#support shows that aren't transphobic

[hollowstarchaser]

Sorry but this idea that the marauders fandom is "responsible for keeping Harry Potter relevant" is so out of reality for me

the majority of the people that go to give more money to JKR have never read a fanfiction in their lives, and they probably don't even know about what she does on twitter or don't care about what the authors of the books they read do or are just indifferent or hate us trans people so they don't give a fuck and continue to engage with the official world of hp.

I understand wanting to personally step away from the fandom because she's such a piece of shit that you just don't want to engage with anything she started, but to try to guilt trip fanfic authors seems a bit much and also out of anything based in reality as I said... the cultural influence of Harry Potter is not based on the gay fanfictions online, that franchise has whole themes parks for it and a whole TV show that is gonna be promoted heavily, be serious! the problem is not the fanfictions online, she's extremely rich she's gonna keep promoting her works and lots of people aren't going to care about what she does or they may even start supporting the books only because she's transphobic

I feel like instead of trying to shame queer and trans people that write fanfictions and made up their own version of that world and made it the most queer version they could create, we should focus on shaming the politicians and judges that let themselves be bought by transphobic pieces of shit and also those politicians that are not speaking out about it??? while I do think we should absolutely also keep boycotting jkr by not giving her more money and I've been doing this for years since I learned what she really thought, at the end of the day the politicians that make the rules hold the real power and I feel like we get distracted by shaming each other instead of focusing on the main problem which is the governments in power... we should think more about going to protests and pestering THEM with our disappointment

Idk I find it ridiculous to be harassing other queer people because of this, it's just more pointless hate and infighting that doesn't bring anything positive! from what I've seen most of the marauders fans have been actively against her, have not interacted with stuff that gives her actual money and are trying to boycott her by not buying official merch etc etc they are way more aware of what she does than random normie fans that keep buying harry potter themed shit around the world... Exactly because the marauders fans are mostly queer people that honestly made up a whole other universe from what I consider just a smidge of her input at this point. I really don't think it's a fair assessment to say they're responsible or even "the main reason why Harry Potter is still alive"... That's just a lie

[genderqueerdykes]

as an intersex trans wo/man, i've noticed that unfortunately it has become painfully obvious that not only do radfems and terfs try to abuse trans men into falling in line with their beliefs, but unfortunately, this happens to trans women and transfemmes as well. i've unfortunately seen several trans women fall down the the "men evil, women innocent, trans men have cis male privilege, trans men don't struggle, trans men aren't men or trans they're just confused butches," pipeline really quickly after transitioning or their eggs cracking, and it's not necessarily that transfem's fault, but rather an abusive person sweeping in to take advantage of someone who needs and wants validation in feeling like a woman. the person who put the terf ideals in their head during this crucial stage in development is to blame, it is not inherently the trans woman's fault.

vulnerable transfems and trans women become indoctrinated into these things. trans women and fems are not inherently bitter, shitty, hateful people. it's a select few who become groomed by radfems who push this belief, and push it hard, because that's what you do when youve been indoctrinated into a cult. it's not an issue inherent to trans women and transfeminism at all- it's vulnerable people being groomed. this is a serious issue of trans women and fems being groomed and brainwashed.

this is a huge deal and we have to stand up for each other, because the transfems getting groomed into this need support and help to get out of this cult. it is not okay for women who are just trying to find their footing to almost instantly get sucked up into a literal hate group. we have to help trans people who become indoctrinated into gender essentialism, antimasculism, and transandrophobia just as much as we help other trans people unlearn transmisogyny. these issues are both damaging our community on the whole.

radfems are aggressive and will try to indoctrinate anyone they can into antimasculism, transandrophobia, and gender essentialism. a lot of trans women in the early stages of transition really want to be validated as women and such, will become groomed by these groups of cis women who will gladly feed them toxic ideals like women can never be wrong, women are always innocent, men are always harmful and evil, it just benefits the radfems, not the trans woman. this behavior grooms yet another person into spreading radfeminism without realizing it. when one espouses these beliefs they become a spokesperson for radfeminism and terfism

i'm plain tired of seeing this argument, because it is nothing but gender essentialist binarist bullshit:

"transphobia is worse for trans women than trans men because of x, y, z."

its not worse. its different. but equal.

i understand that many folks have not lived the life a trans man leads, but whenever you try to speculate on what it's like, you will always be wrong, no matter what, because you weren't in that person's shoes. it's impossible to see the nitty gritty of how a specific group of people are treated unless you are that person or spend lots of time around large groups of those types of people. trans men face homelessness at a disproportionately high rate compared to other groups of queer folk. we also deal with forced detransition. we deal with being dehumanized by she/her pronouns. we deal with having lesbianism and butchness weaponized against us. we also deal with sexual violence. we also deal with physical, mental, and emotional abuse. we deal with gaslighting, lying, being robbed, abandoned, injured and killed. its virtually impossible to find support if you're a pregnant trans man.

trans men have a lot of unique struggles. this is not a comprehensive list, but rather to show you that ALL trans people struggle. we are united under the same banner of transphobic treatment. we are struggling, but we are struggling together, and we can uplift each other without tearing each other down. punching down on another trans person hurts us all.

belittling the trauma of other trans people is a form of queer infighting that terfs want you to do in order to fracture our community further. queer infighting doesn't help anyone whatsoever. trans men do not have it harder than trans women. trans women do not have it harder than trans men. amab and afab and intersex enbies don't have it worse than each other. these are all completely different and unique struggles that deserve to be acknowledged for what they are. you cannot use the same scale of severity for a totally different problem.

people love to completely gloss over the issues trans men face for the sake of believing that all men benefit from patriarchy. saying that trans men are not affected by specific kinds of transphobia is spreading the radfem belief that only women struggle under patriarchy. queer men, men of color, intersex men, gay men, bisexual men, trans men, polyamorous men, genderfluid men, bigender men, gender non conforming men, feminine men, men who crossdress, disabled men, neurodivergent men, mentally ill men, and other marginalized men suffer under patriarchy as well.

i'm not tolerating radfem gender essentialism being woven into queer ideals anymore. this behavior has to go. when you genuinely believe these things, we all lose.

