#they are neurodivergent fuck you

[itsriotmotherfuckers]

James is a stare-into-your-soul-through-eye-contact sort of neurodivergent

Remus is a no-eye-contact-ever sort of neurodivergent

Peter is a eye-contact-only-when-it-shouldn’t-happen-and-none-when-it-should sort of neurodivergent

Sirius is a bitch-had-manners-beaten-into-him-and-therefore-does-just-the-right-eye-contact sort of neurodivergent

[emilnikos]

I need non autistic people to realise meltdowns are a real debilitating thing that has a serious effect on your mental and physical health NOWWWWW!!! The way its been trivialized and lessened pisses me the fuck off. It's not a tantrum and it doesn't come from "being too weak-willed" it's painful and it's embarrassing AND MOST OF ALL IT'S INVOLUNTARY!! Don't claim to be an ally to autistic or disabled people and then make fun of people who have meltdowns. Literally get the hell out of my sight

[bixels]

Learning that fans hated Applejack and called her "boring" is crazyyy to me because I genuinely, unironically believe AJ's the most complex character in the main six.

Backstory-wise, she was born into a family of famers/blue collar workers who helped found the town she lives in. She grew up a habitual liar until she had the bad habit traumatized outta her. She lost both her parents and was orphaned at a young age, having to step up as her baby sister's mother figure. She's the only person in the main gang who's experienced this level of loss and grief (A Royal Problem reveals that AJ dreams about memories of being held by her parents as a baby). She moved to Manhattan to live with her wealthy family members, only to realize she'll never fit in or be accepted, even amongst her own family. The earlier seasons imply she and her family had money problems too (In The Ticket Master, AJ wants to go to the gala to earn money to buy new farm equipment and afford hip surgery for her grandma).

Personality-wise, she's a total people-pleaser/steamroller (with an occasional savior complex) who places her self worth on her independence and usefulness for other people, causing her to become a complete workaholic. In Applebuck Season, AJ stops taking care of herself because of her obsessive responsibilities for others and becomes completely dysfunctional. In Apple Family Reunion, AJ has a tearful breakdown because in she thinks she dishonored her family and tarnished her reputation as a potential leader –– an expectation and anxiety that's directly tied to her deceased parents, as shown in the episode's ending scene. In The Last Roundup, AJ abandons her family and friends out of shame because believes she failed them by not earning 1st place in a rodeo competition. She completely spirals emotionally when she isn't able to fulfill her duties toward others. Her need to be the best manifests in intense pride and competitiveness when others challenge her. And when her pride's broken, she cowers and physically hides herself.

Moreover, it's strongly implied that AJ has a deep-seated anger. The comics explore her ranting outbursts more. EQG also obviously has AJ yelling at and insulting Rarity in a jealous fit just to hurt her feelings (with a line that I could write a whole dissection on). And I'm certain I read in a post somewhere that in a Gameloft event, AJ's negative traits are listed as anger.

Subtextually, a lot of these flaws and anxieties can be (retroactively) linked to her parents' death, forcing her to grow up too quickly to become the adult/caregiver of the family (especially after her big brother becomes semiverbal). Notice how throughout the series, she's constantly acting as the "mom friend" of the group (despite everything, she manages to be the most emotionally mature of the bunch). Notice how AJ'll switch to a quieter, calmer tone when her friends are panicking and use soothing prompts and questions to talk them through their emotions/problems; something she'd definitely pick up while raising a child. Same with her stoicism and reluctance at crying or releasing emotions (something Pinkie explicitly points out). She also had a childhood relationship with Rara (which, if you were to give a queer reading, could easy be interpreted as her first 'aha' crush), who eventually left her life. (Interestingly enough, AJ also has an angry outburst with Rara for the same exact reasons as with EQG Rarity; jealous, upset that someone else is using and changing her). It's not hard to imagine an AJ with separation anxiety stemming from her mother and childhood friend/crush leaving. I'm also not above reading into AJ's relationship with her little sister (Y'all ever think about how AB never got to know her parents, even though she shares her father's colors and her mother's curly hair?).

