#this user is a transmasculine lesbian

[lgbtq-userboxes]

[burntoutuserboxes]

[This user is a transmas lesbian.]

[genderqueerdykes]

honestly as a butch, i just gotta say it: that "chivalrous knight in shining armor" crap is objectifying as hell and it's not fun, cute, or validating to apply to us, it provides a burden for us to bear, it makes us paranoid, tired, weary and feel like we're being reduced to a stereotype, or like we're being forced into a mold.

i'm not a knight just because i'm a transmasculine person who looks tough and can theoretically protect femme queers. i'm literally just standing here, being transsexual. i'm not inherently "chilvarous," i don't have any obligation to protect people just because i adopted the label "butch". what if i'm weak? what if the butch needs to be protected? what if the butch is disabled, traumatized, or just scared? i'm a wheelchair user.

why can't femmes protect their butches? why does it always have to be the butch being the chivalrous knight in our yearning posts and poems? why do we have to weave a performative ass narrative of the masculine partner swooping in to protect their defenseless feminine partner? how the HELL is this progressive or subversive at all? this is literally reinventing the binary.

the way the (white) cis lesbian community treats its butches is alienating as all hell. we are not here just to protect other people. we are not inherently protectors. we are not all strong. we are allowed to be weak. we are allowed to be scared. we are allowed to be hurt. we don't HAVE to protect our femmes, if we like femmes at all. not every butch is attracted to femme people in the first place.

butch isn't a lifestyle, it's not a set personality type. it's not a specific set of actions; it's just queer masculinity, that can be expressed by a multitude of queers for a multitude of reasons. it's not one specific set of traits. masculinity is not just found in protecting others and acting tough, it's also in being soft, vulnerable, weak and tender.

just let butches be people, don't turn us into objects before we even get out of the gates. all of this removes the human element of being butch. if the queer community can't afford that, we can't get it from anywhere, because we sure as hell aren't seen as humans by cisheteronormative society.

don't force me to see myself as a knight when i'm the one who needs help just because i'm masculine, or just because i'm a man.

butches need help, too.

[clowncaraz]

a transandrophobic's guide to transandrophobia

a small and short guide that oversimplifies things so even normies can understand. basically "don't say these things, be normal about queer men."

what is transandrophobia?

transandrophobia was coined around 2017 by a user named Saint (st-dionysus). it's a term describing multiple ways transmascs, trans men, or genderqueer men experience a form of androphobia that has the main goal of separating manhood from trans identities.

what is transandrophobia made of?

transandrophobia is made up of transmisogyny and androphobia. the transmisogyny is the ideas that trans men are either women in disguise, traitors or alien to womanhood, or lost little girls fetishizing lesbians. the focus on trans men as confused women is to assume that women cannot be anything but little innocent girls or servants. if a woman is not of those categories, then they are traitors, snakes, and are not real/pretending to be women. we see this in all sorts of spaces. if a woman is not subservient and tolerable, then they must be a "bitch," or a man in hiding. for trans men, this narrative means that they are failing womanhood because they too are not tolerable or subservient.

androphobia is the fear of men or the patriarchy. it affects women more than it affects men, and most trauma resulting from it comes from direct or indirect sexual violence or misogyny. androphobia in terms of trans men would be the fear of manhood or isolation of manhood from transness. a common pushback against androphobia and transandrophobia seems to be the idea that trans men are just trans, not men. they aren't women, but they aren't men either, so they stay in the gray zone of being defined by their agab or their sex traits.

the isolation of manhood from transness is a tactic used to correctly gender trans men without having to acknowledge their gender as being related to manhood, even if that fear is towards those who uphold the patriarchy - which trans men, by identity, do not fit in the patriarchy. it is why androphobia is known as irrational or abnormal, as all phobias are, but isn't recognized as hate or discrimination. when trans men and cis men are perceived as the same type of manhood, the assumption becomes that trans men are of the patriarchal system instead of being completely outside of it.

why androphobia and not misandry?

misandry was created to be used as a gotcha towards feminism. no one wants that. misandry is real, but is not represented in the term. instead, the subsequent discrimination and hate of men would stem from androphobia's fear. fear is the reason many people say they hate something that could cause it, and it's not irrational to fear, but the consistent anxiety and distrust leading to narratives that affect men who are not of the patriarchy is a phobia.

no one hates cis men for being men, it is hate of their ability to use their cis status and patriarchal power. cis manhood is preferred, it is widely accepted, it is natural.. trans men on the other hand are hated for being failed cis men and confused women, who are then hated for being related to cis men by being men incorrectly.

you might be transandrophobic if..