[rorygilmoresbisexuallighting]

The Daddy's Little Toy author situation just goes to show how anti ideology has hurt people. Like an author is in jail for fiction fucking fiction! From what I know the author is placed in prison or is being held in jail awaiting sentencing currently. For from what I'm gathering a completely fictional story. You don't have to like what she's writing to think that people shouldn't go to jail over fiction. That the thing. Also who the hell gets to decide what is and isn't simply vent or awareness spreading and what is and isn't titillating. Also many trauma survivors create vent art that may sexualize their trauma but it's still vent art. I understand Australia's free speech laws are different than America's but this is the same country that's forcing people to upload their ID to access any social media site essentially. You don't have to like the story to essentially say "you shouldn't go to jail for that". Fiction is not and never will be equivalent to actual CSAM. And supporting obscenity laws will never be for the benefit of the public. And it's harmful to equate real CSAM with fucking fiction. You cannot be anti-censorship for fiction and then draw the line at things you don't like . Like imagine if your horny Sebaciel fanart put you in JAIL under CSAM charges. With the same cell as real people who actually exploited real children or wanted to look for and use real exploited children. "Stop imposing your American views on everything!". How is it imposing my American views to say that free speech should be a right for everyone not just people on America and that thought crime isn't real and shouldn't be normalized. Studies don't show a causal link between consuming dark romance media and actually committing abusive acts or consuming fictional depictions of CSA and actually harming people if anything artistic expression can get out some pent up frustration. People with intrusive thoughts may have intrusive sexual thoughts about inappropriate things and write them down what if those are found and it's considered CSAM even if it's fiction? Like thought crime as a concept should not be normalized. Fiction is fiction. I've only seen the snipbits going around social media. But like I hated it thought it was gross so I refused to listen to it anymore and went about my day. No one should go to jail over fiction yes even if that fiction has problematic themes. For example I am. Trans person I don't think anyone should go to jail for writing a transphobic book. I might hate the author but I won't advocate for their arrest and imprisonment. Like I've seen and stumbled upon much horny Sebaciel fanart and I don't think any of those artists should go to jail or be on a register with people who've actually exploited or aides in the exploitation of REAL CHILDREN. Obscenity laws are bad things and we shouldn't normalize them. From what I've heard the book doesn't even talk about sexual contact between an adult and minor it mentions the audit man listing I've the character when they were a minor but many non-banned dark romance books have that and the writers aren't jailed. Obscenity laws are bad. No one should be in jail over fiction.

[soup-mother]

it really is hard not to block people doing the "those people aren't really Christian" thing over like homophobic or transphobic Christians.

yes i get that you're trying to be supportive and show that Christians can be supportive, but you're literally just changing what counts as Christian so you don't have to be associated with the bigoted ones. that's not actually helping anyone, it just speaks to your own insecurity

[heyftinally]

Y'all are going to like this one.

SWIFTIES DON'T TOUCH THIS POST WITH A TEN FOOT POLE, I SWEAR TO FUCKING HELL-

So my friend sent me this article, and I'm going to tell you why I think it's complete bullshit.

1) wishing us a happy Pride month is the BARE MINIMUM. As someone with her presence in the media and social influence, she could - and should - be doing SO much more than just wishing us a happy pride four days in.

2) "the singer has been an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community" not a good one. She seems to only remember us when it's convenient or benefits her in some way. Case in point:

2018 - "When it comes to feelings and when it comes to love and searching for someone to spend your whole life with. It's all just really really delicate. You know?" Taylor then performed her song "Delicate."

2023 - It’s painful for everyone, every ally, every loved one, every person in these communities.

In the first example, the intentional song reference comes off as extremely tacky. This is people's LIVES you're talking about. People are MURDERED for who they are and who they love (or don't love). This isn't an appropriate time to pull out the "oh-so-quirky" act and be cutesy.

In the second, the fact that she can't even center queer people in their own experience is so, SO telling. I promise, however painful it is for allies, it's 1000x worse for us to LIVE it. Allies don't have to wonder "am I going to get hate crimed wearing this?" before they leave the house - we frequently do. To not acknowledge that shows me that everything she says is performative at best.

3) I wouldn't call what she does "advocacy". She mentions us every now and then when it's convenient for her, profits off of us when we fit her marketing plan, and I've yet to find where she actually apologized for the homophobia in the original version of Picture to Burn. Also, she's real good friends with Travis Kelce's dad, who is a raging transphobe (and I bet his kids are, too). You don't get to call yourself an ally if you willingly allow the people around you to be violent bigots.

4) "always" is a strong word for someone who seems to show her support situationally at best. The full quote was "The way for that to happen is for us to continue to keep pushing governments to put protections in place for members of the LGBTQ community. And I promise to always advocate for that." Yet she doesn't do that.

5) what she speaks out, I've noticed that it's nearly always in the states that primarily agree with her. We don't see a whole lot of her "inspiring ally" speeches in places like Texas or Florida. But I've seen plenty of them come out of already notoriously queer-friendly places. If you aren't willing to face the heat of the difficult places along with the comfort of the easy ones, you don't get to call yourself an ally. Allyship is not easy. Anyone remember when Lady Gaga advocated for us in Russia, under threat of arrest, and her response was "arrest me, Russia! I don't give a fuck!"? Yeah, I've never seen even half that level of true commitment from Taylor.