AJ's stubbornness is a symptom of growing up too quickly as well. Who else to play with your baby sister when your brother goes nonverbal (not to discount Big Mac's role in raising AB)? Who else to wake up in the middle of the night to care for your crying baby sister when your grandma needs her rest? When you need to be 100% all the time for your family, you tend to become hard-stuck with a sense of moral superiority. You know what's best because you have to be your best because if you're aren't your best, then everything'll inevitably fall apart and it'll be your fault. And if you don't know what's best –– if you've been wrong the whole time –– that means you haven't been your best, which means you've failed the people who rely on you, which means you can't fulfill your role in the family/society, which makes you worthless . We've seen time and time again how this compulsive need to be right for the sake of others becomes self-destructive (Apple Family Reunion, Sound of Silence, all competitions against RD). We've seen in The Last Roundup how, when no longer at her best, AJ would rather remove herself from her community than confront them because she no longer feels of use to them.

But I guess it is kinda weird that AJ has "masculine" traits and isn't interested in men at all. It's totally justified that an aggressively straight, misogynistic male fandom would characterize her as a "boring background character." /s

At the time of writing this, it's 4:46AM.

[inkskinned]

hey btw if you're in the USA at  2:20 p.m. ET on Wednesday, Oct. 4, they're testing the emergency broadcast system. your phone is probably going to make a really loud noise, even if it's on silent. there's a backup date on the 11th if they need to postpone it.

if you're not in a safe situation and have an extra phone, you should turn that phone completely off beforehand.

additionally, if you're like me, and are easily startled; i recommend treating it like a party. have a countdown or something. be surrounded by your loved ones. take the actions you personally need to take to make yourself safe.

i have already seen mockery towards any person who feels nervous about this. for the record, it completely, completely valid to have "emergency broadcast sounds" be an anxiety trigger. do not let other people make fun of you for that. emergency sounds are legitimately engineered to make us take action; those of us with high levels of anxiety and/or neurodivergence are already pre-disposed to have a Bad Time. sometimes it is best to acknowledge that the situation will be triggering for some, and to prepare for that; rather than just saying "well that's stupid, it's just a test."

"loud scary sound time" isn't like, my favorite thing, but we can at least try to prevent some additional anxiety by preparing for it. maybe get yourself a cake? noise cancelling headphones? the new hozier album? whatever helps. love u, hope you're okay. we are gonna ride it out together.

[enemywasp]

I hate the idea that weird is bad. Like no actually I think being weird and funky and distinctively your own person is pretty cool.

[cabi-leodrann]

That's a big boy right here. Vent post I did a while ago, finally felt the courage to post it I hope it'll reach the people who needed to read this.

[pumpkinspicedmochi]

I see this so much so here it is :

just because you don't personally need tone tags/tone indicators doesn't make them 'stupid' , infantilizing, ableist or "making us (autistic people) look 'bad' "

why do y'all think that things that some autistic people need is infantilizing . "we understand sarcasm" well some of us don't and find tone tags useful. You can't erase other autistic people because you somehow think we 'make you look bad' ..man do y'all really not want certain autistic people in the 'autistic community' do you?

this goes for a lot of other things too , honest like some autistic people struggle with more ..how is it ableist to you for people to bring them up..? we exist , why do you want to erase our existence just because you don't struggle with those things..

[robininthewindow]

“Autistic sniper” “autistic engine”’”autistic medic” BIYCH THEYRE ALL AUTISTIC!!!!!

[pikhachu]

girls when their issues get dismissed as anxiety for the millionth time

[n3felibata]

The autistic Stolas headcanon puts so much into perspective. Like whether Viv intended it to be this way or not, this can definitely be interpreted as an autistic man not understanding social cues and lacking empathy which his neurotypical antis just don't understand.

It's not an excuse, but this is what I mean when I say everybody babies autistic people until it comes to the uglier parts they can't romanticize

[lastoneout]

you know sometimes you get a diagnosis after answering a lot of questions in an interview and filling out worksheets and screening questionnaires and having a test done, and that's all fine and dandy...

...but sometimes getting one is you explaining how you have this bone deep, incredibly fierce belief within you that you're a monster who should never be forgiven for the bad things you've done and how you always live in debilitating fear of causing harm because that's just what monsters like you do and then having your therapist look you dead in the eyes and say in the most compassionate yet confident voice "Yeah, that's OCD" which imo actually feels more validating than the tests and worksheets despite also feeling like having your soul yanked out of your body with no warning

[dennisboobs]

standing in front of a firing squad would have been easier than reading this script i need to be shot

[justaboutsnapped]

tumblr whites who haven’t listened to a lick of rap before not like us talking about a hugely influential black rapper who weaves politically poignant narratives about his own lived experience as a black person in america, systematic racism, etc: haha he’s so quirky he’s so petty he’s like a trickster god an old god a fae god oooooh he’s a dragon slayer get it cause drake-

