#teenage advice

[theeternalwombtarot]

be genuine and intentional about everything you do.

be real even if it doesn’t gain you positive social reinforcement from others.

trust yourself, trust spirit, trust divine timing and the divine plan.

put yourself first even when it’s difficult, if you don’t know how, you do your best to learn to do so.

everyone is healing from something. show people grace always just not at the expense of your wellbeing or livelihood.

you can make room for people, love people, support people, etc. without the addition of unconditional tolerance, without the addition of struggling, without the addition of pouring all that you have to into others.

ask yourself questions about who you are, what makes you who you are, what aspects of your shadow rule over you most.

the only way out is through. feel all of your emotions, do what you feel called to do, experience all things as a whole. be brave, hide from no obstacle.

when you feel frustrated or feel any type of way at all, say you are and honor those feelings by taking action or putting action behind them.

even when you make mistakes, let your mistakes guide you towards real solutions and growth.

you are not what you can do for others or how much you can give to others. this has everything to do with your tolerance, your care, your intimacy, etc.

you cannot stand between people and their karmic cycles and lessons just because you love them. What is for them is what is for them. Don’t make the mistake of believing that it is your responsibility to deliver everyone to their salvation.

what someone cannot do for themselves they cannot do for you. when someone does not love themselves, they cannot love you genuinely beyond their fears and their ego. When someone cannot protect themselves they cannot protect you, not even from themselves. When someone cannot make the right choices in their lives, they cannot make the right choices in yours.

what we push out into the atmosphere is a reflection of what we have sitting within us. Do not let other peoples perceptions of you, criticisms (that aren’t productive or constructive), insults, or opinions, tell you who you’re meant to be or who you are. It has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.

hold people accountable for what they do do and what they don’t do.

take it upon yourself to find lessons out of everything you go through and spin gold out of all your experiences.

just because they’re not doing it to you doesn’t mean they won’t. When you choose to turn a blind eye to bad behavior because it’s not being done directly to you, you’re enabling that behavior.

take your time.

show yourself grace. Offer yourself forgiveness and receive it.

Someone who loves you and loves you genuinely will honor you and serve you Justice.

When people show you who they are, believe them. Even when they show you who they are through their behavior towards others.

Your job as a girl and as a woman is to fall in love with yourself and remain in that space. It is not your job to go out into the world and fall in love with a man with the expectation that he will love you genuinely. When you fall in love with yourself, someone who’s meant for you will come to you, fall in love with you and contribute to the love you already hold in your heart for yourself.

Your divinity, if you allow it, is as big as any.

you are just as good as anyone else even without having to prove yourself worthy of love and affection.

Your responsibility as a human being is to advocate for the wellness and safety of other human beings and the repair of the world.

[csuitebitches]

Hey! I’m in 11th grade (17 yo), and I always hear people wishing they could go back and improve certain aspects of themselves when they were younger. Do you have any advice for high schoolers about life/self-improvement and going out to the real world? Thanks! I really enjoy your blog

1. Understand basic finance and tracking your money/ allowance/ income if you have any. Something as simple as downloading an expense tracking app can be a good first step.

2. Understand what sort of a learner you are. Everyone learns things differently. See what works for you.

3. Learn to say no politely to people. You don’t have to participate in anything you don’t want to. But I would encourage you to definitely put yourself out there - whether it’s volunteering, parties, clubs, activities- it’s a great way to meet new people. Don’t be shy to say hello first!

4. Keep learning. No matter what. I have a rule where I watch one education video on YouTube a day, and it can be as short as 3 minutes. Keep your brain active. Solve brain games, crosswords, sudokus, anything to keep yourself active. Choose a hobby- as simple as knitting, collecting something, scrapbooking, calligraphy. It’ll help your personal growth.

5. Develop a fitness routine for yourself. It’s important that you start simple exercises, stretching, a short run; anything to keep your body moving. Make it a habit. Health doesn’t mean size 0 and abs. It means being at your healthy weight. Your future self will thank you.

6. Read. Read about things you don’t know. Just because something is fiction doesn’t make it any less useful than non fiction. Read to your heart’s content.

7. Enjoy your age, at any age! Spend time with your family and friends! Tell the ones close to you that you love them. Time is fleeting and memories are precious.