6) STOP. MAKING. STRAIGHT GIRL SONGS. "GAY ANTHEMS"!!!! FFS it's such a slap in the fucking face of REAL, ACTUALLY QUEER ARTISTS that y'all keep calling these piss pathetic straight girl over produced crap songs "anthems". Fucking stop it. If they aren't queer, they don't qualify to be a queer anthem or icon. Start supporting ACTUAL queer artists with ⅛ this energy, for the love of FUCK. This bullshit pisses me off. Do you need a list of queer artists? I'll make you one by hand if you promise to stop trying to label Raylor Swift's straight girl shit songs as "gay anthems".

7) rainbows and gender subversion are not exclusively nor inherently queer. If that's our bar for "gay anthems", the bar is so low Lucifer himself needs a damn Webb Telescope to just barely see it from hell.

[idioticaltxri]

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[blitzwhore]

I just saw Blitzø get called Stolas stockholm victim I can't with this fandom anymore😭

😂 As outrageously incorrect and stupid as that take is, I'm going to go on a tangent here. I hope you don't mind.

I think every fandom has annoying people with awfully terrible takes in it. People with zero media literacy. People who hatewatch. People who think they're entitled to the exact show they would've wanted, which has nothing to do with the actual, existing show.

This is especially true for queer media, and especially true for queer cartoons. (Hi, yes. I was active in the Adventure Time, Steven Universe, Voltron, and She-Ra fandoms when those shows were airing, respectively. I've seen some stuff). Some people just can't handle queer cartoons, period. If the queer characters/ships are soft and wholesome, they're infantilising and boring, and if they're complex and nuanced and actually have conflict, they're abusive and problematic. You'll hear the same recycled arguments over and over again. Like, the shit some people are saying about Blitz and Stolas after The Full Moon? Is literally almost word-for-word what they said about Catra and Adora post-season 3 of She-Ra (and even at the end of the show).

Here's the thing, though! Those people and their bad takes are not what I want to think about what I think about a fandom. Those aren't the people I want to call the fans. They don't deserve that title. Not when so many other people are out there dedicating their time to making gifs and art and meta posts, and writing fic, and commenting/reblogging to show support, and sliding into people's DMs to scream and squee together about a thing they love.

At the end of the day, "fandom" is just a lot of people each doing their own thing. Which people you engage with and allow to stay within your line of sight will determine your fandom experience. Fandom can be a huge, convoluted, online space full of people who are constantly arguing with one another and whose takes make you unfathomably angry... Or it can be you and your 5 friends and mutuals who scream gleefully at one another in 2-note posts. You can't control what others post online, but you can control your engagement with it.

How? Well, here's what I personally do to avoid getting upset by people's stupid opinions online:

Filter 'critical' and 'anti' tags (eg. #anti stolitz #anti vivziepop #Helluva Boss critical #HB critical #vivziepop critical). Many people actually do tag their critical posts because they know it's the respectful thing to do!

If I come across a post that has one or more of those tags, obviously, I don't click through to see it under any circumstances.

If I stumble across a stranger's untagged post with hate/criticism that upsets me: I stop reading and BLOCK. Immediately. I don't look back. I don't finish reading. I don't engage. I just block block block. I <3 the block button, seriously.

If I feel my mind reeling from a bad take I just came across: I take a step back, close my phone, breathe, remember life is beautiful sometimes. Go back and watch an episode I really like. Clean my living space a little. Vent about it to a friend (but only if I really need to, because if not, I'd rather not dwell on it).

If I'm starting to feel the need to reply to someone's bad take (directly or via my own post), I instead make the decision to channel that energy into making fandom posts out of love. (I don't do this just with fandom. If I see something transphobic online, I usually react by reblogging a bunch of trans art or trans positivity posts on my main, for example). I like to think of it as putting some positivity out into the world to compensate for the negativity I just saw. So, for example, if I see someone shitting on my blorbo, I may make a silly post just saying how much I love blorbo. Or I'll make (or draft) a post about how interesting I find some of blorbo's actions. Or reblog another person's positive/interesting post about blorbo.

And finally, I stay the hell away from Twitter. Or at least, if I go on Twitter, I try my best to avoid any tweet that has text in it instead of just art. Even the people who have good opinions spend too much time arguing with the people who have bad opinions on there. I don't want to see people's bad takes! No, not even while reading founded and perfectly articulated criticism of those bad takes! So I just limit my time on Twitter. And again, if someone is putting bad takes on my TL (even if it is to counter them), I unfollow and block as needed.

All this to say, yes, it really fucking sucks to read the opinions of people who don't understand and who hate the characters and ships and worlds you love. Gosh it's the worst. But you can curate your fandom experience. You can focus on the things you can control. You have the power to decide if your fandom experience is draining or fun!