[transfemcwilbur]

we all need to have a discussion on what queerbaiting is. because clearly no one knows

for clarification, dream has been unlabelled for what i assume to be more than half a decade now. nothing wrong with that, labels truly aren't that big of a thing to some people. the issue is that he's been marketing and profiting off of that. let me explain.

a person can't queerbait. a business, show, movie, game, can. why? because a person can do whatever the hell they want, they are not advertising it to a demographic and gaining money and influence off of that. dream is. a tv show can give us two male leads, or female leads, even a nonbinary and male/female lead, and tease us with romantic and/or sexual tension, flirting, etc. they can reel us in, making us buy merch, stream songs or episodes, and keep us hooked while never truly giving us a relationship or clarification of what those two are, sometimes hitting us in the face and making the male / female lead a opposite sex partner or otherwise. look at the wiki here. also,

dream (and mind you i was a dream fan up until 2020-2021, i know what im talking about and up until the grooming allegations where i quickly dropped it, i kept up with him and followed him on youtube and twitter) relied heavily on dreamnotfound. from the shop site to georges merch, to his own merch, etc. no one is saying dream, or george, are queerbaiting, and in order to prove otherwise they have to come out. they are saying the duo are queerbaiting because of the marketing and profit they get from views, (think of the moving in video w dream and george, or basically any video with the two of them) or merch from their sites, or collective trio site with sapnap. *that* is queerbaiting.

making a profit, targeting a specific demographic and bringing them in because 'hey, this is so cool that my streamers are like me.' that is queerbaiting. you cannot market a person, but you can market a relationship in the similar way some celebrities pull publicity stunts to gain more fame or attention. they gain money, or publicity because of it. there is nothing wrong with being unlabelled, but there is something wrong with actively selling a relationship to a demographic while not also pushing the other away. they sell their (perhaps personified? who knows) relationship to the demographic of unlabelled/queer folks in their community, and make a profit based off of that, even off of the straight cis ally's.

i've seen it firsthand with many shows or movies. its designed like that. it brings in money and keeps you on the edge of your seat if their 'really together' or not. there is nothing wrong with neither putting a label on their sexuality, or even how they present themselves. what's wrong is the obvious marketing tactic they use. that is what dream is doing. tubbo, and any others, are not forcing them to come out. i personally just want it to be addressed that they are in fact queerbaiting and using their queer & ally fanbase as a profit. because that's what it is. it's been almost half a decade, and they still profit off of it without ever disclosing it, because if they did they'd lose the profit on merch & views because that's what they rely heavily on if they admit neither are dating or even remotely romantically in a relationship.

i am not saying this in defense of dream. everything he is doing is wrong, from saying the r slur to everything now. i am saying this as queerbait has been thrown around with no one knowing it's proper origins. many unlabelled folks get backlash as 'queerbaiting' when a person cannot queerbait. i hope this helps, and i hope this is as clear and accurate as i can write it.

[moonpool-system]

Saw an anon somewhere else make a great point and we wanted to elaborate on it:

There should NOT be the hard lines between concepts of traumagenesis and endogenesis that currently exist in the plural community. There's a ton of overlap between the two in reality, and it's a little disconcerting that while "endogenic" is very explicitly an umbrella term, "traumagenic" is constantly considered a singular origin with no leeway, and anything not labeled specifically with that word (EVEN when the definition explains trauma is involved) is thrown under "endo" by medicalists & anti-endos.

Have people not come around to the understanding that "traumagenic" is also an umbrella term? That there are many, many ways for a system to be traumagenic, and sometimes those ways entangle inseparably from other origins? Has no thought gone to the autigenic-identifying system whose plurality came from masking trauma? To the soulbonder that connected with their companion out of desperate isolation and pain? If it were not for the manufactured divide claiming "traumagenic" as singular and separate, there would be a wide range of terminology and conceptions to describe the various ways one can be traumagenic, and it'd be a dramatic boon to the traumagenic plural & CDD communities.

Instead, we're severely lacking in a significant point of plural understanding because of the lateral aggression around here, and it's extremely damaging to our progress as a marginalized group attempting to make our voices heard and understood. How can we articulate the way traumagenesis and endogenesis intertwine and contrast if we're too afraid to even look?

The origin binary in the plural community needs to end. If "endogenic" can have many specific origins fall under it then so can "traumagenic".

[xan-the-emo-trans-man]

number 1 thing not to say to a person having an autistic meltdown:

“You’re getting all worked up over nothing.”