...you see trans men as the cis men of the trans community. this is a running joke in some spaces, but it perpetuates the idea that since cis men are of a higher power due to privilege, that trans men must have the same privileges and the same status due to them being men. this is not how you affirm transmasculine identities and frankly, it's downright gross. when you begin to see trans men as trans men instead of removing their manhood from their transness, you see that the manhood is inseparable from our transness and is in close quarters to how our identity functions. without that manhood, we are not trans and we are no longer of that community - we are then lumped into three categories; "non-men," nonbinary, or afab. when trans men say that we do not want our manhood to be reduced/separated from our transness, we mean that the other terms to categorize us are inaccurate, false, or derogatory.

...you don't think theyfab is a slur. it was made specifically to go after those who were assigned female at birth and used they/them primarily. this affects most if not all trans people who are genderqueer/nonbinary and were assigned female. it's a slur and is used that way.

...you don't say trans man, but instead say "tme." tme is transmisogyny exempt, and is known to be used as a stand in for anyone not presenting as a woman. it's a bioessentialist/intersexist term alongside it's counterpart; tma. these terms leave out and actively discriminate against intersex bodies and identities - and if pointed out - those who use the terms tme/tma will have a meltdown.

...say more slurs. if any of this is in your daily or private vocabulary and you actively refer to trans men or transmascs like this, there is a problem.

...you position our HRT or manhood as poison. i don't have to explain this that much but would it be acceptable for a trans man to say that estrogen is a poison and womanhood is essentially harmful by nature? if not, that might be a reason as to not do the same to trans men who need it.

...you position our oppression as lesser or never experienced. trans women face transandrophobia. that's the truth. the fear of supposed men in women spaces is one of the most rampant forms of prejudice against trans women.anyone can experience transandrophobia and transmisogyny. anyone can experience exorsexism. the main point of it is what it is supposed to be attacking. transmisogyny attacks womanhood that is trans or queer. transandrophobia attacks manhood by removing it from transness.

...you ignore the quarrels of trans men against rampant transandrophobia that seem to revolve around fears of being excluded due to not being feminine or woman enough, which the community seems to gravitate towards.

...you make transandrophobic claims that don't make sense at all.

[sirenium]

Do you know what I find funny? The fact that every time I make a positivity post about queerness at its fullest, people only have something bad to say about the lesbian part. They scream at me about how the icky men don't belong in lesbian spaces, because everyone knows all men are predatory (sarcasm).

These people only care about lesbians when it gives them an excuse to hate men. Fuck the fact that the butch community is filled with gender fuckery, and how that involves manhood. Fuck the rich history of transmasculinity and lesbianism. It's all 'lesbians can't be men! They can't like men!'

And when you say 'hey, that's not true. There are historic examples of lesbian identified people who did the very things you say lesbians can't do' you're labeled a lesbian hater. I guess I hate myself then, though since I am to some extent a man who also likes men, I was never a lesbian to begin with according to users on Tumblr dot com (again, sarcasm).

Give me a break. Stop cloaking your misandry with 'I just care about lesbians!' because you don't care about lesbians. You only care about the man hating gold star lesbians who piss themselves at the deeper queer community as you do. You would throw that elder trans man lesbian under the bus, because his identity is 'invalid' to you. You can't handle multigender people, or genderqueer people in general, sullying your precious label with their manhood. You cannot stand to see another lesbian dating a man, because suddenly they're the ones forcing people to date who they don't want to date.

