#this is me. asserting my boundaries. to myself.

[alterousuggestion]

i am allowed to not want to give myself intimately in every single aspect to my platonic friends. i am allowed to want to reserve some intimacy for a different type of relationship. i am allowed to be picky about who receives my intimacy, despite being an aromantic who gives my all in friendships.

[ccaptain]

Realizing that, even as a medicated individual that also keeps going on therapy, I do fall back into patterns that I hate. But I also have back-up plans for almost every single situation I can fall back into and most of the advices I can give myself usually work.

[auntiefragile]

me after forfeiting my own boundaries and putting myself into situations where i’m not comfortable because my parents only taught me how to be a people pleaser and to never say no

[irul]

customary i wanna kmś posting

[theghostwizard]

I recently adopted the habit of warning Betel when I'm about to pet his poppet. Highly recommend for anyone with touch-starved or otherwise touch-sensitive spirits.

[torao-chan]

my mother: how shall i motivate my child on his one day off to do the chores i think he needs to do cause he looks like he's doing nothing on this one resting day he's got for two weeks straight my mother: oh i know, i should suggest he never knows when the estate agents or other people who matter may drive by and take a moment to pause and judge how he's running the place and that this could happen at Any Time At Any Moment On Any Day my mother: this surely won't fuck with his anxiety and social anxiety and trauma and paranoia i know very well he has :) me: please don't my mother: too late I already have :) me: i fuckin know you have ;n;

[die-tenebris]

Confronted by the fact that though the way allosexuals navigate the world infuriates and affects me personally, I should not, in fact, extend my frustrations to the wider population of them just because I have been slighted ;p

But also I should get the special treat of being able to curse them bc I think they're annoying + how they conceptualize human interaction wastes my time and demands way more of me than I'm comfortable with. Then, because they're the majority, I'm the weirdo who needs to bend to their ridiculous uncomfortable ways that ruin my life. Like, no, confound you forever and leave me tf alone.

[sublime-is-the-silence]

Crazy that the worst incidents in my life that caused me to end relationships with people began because I drew a boundary

[fraeyyassblr]

— 𝓗OW I GET EVERYTHING I WANT INSTANTLY! NO BS GUIDE

and this is what y'all should watch out for

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 assume that I already have it.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 decide that it's already mine.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 affirm and persist 5% of the time. who cares, when it is already done.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 don't care about any logic, I run with my emotions and feel the joy and excitement of already having it.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 do NOT believe that things work against me. not my thoughts, not my subconscious mind, not my beliefs, not my body, not my ego, not my circumstances, not my circumstances, not time, nothing!! there's nothing.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 block or reject circumstances because even those are manifestations. "junk food and soft drinks will-" my ass. I've been drinking coca cola for a long time and still no weight gain nor health issues. "he doesn't like you because you haven't talked-" my ass. who puts logic into people's emotions? that's ass.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 visualize ass if I hear or see something that's bs. "if I already have it, where is it" my ass. "manifestation is hard" my ass. "I don't have" my ass. "it takes time to-" my ass.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 actually make manifestation fun because it is actually meant to be fun. or not, who cares. "you have to do this you can't do that" my ass.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 have no resistance towards my desires because I don't see a gap between me and it nor do I treat manifestation like it's a chore or a thing I've never done in my life.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 actually have my own self-concept only I can curate because nobody else is going to tell me what I am and what I'm not or what I can and can't do if it's my reality that I've lived in since birth.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 make the rules and nobody else.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 trust myself. I never outsource my trust. I'm not scrolling around finding more and more information on the internet about manifestation nor am I constantly checking if my manifestations are already there.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 only put the effort I want to put in, in my manifestations. If I only want to affirm that I have it for 5 minutes, it is done. If I want to mind saturate or visualize in the shower for 30 minutes, it is done. If I want to do SATs then it is done. because manifestation is not a chore, it is something you can actually enjoy.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 don't force my thoughts, emotions and affirmations. affs are not supposed to be boring, I create comedy and movies in my head about it. or I don't, who cares, I already have it.