And because I don't know how to finish this, here, have a Stolitz kiss to heal you:

We will keep winning and there's nothing the haters can do about it. 😌

[doodler16]

Im not rage baiting im just stating the fucking facts of the mtter and how i truly feel. I cant BELIEVE YOU GOT ALL THOSE LIKES ON MY POST STATING HOW I FEEL??? WHY DID YOU GET SO MANY LIKES??? I know that as a Hispanic my wording isn't the best but i try. this is the last time I'm saying this because imndone trying to wastey breath on yall but please forgive the LOVE of all that's Satanic. PLEASE go watch HELLUVA BOSS AND HAZBIN HOTEL. All of it! The views are down and her merch sales aren't selling well. We fans dont know ahy its happening to her and it must be devastating being in her shoes dealing with this downfall all because of negative critics that didn't give Vivziepop a chance. How would you like it if the haters got your show to lose views? You guys need to stop being so fucking hateful and just give her one last chance and I'm assuring you that you will in fact be satisfied with what you're watching. Please support her patreon and go buy her merch. Don't be a transphobic, masochistic, homophobic, anti diverse, anti woman, glue sniffing piece of human garbage. Go support her show!!! ❤️ do it for Vivziepop's sake. Her last short was her best work and all the jokes landed just like all of loonas jokes that always land because she's literally the funniest. Maybe if you got off to loona, blitz or stolas or hell Valentino like we do your bitch ass would be satisfied and would watch the show more. Watch loonas short will show all these haters who's boss because people love her and she's the greatest written strong and independent woman in the show. Look she can save the show! Just look at her? She's not unutilized. You anti Vivziepop critics are disgusting and bigoted. Boy don't get me started on the pride merch you and you antis are seriously disgusting. Why didn't you support her pride merch? You'd get your rocks off to Sallie May and loona and sexy stolas. Don't think I won't send this to Vivziepop's bluesky to show her!

“I cant BELIEVE YOU GOT ALL THOSE LIKES ON MY POST STATING HOW I FEEL??? WHY DID YOU GET SO MANY LIKES???” 🤣. It’s funny how confused you are. You know it’s bad when a Vivziepop fan themselves admits and notices views are down and her merch isn’t selling as it used to.

Blah, blah more promotion and ragebait. “Don't think I won't send this to Vivziepop's bluesky to show her!” I unironically hope she brushes you off, this is so unserious.

SMH, such a fake fan Ragebait Anon! Lyle wrote that short. So, by your logic he’s the one who wrote that masterpiece. You’re like.. so anti men Anon, you should be ashamed of yourself.

[lastoneout]

I have to say, I know that the science shows that trans athletes on HTR are usually in-line with the physical capabilities of their fellow cis atheletes...but saying "estrogen degrades a trans woman's athletic abilities" just feels like we're capitulating to the idea that women are weaker than men and offering legitimacy to the idea that sex/gender segregation in sports is correct and based on biological reality, and not the real truth, which is that people with estrogen-dominant endocrine systems can absolutely go toe-to-toe against athletes with testosterone dominant endocrine systems and win and society doesn't like the idea of a "woman" beating a "man" which is why women are shoved into women's leagues where they can be paid less, treated like shit, and ignored.

Like...I know it's small steps with some people, but desegregating sports has been a major feminist talking point since I was a little kid and we should never, EVER lose sight of the fact that women not being able to play against men has absolutely NOTHING to do with athletic ability and everything to do with people hating women, especially ones that can, and do, beat men. The entire anti-trans athlete argument is based on the idea that cis women are biologically weak and cannot, under any circumstances, beat a man at any test of physical or mental ability, so if we let trans women(who are seen as men by these people) play against cis women then the cis women will always lose.

And that is not fucking true, and it's not untrue because "estrogen makes you weaker", it's not fucking true because women are just as strong and capable as men and can beat them in a fair fight and they always fucking have been. Using this argument is akin to critiquing the draft by saying the way to fix it is to make it so women have to sign up too. You're missing the point, the draft existing at all is the problem and you should not legitimize it's existence by trying to force women to deal with it too. No one should be drafted.

And, again, trans and cis and intersex women can play against and beat trans and cis and intersex men at sports. And trans men can also beat cis men. The problem is not who is strong and who is weak, it's that segregating sports by gender is fucking stupid sexist bullshit, it always has been and it always will be and we should stop doing it.

Also the existence of sex/gender segregated sports will always be exorsexist and intersexist and harm anyone who doesn't fit into the bullshit false sex/gender binary. We shouldn't separate sports by gender or sex because HUMANS cannot be truly separated by those things. There's too much variance and diversity. Intersex kids and nonbinary kids and any kid who falls outside the binary ALSO deserves to be allowed to play sports. And in a system where we still have "men's" sports and "women's" sports athletes that aren't men or women are left in the fucking dust. WE SHOULD NEVER SUPPORT A SYSTEM THAT DOES THAT.

So please, stop using the argument that estrogen makes trans women weak like "real women" and that's why they should be allowed into women's sports. On top of just being a really fucking sexist thing to say in general, it's ceding ground to deeply misogynistic and racist beliefs about women and their abilities, on top of legitimizing a system that fucks women over constantly and was built specifically to hold women back, and we can absolutely defend trans athletes(as well as intersex and nonbinary athletes) without falling back on the idea that there's only two sexes/genders and being a woman makes you weaker than a man always no matter what and testosterone is a magic ticket to being strong and makes you good at sports.

When a transphobe asks if you think it's okay for men to play against women you do not answer by explaining that estrogen HRT makes trans women as weak as real women or that trans women are actually women or that trans men are as strong as men due to HTR or are men, you respond by saying yes, I do fucking think it's okay because segregating sports by gender is horseshit that started with a bunch of misogynistic racists throwing a fit about a black teenage girl striking out two of the greatest baseball players of all time in the same game. Women's sports were born out of wanting an excuse to stop women from achieving as much as men, to pay them less, ignore them, and treat them like shit and we should move past that as a society. Idc what the reasoning is, supporting this binary ass view of sex and gender as if it's based at all in reality is not helping trans people, it's hurting them. If you can learn that the old guy in charge of FIFA used to say if female players want to be paid attention to they should just dress sexier despite the US women's team outperforming the men's team all the time and somehow still think any of this is about ability or skill or some biological reality then you aren't serious about trans and intersex liberation and do have a lot of internal misogyny you need to work on.

