#teenage advice

[theeternalwombtarot]

be genuine and intentional about everything you do.

be real even if it doesn’t gain you positive social reinforcement from others.

trust yourself, trust spirit, trust divine timing and the divine plan.

put yourself first even when it’s difficult, if you don’t know how, you do your best to learn to do so.

everyone is healing from something. show people grace always just not at the expense of your wellbeing or livelihood.

you can make room for people, love people, support people, etc. without the addition of unconditional tolerance, without the addition of struggling, without the addition of pouring all that you have to into others.

ask yourself questions about who you are, what makes you who you are, what aspects of your shadow rule over you most.

the only way out is through. feel all of your emotions, do what you feel called to do, experience all things as a whole. be brave, hide from no obstacle.

when you feel frustrated or feel any type of way at all, say you are and honor those feelings by taking action or putting action behind them.

even when you make mistakes, let your mistakes guide you towards real solutions and growth.

you are not what you can do for others or how much you can give to others. this has everything to do with your tolerance, your care, your intimacy, etc.

you cannot stand between people and their karmic cycles and lessons just because you love them. What is for them is what is for them. Don’t make the mistake of believing that it is your responsibility to deliver everyone to their salvation.

what someone cannot do for themselves they cannot do for you. when someone does not love themselves, they cannot love you genuinely beyond their fears and their ego. When someone cannot protect themselves they cannot protect you, not even from themselves. When someone cannot make the right choices in their lives, they cannot make the right choices in yours.

what we push out into the atmosphere is a reflection of what we have sitting within us. Do not let other peoples perceptions of you, criticisms (that aren’t productive or constructive), insults, or opinions, tell you who you’re meant to be or who you are. It has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.

hold people accountable for what they do do and what they don’t do.

take it upon yourself to find lessons out of everything you go through and spin gold out of all your experiences.

just because they’re not doing it to you doesn’t mean they won’t. When you choose to turn a blind eye to bad behavior because it’s not being done directly to you, you’re enabling that behavior.

take your time.

show yourself grace. Offer yourself forgiveness and receive it.

Someone who loves you and loves you genuinely will honor you and serve you Justice.

When people show you who they are, believe them. Even when they show you who they are through their behavior towards others.

Your job as a girl and as a woman is to fall in love with yourself and remain in that space. It is not your job to go out into the world and fall in love with a man with the expectation that he will love you genuinely. When you fall in love with yourself, someone who’s meant for you will come to you, fall in love with you and contribute to the love you already hold in your heart for yourself.

Your divinity, if you allow it, is as big as any.

you are just as good as anyone else even without having to prove yourself worthy of love and affection.

Your responsibility as a human being is to advocate for the wellness and safety of other human beings and the repair of the world.

[csuitebitches]

Hey! I’m in 11th grade (17 yo), and I always hear people wishing they could go back and improve certain aspects of themselves when they were younger. Do you have any advice for high schoolers about life/self-improvement and going out to the real world? Thanks! I really enjoy your blog

1. Understand basic finance and tracking your money/ allowance/ income if you have any. Something as simple as downloading an expense tracking app can be a good first step.

2. Understand what sort of a learner you are. Everyone learns things differently. See what works for you.

3. Learn to say no politely to people. You don’t have to participate in anything you don’t want to. But I would encourage you to definitely put yourself out there - whether it’s volunteering, parties, clubs, activities- it’s a great way to meet new people. Don’t be shy to say hello first!

4. Keep learning. No matter what. I have a rule where I watch one education video on YouTube a day, and it can be as short as 3 minutes. Keep your brain active. Solve brain games, crosswords, sudokus, anything to keep yourself active. Choose a hobby- as simple as knitting, collecting something, scrapbooking, calligraphy. It’ll help your personal growth.

5. Develop a fitness routine for yourself. It’s important that you start simple exercises, stretching, a short run; anything to keep your body moving. Make it a habit. Health doesn’t mean size 0 and abs. It means being at your healthy weight. Your future self will thank you.

6. Read. Read about things you don’t know. Just because something is fiction doesn’t make it any less useful than non fiction. Read to your heart’s content.

7. Enjoy your age, at any age! Spend time with your family and friends! Tell the ones close to you that you love them. Time is fleeting and memories are precious.

8. Learn to forgive yourself. You WILL make mistakes. You will embarrass yourself at some point. It’s OKAY. It happens. Side note: don’t post yourself crying or overly emotional on social media, or share things that are too vulnerable. I hate this current trend of people airing their dirty laundry. Some things are private, and meant to be that way. Choose that privacy for yourself.