8. Learn to forgive yourself. You WILL make mistakes. You will embarrass yourself at some point. It’s OKAY. It happens. Side note: don’t post yourself crying or overly emotional on social media, or share things that are too vulnerable. I hate this current trend of people airing their dirty laundry. Some things are private, and meant to be that way. Choose that privacy for yourself.

9. Find an outlet for your mind. Journaling, meditation, breathing exercises.

10. Start doing things alone. Spend some quality time with yourself. Date yourself.

11. Learn to cook at least 5 proper meals before you leave for college/ uni/ move out of your parent’s house.

12. Take pictures of yourself and those you love! I love looking back at old photos with my friends and laughing at our awful fashion choices and the shit quality. Photos are such great keepers of memories.

13. Lastly, understand your alcohol tolerance BEFORE you leave for college. I know this is probably illegal but it’s better for you to understand your drinking limit in the safety of your own house than some random frat house.

[chericherilvr]

hii lovelys!! ♡

Honestly... I used to wonder a lot "am I just not lovable?" AND LET ME TELL YOU if you've EVER thought that, you ARE lovable ♡ As a retired invisible/quiet girl at school I've had the belief for so long that my worth depended on how other people valued me. And when I would be ignored and when anxiety got the best of me, those kind of thoughts followed me EVERYWHERE.

Do you relate to that? Luckily I got out of that mindset and I shared the most important tips and advice on this video!! Please check it out if you have time, and share your story ♡

click here! YouTube link

[strawb3rryangelw]

[reasonsforhope]

Hey adults: Why do you like being an adult? What do you like about your life?

A couple weeks ago I told the kids at my work that "Being an adult is pretty nice, actually," and they looked shocked, laughed incredulously, and told me I was the first person they'd ever heard say that

So clearly we adults need to talk about this way more often

The past few years have been hard for a lot of people, me included. Covid sucked. I lost three relatives and three pets in one year. Right after lockdown ended, I got badly injured, and ended up housebound for six months and (much more) disabled for two years, and that sucked too.

And you know what? Literally all of that was easier and better than being a teenager.

I like being an adult. I like my life. Even when it's hard, it's mine, and I am building to the best of my ability the a life that I want to live.

I talked about a lot of why being an adult is something worth looking forward to in my last post, so right now I'll simply say this:

I love actually knowing who I am now. I love that I learned and am learning what I want and need. I love that I have independence and autonomy and don't get treated like a kid. I love the fact that I'm the one who gets to decide want I want to do and what I need. I also love that I'm learning to sew. I love that I've had pet rats, and next will have a pet cat. I love that I got top surgery. I love the way I've decorated my room. I love traveling to visit and crash and even just hang out and do work with my friends, when I can. I love that I started reading good news every day, and that I actually have hope for the future, and that I started this blog and have been able to help give so many other people hope, too.

So, here's a call to action for my fellow adults: comment or reply or tag what you like about being an adult. What you love about your life.

Let's give some kids some reasons for hope.

[elation-station]

the town bisexuals are at your door it is time for you to pick a bride

[girlbossagenda]

How to girlboss up in 2025 °❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･°❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･

2024 is slowly but surely closing its doors to us, and 2025 is about to welcome us, you might have tried everything in your power to improve this year, but you might still feel far away from your goals or you simply have no sense of direction, through this post learn how you can upgrade yourself and get closer to becoming the best version of yourself this new year! And girlboss up your way to 2025!

୨୧ Review this past year ୨୧

Check your old new year resolutions, go trough your journal, watch how you progressed this year, one goal that you MUST have is learn from your mistakes and take accountability, this is the best way to build your self concept and confidence, owing to your mistakes without making it your fault.

୨୧ Vision board ୨୧

A classic, nothing beats a good vision board, sometimes you don't have specific goals in mind, having a visual reference can help you clar your mind, decide if you want a digital or physical vision board, check the next guides to see the different versions that you can create.

୨୧ Clean your socials ୨୧

Are you still following people that are not contributing in a positive way in your life, that influencer that posts only about her body? that Tiktok girl that became famous for just begin pretty? Do you still have pics of your ex, that friend that dragged you though hell or those school book pages? Time to clear up!

୨୧ Set your goals ୨୧

Now your mind is clearer, so how do you set new goals for this year? Write minimum 3 big goals that you want to accomplish, example: hit the gym, travel, get my money up, this will be the themes you'll be actively work in 2025, then make categories like: health, social, professional. Then make smaller general goals for the whole year for each of the categories, during the year each month you'll set monthly, weekly and daily goals, to keep track.