Stop defending trans people by legitimizing sexism and sex/bioessentialism. Women are strong, trans and cis and intersex, and they can do absolutely anything a man can do, as can nonbinary(intersex or not) people and trans men. The idea that any woman is biologically weaker than any given man is wrong. There is no biological reality supporting this idea. Stop telling little girls that they're weak, especially trans girls and trans men(since people see them as broken women who are weaker than men and shouldn't be allowed in men's sports) holy fuck, and stop telling them that the existence of women's sports is some just and correct thing when they're literally based on the idea that women are frail, weak little flowers who could get blown over by a stiff breeze and never beat a man at anything and were created as a response to women beating men at sports.

For now I do 100% believe trans kids should be allowed to play sports on whichever side feels right for them for any number of reasons, most of which have nothing to do with biological ability or winning, but aside from that, I don't actually think that trans women should be playing women's sports because I do not think women's sports should exist at all. All people, trans, cis, intersex, ect. should be able to play against each other because that is the world that actually protects and cares for trans and intersex people and women. Discard the binary, stop pretending women are weaker than men, stop erasing the bigoted reason women's sports even exist in the first place, and NEVER say that estrogen degrades athletic ability. You sound like the guy who tried to keep women out of the Boston Marathon on the basis that "no women could actually run 26 miles" that's who you fucking sound like when you say that. So stop fucking saying it.

[mcytshipsandmore]

Majormoon, except Scott's the trans masc one and Pearl's a cis man...

Pearl finds out Scott's trans before Scott even knows he's trans. Pearl's limerent, and with Scott being his limerent object and farfriend, it ain't hard to put the pieces together that Scott's a 'liiiil trans of the gender! Given Pearl stalks his browsing history ('is it possible for women develop facial hair?' 'is it normal to feel like you want to be a boy?' 'diets to reduce breast size?'), and monitors his activities (he watches on the clothes stores videofeed at Scott discreetly checking out the men's section on stores, only buying sports bras, looks for one-piece swim suits instead of two-pieces), and he figures out his 'girlfriend' might not be so girl after all, before Scott's even figured out his discomfort with his femininity issssssn't really normal for a cis person.

You could say he gives Scott a few nudges in the right direction. Pearl buys extra clothes for 'himself' that, woops, he ordered 'em wrong, they actually came in Scott's size, and, well, it'd be a waste to return them, wouldn't it, so why doesn't Scott just keep 'em, instead? He makes a big show of coming out as bisexual to his 'girlfriend', bemoans about how pretty men are, and wouldn't Scott just make the cutest guy? Pretends to 'slip up' and accidentally refer to Scott as a he instead of a she, even though it's far from a mistake whenever he gets to watch Scott light up at being referred to with masc pronouns like a lightbulb.

With Pearl's help, really, it's only a matter of time until Scott's egg cracks, and he admits he might want to be a boy. Pearl, of course, is unrelenting supportive... in fact, Pearl had already bordered dozens of custom-fit at-home binders for when he inevitably came out, already created him a pinterest moodboard full of potential new haircuts or fits, already created him a list of hundreds of personally-picked masculine names he thought that Scott might want to consider for his new one. Pearl makes sure it's well and known that he loves Scott no matter what and that he supports his new boyfriend unconditionally.

Pearl also makes it well known that everyone else will not.

Now, their community isn't necessarily transphobic, but Pearl makes sure Scott thinks it is. Pulls up news articles about trans-based hatecrimes in the area (who cares if they're a little dated? Scott doesn't need to know that), brings it upon himself to sneak out at night and write transphobic graffiti near Scott's local hangouts where he knows Scott'll see it, even deepfakes old Twitter posts or texts about Scott's friends being transphobic. Pearl subtly manipulates him into thinking the the truth is: only Pearl is safe. He can only be his true self around Pearl. Everybody else will hurt and hate him if they knew. His friends aren't really his friends; they won't be if they find out. Pearl's the only one who will ever accept him.

Pearl even slips estrogen into his food, occasionally, watching as he only grows more dysphoric (he can't dress masculinely in public, they'll know; he can't ask to be referred to with proper pronouns, they'll know; he can't have top surgery or take supplments, they'll know), and so more reliant on Pearl for comfort. Pearl is the only one he can trust, the only one who would accept his truest self, the only one who would call him a man.

It's only a matter of time before Scott shuts everyone else out under the impression they'd hate him if they knew who he was, convinced his entire support system is ragingly transphobic and Pearl is the only one who would ever accept him...

It's only a matter of time until Pearl has Scott isolated, conditioned, and wrapped around his finger.

Just as planned.

aw thats sweet!

What a loving boyfriend!

Well thats a strange thing to say…

What is.

Oh-

Oh….

-🍫

[genderqueerdykes]

Hello 👋

I'm wondering if you (or anyone else who sees this) has any advice/resources about detransitioning/retransitioning? I've been living as a trans guy since I was a kid and I'm a young adult now, but I recently I realized that I really miss being a girl and I think I want to socially detransition? And it's really lonely, because the vast majority of people I see talk about detransition online at least are anti-trans and I really don't want to involve myself with them.

I just don't know how to tell my family and friends. I know it's silly because they've always been super supportive, but I just feel like I'm being a burden for wanting to change my name and pronouns yet again. I can't help but worry that they think I'm indecisive or this is just another phase or something.