Queerness is supposed to be an acceptance of who you are, as someone who strays from what is expected by cishetallo society. And yet, expectations follow you into the fucking community itself. And I get it, I'm basically a baby queer myself; I've only been out for like five years, and have barely been involved in my local queer scene. But through the little bit of experience that I have had, at least I can mind my own damn business.

Tumblr has some of the most insufferable baby queers known to man, as do other websites such as TikTok and Twitter, because they honestly think they have authority over someone else's identity. They actively try to enforce their ideas of lesbianism specifically onto other people, people who are just living differently. Nobody gets the right to say what a lesbian is or isn't, nobody gets the right to pull the 'invalid' card, because sweetheart, we're ALL invalid as far as the far right is concerned.

I used to find joy in my lesbian identity once I dusted it off, after thinking I couldn't be one the more masculine my gender got, but the amount of hatred I've personally experienced as well as witnessed dampens said joy. And that fucking sucks. So no, I don't hate lesbians, but I sure do hate the ones that have made the community so hostile towards those like me... and not because of their identity either, though they no doubt think that's the reason regardless of what the truth is.

[vaspider]

Hey! You reblogged a post earlier of a comic about lesbians wanting to have sex with each other, but one of the additions on the post was written by an extreme and proud transandrophobe who hates trans mascs. I don't want to say which person here in case this ask is posted because I'm extremely against callout posts and that sort of discourse. So if you want to know, you can message me. I also understand if this isn't something you want to engage in. I'm only sending this ask because the person is very, very proud about how much they hate trans mascs and regularly posts screenshots making fun of transmasculine people, but I don't blame you if you'd rather not know. I hate when people send asks making claims about who is "secretly a bigot," but the user in question is not secret about their harassment of fellow trans people. Anyways, please don't feel obliged to message me, and have a good day

Yeah, don't do this. I post everything, as it says all over the top of my blog. I'm not going to engage with this, and I'm not DMing someone I don't know for evidence or whatever. Either send me things or don't, but don't do this.

[transbutchblues]

about me

Iphis • he/(she)/(they) & ze/hir (no feminine terms) • transmasculine butch lesbian • white • french • autistic • physically disabled (cane user) • undergraduate classics student • hellenic polytheist (worshipping many deities but especially Artemis and Zeus) • learning ancient greek & latin • beginning to learn akkadian as of october 2024 • occasionally a writer

about this blog

mostly classics stuff or hellenic polytheism things • my religious practice is heavily informed by my studies but i make a difference between my personal beliefs and the way i will discuss myths or cults • sideblogs : @greekchoruslikealawyer : personal sideblog, where i post anything about my life but also about classics || @dancingthroughthewilderness : mostly a religious + literary account, only reblogs || @perditaiuventus : for my interest in roman history, but that also tends to go on my personal sideblog

links

— socials

spotify • mutuals can ask for my discord/insta/tiktok

— posts

The Locked Tomb analysis document (100+ pages, to be updated with new theories)

Divine transsexuality - trans gods & queer worshippers

Reminder : the Gods are everywhere

[prsk2dmv-transparents]

Headcanons for my Project SEKAI x Danny Phantom crossover fic series

Ichika: Nonbinary, bisexual, they/she/he pronouns (in preference order), anxious and autistic

Saki: Omnisexual, she/her pronouns, (juvenile) multiple sclerosis, chronic pain, auDHD, and mobility aid user (usually forearm crutches when necessary)

Honami: Ply lesbian, multigender, she/her pronouns primarily but also pronounfluid, anxious, depressed, autistic, and PTSD

Shiho: Butch, transmasculine, lesboy, he/they pronouns, autistic and depressed

[yentling]

I kinda feel like the term “queerphobia” shows a lack of understanding of. Labels describing oppression. Like it’s not a big deal like I’m not gonna die on this hill but I feel like it’s indicative of this belief that labels describing oppression have to also reflect the individual’s label and that’s not really true imo. Like the reason transandrophobia/transmisandry is bullshit despite there obviously being discourses that are particular to transmasculine ppl is that such a portmanteau implies that men are an oppressed class.