꒰ 𐙚 ꒱ 𝓘 don't attach myself to desires because I am not soul bound to scarcity. listen, girls. if you assert your boundaries and are clear of how you want to be treated because you are unavailable to anything less (meaning, you'll be gone the time they irk you) from the cause of your own detachment to a specific outcome.. baby, your relationships will be much more abundant.

[girlwithrituals]

101 ways to improve self esteem

1) Master a new skill.

2) List your accomplishments.

3) Do something creative.

4) Challenge your limiting beliefs.

5) Talk to a counselor.

6) Don't worry about what others think.

7) Read or watch something inspirational.

8) Stay true to your character.

9) Let go of negative people.

10) Set healthy boundaries with others.

11) Care about your appearance.

12) Welcome failure as part of growth.

13) Be a lifelong learner.

14) Face your fears.

15) Become a mentor.

16) Accept compliments.

17) Eliminate self-criticism.

18) Practice coping skills to manage stress and big emotions.

19) Notice negative thoughts and beliefs.

20) Challenge negative thinking.

21) Think about what you learned from negative experiences.

22) Practice gratitude.

23) Exercise.

24) Eat healthy and limit junk food.

25) Get good sleep.

26) Spend time with positive and supportive people.

27) Encourage yourself.

28) Write a list of your strengths.

29) Don't compare yourself to others.

30) Avoid perfectionism.

31) Do at least one positive, enjoyable activity every day.

32) Celebrate small victories.

33) Be helpful and considerate to others.

34) Be honest with yourself and others.

35) Accept your flaws.

36) Don't give up.

37) Practice self-care.

38) Go easy on yourself.

39) Practice being assertive.

40) Practice saying "No".

41) Practice relaxation techniques.

42) Take on challenges.

43) Volunteer to help others.

44) Forgive others and yourself.

45) Set goals and work toward them step by step.

46) Seek balance in all areas of your life.

47) Discover your passions and purpose

48) Groom yourself.

49) Dress nicely.

50) Be kind and generous to others.

51) Practice good posture.

52) Change a small habit.

53) Smile.

54) Don't procrastinate.

55) Don't take things personal.

56) Organize your personal space.

57) Challenge unkind thoughts about yourself.

58) Spend time outside.

59) Notice the good things.

60) Celebrate your successes

61) Write a list of things you like about yourself.

62) Don't take too much on.

63) Do something for yourself every day.

64) Develop daily habits.

65) Remind yourself it's okay if not everyone likes you.

66) Practice mindfulness.

67) Learn to tolerate discomfort.

68) Use problem-solving skills.

69) Take responsibility instead of blaming.

Tell Yourself Positive Affirmations Such As:

70) I am grateful for every day.

71) I am worthy of happiness and love.

72) I am in charge of my own happiness.

73) I love, respect, and believe in myself.

74) I deserve to be happy and successful.

75) I approve of myself, right here and now.

76) I am learning and changing for the better.

77) I accept 100% responsibility for my own life.

78) Every day in every way, I am getting better and better.

79) I can learn to accept the parts of myself that I don't like.

80) I am thankful for my challenges as they make me a stronger person.

81) Write down three positives about each day.

82) Make a collage with your talents, goals, and dreams.

83) Practice laughing.

84) Be proud of yourself.

85) Say mistakes are an opportunity to learn.

86) Show respect to yourself and others.

87) Resolve conflict peacefully.

88) Ask for help or support.

89) Complete a daily task list.

90) Have a growth mindset.

91) Be optimistic.

92) Treat yourself with kindness and compassion.

93) Focus on the things you have control over and can change.

94) Get started on tasks you have been putting off.

95) Practice good daily hygiene.

96) Focus on solutions not problems.

97) Talk about your feelings with someone you trust.

98) Drink plenty of water.

99) Start a new hobby or join a club/sport.

100) Do random acts of kindness.

101) Create a dreams list.

[fugitive-from-the-laws-of-nature]

drafting the text to my manager that I'm FUCKING QUITTING. this damn retail job finally hit its last straw and I'm not being paid nearly enough to give a damn about the fallout.