-🐞

you know, that's a good suggestion, i really should compile resources for de/retransitioning people, because it's so hard to find good information that isn't clogged with terve nonsense. it deeply bothers me how hard it is for detrans people to find safe community amongst one another without so much violence and hatred. theres absolutely nothing wrong with detransitioning, you can't know if something is for you until you try it. you shouldnt have to involve yourself with transphobic people just because you want to socially detransition

i would say wait to tell your family until you know for sure this is right for you to eliminate those "it's a phase" moments. you don't have to tell family and friends if you're questioning something, it's alright to have that to yourself for a bit. its something deeply personal to you, and it's about you first. you can tell other folks whenever you feel like you're ready to go ahead with things. i would also like to say try to present and feel like yourself in your alone time to boost confidence. if youre able to dress the way you want in private, it can at least help you figure out if you're on the right path or if you're unsure. its okay to be the person you are in private before you show the world.

i will do my best to try to compile some resources for detrans & retrans people that are actually helpful. thank you for bringing this to my attention, it's been bothering me for years that detrans people can't talk to each other because of the state of the tags on this website. if anyone else has any advice feel free to chip in. take care of yourself for now, feel free to reach out again any time

EDIT: someone was nice enough to leave some reddit communities for detrans people who aren't terves: r/actual_detrans, and r/detransition_support both do not allow terves and terf rhetoric. i hope these can be of some help to you!

[transfemme-shelterdog]

ngl i used to think chappel was the lesbian lana del rey because of the way she talks about men but you're right about her being lesbian chappel roan because as far as i know lana del rey's morals are like neutral but not downright bad- and then taylor swift just sucks as a person and thats sooo chappel!!!

anyway are there any popstars these days that aren't gross people

Rina Sawayama is cool. She's pan, called out the UK government for its transphobia, criticized celebrities who are transphobic, and spoke out against infighting in the queer community

Dorian Electra as mentioned before, transmasc so they're safe.

Ghost, if you want poppy rock. They flew a trans flag in their last tour era (as seen by the Impera Ghoul masks), also Tobias donated money from each show where they played Enter Sandman to a trans kids camp.

Allie X is a cis chick, but has a song about top surgery and has always supported queer people

Arkells aren't technically pop, but the lead singer flew a trans and a bi flag at their one tour show I went to in Hamilton and signed a petition calling out anti trans bills, alongside Elliot Paige.

Carly Rae Jepsen is a huge ally, and also signed that same petition

Gaga? She's an ally and IIRC she's bisexual too.

Wet Leg's one front woman is dating an enby. So that counts I'd say.

There's a lot of pop artists in that petition, here

July Talk and Bells Larsen (trans man!) are both on that petition and are good music!

That's about the extent of pop knowledge, sorry. I'm a metalhead, not really too well versed in pop lol.

[velvetvexations]

Was going through the Playdoughs tag just to see what was up with the Homestuck vs Dykes To Watch Out For stuff and unfortunately saw that she apparently was also trying to paint Leslie Feinberg as a TERF and ngl might be a bit conspiracy brained but between that and the Bechdel stuff I'm wondering if she's just trying to shit on every single notable butch person out of a hatred for transmascs and "TMEs". Like no queer person has ever been perfect, but it's getting sus that transradfems never bring up any of the problems with Whipping Girl and decry anyone who does a transmisognist but they're allowed to shit all over Stone Butch Blues and Dykes To Watch Out For because the authors both have had some questionable takes.

It also especially pisses me the fuck off because Feinburg literally stopped medically transitioning to avoid the separation from the lesbian community(and expirience a bunch of butches say they shared on a post I found from r/ButchLesbians. Legit saw PD claiming the women in the book only exist to prop up tmascs and take care of their emotions which...idk in the context of that passage I legit can't help but feel like she genuinely thinks the isolation that came with transition was just and deserved. PD also compares Feinburg to a cis man writing misogynistic crap about cis women and truly, shut the fuck up. It's possible for anyone to be misogynistic, but Stone Butch Blues very clearly shows not only how much Feinburg valued the women around hir even as they abandoned hir for trying to become who ze wanted to be, but also how much violence and hatred butches and tmascs face, and honestly I think the latter might be her real problem with it. Can't let queer books about tmascs and butches exist, people might realize queer masculinity is actually NOT celebrated by cishet society! And ofc course asking any queer woman to stand in solidary with her butch community members is placing men's emotions over women's and implying women only exist to support and care for men. It would almost be funny if it wasn't so goddamn transphobic and cruel.

Anyway yeah, sorry to vent, that just bothered me so fucking much. I think it's perfectly fine to point out issues with well-known queer authors and activists but when you are specifically attacking masc queer people I start to get suspicious that combating transmisogny might not really be what's driving this. And again, it's awful that anyone could read that book(or just like Feinburg's wiki page) and come away with the belief that society and certain queer spaces never punish queer masculinity. It breaks my butch heart to see all of my fellow butches never making their body a home because they'd rather live a dysphoric life than end up alone with no community. I'd love for any transradfem to read those testimonies and tell me tmascs and butches aren't targeted for their masculinity, I dare them.

some trans women desperately need trans men to be cis men because cis men violently oppressing us isn't enough and they need a direct 1:1 equivalent to the relationship cis women have with cis men to feel validated

[npookie0]

Hi N!! A scenario popped up in my head, and I'd love to see someone write it out. So Angel x MtF reader who's really shy in voice calls because she doesn't like hearing her voice, and thinks her "girl voice" doesn't pass enough, so Angel, our no video calls queen helps encourage her and give her confidence!

Siren's Voice

A siren scared of the sailors hearing her song is avoiding their calls for her. But what if there's another siren, a siren who doesn't want to be seen, a siren who supports her and encourages her to sing?

An Angel x MtF!reader fanfic, reader is relucant to join calls because of her thinking that her "girl voice" doesn't pass well and Angel is there to support her

Words: 2255

Cws: Spoilers for Killer Chat! Angel's route, idk if it'll have dysphoria but it could to some !!