Another user (lesbianchemicalplant maybe? Idk) said this already but I’m gonna piggyback on it so late me restate it here: lesbophobia is a useful term because it describes the intersection of misogyny and homophobia. I don’t really think it’s accurate to call, say, a county clerk denying me, a lesbian, marriage unless for some reason they are letting gay men get married and not gay women. Like I think that would just be homophobia. I personally would also describe two women being attacked for being “dykes” as lesbophobia regardless if one or both aren’t actually lesbians because again, we’re describing the oppression of people who are both “gay” (in this case with a same-gender partner) and women. I guess a comparative scenario would be if I had a partner who justified abusive behavior because they believed I was going to cheat on them with a man—this would be biphobia despite me being a lesbian.

I do get why people might argue for the term “queerphobia” bc if we’re defining homophobia as “oppression of homosexuals” then you might say well it’s not that bigots have a problem with specifically gay ppl it’s queerness in general. Which sort of makes sense and again is why I’m not dying on this hill. But in my perspective anti-queer rhetoric still comes from beliefs irt same-gender relationships (homophobia), transphobia, and misogyny. Like if I, a nonbinary person who still aligns themselves somewhat with womanhood, started dating a guy, bigots would dislike us because it seems gay (homophobia), I’m not being a woman correctly and, by dating me, the guy would be seen interpreted as emasculated (misogyny), and I Have Pronouns (transphobia). To me, describing that as “queerphobia” sort of obfuscates the belief systems at play.

[mogai-headcanons]

Luz Noceda from The Owl House is a dragonkin autistic partially blind polyamorous bisexual transmasculine catgender boyflux age dreamer with ADHD, depression, PTSD, insomnia, and a self-harm addiction who uses he/him, they/them, hiss/hisses, and mew/mews pronouns, and mew is dating Will and Hunter!

Will Park is a polyamorous pansexual transmasculine nonbinary person with a male preferences who uses they/them pronouns!

Hunter Deamonne is an autistic polyamorous bisexual intersex transgender demiboy age regressor with PTSD, depression, hypermobility, insomnia, schizophrenia, BPD, DID, and albinism who uses he/him pronouns, and he has one alter, the Golden Guard!

They're all friends with Luz's ex-girlfriend Amity Blight, an arospec asexual lesbian who uses she/her pronouns!

Luz's younger brother Vee Noceda is a vincian intersex trans boy cane user with chronic pain who uses he/him pronouns!

Gus Porter is an autistic GNC bisexual middle regressor with anxiety and an undiagnosed schizoaffective disorder who uses any pronouns!

Luz's mentor Edalyn Clawthorne is a polyamorous bisexual trans woman who uses she/her pronouns!

She's in a QPR with Raine Whispers, a transmasculine genderfaun nonbinary vincian!

Raine is dating Darius Deamonne, a gay man!

Darius is good friends with Lou 'Lulu' Clawthorne, an asexual transgender man who uses he/him pronouns and is in a QPR with Hooty!

Eda's child King Clawthorne is an intersex bigender transgender titan who uses he/him and they/them pronouns!

Bo is a nonverbal polyamorous bisexual genderfaun autigender seagender person who uses they/them, he/him, boat/boats, sea/seas, and burn/burns pronouns, and they're in a polyamorous relationship with Eileen and Selene!

Eileen is a demiromantic deathcute liminalgender person with psychosis, depression, social anxiety, and insomnia who uses it/its and bite/bites pronouns!

Selene is a polyamorous xeno4xeno xenofem person with symbrachydactyly and a hoard of space xenogenders!

dni link

[tanjirou-no-au]

Yoichi: Trans Man. Bisexual. He/him.

2nd: Cis Man. Gay. He/Him

3rd: GNC Cis Woman. Aroace. She/They

Shinomori: Bigender Trans Woman. Undefined Sexuality. She/He.

Banjo: Cis Man. Gay (In the closet for most his life). He/Him.

En: Transmasculine Nonbinary man. Bisexual. He/They

Nana: Trans Woman. Lesbian (lost her wife, not her husband). She/Her

Toshinori: Trans Man. Biromantic Asexual. He/Him

Deku: Enby Cis Man. Biromantic Demisexual. He/They

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(Gestures to Yoichi, En & Toshinori)

AfO: The ‘lovely young girl’ to ‘Bastard Man OFA User’ is a heartbreaking phenoma that affects a third of OFA users by volume.