[moonmutt]

ironic that i'm so loving and affectionate with my friends but as soon as a friend expresses relationship intentions it's like they start over on my "okay this is what i'm comfy doing" scale and i'm back to moving at a snail's pace on touching and kissing

and then i feel bad bc they feel as if the affection should just naturally escalate and how do i say "no we've backslided i get so anxious over holding hands that i'm nauseated not to mention kissing or anything else"

[snekdood]

ig my biggest issue with fandoms is the almost... false closeness thats there in them? ig since i was a kid and wasnt good at enforcing boundaries and was just excited to find ppl with the same interest I didn't really think about it but be real like, there was a vibe that it was "okay" and "fine" to expose a lot about ourselves to eachother that... i think if we knew eachother irl... we'd hafta be a lot closer than that to see or hear about that stuff...

[shy-writer-999]

I was excited to find your Sanji fic, but I saw that your blog is not a safe place for Jews. More than 80% of Jews identify as Zionists. That’s 12 million people. A Jew is telling you that by putting ‘Zionist not welcome’ in your bio is the same as telling 12 out of 15 million Jews they aren’t to allowed to enjoy your writing. It is your art and your blog. That is your right. I just wanted to make you aware of the weight of what your words truly mean: You are actively discriminating against Jews—not just ‘people who support Israel’. My hope is that this message is received in good faith and not as an attack. I hope to enjoy the Sanji fic fully without violating either of our boundaries. If I find myself block then I have my answer. Thank you

oh BROTHER. this blog is purely for entertainment and creativity and i seriously don't feel like addressing this nor will i be engaging with it after this. for my rant, see below! sorry to everyone whose dashboard this comes across. as you can see from the egregious length of my response, this struck a nerve.

i appreciate the tone of your message and it seems like you genuinely meant it with patience and kindness. my response is not meant with either. my blog is a safe space for jewish people. however, as far as zionism is concerned, i unequivocally cannot tolerate this ideology. furthermore, i see your equation of judaism with zionism as one that is dangerous, lazy, and singularizing; you should take great caution in aiding the “devolution of Judaism from a set of religious beliefs into a national political ideology” (from judith butler’s “Is Judaism Zionism?”). i see nothing appealing about a national political ideology of settler colonialism, alt-right nationalism, and apartheid.

let's just establish some terra firma from which to work with here—israel is a state, judaism is a religion, and zionism is an ideology. the ideology of zionism is the ideology of israel as a state (since its inception and certainly now, with the likud at the helm). by conflating zionism with judaism, you're singularizing millions and millions of people into one set of beliefs. you're doing a disservice to your religion, and this homogenizing is dangerous and toxic. there are many jewish people who agree with me and who recognize the Zionist ideology for what it is; for two key examples see the organization jewish voice for peace as well as many hasidic people who have spoken against the netanyahu administration (yes, even in Israel).

also, rhetoric 101 - your statistic, '80% of jews', is an argument from authority, a specific type of logical fallacy. whatever you’re referencing (you haven’t named a source) is, apparently, just out there in the ether. what you mean is that 80% of jews that were surveyed in whatever study you're referencing are zionists. but this statistic is flawed—there is no a way to survey 100% of jews worldwide and such a study has not happened. so no, it is not 12 out of 15 million people who are pro zionism. i have no doubt the poll you’re referencing was conducted on less than one million people based in, gee, probably north america and israel. and that's not to speak on who provided the funding.

again, i assert that any nation that aspires to be an ethno-state, and any nation that instantiates and perpetuates apartheid, is a genocidal state. read the writings of theodor herzl and ben gurion and you will be surprised at how openly and proudly they propound that zionism is a settler colonial project.