You've been in the serial killer server for weeks now, got to know the killers and their environment, learned some... interesting things about their world and lives. Yet, even if you through that you played your cards well, they still didn't believe you entirely.

<goreboy> [21:13] why don'tcha join vc With us y'know A Lil spirited discission

Shit. I'm fucked.

You thought to yourself when you saw that message in #killer_shit. The conversation started normally, well as normally as a conversation in a place full of serial killers can be, Misaki talked about blood pattern art and the possibility of selling it. Then, for some reason, Ronin decided to talk about how great of a serial killer you were as if he was mocking you, because he couldn't possibly have known about your murderous activities, or rather the lack of them. Suddenly he popped up with the idea of a call since 'we barely know anything about you darling' and the other killers went with it.

It shouldn't be a stressful situation, how would a call ever be harmful or dangerous, right?

Well, maybe this call wouldn't be dangerous, but you just couldn't join it. You couldn't bear to hear your own voice moreover let other people hear it.

But why wouldn't you want others to hear your voice so much?

It's not good enough. It's not feminine, soft, high enough. It's not girl enough for you. It was all you didn't want it to be and it didn't matter how many voice training lessons you took. Your voice was still the only thing that didn't let you live fully as a woman, it was the only painful reminder of the life you lived and what you had to go through to get to this point.

You didn't want to let the killers hear you. What if they saw you as less of a woman then? They could have the "don't be a transphobe" in rules, but at the end of the day you didn't know these people that well and couldn't foresee their reactions.

That thought terrified you. You felt the knot in your stomach grow rapidly with every second. What should you say? You didn't want to put yourself in danger, those are serial killers after all, y'know they kill!

Fuck it, I'll try...

<[mc.username]> [21:15] I can't call. Sorry.

Suddenly goreboy and K9 were texting, both in sync and, for once, agreeing with each other.

<goreboy> [21:15] oh You Can't now, can you? i think you Should Rethink that

<Angelic> [21:15] Ro...

<K9> [21:16] No. Let him. He's right, we should hear her on call.

"Fuck, fuck, fuck. I'm so fucked, holy shit." You moved away from your screen, looking at the two men trying to push you to change your mind and enter the server call.

But then, amongst all the stress, anxiety and the feeling of discomfort caused by this whole situation, a pop up showed on your screen.

[Angelic wants to send you a message.]

You clicked 'accept', you weren't sure of what you could expect there, it could be a private threat, an interrogation, anything and everything negative that you could possibly come up with in that moment.

But her message surprised you.

<Angelic> [21:18] Oh gosh, I'm so sorry about them V and Ronin aren't usually like this... I didn't even see them agree once Are you okay?

Suddenly all the anxiety left you. Maybe Angel would understand or wouldn't be so pushy. You weren't sure, but you had to try.

<[mc.username]> [21:18] Yeah I don't know either, it's stressing me out a little haha I think they just don't believe that I'm a killer...

Well they aren't exactly wrong.

<Angelic> [21:19] I'm really sorry about them, these boys they're so ugh sometimes But maybe you really should join VC? I'll be there to make sure you're okay <3

And here it is. You knew that she'd suggest it and you really wanted to agree, even if just to hear the killers, but you just froze at the thought of actually talking to them.

<[mc.username]> [21:20] I'd really love to join, but I have a condition now and can't talk :( and calling without talking wouldn't be that effective to shut V and Ronin up

Time for the good old lie, you're sick and can't talk, then it will escalate into more problems until you run out of lies and they don't care to ask about calls... Totally not speaking from experience.

<Angelic> [21:22] How about staying in the call on mute? I'll tell the others that you can't speak so they won't dogpile you <3

<[mc.username]> [21:22] I... Didn't think about that actually I think it would be alright, especially if you'd help out <3

<Angelic> [21:23] Haha of course A girl should help another girl out!

So, after a few deeper breaths and making sure that you're muted at least five times, you joined the call, expecting only the worst to happen.

"Awh, muted? What a shame." Ronin was the first to acknowledge your muted mic and somehow you were less stressed than you expected yourself to be.

"Ro, stop. Y/n told me that she's sick and can't talk. Let her be." A sweet, yet firm, female voice reached your ears and your gaze immediately stopped at Angel's name. You didn't know why, but hearing her was enough to calm down your nerves.

Ronin scoffed. "Alright, alright. I'll let her be, since you've asked me so nicely Angel dear."

The call was short, at least for you, you left the moment Ronin and V dogpiled on you again with their questions. You had barely any time to think of a good enough answer before one of them decided to ask another question or comment on how much faster it would be if you weren't muted.

"If only my voice wasn't so..." You murmured to yourself, a grimace painted all over your face when you heard your voice again. Sometimes you wished that you just didn't talk at all, at least then your voice wouldn't be an issue and you wouldn't have to worry about passing.

You didn't enter the server until you were back from work the next day, you needed to rest for a bit without any deadly danger present on your computer screen. But when you saw the three private messages right above the server you realised that maybe leaving for the day wasn't a good decision.

You didn't really read Ronin's or V's messages, you already knew that there was just an interrogation waiting for you. You clicked on the dm from Angel and felt a smile spread on your lips.

<Angelic> [22:01] Ah I'm so sorry about the call I hope you're okay These boys and their moodiness really...

<[mc.username]> [13:03] Hi, I'm so sorry about the late reply! I'm okay, at least now haha And I get you, it wasn't great to be dogpiled on, still thank you for supporting me and stepping in :)

<Angelic> [13:05] Hello <3 No problems I get it, we're all busy sometimes And I told you that girls should hep each other out!

