#thinking about boundaries
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okay this line in particular hurts bc. actually, as of her last campaign, she fucking does. she's got temporary possession of a wish coin. but it wasn't really hers, and it's very likely that she no longer has it, for one reason or another.
but. her mother is a pit fiend. and there is something interesting about pit fiends, specifically this --
amity does not want to make a deal with her mother. not now. not ever ever ever.
however. she's... the closest she's ever been to truly considering it.
#she's thinking about terms#thinking about boundaries#thinking about phrasing#one wish. traded for... not her soul. but her mother is unlikely to ask for that anyway#no; her mother has some grander design for her that she...... does not know and prefers to not think about#surely any deal of any kind would be playing into her mother's hand#but this isn't fair. karlach deserved better.#one wish a year. so amity could bargain perhaps.... a year of service. a year and a day to be traditional.#the amount of terrible things she could be made to do in a year is astronomical#but.... if she does have a larger plan in mind....... this could be her mother's chance to.... draw amity in#offer amity a deal that's not so bad#make her feel like she can trust her mother to be reasonable#amity knows this. and yet. and yet. and YET.#amity tag#bg3 spoilers#bg3 blogging
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Kink isn’t shameful because of the weird sex stuff. That part’s rad. It’s shameful because it is technically improv.
#15k edit: this is not about consent this is about not being able to think of good dialogue mid-scene#obviously you establish and stick to boundaries
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so ik it’s not cannon accurate but,,,
i need a fic of tim just crashing out.
like he gets so sick of like damian and jason talking about how weak he is and shit like that that he’s like “yall realize lady shiva was my one of my FIRST teachers, and i was the first robin she trained. i had to train under b AFTER he already lost a robin. you DONT think he was 10x harder on me than any of you guys???? there’s a reason my training videos are mainly redacted without bruce’s or my permission. i got ra’s al ghul BEGGING ME to join his league or have my children. i get gifts from him WEEKLY. do you KNOW how many of his little ninja i fight per DAY??? nahh im sick of this shit let’s take it to the mats” and just demolishing both of them at the same time.
i just think it’d be very funny. i just like fics of people who pretend to be weaker than they are(or they just never really have a reason to go full tilt so they just don’t) get sick of holding back and just losing it :D
#batfam#tim drake#red robin#jason todd#red hood#damian wayne#robin#unhinged tim drake#batfamily shitposts#i just need fics of tim losing his shit and crashing out#just because they are funny#and i sometimes feel like people would forget that just because he’s smart does not mean he doesn’t have hands#like bro all robins are certified villains only being held back by b’s rules#they all have insane hands and are all very smart#don’t get distracted by whichever one they choose to put at the forefront of their personality so you forget about the other#but basically yeah i just want it bc it’d make me giggle#also yes ik bruce never physically abused tim during training but i love the angst fics that use that so i added it anyways#i. don’t think it was like intentional on bryce’s part tho just that he was struggling so hard with his grief#he just never noticed how hard he was pushing tim until he pushed wayyyy too far#and yeah he and tim eventually resolved their issues and had a BIG talk about training boundaries#but only after he started getting a bit better and got it through his head that tim was just a kid and not a moving punching bag#i like to think it was only after like titans tower or some other time where he was very close to losing tim tho#bc as much as i want bruce to just be a good dad all the time he had struggles actually verbalizing his feelings#and apologizing for his mistakes
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If you are a fan of anybody's work, whether it be art, writing, music, translating, editing, videos, etc- it is incredibly important that you share that you enjoy their work.
It could be a comment, a tag, an anonymous ask saying thank you or something about their most recent piece you enjoy, anything. Creation is more often than not a social thing, and a little note or comment really goes a long way. People are sharing a little piece of themself every day, here on the internet!
So if you don't mind a little challenge, on the next piece of art* you see that you find personally impactful, leave a little tag or comment saying something about how much it means to you.
