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genuinely what do people mean when they say “it’s not their fault but also [x] isn’t an excuse” ??
(in this context it’s referring to mental illnesses, some particularly stigmatized ones)
i get wanting to be nuanced but someone please explain this to me with words other than those
how i understand it: [person] does not stop doing [abusive behavior], [abusive behavior] is exasperated by [disorder], [disorder] is caused by being the victim of [other person’s] [abusive behavior] or genetics from [other abusive person], [person] experiences [abusive behavior] and despite their insight perpetuates the same [abusive behavior] WHAT AM I MISSING
on that note why are the same people that say this constantly on themselves about the same behavior? according to you it’s not your fault!! what’s there to take accountability for?? for some reason you’re not expecting them to, so why should you? unless you think that’s what makes you a better person, and in turn, them a worse person.
look, we’ve seen people double down on racism, misogyny, transphobia, and other absolutely abhorrent beliefs. it’s in their everyday patterns, engrained in them like disordered thinking. why is this so different? it’s almost as if people are taking the stigmatism of these disorders and flipping them completely. like we should feel sorry for them and give them more grace (grace, not love or presence) because they struggle.
i thought the whole point of eliminating stigma was to treat people equally and equitably, not make hierarchies and only apply nuances where you feel like it.
accountability and fault shouldn’t be avoided because you don’t want their disorder stigmatized. that is aiding in stigmatizing the disorder!!!!
(like the definition of excuse is releasing blame or fault)
#this is partially a rant#sorry if it’s not coherent#i’m genuinely curious#abuse recovery#bpd parent#trauma
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I don't talk about it very often, but I am a parent with bpd. I have a toddler and it is exhausting trying to be a mom* but also fighting the urge to split when overstimulated because they're just a baby and don't deserve my rage.
I try to be as transparent as possible on here and this is probably the hardest part of having bpd.
*yes I'm genderfluid but use the term mom as it's what I prefer/am most comfortable with
#bpd#actually bpd#mental health#actually borderline#borderline personality disorder#bpd fp#bpd vent#bpd safe#actuallybpd#bpd problems#bpd parent#mom with bpd
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hey guys! if you have a parent with bpd or high emotional instability, please take this (anonymous) survey! the experiences of children of parents with bpd aren’t talked about enough and we’re trying to change that 💞 18+
and there is a chance to win $20 as a thank you for participating:)
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Yeah, my mom definitely is the "witch" subtype. Lol, she was slashing the table my aunt gave my dad WITH A KNIFE like a complete psycho because she was jealous or some shit. Fought with my dad too, but she lost so she doesn't physically take it out on dad. And I got beaten so many times for no good reason. She even almost scalded me with hot water once but somehow sanity prevailed. Fucking witch, the name fits.
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#actually boderline#borderline problems#being borderline#actually cluster b#depressing shit#cluster b#actually bpd#boderline personality disorder#bpd#parenting#mummy issues#mentally unwell#daddy issues#borderline personality traits#trauma#childhood#neglect#negative#mental health#heartbreak
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I have my father's rage inside of me. And it's getting bigger and bigger, I can't stop it this time. It's killing me, I don't wanna turn into him, I hate this man sooo much, he has ruined my life.
#i hate my father#daddy issues#toxic family#toxic parents#toxic father#bpd blog#actually bpd#bpd thoughts#bpd vent#bpd#actually borderline#bpd problems#toxic household#tw self destruction#tw depressing stuff#depressing shit#this is depressing#sorry for being depressing#tw selfhate#vent#self h@rm
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#I wanna fucking off myself Jesus Christ#why did nobody help?#I’m so tired of them saying “well we didn’t know#THERE WERE SIGNS LITERALLY EVERYWHERE#bpd#mental health#actually bpd#mental illness#bpd shit#actually borderline#bpd shitposting#bpd problems#bpd mood#bpd meme#parental abuse#tw sa implied
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the way I crave a parent who, not only loves me, but likes me, and notices me is so so embarrassing
#my heart aches when i think of the few good childhood memories i have with my parents#i want the mum who played snowman with me after a bath when i was covered in talcum powder#i want the mum who would hold me and not get mad at me when i cried#i want the dad who. actually i dont think i have a good memory of just me and my dad#im sick of the parents who cancel on me and forget about me and refuse to listen when i speak#im sick of being scared and alone and needing parents I'll never see again- parents ive never actually had#im homesick for a love i never really had#bpd#actually bpd#bpd safe#bpd thoughts#bpd vent#bpd blog#bpd splitting#bpd diary#actually borderline#borderline thoughts#borderline blog#borderline personality disorder#borderline vent#eupd#actually eupd#emotionally unstable personality disorder#mother issues#father issues#parent issues#family issues
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Having survived abuse from people with mental illnesses, I know the urge to warn others to be wary of those mental illnesses. I know how often it can feel like that is your only power in life…the only action you can take against what you went through. But listen. Just because a mentally ill person caused you complex trauma, doesn’t mean you get to generalize and slander and malign every person with that mental illness.
You do not have to forgive your abusers. but you do have to heal without spreading stigma and misinformation. you do have to heal without antagonizing or dehumanizing others who are also just trying to heal. you have to help break the cycle. because nobody can heal alone.
#cluster b disorders#childhood trauma#abuse survivor#parental abuse#parental trauma#cptsd recovery#complex trauma#trauma recovery#cptsd healing#mental health representation#disability advocacy#adverse childhood experiences#npd positivity#bpd problems#personality disorders#manic depressive#did osdd#aspd safe#npd safe#bipolar disorder#psychotic disorders#mental health education#mental illness advocacy#cluster b#hpd safe#borderline personality disorder#social justice#antisocial personality disorder#narcissistic personality disorder#histrionic personality disorder
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I always find it really annoying when parents say "oh, they're just doing that for attention" when they find out their child is hurting themselves.
