I was quite impressed -- just by the first episode -- by how he was so cleanly able to take various choice selections from a wide-array of contexts in the books and chain them together into an entirely new argument/persuasion. It's sharp, yet dense. I feel the show has an exhausting quality, for it is not only visually lush, but dedicates a great amount of time to both revealing and obscuring through speech.)

\\ I believe the passage in the Hannibal novel he had in mind, when floating the idea that Margot was a transman because of abuse, was suggested by an obvious homophobe. The section is narrated by -- I forget his name. The main FBI douchebag. He's a token chauvinist, a fairly route middle-manager bully, and knight of the patriarchy. He's the same man who, in the film adaption, Hannibal slices his scalp open and feeds him his own brain. In this same section, standing around in the billionaire pedophile's palatial bedroom, feeling like he's made it, he also floats the suggestion that Clarice and her roommate were bull-dykes, and that Hannibal himself is a faggot due his fondness for "tea party food" because being gay also means being wealthy and European and better than you in all arts (this line was also used in Ridley Scott's film, as a direct verbal taunt to Julianne Moore's Clarice in the FBI basement.) You can see, his thoughts are intended to portray a carousel of moronic straight-boy stereotypes. This is a simple man. It may be easy to read him at face value, if one is sensitive to these slights. Straight nerds, you know -- in some ways it's much easier for them to detach from homophobia, not actually being gay.

I believe Margot Verger's identity is complicated. Physically, she is undeniably a woman. She has faced repeated attacks, psychological, physical and sexual, and so is always on edge ~ Rather, if Margot is more a transman than a butch lesbian, I see no reason to assume his transmasculinity was the product of abuse, or rather -- I don't see the compromise to his or her masculinity as being in any way distinct from how other people have their masculinity compromised. Truly, I think the scenes with Margot and Barney in the novel are beautiful. She always tries to come off as tough, like she isn't intimidated by him, big burly black orderly (it's okay to admit that sometimes a black man is sexier than a white man and it's not suspect to say it ~ you have no hesitancy whatsoever about finding white men sexy without giving any though to racial supremacy. let black beauty ride u. he is majestic) who could hold his own against the witty all-knowing psycho-demon who eats men alive. She's assertive, chiding, all bravado, eager to flex. Though also -- she's never befriended a man who was this tolerant, this compassionate, this genuinely understanding. She doesn't know how to take it. She likes men, or at least the idea of men, but you know -- she's had so many bad experiences with men. Things most people would never even want to talk about. All the indications she's giving Barney are that she wants to be a bro and work out -- by this point in the story, her brother is keeping him close, not only for he is a competent medical professional and he is bedridden, but also because of his fetishistic preoccupation with all things Hannibal Lecter. Barney was one of the few men alive who Truly Knew Him. Margot and Barney see each other a lot in the private gym they share. One day Barney gives Margot a firm, robust athletic smack on the ass in the showers. She crumbles. It's all too much. She may have either a masculine mind or a mind which appropriates the masculine (do recall that Clarice herself, in emulating her lawman father, is on something of an mirrored journey to Buffalo Bill -- he wants to become physiologically female, she wants to become psychologically male, and the true question of appropriation and predation remains disputable), but she has a female body traumatically wired into subservience to monsters who can't love her. How could she possibly be with this man who ... charming, lovely and burly as he is ... simply makes her want to die? Simply can't stop making her remember? Margot is herself not depicted as a beautiful woman. Her masculinity is a source of pride, strength, but also a constant reminder of her pain. Chasing her masculinity -- altering her body through hormones -- quite literally has left her infertile, and now dependent on the abuser she tried to overcome by embracing roids. Regardless of her Gender Identity, Her Masculinity Is Real, Arguably Toxic, and Yet She Remains An Abused Woman. There's a level of finesse here which is difficult to parse, for it is difficult to endure, it is such a raw and painful portrait of a product of human exploitation, in a novel which is already lined to the wall which faceless disfigured child rapists feeding people alive to giant pigs. Margot in the book goes so far as to forcefully ejaculate her brother with a cattle prod, collecting her sample, then deep-throating him with his own pet electrical eel which eats through his throat as it electrifies him alive. Perhaps, if Margot's transmasculinity is the product of abuse, it's simply because we need to tap into unconventional or otherwise unsuspecting parts of ourselves when placed in novel or desperate situations, and "queerness" is, in a literal sense, the discovery and adoption of divergent survival strategies. Perhaps we simply needn't be ashamed of ourselves or where we've come from, and to demand recognition from ego-blocks which would appropriate us for revenue and prestige is to become complicit with them if we lose sight of what's really important, that is our freedom to be and to love.