*this includes writing, music, edits, jokes, anything that has undergone the act of being created by a person
#text#rambles#something I need to get better at but I try. It gets easier the more you do it I promise#important asterisk about respecting boundaries. its a given but still putting this here#this isnt for me btw. im just noticing how far positive feedback or interaction goes#but the amount of people i have seen grow and bloom just because someone said that they liked their work. its a lot#even the motivation I feel at someone recognizing a joke I made in an art piece and riffing off it! it is genuinely so motivating#just thinking about how there is a person behind every piece of artwork. edit. post. video. etc. (not ai)#and sometimes its important to remember that. and to let them know that you see them
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Actually I do find the contrast between Phoenix Larry and Edgeworth very funny when it comes to the class trial.
Phoenix considers it the defining moment of his childhood, and takes from it the feeling of being alone and needing support and to be defended (it also is massively influential when it comes to his relationship with Edgeworth).
Larry does remember and feels a bit guilty about it (enough to eventually confess) but also... he's done worse. And hey, in his mind at least he made up for it
Edgeworth... barely remembers. He needs reminding. It's not important to him. You could say that with everything else that's happened in his life that this is a footnote. You could also point out that this kid wore a bow tie to school and spent his whole life talking about how much he loves his lawyer dad. This is not the only time he got his money stolen I think.
#ace attorney#phoenix wright#larry butz#miles edgeworth#my post#nah actually i think phoenix's fixation on the class trial says a lot of interesting things about him#especially even after dahlia etc usw#it is a formative experience for him but for edgeworth its clouded out so much by that... other formative experience that the class trial#does not even get a look in#but it's kind of the beginning of phoenix's savior complex and it defines the boundary of the pattern that he and edgeworth continue#well into their thirties#of favours exchanged via acting as 'the defence'
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"Lia Thomas is not banned from swimming. Lia Thomas is banned from a category Lia Thomas doesn't qualify for. I'm banned from swimming in the under 12's, because I'm not under 12. You know, we have heavyweight boxers that are banned from the bantamweight category. We have numerous categories in the Paralympics to create fair opportunity across society. That is the whole point of categories. Nobody is banned [from competing], you're just banned from a category you don't qualify for." - Sharron Davies
#lia thomas#women's sports#i think about this all the time like#you aren't allowed to join certain branches of the military if youre COLORBLIND but no men in women's is the unacceptable boundary?#radfem#feminism
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yknow what. I wanna say: CSA and COCSA survivors are all incredible, but I also wanna give a shout out to ppl who were exposed to sexual stuff or had any kind of sexual experience as a kid that they either aren't comfortable labelling as or don't consider abuse, but they know it still fucking sucked and shouldnt have happened. Even if that changes later in life and you identify as a victim/surivor, it can be messy to have to imagine those labels applying to the ppl in ur life and that can take time.
The most important thing is to prioritize your recovery + health, and to support other victims + survivors.