Toshinori, ex-Quirkless Vigilante: Jokes on you! We were never nice young ladies!

En, assasin turned vigilante, and Yoichi, angry feral man: *nod in agreement*

[anonsystemblog]

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About user!

We are an Anon System

We are 19 bodily, Transmasculine Queer, Lesbian, Aroaceflux and polyamorous, we are a paraphile (🗺️/⚰️)

Our collective pronouns are : he/him it/its hy/hymn xe/xem rot/rots and 🫀/🫀s

Our stances are: Anti-Contact, Pro-ship, Pro-Fiction, Anti-Censorship Anti-Abuse, Radqueer

Antis will get blocked

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[eldorr]

Shadowlesbian

Official Flag (left), Original Flag (right)

An orientation term where your lesbian identity is affected by the fact:

One is transmasculine, a trans man, transneutral, nonbinary, or just not a woman (includes multigender and genderfluid/genderflux/fluidflux individuals), as one is either too dysphoric about being called a woman, experience a disconnection from traditional womanhood, and/or simply doesn’t identify as a woman or with womanhood. They may describe their attraction as any of the following: MLW; MLNB; MLX; NBLW; NBLNB; NBLX, etc – but they don’t identify their labels as WLW; WLNB; or WLX due to reasons listed above. With a multigender and/or genderfluid/genderflux/fluidflux identity, one feels not straight when with a woman and/or has a fluctuating level of dysphoria when they sometimes view their attraction as sapphic/lesbian in nature, or as WLW; WLNB; WLX. To express that disconnection, the prefix shadow- is used.

This term also includes those whose orientation is fluid and/or flux, who may not 100% identify with the label of lesbian; due to barely ever experiencing attraction to women (or attraction period), having an attraction to women that feels lesbian but also not, having an attraction to women that’s fluid between being queer and queern’t, and/or experiencing attractions under a lesbian/sapphic lens.

In simpler terms, a shadowlesbian may be defined as the following:

Being multigender and/or genderfluid/genderflux/fluidflux but never WLW, yet feeling like their attraction to women is gai/queer.

Being m-spec and not WLW, yet feeling a connection to the label.

Being too dysphoric about being called a woman/girl/being thought of as one, yet being either NBLW, MLW or XLW with a connection to the lesbian label.

Having a fluid/flux orientation where one’s not 100% a lesbian due to any reason, but retaining a connection to the lesbian label.

Simply feeling as if one’s lesbian, but also not.

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This term was originally reposted on June 27th, 2022.

So years (July 19th 2020) ago I coined the Shadow- terms on my original mogai blog. Since then I’ve deleted that blog and one-half of the Shadow- terms do not have rebloggable posts out there, so I decided I’d repost the terms.

A while after (February 27th 2021) another tumblr user (@/thepokedexisgay) decided to make simpler alternate flags to these terms. I’ll be posting a link to their flags at the bottom of these posts.

I made the original flags based off of my original all inclusive lesbian/gay/vincian/etc. flags, and since I’ve remade those and posted them, I figured I’d remake the Shadow- flags as well, simplifying them and following the color schemes of my new flags. So yeah, some “official” flags for these terms.

That being said, I made the new Shadowlesbian flag based off of my Flowerbed Lesbian flag, so along with that if you ID as Shadowsapphic/ShadowQ4W or whoever else I mentioned could use the Flowerbed Lesbian flag, you can also use this flag if you feel your orientation is Shadow-.

(I’d prefer people use these flags as the official versions versus the originals, however if u personally like the other flags whether it’s Alois’s (thepokedexisgay) or the original ones, or feel like making your own based on an alternate lesbian/veldian/enbian/etc. flag, feel free to go on ahead.)

Yes, most of the definition in this post is ripped directly from the LGBTA wiki, with some changes to it due to my current knowledge of labels.

