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You deserve better than being treated as a stereotype, or as the role someone expects you to perform socially. You don’t have to submit and conform to the unrealistic expectations someone has, to become the version they created in their heads. You shouldn’t have to pretend to get approval. You don’t have to be a perfect person, a trophy partner, the best student of all, or the most hardworking employee who never gets tired. Or sick. Or uncomfortable.

You don’t have to “just take it and move on”. If you’re not comfortable with the way you’re being treated because it feels someone is treating more as an object than as a person, then you should communicate it to them, set boundaries, talk to other people around you about this so you don’t feel isolated. And if it doesn’t work, it’s okay to not want to be around someone who only wants to use you to inflate their own ego. It’s not a bad thing to stand up for yourself and communicate these things. It’s not a bad thing to live your own life, even if other people can’t handle the disappointment of you turning out to be your own person instead of the person who would best benefit them and serve their every whim. You’re not responsible for creating this idea of you, they are.

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¡Qué arte! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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WATCH: The Oregon Zoo in Portland was closed to the public today due to heavy snow – but the zoo’s residents had a blast.

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sorry if i was weird last night it’s just that i’m weird pretty much every night actually

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please be nice to me. i am a thousand years old and very shy

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Jeanette Winterson, from "Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal," publ. in 2011

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theres this gold you can only look at but never grab and it shows up on top of waves when the sun hits the water and you can try picking it up gathering it in your hands but it dies without water just disappears but if you look at it without trying to make it worth something to someone else well then. youll see after a while why its so priceless.

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A mouse and his tea, 2024

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Stroll in the Rain

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I’ll be waiting on the ceiling until it arrives just like that scene from the grudge

the thing about wanting a physical book so badly when it hasn’t really been released in your country so you have to order it internationally and pray it eventually gets here is that until the book finally arrives i will be climbing on the walls chewing lamp wiring. what do you mean my book will either be here by tomorrow or next month. what is this deadline. I’ve had to cancel two orders because they just would not send the fucking book after two months. internationally ordering things because they just don’t have it in your country is so frustrating

just. give. me. the book

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Doesn't everyone want to feel in the night the beloved body, compass, polestar, to hear the quiet breathing that says I am alive, that means also you are alive, because you hear me, you are here with me. And when one turns, the other turns—

Louise Glück, from "A Myth of Devotion" in Poems 1962-2012

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I am glad that I have seen the changes of day; to behold the sun, fountain of light, and the gentle pilgrim moon; to have seen the fire bearing flowers of the sky, and the flowery stars of earth; to have witnessed the sowing and the harvest. I am glad that I have loved, and have experienced sympathetic joy and sorrow for my fellow creatures.

The last man, Mary Shelley

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These are the hairstyles I’ve had in 2023/2024, the two last pictures being the most recent ones

the one with blue hair was in 2018 (I kinda wanna go back to blue but the dye always fades so fast and it’s hard to keep touching up color when I have very limited energy these days because of being chronically ill).

yellow hair, 2020. platinum blonde was 2019 I think (also dying to do it again someday)

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Oldies. I have been missing the blue lately...

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the thing about wanting a physical book so badly when it hasn’t really been released in your country so you have to order it internationally and pray it eventually gets here is that until the book finally arrives i will be climbing on the walls chewing lamp wiring. what do you mean my book will either be here by tomorrow or next month. what is this deadline. I’ve had to cancel two orders because they just would not send the fucking book after two months. internationally ordering things because they just don’t have it in your country is so frustrating

just. give. me. the book

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I started a new remote job last week, and I'm the only genderqueer person at the company (and the first person who uses neo pronouns that anyone on my team has ever met, apparently).

So far:

Manager carefully wrote down spelling and pronunciation of my pronouns and told everyone on the team to respect them.

Coworker apologized privately for misgendering me (I hadn't told her yet) and said she will practice.

Guy on another team valiantly tried to use my pronouns and ended up saying something like zirzs-zhizz (I DM'd him and thanked him for trying and linked him to a practice site).

Teammate told me he has written out my pronouns and how to use them in a sentence and literally taped it to his monitor so he can practice.

Teammate also referred to me as compañere after I linked to a comic about gender-neutral endings in Spanish (whole team except me + 1 other person speaks Spanish as first language and they held all meetings in Spanish before the two of us started).

I am so stoked that people are actually trying. 💜🤍💚