in the words of aimé césaire: “What am I driving at? At this idea: that no one colonizes innocently, that no one colonizes with impunity either; that a nation which colonizes, that a civilization which justifies colonization— and therefore force— is already a sick civilization, a civilization which is morally diseased...” (discourse on colonialism). Israel is a morally diseased nation—diseased with a nationalistic, fascist, settler-colonist ideology (sound familiar? i’m looking at you, america!). not only this, but the citizenship parameters from which Israel was founded are pervasively antidemocratic and are bar for bar with south africa’s apartheid policies (Israel has pass laws too, crazy coincidence!). who else to better represent this ideology than Netanyahu and Donald Trump? are they buddy-buddy enough for your liking? perhaps the allies of your ideology should raise some eyebrows on your end.

i've fought for the palestinian cause for years. i lived in the middle east and i speak arabic. i have a degree in intl relations with a geographic focus on MENA and nuclear warfare. i'm not the one to lecture about this. i am, at an academic and professional level, an active researcher of the third reich and totalitarianism. i know the work of hannah arendt like the back of my hand (a jew who was, at the same time, a Zionist and not a Zionist, outcast from her communities for her dissent). 😫 please take your half-baked criticisms of my political stances elsewhere. go read the wretched of the earth by frantz fanon or orientalism by edward said.

as for the sanji fic - i truly don't care whether you read it or not. i can't physically stop you from doing so. if you have a problem just walk away from the computer. if you come back to my inbox, i will block you because i've had enough painfully predictable disagreements with zionists in my life.

now let me direct you to my favorite poems by Refaat Alareer, a palestinian poet and writer who the IDF murdered in December of 2023 (in an airstrike, an indiscriminate act of killing civilians, an internationally recognized war crime):

:أيضا كلمات من محمود درويش

وأقولُ لِنَفْسي: سِيَطْلَعُ من عَتْمتي قمر

on that note, i'm never addressing this again and this account will be purely fanfic from here on out.

من النهر إلى البحر، فلسطين ستكون حرة

[icyg4l]

Should You Shoot Your Shot?

hello beautiful people! i have been so busy with school & honestly, i haven’t been feeling up to par. i have some ideas drafted up but i would like to hear some suggestions from you guys. i am gonna turn my ask box on again! i would like to hear more than just fs readings though. also, i will continue with my halloween themed tarot series! look out for two drops in one day, my lovelies. if you would like to book a reading with me, go to my very first pinned post. thank you! :) without further ado, please select the pile that you are drawn to!

top left-to-bottom right: (1-4)

pile one: you are a strong soldier, my love. i feel like the person you're interested in has a lot of suitors and because of that, it will be hard to fully capture their attention. i feel like you need to soften your approach. if you're the type to post thirst traps or to post obvious subliminal, this person will overlook you. i honestly think that your best bet is to act unbothered. in your case, being laidback will work great in your case. also, I keep hearing "come harder just because". what I am getting from this is that you need to be more creative with the way that you shoot your shot. you may be surprised at who you may attract.

cards used: ace of flags, the high priestess, five of flags, elder of pentacles.

extras: butterfly shrimp. princess fiona. it's my d*ck in a box! christmas carols. new video game record. papa's pizzeria. shuffle the deck. gardener. fast-paced. fish hooks (2010).

pile two: i can tell that you have a type, pile two. you're the loving, nurturing type. you probably spoil your lovers with gifts and affection. however, you need to know when to pull back when you aren't receiving what you want. in your situation, you should go for it. shoot your shot! however, there is nothing wrong with wanting to take some initiative. however, based on your past experiences, you should try not to go all out this time. take your time. in the past, you could have been ghosted frequently or taken advantage of. you need to assert your boundaries. you are the prize, babe. go in with the attitude that this is not someone you need, but rather someone that you'd like to keep you company. if they want you, then they'd show you that through reciprocated action. remember that.

cards used: ace of lanterns, three of chalices, nine of flags, child of chalices, queen of lanterns, four of flags, child of flags, the house mother.

extras: wasted liquor. "spectacular". popular by demi lovato. hair in the wind. focusing on myself. self-worth. "sweetpea". diamonds dancing. parental issues. abandonment wounds.