Here is the link to the Shadowlesbian flag made by @/thepokedexisgay, and here is the [link] to the Shadowlesbian page on the LGBTA wiki.

[calamityquellerei]

new pinned! pretty similar to the last one just with some added clarification as well as a DNI/BYI.

my name is Ei. i also go by Aoi, Baiyu, and Arabella!

in terms of marginalized identities i'm a bit all over the place. i'm a POC (Black, Falasteeni, Chinese, Japanese + others*). i'm queer as in fuck you and also as in lesbian and grayaroace. i'm intersex and transfeminine. i'm physically disabled and chronically ill. i'm Mad/mentally ill, including schizophrenia, personality disorders, and others. i'm a traumagenic disordered plural system. i'm intellectually disabled, autistic, and adhd.

*others refers to racial identities that i am not as connected to, and therefore am not comfortable listing.

full disclosure that i am also thin, hearing, seeing, non-religious, and usamerican. i only list these so people know what experiences i cannot speak on.

i'm an activist! i'm currently part of @bfpnola's advocacy committee, advocating for intellectually disabled, intersex, and Falasteeni lives.

i'm semiverbal (all the time not "go semiverbal") and a full time TTS user. i have been semiverbal my entire life.

i'm also a cult/OA survivor, although i don't talk about it very often and would prefer to not be asked about it.

DNF/BYF under the cut!

Before You Follow: - i support all plurals including nontraumagenic, nondisordered, median, spiritual, etc. plurals - i support the full decolonization of Falasteen. i do not support israel's existence as a state. - do not ask who is fronting or which alter made a post, even if we are good friends. - i support and love transmascs! i believe in transandrophobia and i firmly believe transmascs face unique oppression/discrimination because of their transmasculine identities. - i do not believe in TME/TMA labels, as nobody is "exempt" from any form of oppression. - i reclaim some slurs but not a lot and not often. if you reclaim a lot of slurs very often i support you! - i use support needs and severity labels for my autism (i have medium support needs/moderate autism).

Do Not Follow: - people who are going to drag me into syscourse. i'm pro endo, but i also don't mind interacting with most anti endos and neutrals and idc if you follow me as an anti as long as you're not going to harass me or try to make me do syscourse with you. - israel supporters, two-state "solution" supporters, anyone who doesn't support the full decolonization of Falasteen. - people who don't believe in transandrophobia - people who use TME/TMA labels - people who think support needs labels for autism are useless or "dividing the community" - anyone who regularly posts about shipcourse or is going to drag me into it - people who say "go semiverbal" or "go nonverbal". this only rly applies if you've been educated and choose to ignore the people educating you, if you genuinely didn't know and are open to education that's different. - people who use the term "theyfab" outside of an educational/reclamation context. even if you think the person deserves to be called it or if you claim it's not a derogatory term.

[hitaka5ever]

Pride Month YCHs (Infinite Slots for now)

I'm currently taking Pride Month YCHs with DA user michifishu's pride flag bases. I wanna start early so I can be sure to have all of them done by/in June

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About me: I am a transmasculine enby that uses he/him pronouns and I live in a country where anti-trans healthcare and legislation is being passed in several states. I don't think Oregon will be changing anything bc we're a democrat state, and our Governor is a lesbian democrat. But the biggest concern is 2024, where Trump has already threatened to make being transgender illegal across the country. If he or any of his cohorts (DeSantis is running) wins the presidency, the lives of trans POC, trans Jews, and all trans people will be in jeopardy

Most of the profits of these commissions are going towards my livelihood, as I wish to be a full time freelance artist going forward, but I will send a small percentage to pro-trans charities, especially for POC and Jews, who have more at stake than I ever will as a white atheist

Thank you for reading and I hope you will consider buying a pride flag YCH slot. I also have other types of commissions if you want something else instead (I currently do human/anthro reference sheets, headshots/icons, and other YCHs. I do not do full drawings or comics at this time)

Stay safe my fellow LGBTQIA+ family! We can get through these scary times if we stick together and not give up hope