୨୧ Take action ୨୧

Your goals are nothing without you! One thing that I learned this year is that everything happens for a reason, if you end with a certain result, understand that you played a part in it, the rest just unfolded, so take things in your hands and direct your wishes towards the optimal ending.

Ciao bellissime!! Thank you for reading part 1 on how to glow up this 2025, I really hope this guide will help you archiving that mindset for 2025, it’s time to jump into this new journey, see you soon next year!!

xoxo

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[cupcakeslushie]

Is the big smile Donnie always wears when he is uncomfortable or around his siblings, is it a genuine smile or is it kind of like a mask hiding his true feelings?

Just curious because he has such a big smile and it’s cute but it seems like he smiles a lot for someone with lots of trama and it always happens around his siblings.

It’s kinda both I suppose. Sometimes he can’t really believe that he’s with his family and that they actually like him. So it’s easy to smile cause he’s so happy.

Other times it’s his go to coping mechanism. There wasn’t much he could do in the face of an angry Draxum, and crying always seemed to upset his father even more, so he’d try to grin and bear his punishments. Any time he’s upset, he thinks smiling is his best defense at hiding how he really feels.

It probably all started innocently enough and just became second nature.

[truffle-draws-turtles]

Hi. I somehow made a tutorial today. It was not planned. I have no idea how to make tutorials.

Turtle hands tutorial - (but works for every kind of hand)

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I have a tmnt Patreon (but not for tutorials. Lol)

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Attention please ‼️

The turtles you find on my site are all aged up, unless they are turtle tots (obviously)

[fy-perspectives]

“Because here's something else that's weird but true: in the day-to day trenches of adult life, there is actually no such thing as atheism. There is no such thing as not worshipping. Everybody worships. The only choice we get is what to worship. And the compelling reason for maybe choosing some sort of god or spiritual-type thing to worship—be it JC or Allah, be it YHWH or the Wiccan Mother Goddess, or the Four Noble Truths, or some inviolable set of ethical principles—is that pretty much anything else you worship will eat you alive. If you worship money and things, if they are where you tap real meaning in life, then you will never have enough, never feel you have enough. It's the truth. Worship your body and beauty and sexual allure and you will always feel ugly. And when time and age start showing, you will die a million deaths before they finally grieve you. On one level, we all know this stuff already. It's been codified as myths, proverbs, clichés, epigrams, parables; the skeleton of every great story. The whole trick is keeping the truth up front in daily consciousness.”

David Foster Wallace, This Is Water: Some Thoughts, Delivered on a Significant Occasion, about Living a Compassionate Life

[unknownn-girl]

i’m so sad whenever i think of my friend that starts dating this guy i liked. (not mad at her at all btw she’s an angel!!!!) not even bc of the guy bc he’s an absolute asshole but aside from him as a person he’s like my ideal type yk? and whenever he texts me now it’s abt my friend and it kinda feels like he’s rubbing it in? idk how to explain it. it’s just really hard seeing someone you’ve always been sort of jealous of her everything you’ve ever wanted. she’s beautiful, has a lot of friends, smart, good style, easy to talk to, and lives somewhere i miss living and her life is just so aesthetic. i feel like such a bad person whenever i think abt it but i’m so happy for her she deserves it! but it really is frustrating to see someone get all the things you’ve ever wanted. it makes me feel like i’m not good enough like why is it so easy for some people and so hard for me? sorry this is so long i just need to get this off my chest.

[yeoldenews]

hello! i was wondering if you (or any blogs you think might know?) had any resources for edwardian fashion, more precisely edwardian teen fashion? i'm writing a story centering on two edwardian ghosts and would like help on their style of speech as well if you can't help on the fashion aspects. thank you!

In my opinion, if you want to be able to portray the authentic feel of a time period, there is nothing better than diving head first into primary sources.

Whenever I start any large research/writing project that’s centered on a particular year, I usually spend at least a couple of days just immersing myself in the era.

We live in an extraordinary age when it comes to primary source research (especially for the early 20th century) - there are literally millions of period newspapers/books/magazines/films/recordings floating around online.

Find out what books were popular and check them out! Read the newspaper! Listen to popular music! Watch silent movies or newsreels!

