#this is partially a rant

[tildeunobelus]

genuinely what do people mean when they say “it’s not their fault but also [x] isn’t an excuse” ??

(in this context it’s referring to mental illnesses, some particularly stigmatized ones)

i get wanting to be nuanced but someone please explain this to me with words other than those

how i understand it: [person] does not stop doing [abusive behavior], [abusive behavior] is exasperated by [disorder], [disorder] is caused by being the victim of [other person’s] [abusive behavior] or genetics from [other abusive person], [person] experiences [abusive behavior] and despite their insight perpetuates the same [abusive behavior] WHAT AM I MISSING

on that note why are the same people that say this constantly on themselves about the same behavior? according to you it’s not your fault!! what’s there to take accountability for?? for some reason you’re not expecting them to, so why should you? unless you think that’s what makes you a better person, and in turn, them a worse person.

look, we’ve seen people double down on racism, misogyny, transphobia, and other absolutely abhorrent beliefs. it’s in their everyday patterns, engrained in them like disordered thinking. why is this so different? it’s almost as if people are taking the stigmatism of these disorders and flipping them completely. like we should feel sorry for them and give them more grace (grace, not love or presence) because they struggle.

i thought the whole point of eliminating stigma was to treat people equally and equitably, not make hierarchies and only apply nuances where you feel like it.

accountability and fault shouldn’t be avoided because you don’t want their disorder stigmatized. that is aiding in stigmatizing the disorder!!!!

(like the definition of excuse is releasing blame or fault)

[lumidotexe]

niche interest

[asher-012]

I wonder if anyone else feels like they've only started existing since they where like. 12-13

Like, I feel like I've only been existing since maybe 12, but I have memories from before that age that are DEFINITELY mine, but it's also sort of hard to tell what age I've really started existing by, since I'm an introject of our literal body, it's just so.. Confusing? Is this a normal experience? Does ANYONE exist before those ages? Does anyone actually exist before the personality (tries) finishing it's weird stuff or??

[suddenly-stickmin]

Not sure if ur still taking requests but can u draw kurt dietrich plsss ^_^

One Kurt fresh out the oven for ya! He's listening to Dave yap again

[ahalliance]

rapid fire french rayou strikes again (transcript below the cut)

[Video transcript:

[ENG] Etoiles: I— I’m speedrunning it [Mario Party], but it’s like—

[FR] Etoiles: The next person to bust my balls by saying, ‘he’s going to miss the Ascension [French competitive event happening this Saturday 28/10]’ even though my plane is at six PM, you bunch of morons, it’s not because ZeratoR [Ascension event organiser] said once that I’d miss my plane that I will miss my plane, because what you guys don’t understand is that a plane doesn’t get missed if you arrive three hours in advance, and the last time I missed the plane was because my corresponding flight was one hour and a half [late]!

[ENG] Etoiles: I was just saying to my chat that I love them :)

Tina: Awhhh

Foolish: See, once again I have a feeling maybe that wasn’t—

End Video Transcript.]

[sliipppy]

Everytime someone calls Duke Thomas "the normal one" a bat loses its wings.

[counting-stars-gayly]

They’re not going to rebuild Castle Byers because Will can’t rebuild his childhood, which is the reason he destroyed Castle Byers in the first place. He’d been trying to hold on to a level of carefree ignorance that no longer existed for him. The problems Castle Byers saved him from have been replaced by new problems that are bigger and stronger than a child’s fort. He needs to face them differently. Thank you and goodnight

[pdid-culture-is]

P-DID system is going to the tag #pdid and then. Seeing non P-DID system posts. /Not targeted

I'm just so tired of the lack of representation,, man.

I think I'm just tired of the fact that people posting about non P-DID things and instead OTHER SPECIFIC THINGS in there is upsetting since like. Man. We barely get anything to ourselves but I feel like just because you're posting about system,, you don't have to add specific like #did, #osdd, etc.

We have tags like #system things FOR A REASON.

So sorry for the rant ,, I am tired of us being so ignored when it comes to the plural community :(.

→⛽🔪

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[uncanny-tranny]

I jokingly thought before that reading Junie B. Jones as a kid turned me into a feminist, but unironically, it kind of did.