I'm thinking of a comment made a film reviewer named Diamanda Hagan, speaking on John Waters's film, Desperate Living. That one had a character, Mole, an AFAB person in a relationship with a woman, and she (as she was referred) impulsively got a cock to dick his lady, but she was immediately grossed-out and they castrated herself. She had said the gag had begun life as an offensive lesbian stereotype, now it's an offensive trans stereotype, and it had managed to remain offensive because you really couldn't tell what the film thought Mole was. John Waters -- he is, of course, sympathetic to people's interior essentialized states, but he's also hip and savvy. He knows people are adaptable, need to market themselves, and identity is largely contextual. I'd gotten the impression that, although a woman, she wanted to treat her girlfriend like a woman, and so give her the man treatment. Her woman then had the opposite reaction, feeling her lady was compromising herself for her sake. I think her woman enjoys her masculinity, but also enjoys that she's a woman. I think plenty of women like women who like themselves, and people generally who are comfortable being themselves. I think it's easier for women to compartmentalize and "become" men, as men are already single-minded and task-focused, so being a man is much like turning a part of yourself off. If she has an essentialized "masculine" quality it may simply be because she's the dominant partner in her relationship.

Now, as for the supposed hot-take -- I don't think bryan fuller has anything against lesbians, though he may feel a low-level visceral repulsion when confronted by a woman who seems too masculine, in much the same way a heterosexual man would seem threatened or put ill-at-ease by a man who appears too feminine. It might confuse him. He may be more horny for butch lesbians than he'd care to admit, or may be more susceptible to heterosexual assumptions that he'd like to admit. He might like Margot more if she fit into a more clear and defined idea of what it was to be a woman. Truthfully, I find the ambiguity of Margot's transsexualism one of her most compelling aspects, for I feel he is both, though also damaged, and she would remain both, regardless of his damage. Damage simply occurs to us, and we have to find some way to reckon with it. He's also a sharp-dresser who works in show business. All adaptations pretty up their people for the screen, even if they make them uglier by making them more conventional. The world simply wasn't ready yet for the real Margot Verger, with all her messy complications. It may not be for some time. I would always love my sister. Even if she were a steroid-abusing lesbian who's too frightened to be a man with me. You don't know how hard it is. You're so brave, to keep it all together.

[caged-storm]

intro post

my name is xianlan. i'm an adult, and i go by shx/hxr or shi/hir pronouns. she/her is available as an auxiliary option for those who struggle to use neopronouns, but please only use it if you genuinely have a hard time with neos.

i'm a medium-high support needs autistic, intellectually disabled, physically disabled, plural, and persodivergent. i'm also intersex and transfeminine. i'm semiverbal (all the time, not "go semiverbal") and a full time AAC/TTS user because of it.

i don't really know what i'll use this blog for, but it's been a while since i've properly used tumblr so i wanted to give it a go again.

before you follow me, you should know that:

i support transmasculine individuals and understand they face unique struggles specifically due to being transmasc. as a transfem i acknowledge it is not my place to tell the transmasc community what terms they should or should not use to describe their oppression. the transmascs in my life use the term transandrophobia, so that is the term i use. if you do not believe transandrophobia is a real and distinct system of oppression i do not want you on my blog.

i support queer people of all types, including queer people who use labels that seem contradictory to others. this means i support mspec lesbians and gays, lesbians who are men and gays who are women, multigender people, intersex people, and so on. if you have a problem with any of these you are not welcome.

i am a traumagenic DID system, and i believe plurality can have causes other than childhood trauma. although endogenic plurality is not the same as traumagenic CDDs, i still support my endogenic siblings. i do not welcome those who think plurality can only exist when directly caused by trauma.

i do not support the usage of TMA/TME. they are intersexist and often used to perpetuate transandrophobia. i also do not like being defined by the people who hate me. do not call me TMA.

i use the block button liberally. i curate my experience and do not expect others to do that work for me. if i don't like you, your blog, or your opinions i will block you.