#COCSA ment#CSA ment#This is like. V personal and venting (maybe over sharing)#It's. I'm going to be honest recent discussion really brought this back into my brain aaughhh. Not in a bad way necessarily#Just. I know I've had experiences that I think others might label this way and I struggle to really understand that#Beyond the gut feeling of ''it doesnt count'' there's the understand that I might be denying it bc of shame or even just. The fact I have#An internal definition of it that excludes myself. And that I don't want to imagine the other ppl as 'abusive' and I don't think they had#The intent to hurt me. And the fact in one situation I know none of us understood boundaries or consent bc we didn't#Actually talk with adults about what like. Sex and sexuality meant so all out fucking context was porn. And just idk#I have specific experiences but those Memorable Incidents were just part of a larger pattern of me learning Abt sex young#And then failing to get proper sex ed for years. And the internet. And the Fucking Internet#(fanfic is like. Anti sex ed. 70% just the fucking worst shit to internalize 30% ''hey this is actually Okay'')#Sex Ed... Like in school... Needs a fucking HEAVY overhaul but it's still better than nothing usually
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this may be my roman empire
#peterick#fobedit#pete wentz#patrick stump#fob#fall out boy#anni edits#been done ofc i just think about this constantly. the sad jerking his hand away and putting his hands in his pockets :(#pete gives 'trying to respect boundaries in public' a go lol
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can I say something is this a safe space. it's kind of fascinating that ford is meant to read as a deeply repressed character and a capital s Scientist no less but he leads this other half of his life entirely dedicated to the occult. in the 70's-80's. like the historical connotations of the occult and what they represented in the united states at least seems kind of interesting in this context. for no reason in particular I find the dual aspects of "extremely dedicated to presenting as a logical, steadfast researcher trying to earn respect and social acceptance to the point of hinging all of his self worth on this vision for the future working out" and "deeply tied to the paranormal and "unsavory black magic" and everything Weird/freakish but feels like he needs to hide this aspect of himself from even the people closest to him" Very interesting. hiding six-fingered hands compulsively behind his back even if it's the emblem he puts on his journals. "what are you attracted to?" and "maybe you're simply attracted to things that hurt you" from two different points in the book. sweet dreams (are made of this) on the record player. hey does anyone know what that tarot card with a snake on it is meant to represent
#lab notes#utterly incomprehensible post sorry guys#and it drives me insaneeeee because people just don't talk about this aspect of him as a character. which like okay yeah makes sense#one half of the fandom would use it as shipping fuel and the other half probably don't want to think about it#but oh my godddddddddd oh my god. you could write psychology textbooks about this guy#to make it more obvious I think ford is not Just repressed about being gay and I think people go about it wrong#he is on some much weirder shit than internalized homophobia#and representing it through his falling in with occult studies/practices is fascinating to me#his 'the only way I can get what I want is if I sacrifice All my boundaries and autonomy' moment. real self-haters understand#[they start dragging me off stage] and do you ever think about how bill was literally a cult leader if we take the billville pages as canon
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the best thing maggie stiefvater ever did was NOT having ronan dream a magical device that would "fix" adam's hearing. the best thing maggie ever did was adam knowing that he did not need or want to be "fixed". the best thing maggie ever did was ronan knowing that adam did not want or need to be fixed and accepting it without a second thought.
#been thinking about this lately#ronan dreams adam so many fix-it objects but never tries to fix anything that adam doesn't want 'fixed'#or that don't need to be 'fixed'#because both ronan and maggie know that that would be a boundary that couldn't be uncrossed for adam or for any disabled person#anyway#adam parrish#ronan lynch#the raven cycle#the dreamer trilogy#trc#tdt#pynch
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Cross has trouble getting to sleep alone in his room and goes looking for a distraction, but ends up finding a solution for both of them
#UTDR#UTMV#Cross Sans#Killer Sans#Kross ship#(Kinda. It's up to interpretation)#Long post#I'm so sorry I didn't mean for it to be THIS much#I started this like a week ago -A-#Lies down and lets out a long howl it's finisheeeeeed#I could have just drawn them spooning and written the rest but noooo I love to do things the hard way#Anyway I think they should be bed buddies#The company helps Cross relax enough to sleep and the touch helps knock Killer out#Cross has to be big spoon because otherwise Killer's soul gets squished and it's too uncomfortable to sleep#Also I realised Cross and Nightmare are the only two in the castle who didn't have knock knock jokes in their backstory#I like to imagine Nightmare has had similar confusing interactions with at least one of them#Cross probably spends the rest of the day panicked that he overstepped a boundary or the others will make fun of him#Not realising that Dust and Horror have fallen asleep together many times#Or that Killer hasn't slept properly in weeks and he's in heaven#I'm NOT drawing a follow up so just imagine Killer coming to Cross's room the next night and finding every excuse to stay#Because he wants it to happen again but he has no idea how to ask (and also Cross seems kinda awkward about it)#Absolutely terrified that I spent my whole week off working on this and it might be not that great so I hope at least one person likes this
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sound on to hear the dangerous attack snorbino!