9. Find an outlet for your mind. Journaling, meditation, breathing exercises.

10. Start doing things alone. Spend some quality time with yourself. Date yourself.

11. Learn to cook at least 5 proper meals before you leave for college/ uni/ move out of your parent’s house.

12. Take pictures of yourself and those you love! I love looking back at old photos with my friends and laughing at our awful fashion choices and the shit quality. Photos are such great keepers of memories.

13. Lastly, understand your alcohol tolerance BEFORE you leave for college. I know this is probably illegal but it’s better for you to understand your drinking limit in the safety of your own house than some random frat house.

[chericherilvr]

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[strawb3rryangelw]

[cometblaster2070]

genuinely just OBSESSED with this hc that apple is a complete and utter MESS when it comes to her relationship with darling.

like it's such a funny contrast for the people who know her because this is Apple White; she is calm and polite and put together, and in all the years she dated daring, she was so fucking chill about everything.

daring dating other girls? didn't give a shit. everyone's wondering why they aren't affectionate in public? well, they're just teenagers they have forever after yk. when will they go steady? they have the rest of their destinies to worry about that.

you get my drift; apple does not give a single shit when it comes to this relationship because she is so in control of it. the actual 'relationship' aspect isn't really important to her and as such she's so composed in terms of her relationship with daring.

but throw DARLING in the picture and then there's apple running around like a headless chicken, being absolutely CLUELESS about what to do now that she actually has feelings for someone.

i'd like to have an entire episode of darling and apple going out on a date where there's basically a reverse situation of the dexven date ep where raven keeps trying to hype apple up and keep her calm while thinking 'dear god was i really like this???'

meanwhile, apple's hyperventilating over here just thinking about what to wear, what jewelry will match with her dress, if she's overdoing it or not, whether she should get darling a gift or something, what if she's overdressed or underdressed, and will darling like the food where they're going, and if darling even likes her at all the way she likes darling-

in the end raven grabs dexter and she says fuck this shit you and i are going undercover and tailing them, im too worried for this lesbian disaster.

dexter agrees because he's just come from helping rosabella hide all of darling's armor and assorted weaponry and they had both enlisted the help of the wonderlandians to make sure darling didn't have a breakdown every 3 seconds every time she realized she was actually going on a date with apple.

shenanigans are ensuing and rosabella and raven are getting the worst of it by this point, but they love apple and darling too much so they put up with it.

[reasonsforhope]

Hey adults: Why do you like being an adult? What do you like about your life?

A couple weeks ago I told the kids at my work that "Being an adult is pretty nice, actually," and they looked shocked, laughed incredulously, and told me I was the first person they'd ever heard say that

So clearly we adults need to talk about this way more often

The past few years have been hard for a lot of people, me included. Covid sucked. I lost three relatives and three pets in one year. Right after lockdown ended, I got badly injured, and ended up housebound for six months and (much more) disabled for two years, and that sucked too.

And you know what? Literally all of that was easier and better than being a teenager.

I like being an adult. I like my life. Even when it's hard, it's mine, and I am building to the best of my ability the a life that I want to live.

I talked about a lot of why being an adult is something worth looking forward to in my last post, so right now I'll simply say this:

I love actually knowing who I am now. I love that I learned and am learning what I want and need. I love that I have independence and autonomy and don't get treated like a kid. I love the fact that I'm the one who gets to decide want I want to do and what I need. I also love that I'm learning to sew. I love that I've had pet rats, and next will have a pet cat. I love that I got top surgery. I love the way I've decorated my room. I love traveling to visit and crash and even just hang out and do work with my friends, when I can. I love that I started reading good news every day, and that I actually have hope for the future, and that I started this blog and have been able to help give so many other people hope, too.

So, here's a call to action for my fellow adults: comment or reply or tag what you like about being an adult. What you love about your life.

Let's give some kids some reasons for hope.

[elation-station]

the town bisexuals are at your door it is time for you to pick a bride

[cupcakeslushie]

Is the big smile Donnie always wears when he is uncomfortable or around his siblings, is it a genuine smile or is it kind of like a mask hiding his true feelings?

Just curious because he has such a big smile and it’s cute but it seems like he smiles a lot for someone with lots of trama and it always happens around his siblings.

It’s kinda both I suppose. Sometimes he can’t really believe that he’s with his family and that they actually like him. So it’s easy to smile cause he’s so happy.

Other times it’s his go to coping mechanism. There wasn’t much he could do in the face of an angry Draxum, and crying always seemed to upset his father even more, so he’d try to grin and bear his punishments. Any time he’s upset, he thinks smiling is his best defense at hiding how he really feels.

It probably all started innocently enough and just became second nature.

[truffle-draws-turtles]

Hi. I somehow made a tutorial today. It was not planned. I have no idea how to make tutorials.