...Why not give it to them, then? Why is your child so deprived of attention that they're resorting to self-harm and other dangerous behaviour in an attempt to get it?
Even if needing attention was the sole reason they're doing it (which it often times isn't), that's still a sign that you've been neglectful of your child's physical and emotional needs.
#tw.self harm#parental abuse#toxic parents#emotional neglect#child abuse#actually mentally ill#mentally unstable#npd safe#bpd safe#aspd safe#hpd safe
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and if I said that dennis’ insistence on being the breadwinner/provider despite literally being a pampered princess who dgaf about traditional roles of masculinity in every other regard (aside from ego) is because his mom only stayed with/chose frank for his wealth and dennis is highly aware that he’s difficult to love and unable to show his emotions openly so he has to be contributing something to the relationship materially in order to feel like he’s worth staying for… and mac grew up with parents who were extremely ambivalent to him and eachother so he has to overcompensate by proving his worth at every given moment and seeking praise/validation from people (and religious icons) who will never demonstrate the same amount of dedication to him but he has no idea how else to desperately keep himself close to those he loves other than by eroding himself into something they’ll approve of… dear god they’re both exactly what the other needs — someone who can’t and won’t leave them even if they try — and they don’t even see it…
#dennis thinks he’s losing his edge and mac thinks he’s perfect anyway#mac feels like no one in his life has ever needed him enough to stay but dennis can’t stay away#IM ILLLLLL about these men from the world’s stupidest sitcom#sorry if this got a little freudian I don’t LITERALLY mean it in the sense that mac/dennis are seeking something that reminds them of their#parents (gross) (although pretty character accurate to the SINNED system)#but rather that our childhoods teach us what we should expect and look out for in life#and it never really leaves us#this all stemmed from me contemplating MADMTTS and how it would’ve made way more sense for mac (high energy adhd) to be out in the world#and dennis (bpd anger issues) to be indoors free from the triggers of the world#but they INSISTED on mac being housewife dennis being breadwinner#same as their little battle over supposed roles/dynamics as hugh honey/vic vinegar/brian lefevre etc#you are two queer men why on earth do you care about sticking to heterosexual gender roles#but it was never about the gender roles it was about what they self-assign their value to…#mac and dennis#mac mcdonald#dennis reynolds#iasip#it’s always sunny in philadelphia#its always sunny#macdennis#macden
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I just want a mom.
#borderline personality disorder#bpd vent#bpd thoughts#borderline problems#actually bpd#bpd#bpd safe#parents#mother#narcassist#mental illness
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No one understands guilt better than a girl with emotionally immature parents
#personal#actually bpd#bpd#bpd vent#actually borderline#bpd thoughts#vent#actually traumatized#actually cptsd#emotionally immature parents#like my dad just stole my moms phone AGAIN to text me some BULLSHIT#as he always does. and I was mean because wtf#and now I feel bad cause he's trying to be nice even though 6 seconds ago he called me a spoiled asshole#I told him that if we never speak again he can look at the last chat we had where he basically called me a useless bitch#soooooooo 🤦♀️ unfortunately.....he never learns. I told him he should have never called me a stupid bitch when i was 5 yrs old#because that STUCK with me. so hard. and his response was well maybe you were being one#excuse ME?
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‘Was I raised without love or was I born unlovable?’
#bpd#im not mentally stable#mental health relapse#mentally unhinged#mentally exhausted#actually mentally ill#borderline personality disorder#bpd girl#girl interrupted#femcel#coquette#female manipulator#manic pixie dream girl#lana del rey#female rage#mommy issues#daddy issues#parents issues#unlovable#mentally unstable#female insanity#im going insane#crazy girl#im just a girl#tumblr girls#girlhood#feminine urge#female hysteria#female experience#dark feminine energy
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I dunno, i just think you should be able to do something nice or loving for your siblings without being told that "that's not normal" and "you're being creepy" (two things that have been said to me on more than one occasion)
i bullied my siblings horrendously as a child. hated on them. abused them emotionally, like my mother and father had been doing to me. i'd give them a certain look and they'd all go quiet, not because i was respected but because i was feared. i told them that i hated them more than i'd say i loved them. the only time they ever saw kindness from me was when i'd get into fights with my parents over how they were treating the kids.
everybody told me this was normal. they laughed, took videos of the abuse these kids went through and posted it because "that's what it's like to have siblings!"
My younger sister has the lowest self esteem out of anyone I've ever met now. They all have mental health issues that are most commonly developed as a result of trauma, and while I know I wasn't the sole reason behind it, i played a huge part.
Seeing me again several years after I escaped was like meeting a new person, my sister said to me. I hugged her. i told her i loved her. I constantly reminded her of how smart she was and that i was proud of her. i'd buy them little presents from the store sometimes and took the time to get to know each person all over again.
i even told them about what I remembered and apologised for each individual thing, before encouraging them to tell me about what they remembered. I am fiercely protective over them now, and it pays off each time the youngest rushes to greet me at the door because she's so excited to see me.
just because it's "typical" for siblings to argue, insult each other, etc. does not mean it doesn't leave lasting scars. especially when you're young - you do eventually start to believe it, because you're being reminded of how much you're hated every. single. fucking. day.
DNI if you believe in cluster B abuse.
#npd safe#bpd safe#cluster b safe#hpd safe#aspd safe#child abuse#tw abuse#parental abuse#tw parental abuse#mental health awareness#narc abuse does not exist#abuse survivor#narc abuse truthers dni#narc abuse believers dni#narc abuse isn't real
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