#for people who don't know well about dog body language: we are just playing!#i encouraged him to growl when we play because i think it's important that he is allowed to communicate in every way he knows#so if he ever needs to communicate an actual boundary he feels safe growling at people rather than going straight for snapping#he also just thinks it's really funny#in the context of play it's such a none aggression that frequently still kissy his nose and he is unbothered#i'm thinking about teaching him a growl command because he likes learning funny tricks#leon#smooth collie
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I hope you guys know that your thirst posts make me bluescreen every time, lol. Those of you who know me IRL know my ears go red at the drop of a hat.
I still don't quite know what to do with compliments, but I'm hoping trans folks who follow me see them and realize that transness is not an obstacle to being desired (physically, romantically, platonically, or otherwise).
In a weird, sweet way, you folks are proving my mother wrong, who once "advised" me to get used to a life alone when I started T.
So, yeah. Carry on, lol.
#trans stuff#most of you are good about boundaries and keeping the thirst family-friendly ha ha#it's ironic because I know I can be a bit of a peacock sometimes#but then someone compliments me and I'm like#oh no you must be thinking of someone else
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cannot believe i gotta say this but please don't follow me if you're comfortable selfshipping with canon racists. i don't care if you headcanon them as otherwise, because if their racism against a real group of people is a key facet of their character (much less incredibly important to the telling of the story that this character is a racist) then i do not wanna see it. this is not the safe space for you
#jay's jots#vaguepost about someone f/oing a hugely anti-romani character in the tags. i'm so fucking tired man#THIS IS ABOUT NAZI F/OS TOO WHILE WE'RE HERE STOP FUCKING F/OING CANON NAZIS#NOT AN INVITE FOR DISCOURSE BTW if you come in my notes to rebuttal this you're getting blocked#''but austin you have problematic f/os'' sorry i don't view unrealistic horror villains on par with realistic levels of racism#i don't wanna fucking hear it this is the line i am drawing. i don't care if they aren't real#you can in general find interest in characters like that especially bc it's good to deconstruct how bigots act and whatnot#but you don't have to f/o them??? you don't have to f/o every character you think is interestingly written??? oh my god???#a note on this reminded me to write here that i turned off rbs for my own sanity#getting people mad at me for having a boundary when this post broke containment was NUTS
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Not too close.
#I was thinking about how touch and go their relationship would be at the beginning#(and probably to an extent after too)#they'd be so patient and understanding of each other's boundaries hesitations and triggers#but so frustrated with themselves#That's what I was trying to get across anyway#The pose turned out a bit more artsy and metaphor-y then I intended#But that's not a bad thing#annie cresta#finnick odair#finnick x annie#odesta#odesta fanart#the hunger games#catching fire#mockingjay#thg series#digital art#hunger games fanart#artists on tumblr#clip studio paint#fanart#digital artist#jolly art#fun fact: I accidentally sent this to my brother instead of myself lmao oops
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I remember back when I used to be the chill cool girl who didn’t take offense to anything and wasn’t hurt by anything and was nonchalant about everything and wasn’t bothered and didn’t care and was so chill and cool…….. thank god I healed
#Like that’s what that poll reminded me of#There’s nothing wrong w being upset or taking issue w something it’s literally just about gauging if#It’s justifiable to express it and how to express it#That’s also how u maintain boundaries and also ppl’s respect literally#Once upon a time I thought being cool w everything was the answer and I was so WRONGGG#And while taking offense shows you care it doesn’t show your attention will be on them indefinitely#Like the actual stakes lie in you pivoting your attention elsewhere if someone isn’t being so great to u#But I really did once upon a time think it was in being nonchalant#Plus that stuff always blows up eventually it’s never sustainable to act chronically unbothered#Unless ur actually too busy to care but that still technically means ur not dealing w something#(<- how I deal w most things unforch)#One major perk of being a pre med stem major is that most of the time ur too busy to actually process anything in full#Which is a blessing and a curse ………. But it has saved me many times
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