Turtle hands tutorial - (but works for every kind of hand)

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I have a tmnt Patreon (but not for tutorials. Lol)

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Attention please ‼️

The turtles you find on my site are all aged up, unless they are turtle tots (obviously)

[caloricangel]

I actually don’t wanna start over with someone else. I want him back even if he wasn’t good for my mental health. He was all I had.

[erin-epica]

Since my first TMNT meme post in forever did really well, here's a lil' something for the Aprils!

[yeoldenews]

hello! i was wondering if you (or any blogs you think might know?) had any resources for edwardian fashion, more precisely edwardian teen fashion? i'm writing a story centering on two edwardian ghosts and would like help on their style of speech as well if you can't help on the fashion aspects. thank you!

In my opinion, if you want to be able to portray the authentic feel of a time period, there is nothing better than diving head first into primary sources.

Whenever I start any large research/writing project that’s centered on a particular year, I usually spend at least a couple of days just immersing myself in the era.

We live in an extraordinary age when it comes to primary source research (especially for the early 20th century) - there are literally millions of period newspapers/books/magazines/films/recordings floating around online.

Find out what books were popular and check them out! Read the newspaper! Listen to popular music! Watch silent movies or newsreels!

For teenagers, school yearbooks are a particularly great source to get an idea of how young people spoke, their senses of humor, common slang, casual fashion, as well as the daily routines and general vibes of the time period. Most universities have their yearbooks digitized and available online and can be pretty easily found on google (try searching: [year] [location if desired] yearbook digital collections).

As for fashion - there are so many great fashion history tumblrs, that it’s pretty hard to go wrong if you just explore the “Edwardian” or “1900s” tag a bit. One thing to keep in mind though - most dresses that end up in museums were owned by very, very rich individuals. So, though a great place to start, scrolling through blogs full of museum pieces to learn about fashion history is roughly the equivalent of learning about modern fashion by only watching Chanel runway shows.

By the Edwardian era most young people were wearing pretty much the same thing as adults by the age of 14/15. You were, however, starting to see the very beginning of what would become the modern “juniors’ section” - usually termed “Misses’” for girls and “young men’s” or “collegiate” for boys. Here are a few examples of this can be seen in period catalogs from 1912, 1911 (starting on page 21) and 1908. 

It’s also important to keep in mind that fashion changed much, much more quickly than it does now. A woman in 1906 and a woman in 1911 would have noticeably different styles and silhouettes. I'd recommend scrolling through some fashion plates (going to shout out chic-a-gigot here who has a great collection of French fashion plates organized by decade and year) to get a basic handle on how the silhouette changed year by year.

In my past life I was fashion history specialist for high-end auctions, so I could go on in A LOT more detail about this subject, but I'm going to end it here before this gets too long.

[prettydietcunt]

thick thighs make me want to die

[strawb3rryangelw]

[sweet-tarts3]

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IF YOU HAVE BINGING OR OVEREATING PROBLEMS LISTEN UP!!

Okay, no need to be ashamed, I have these issues too and I have ever since middle school. I had BED, basically. And I was taught to ‘finish my plate’ which didn’t help these problems so… I eat everything even when I’m full.

NOW! THE GOOD PART! Make a plate or bowl and do the usual. Eat slowly. Drink your water. And then, when you start to feel full. Take notice. Or try to. It might take some practice. But if you feel full, either stop immediately or stop with only one bite left! THIS HELPSSS! It makes it so that you 1, no one’s suspicious because you ate allllll of that!!! Just sooooo full! And 2, this helps teach your brain that you DONT have to finish your entire plate. Only what satisfies you.

[fy-perspectives]

“Because here's something else that's weird but true: in the day-to day trenches of adult life, there is actually no such thing as atheism. There is no such thing as not worshipping. Everybody worships. The only choice we get is what to worship. And the compelling reason for maybe choosing some sort of god or spiritual-type thing to worship—be it JC or Allah, be it YHWH or the Wiccan Mother Goddess, or the Four Noble Truths, or some inviolable set of ethical principles—is that pretty much anything else you worship will eat you alive. If you worship money and things, if they are where you tap real meaning in life, then you will never have enough, never feel you have enough. It's the truth. Worship your body and beauty and sexual allure and you will always feel ugly. And when time and age start showing, you will die a million deaths before they finally grieve you. On one level, we all know this stuff already. It's been codified as myths, proverbs, clichés, epigrams, parables; the skeleton of every great story. The whole trick is keeping the truth up front in daily consciousness.”

David Foster Wallace, This Is Water: Some Thoughts, Delivered on a Significant Occasion, about Living a Compassionate Life