For teenagers, school yearbooks are a particularly great source to get an idea of how young people spoke, their senses of humor, common slang, casual fashion, as well as the daily routines and general vibes of the time period. Most universities have their yearbooks digitized and available online and can be pretty easily found on google (try searching: [year] [location if desired] yearbook digital collections).

As for fashion - there are so many great fashion history tumblrs, that it’s pretty hard to go wrong if you just explore the “Edwardian” or “1900s” tag a bit. One thing to keep in mind though - most dresses that end up in museums were owned by very, very rich individuals. So, though a great place to start, scrolling through blogs full of museum pieces to learn about fashion history is roughly the equivalent of learning about modern fashion by only watching Chanel runway shows.

By the Edwardian era most young people were wearing pretty much the same thing as adults by the age of 14/15. You were, however, starting to see the very beginning of what would become the modern “juniors’ section” - usually termed “Misses’” for girls and “young men’s” or “collegiate” for boys. Here are a few examples of this can be seen in period catalogs from 1912, 1911 (starting on page 21) and 1908. 

It’s also important to keep in mind that fashion changed much, much more quickly than it does now. A woman in 1906 and a woman in 1911 would have noticeably different styles and silhouettes. I'd recommend scrolling through some fashion plates (going to shout out chic-a-gigot here who has a great collection of French fashion plates organized by decade and year) to get a basic handle on how the silhouette changed year by year.

In my past life I was fashion history specialist for high-end auctions, so I could go on in A LOT more detail about this subject, but I'm going to end it here before this gets too long.

[strawb3rryangelw]

[xoxohannas-world]

another christmas with wanting a gift money can’t buy

[prettydietcunt]

thick thighs make me want to die

[djpachipikachu]

Hey! You draw so beautifully! Do you think you can give me some tips for anatomy and sketching?

AW stop thank you so much ur so nice !!! and id love to :]

ive done a big post about some anatomy tips that you can check out here

but it is definitely a little old so here are more tips on anatomy !

i think my most utilized piece of advice for my own sketches is adding guidelines similar to the ones ppl usually add for the face to show where the body is facing? as an example here, i use a curved guide line to show how cj's body twists and tilts to build up a form , as well as lines for his legs and arms just to know where theyre facing

along with that CURVED LINES ARE YOUR BEST FRIEND !!! every part of the body is a glorified cylinder stacked on top of cylinders ! a lot of what helps make a body believable is that there Is some perspective used to show the dimensions even if there isnt any visible background

feet are also smth i see people struggle with and i dont Reallt know how to explain how i draw them but i usually draw a triangle with a half circle in front to mark where the toes are.,., make sure to include the arch of the foot and such..,,. make sure that the back of the heel pushes out a little further than where the leg connects....

this other small tip is about some of my favorite muscles to draw bc idk theyre fun LMAO but its about the deltoid and this other mass of muscle that control the neck

the deltoid is that triangle thats at the top of the arm and part of the shoulder ! adding some small lines that overlap into the arm and show the creases of the skin where the deltoid is placed helps add more solid form into the body :] and just drawing that sloped line of the neck muscles (green part) helps to connect the arm to the neck a littl more believably than if you just drew a straight line from the arm to the neck

HOWEVER LIKE . thats a stylization choice and also a matter of body type since im more used to drawing filled out muscular/fat body types, im not very experienced in bonier kinda bodies !

as for sketching advice ummm ..,. although i usually try to make a sketch as clean as possible first try , dont be afraid to have like a Super rough gesture type of sketch/thumbnail sketch just to get the movement and emotion down as best you can before refining it ! trying to make it accurate and detailed and shit on the get go can cause it to feel rly stiff , so get the Entire pose or comp down quickly in maybe 10-20min or less to just capture the motions before going over it again in a cleaner sketch ?

i tend to have the issue of forgetting to just capture everything first before getting into details so thats something i gotta remind mtself a lot LMAO here are some messy sketches i have where i just wanted to get shit down above all else

i also try to use as little lines as possible and get the vibe right in one brush stroke type of feel , no small chicken scratch/hairy lookin lines , which is mainly bc im aiming to be a storyboard artist and also bc i want to be able to post my sketches without needing to clean them up LMAO the only times i do a second sketch is for bigger pieces usually

another example of rly rough jotting down before cleaning it up

last bit of advice is using pen to do traditional sketches thank you and goodnight blows kisses