I honestly think it comes down to the fact that Junie B. was not only allowed to be "weird," but her character arc never concluded like other girl characters would. In other media featuring "weird girls," the girl always ended her arc tamed - by force or convince, she would be prettied up, she would smile and be polite, and she would never speak out of turn. She would be perfect then, and would shed her veneer of individuality with the freedom that is conformity. As a kid, I noticed that girls weren't permitted to be "weird" like boys were. So when I read Junie B. Jones, I loved that she was frankly just fucking weird. She said things out of turn, she was rambunctious and imaginative and she was a realistic portrayal of a little girl. I loved reading those books because the narrative taught her lessons without punishing her for being weird, if that makes sense. So often, narratives punished weird girls for the crime of being a socially unacceptable girl, not for any true wrongdoing like lying.

Anyway, I just think it's interesting, because I watched and read a ton of books and shows and movies featuring girls and women, but none of them truly empathized with (or even tried to empathize with) weird girls on their own merits and capabilities and terms, or embraced the idea of a "socially inept/unacceptable" girl without punishing her in some way for her supposed ineptitude.

[r-aindr0p]

I'm not gay but is it weird that I want to kiss Rollo on his (probably very dry) lips? Help

I mean....

Look at him look at this character design, the silouhette, his aura, his presence ??? The robes with the slits on the end ?? The 18th century cunty shoes ?? Puffy sleeves ??? Golden emborideries ?? That insanely cool staff giving him at least +10 charisma !!! (The general priest-ish look...)

And that face omg the tiny bangs + eyebag + "tired of your shit" look and almost constant frown

HOW COULD YOU NOT WANT TO KISS THIS MAN !!

I absolutely understand the feeling, bring him some chaptstick and go for it tbh

[valvesoftware]

sighs deeply

[hereforf1]

I have mixed emotions right now because my dash is devided into two groups:

those who say it has been worse and we have gotten up before. How Fred has time to turn things around since it took Todt years. How we should trust in Charles and his capabilities to win. "Forza Ferrari Sempre" people

those who doompost and say we are screwed. Who think Charles should just leave Ferrari and go fight for the WDC in another team. Where he could truly show what he can do. People who don't trust Fred nor Ferrari anymore. "Forza Charles" people

And I, personally, have no idea how to feel. Because yes. I would absolutely LOVE to see Charles bring the Championship back to Maranello. Afterall he IS the Il Predestinato. It would remake history in the most beautiful way.

At the same time, I want Charles to win. And currently, Ferrari isn't the place for that. I see Lestappen Gate 2024 posts and adore the idea. That's where he could truly shine and prove himself. I LOVE the idea and would support Charles through it all.

Point is: I don't know which one is better... I would love to be able to say I have faith in Ferrari, be a "Forza Ferrari Sempre" person. But I fear I have no "Forza Ferrari's" left in me. You will always see me "Forza Charles" here but my opinion on Ferrari is just all over the place right now. And I hate it.

I want to believe. I want to have faith. I want to trust in them and the project. But how much longer can I do this? These weekends when everything seems to go to hell and Charles is more frustrated than anyone.

Honestly, I have no idea.

[genderful-ghoul]

It’s real hard to be excited about tours when concerts are always hours drives away from you at massive arenas and you’re also poor

Like, I can’t even get excited when tours are announced, I just feel this cavernous depressive feeling not just that the musician only plays big cities, but also that they feed the ticketing industry that is killing small theaters and clubs.

Praying to The Last Dinner Party that financially successful musicians pull themselves together and kill Ticketmaster.

[phoenixesse]

Gayass idea where wlw Shadow kisses Sonic with lipstick all of the time to see it show up on her, and Sonic’s always disappointed she can’t do the same until she tackles her when they go super

[theirwolfbicanthrope]

See, regardless the intention with the new Nosferatu what I see over and over especially on Twitter with -no joke- over 400,000 likes are posts about how all this happened because Thomas was way too invested in getting a promoyion instead of staying home and fucking his wife

I mean, it's hard to have sex with your wife if you don't have a home. just saying.