pile three: baby, you don't have no business being romantically involved with anyone at this time. i heard the phrase "emotional turmoil". you recently could have gone through a drastic change in your life, specifically more to do with a loss (breakup, loss of a family member, job loss, etc). right now, there is a focus on your time of healing. you need to build up your spiritual endurance. if you are ready to give up on yourself, how can you give to others properly? if you decide to go and deal with this person, you won't be satisfied. this reminds me of a child getting attached to a toy and then ends up getting attached to another because it's newer. that's not healthy. people's emotions are not to be toyed with, pile three. it's possible that your gut issues will intensify if you decide to go against the grain and deal with this person. it's not worth it, babe. just wait your turn.

cards used: death, the star, the castle, queen of chalices, four of chalices, child of lanterns, the moon, eight of lanterns.

extras: sweet potato fries. count your blessings. paint the perfect picture. saweetie. 2000s photos. overly-emotional. comfort foods. sock-it-to-me cake. foreplay. rush. high rise.

pile four: pile four, it looks really good for you. not only should you shoot your shot, but there is a high chance of you connecting with this person on a spiritual level. therefore, this will actually result in something serious. i feel that this is a divinely orchestrated union. it's possible that you two could have mutual connections. it's possible that you could have been in the same place at the same time as them (red string theory hahaaa). i feel like your spirit guides are waiting for you to initiate the conversation. it's time to make shit happen. send the dm/message. it'll all be worth it. this is your time to shine, lovely.

cards used: eight of plants, the brujx, three of chalices, the grande dame.

extras: rose. sade listener. hijab. sweat. forty five degrees. kisses down low. i love the color pink. long legs. picky eater. choosey lover. secure attachment style. papa grande.

[shaysplanet]

understand that this is not the way I started out, unfortunately I didn’t have a good mentor (my cult leading ex) so do as I say not as I do but channeling egregores, energies, or any spiritual entities should be approached with care, intention, and protection. here’s a step-by-step guide to do it in a healthy and protected way:

how to channel (the process)

understand what you’re channeling

fully understand the nature of the egregore or energy you want to channel. know its origins, purpose, and possible effects on your energy field.

ask yourself why you want to channel it. ensure your intentions are clear and aligned with your higher self. always use discernment (meditation strengthens this).

prepare your space

use tools like palo santo, incense, or sound (singing bowls, bells) to cleanse your space.

set up protective boundaries by visualizing a white or golden light surrounding your space. you can also use crystals like black tourmaline, obsidian, or selenite.

(bonus) create an altar or designated area with items that ground and inspire you (e.g., candles, sacred symbols, photos).

protect yourself

I use music personally and ground myself with a quick prayer before channeling for a reading or my own drs.

invite your spirit guides, ancestors, or a deity you trust to watch over and guide you.

set your intentions

be clear about why you want to channel this energy or egregore. set an intention like, “i invite this energy for guidance and understanding.”

channel responsibly

as a beginner, I recommend entering a meditative state to raise your vibration and attune to the energy. focus on your breath or use a mantra.

mentally or verbally call upon the egregore or energy with respect, saying something like, “i invite [name of energy] to connect with me now.”

pay attention to sensations, emotions, or messages that come through. write them down if necessary (automatic writing for the winnnnn).

keep your sessions short initially to avoid overexerting yourself.

stay grounded

when the session is over, thank the energy and clearly state that the connection is now closed. for example: “thank you for your presence. I now release this connection.”

eat something, drink water, or do something that feels grounding.

ongoing protection and self-care

cleanse after every session. use the same tools as in step 2. spiritual hygiene is NECESSARY.

if you feel drained or unbalanced, take a break from channeling and focus on grounding and healing.

journal your experiences to track patterns or warnings. I have experienced spiritual attacks before. when you use discernment it becomes incredibly apparent which energies are yours and which are not.

get comfortable saying no

if an energy or egregore feels oppressive, invasive, or misaligned, firmly banish it and take assertion over your space. say something like, “you are not welcome in my space. leave now.”

tools

use talismans, amulets, or spiritual tools that resonate with protection.

find balance

obviously it’s fun to channel your dr people’s energies but don’t over-rely on channeling. I always say relying on external validation does little for you in the long run. make sure you continue your focus on getting to your drs.

hope that helps and happy shifting!