#thank you this has been a psa

[soft5ku11]

Me doing the death feedism people get off my blog and seek extensive therapy ritual:

[batwynn]

Can people please not be weirdly aggressive and nasty in my notes on one of my posts that’s not even remotely controversial? 🥲 Surely there’s someone out there shooting out a hot take dump somewhere on tumblr that you can get into it with in their tags?

[violetbarbarian]

finally watched the bear and so of course i turned to ao3 afterwards. and it’s amazing but if i have to read ‘if it were possible for her to blush’ ONE MORE TIME. black people can blush!! it’s just not as noticeable on us if you don’t know what you’re looking for! we have the same physiological responses- for god’s sake, there are other ways to convey the fact that someone’s blush isn’t noticeable that don’t imply they can’t do it at all!

[skyward-floored]

*lovingly taking your shoulders* guys please remember the Zelda mangas have different plots from the games. guys please remember that especially when you’re talking about lu they’re based on the games and not the mangas there’s differences that actually matter a lot sometimes guys please—

[boxfullaturtles]

So hey, TMNT fans, now that the release of Mutant Mayhem is drawing near, I think now is a good time to remind people to tag your spoilers.

For a good two months or so after the film is released, please use tags so that people can block them if they don't want the movie spoiled for them. Not everyone will have a chance to see the movie right away.

It's common courtesy to tag your posts--whether it's art, writing, screenshots, videos, etc--with spoiler tags and main tags.

DON'T BE A JERK. TAG YOUR SPOILERS.

[redara]

"The way she tells me I'm hers and she is mine

Open hand or closed fist would be fine

The blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine."

Hozier - Cherry Wine.

Art by the amazing @tazahan 💕 thank you for the trade!

[aka-indulgence]

[stress]

[totallynotapsychic]

i hate texting. ive been doing it a lot more since i made this blog (against my will) and i seriously might burst a blood vessel (and maybe a nuclear power plant unintentionally) if i misunderstand someones tone one more time. these tone tag things are handy i think everyone should make a habit of using them all the time

[crimeronan]

i keep having people follow me after seeing various princess AU posts & i've discovered i'm on the list of top toh blogs on tumblr at the moment

& my heart rate just spiked So Bad.

no one has been mean or confused so far but please please please god PLEASE know: 1) i write a LOT of fic & meta about child abuse that involves belos being Very Very Very Upsetting (all the princess AU fic prior to luz killing him is some flavor of this), and 2) i'm a multishipper polyshipper who writes weird poly & queerplatonic stuff. that does Not easily fit into nuclear found family dynamics. or mainstream ship expectations.

people who've been here for a while already know this and have likely seen me make posts to this effect before. but i have to reiterate it sometimes because i've been told that i'm kind of. A Lot. and it's often offputting to fans who are looking for softer stuff.

[nom-de-plume-system]

Fun fact for fictives:

You do not need to be exactly like your canon counterpart! You don't!

Nobody has a say in what you should be, and if they try to, you do not have to listen to them!

Because you are you and you very well could have had different friends, upbringings, events in your life, likes/dislikes, and plain and simple just be not like your canon self for any reason at all, including no reason.

You do not need to be 100% canon compliant to be a "valid and acceptable fictive"!

[autistic-wolf-pack]

Little disclaimer about endo “syscourse”. Mild TW!for brief mentions of $H and Su1cid3

Okay, as an anti-endo system one thing we feel the need to address about “syscourse” is that when people say they’re anti endo or try to educate someone, that is not anyone trying to invalidate anyone’s experience. It’s just when you claim a trauma disorder can form without trauma and then go around spreading misinformation it creates a stigma around the disorder that impacts so many people with dissociative disorders, even if they’re not part of a system. Your lived experience ARE valid, HOWEVER, there are other explanations for what you’re experiencing, a lot of which don’t require trauma. It’s okay to be wrong but it’s not okay to create a stigma around already heavily stigmatized disorders and mental health conditions. Even when it comes to things like IFS therapy, there’s an important distinction that it’s not the same as an actual system, yes the parts are valid and real, but nowhere near the same, and in all honesty just because the s stands for systems, doesn’t mean using that terminology and other terms created for/by systems doesn’t do genuine harm.

The first people to popularize the concept of having this disorder without trauma were not professionals, one of which had the disorder but denied it and refused to take any treatments, and the other didn’t have it but claimed he did because he had some dissociative symptoms, even though you can dissociate without trauma and have some other dissociative disorders without trauma(some require trauma, some don’t, but for all o them it’s more likely to be developed with it). Both of these people created very dangerous stereotypes about systemhood, both encouraging the stereotypes we are dangerous, and just spreading a lot of misinformation and even encouraging su1cid3 and $H. Additionally, tulpamancy and religious beliefs are not the same as being a system. The DSM (and I believe the ICD as well) specifies that. So please stop using system terminology or claiming to be one without trauma, your experiences are valid, but that doesn’t automatically make you a system. Please do some research.

With that said, any repeated or prolonged trauma is “enough” to form the disorder, and it doesn’t need to be super severe on the brink of death abuse or anything like that. Medical trauma is a valid, emotional abuse/neglect is valid, sibling trauma is valid, your trauma is valid even if it “wasn’t that bad”. It does need to be during formative years to form a system, but what you went through, no matter how old you were is still valid, and no one is trying to say it isn’t. It IS possible you don’t remember your trauma, but dont force yourself to remember it without professional help, and don’t claim to have a trauma based disorder until you’re sure you have trauma.Thank you for your time reading this.

also this is the one post we’re not putting anti endo tags, outside of this post and conversations that may stem from this Endos please DNI.

[kalmeria]

Reminder:

[that-cu-fan]

ok guys hot take

a lot of people hc captain as ftm and i SUPPORT THAT SO HARD

but you have to understand that KRUPP would be trans too

again i support this

this is a psa to draw top surgery scars on krupp if cap being trans is a big hc of yours

thank you for listening to my ted talk

[scootersscooter]

Friendly reminder that if you're lucky enough to see Cinderella's Castle and be able to post about it to please SPECIFICALLY USE A SPOILER TAG. Please don't only use the general tag :)

[minne-cerbinna]

The baths of Cáelmewedd are an excellent place to spend time among friends.

[slveepyscwrs]

STOP SCROLLING if you have any form of anxiety- important reminder from your anxious bestie

Okay, now that I've gathered all my fellow anxiety sufferers, here's a little PSA for you all:

IF YOU HAVE ANY FORM OF ANXIETY AT ALL, STAY. AWAY. FROM. CAFFEINE.

I know that coffee is tasty and yummy, but it is not worth the risk of the most severe panic attack of your life. You literally feel like you're about to d1e. I'm not even exaggerating, anxiety makes you believe that 100%. I am also a hypochondriac soooo yeah that doesn't make it any better.

I had to learn this the hard way today– I drank coffee around 2'ish P.M., and now it's past 9 P.M., and the panic attack is only JUST starting to subside slightly. My hands are still jittering hard as fuck.

Yeah, no coffee is worth more than SEVEN HOURS of pure TORTURE.

I also have stomach issues, so add to that my oesophagus giving up on life and (TMI warning) shit practically leaking out of my ass nonstop and you have a (literal) pure shitshow.

Anyways, a quick apology to myself and to others because I couldn't finish my writing goals for today because I've been in bed using YT shorts, Reddit stories, the same 1 or 2 songs, and reality show clips to drown out my suffering all day.

If I ever mention wanting to drink coffee again, someone please do me a favour and slap me in the face.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

Send help,

Your Gay Writing Bestie