I love you all 🖤🤎❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[shittyasexualwitch]

okay so as promised in the comments of my last post, here's a take on political hypocrisy nobody asked for inspired by me having to unfollow someone because they said something icky

not a callout post, not trying to start beef with some random internet stranger, if you somehow trace back the post I'm so very vaguely talking about as a stepping stone to a point from just what I'm about to say then, uh, shit, you weren't meant to, oopsie

the post in question: a preface, along the lines of "not to gatekeep or anything, but" followed immediately by the take that you shouldn't be allowed to call yourself a lesbian unless you specifically have a vaginal genital preference, and that anyone who considers themselves a lesbian and isn't in it for the vagina should be forced to find another term

the individual responsible for the post: a transmasculine guy who self-assigns as a straight lesbian, with a blog that's otherwise seemingly built around the philosophy that queer people should be allowed to have complicated "contradictory" identities without judgement, because a label is meant to be what works for the user (the very reason I followed in the first place)

essentially, the reason this take rubbed me the wrong way is because A. it's biological essentialist bullshit, it's essentially denying trans women womanhood on the basis of their partners' gential preferences, B. well, fuck ace lesbians I guess, and C. (this one's the key point of this post) the level of fucking hypocrisy required to gatekeep women out of lesbianism when your claim to the label is already much more controversial than that of the people you intend to exclude is bewildering, fucking astounding

to be very clear, I've got no problem with this guy using the lesbian label, but by his own logic, he fucking should, no?

which brings me to the actual reason I made this post, because all of that was merely something that reminded me of something I was already pissed off about, immigrants (wait, I know it looks bad, hear me out)

I live in a very immigrant dense country, on an even more immigrant dense island, mostly quite progressive, tax haven, very beautiful, big industries, one of the safest places to live on earth, EU/Schengen/Eurozone member state, paces away from northern Africa, southeastern Europe and the middle east, lot of diasporas around the world that are looking to come back, it makes sense, immigrants of every walk have a lot of reasons to come here, and I welcome each and every one with open arms because I'm of the opinion that if you make a conscious and active decision to move out of your homeland to here, you've put more effort into proving you're one of us than most of us, but unfortunately that's definitely not the majority opinion, we're a deeply racist country, and it's hard to fight, because what the fuck of substance am I going to say to another native Gozitan to correct their racism beyond "hey, could you be a little less racist?"

but then what baffles me, and I mean truly fucking baffles me, I cannot even begin to wrap my head around it, is that very concerningly often, I come across an individual who happens to have immigrated here, who in any other circumstance I would consider an equal in every regard with just as much leeway to say dumb shit as any native, and then these individuals manage to muster up the fucking audacity to start going off about how they don't like immigrants, and then argue with me about it when I disagree

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motherfucker, if I shared your opinion, if I had the opinion you are arguing with me to try to convince me to have, I would tell you to get the fuck out of my country running, and go back home, you as an immigrant do not get to say that shit

and I'll tell you a little secret, it's only the western white ones that pull that shit, they're talking about immigrants, what they mean is African and south Asian immigrants, sometimes eastern European immigrants too, but they're just saying the word immigrants, as if it's assumed that being from Australia or England or America makes them not that, as if they're in a separate, more respectable category, nono, they're simply expatriates, but I know what you are, I know what you fucking are and I'm okay with it, I am, truly, but evidently you're fucking not, and I'm not okay with that, you fucking hypocrite

and the great irony in all of that is that on the surface it may look like those pasty fucking hypocrites command more respect from the natives than the immigrants they don't want to be associated with, but that's not how it works here, racism as the world knows it is an American invention, discrimination has regional variants, the races here aren't white, black, and asian, the races here Maltese, Gozitan, and everyone else, you don't cozy up to the fringe groups of racists because they don't like you either, which brings me to my final overarching conclusion that wraps this whole post up with a neat little bow, hear my gospel loud and let it echo within your head until you've heard it sevenfold:

political hypocrisy as displayed by the examples above serves only to achieve one outcome, and that is bringing the movement down on oneself, it is an act of self-harm that one undergoes by forcing their siblings to be harmed with them, so if you're planning on taking a dive off a cliff, be a dear and have the decency to not pull anyone down with you