Really, though, the victim blaming going on with these takes makes me so frustrated. Even IF we ignore that Orlok already knows Ellen and feels entitled to her, even IF we ignore that he is doggedly determined (now that she's married to someone else) to show up and reclaim her for good - Thomas. Had. No. Choice.

Not to rant at you, anon, just using your ask to go off on this narrative.

The thing is - Thomas is already in debt at the start. That it's to his friend doesn't matter to Thomas. Honestly it might make the debt seem even worse. He is indebted to Harding financially, he and Ellen are not off to the most secure start, he's already been away for a while due to the honeymoon - this actually is vitally important for them. He needs his job. He was already late - if he hadn't been so late or hadn't realized it, he likely would have stayed home longer. But he couldn't. Then when he's offered this big, lucrative deal, he can't refuse it. Knock commenting about 'if you close this sale, you're job is guaranteed' isn't just tempting him with success, it's also threatening him with failure.

What happens if Ellen relapses and they're destitute? What happens if Ellen is having her seizures again, the sleepwalking, the melancholy, what if it gets worse? Ellen of course is still in the sweet honeymoon phase and thinks that love will be enough to stave those things off because so far Thomas' mere presence and affection has worked. But the thing is, that high is going to come back down. It happens in even the most wholesome and genuine of relationships, and stress - especially financial stress - will not do them any favors. Will not do her and her mental health and her attempts to keep her bond with Orlok suppressed any good whatsoever. I mean, that's basically what is happening in the film. The more they struggle financially, the more desperate things get, the greater the fissures and cracks that form in their marriage, giving Orlok more opportunity to come in and use it against them. Which is quite literally what he does. Thomas staying home, refusing the job, etc., only changes the how and when.

Ellen doesn't quite get it because based on what we know of her background and her father, she's never struggled to make ends meet, she's struggled with wealth and status being used against her. Of course she comes at this from the angle of 'being in a wealthy household didn't protect me', which Thomas can't understand. Neither can Ellen understand Thomas' perspective of being in debt to someone, worrying about failing to provide. I don't think it's simply that Thomas wants to make Ellen comfortable and have a life like she used to - he quite literally is worried that he cannot provide for her at all, especially if she gets sick (mentally or physically).

Like, Thomas in the 2024 movie isn't solely and completely driven by financial success - if you contrast him in the film with how Eggers originally wrote him in the 2016 script or how he's portrayed in the 2023 remake, this Thomas comes across to be more of the mindset that 'having financial success and being of similar standing to Ellen and Friedrich will make everything fine and I will be good enough to deserve her love and his friendship.' The driving factors are really that Thomas a) wants everything to be will for him and Ellen and b) wants to live up to the rigid societal standards of his gender. He's insecure, and he's overcompensating. Which isn't great but is a relatively normal character flaw, and certainly isn't one that is so inherently damning. His love and concern for Ellen still factor into things. He's not turning into a money-obsessed, toxic masculinity-minded asshole or something of the sort. That's why as soon as he's no longer naive to this darkness in the world - the things that Ellen has known of all along - his motivation shifts entirely to protecting Ellen. He understands now that unfortunately, in this rigged, supernatural game they're all trapped in, money means nothing. Money can't save Harding and his family, it certainly won't save Thomas and Ellen. But even IF he had known that all along - it wouldn't have made a difference.

Thomas and Ellen still need to live, Thomas would have to leave for work, and would have to take that job that sends him over to Transylvania. And if somehow they could circumvent that? Orlok still would find a way to separate them. Orlok would still come to Wisburg. Thomas is not the hero in this story, he's the damsel in distress, and unfortunately for him, while he gets to make it out alive, the actual hero who saves the day does not. Thomas loses his wife, but that is not his fault. It's not his fault he got assaulted, traumatized, left for dead, and it's not his fault he couldn't save Ellen. It's not his fault she died.

Ellen was doomed long before she met him, and that wasn't her fault, either.

anyway, all this to say - I'm glad I'm not on twitter. I'm glad I can block people with these takes.

[avianii]

get snowballed idiot.

OK I KNOW I SAID

ID POST SOMETHING.... 2 DAYS AGO

BUT ITS CURRENTLY 12:14 AM AND IM STILL WORKING ON IT

so here's a sneak peek bc (I need validation) I mean I think the top gun tag needs some slider <3