You were glad for her help and kindness, she really made your stay in the server better even if you weren't there for long yet. The comfort she gave you made you think of telling her about... no you couldn't... or could you?

It wouldn't be wrong to come out, you hardly ever met someone who's reaction would be positive and with Angel you felt like she would react kindly, like she'd understand and support you.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger I guess...

When you were about to type out your hi-i'm-actually-a-trans-woman-and-i'm-avoiding-calls-because-of-my-voice message, Angel outran you with a message of her own.

<Angelic> [13:06] Okay so I have this new video idea for my channel and I was wondering if you'd like to hear it!

You froze for a moment, your mind going blank. Was she asking for a call? Suddenly all the confidence and bravery you built shrank. You felt conflicted, torn between wanting to call with her, but also being anxious about her learning that about you. You decided to deal with the consequences later and agreed.

<[mc.username]> [13:06] Yes! I'd love to hear it! Would you like to video call?

<Angelic> [13:07] Oh, sorry, I don't feel like doing a video call now Would a voice call be okay?

You sighed in relief, you were not ready to show yourself to anyone right now, not in your work clothes and make up that you probably slept in and didn't bother to wash off.

Still, the knot in your stomach at the idea of a voice call did not get smaller.

<[mc.username]> [13:07] Yeah I think it's okay

It didn't take long for the [<Angelic> is calling] pop up to show up on your screen, a little nervous, you accepted the call.

"Hi!" You heard the cheerful voice come from your speakers. She truly sounded angelic, so sweet, with a tinge of mystique hidden underneath the charm. "Ah, I'm so excited about the new video ideas! I can't wait to hear your opinions."

You sat there, frozen, eyes locked on the screen in front of you. You didn't know what to do, should you speak? Or should you keep quiet? Will she think that you're not a woman if she hears you? No, no, Angel wouldn't think like that. But what if she did?

Your mind was racing, you were almost shaking in your chair, your mouth went dry. You didn't know what to do.

"Y/n? Are you okay?'

Her voice cut through your thoughts like a blade. The thoughts were pushed back. You put your hands to your keyboards and typed out a response.

<[mc.username]> [13:09] There's something I need to tell you

"Oh? Feel free to tell me whatever, I'm always ready to listen, hehe." She replied. Her words were warm and sweet like honey, they embraced you in a blanket of safety and comfort. You just felt... seen.

<[mc.username]> [13:10] I'm a trans woman and I don't sound that fem, I actually sound really masculine and it just scares me to let others hear me...

She paused, you were worried that you did something when she didn't reply. "Is this why you didn't want to join the call yesterday? I'm so sorry Y/n, I can't say that I know how it feels, but know that I support you whole heartedly and so would the server."

You were about to start typing a response, but she said something that stunned you.

"Hey Y/n, maybe you could say something to me?"

<[mc.username]> [13:10] But I don't sound like a woman, isn't it... weird?

"I won't see you as less of a woman, if you're worried about it. There are and always have been women with lower voices. And besides, maybe I could help you work on your voice, if you'd let me."

"Y...you would?" You said before you could even think about that. Her words were so... kind. They were all you wished to hear when you were just starting with your transition.

"Of course I would." She replied. "It's good to finally hear you."

"Um..." You turned in your chair uncomfortably. "How do I sound?" You asked the question that flooded your mind and didn't wish to disappear.

Angel giggled. "Like a beautiful girl of course! Really I'm so impressed with how good you sound, I talked about vocal training with Ro... a friend of mine! And he said that it takes a lot of time and practice to actually get the effect you desire."

A smile spread across your features. She complemented your voice, called it pretty and said that she admires it. You were happy, for the first time in ages you didn't feel judged or like your voice was a complete turn off for other people.

"I... Thank you very much Angel, it means so much to me."

"Don't mention it! I'm just honest. You really sound so pretty, I wish you had a podcast or something." She giggled and you felt your cheeks heat up. Gosh she's too sweet for your own good.

"I'll consider starting one just for you."

"You're just so adorable, but maybe I'd like to have a private podcast." Another wave of warmth spread all over your body.

"Ah... Oh gosh stop, I can't think about anything when you tell me things like these." You mumbled.

"You don't need to think, we can just talk love, I can already tell that I would love to do that often."

"Talk? Don't you do that to the camera all the time?" You asked, your mind didn't get her meaning.

"Well yes, but it's not a daily occurrence that I can talk to a sweet girl like you."

You mumbled something about her being only an angel in name and then tried to get yourself back together. "Um anyway, what's the new video idea?"

You've spent a whole hour on the call together, until her manager called and she had to go to work. This call felt great and you couldn't wait for more to come. Especially with Angel's words hanging in the air.

"I'll help you feel more comfortable with your voice, I promise."

Maybe your siren song is actually as beautiful as the other siren says.

Hiii Angel lovers and my beautiful ladies this is for you <3

Love you all

Nate :D

[charliewinter60]

Elle's interview - Heartstopper Season 3

I think the reason Elle's interview in Episode 6 hits so much more, is because throughout two seasons and a half, everyone's aware of Elle's transness, but no one close to her ever makes her feel uncomfortable.

Tara and Darcy never dehumanized her. When Elle got to Higgs, they treated her like any regular girl (Even Imogen when she first met her.) and became friends because of who she is as a whole, not because she is trans.

Tao never once doubted his love towards Elle. He fell in love with her and gave her the chance to have a teenage romance without ever making it weird. (Which is something not a lot of queer, but especially trans kids get to experience.)

Even those who wouldn't conventionally know much about transitioning, like Nick or even her parents, ever made questions or comments that would cross her personal boundaries. Nick made a comment about her seeming familiar, but the minute Charlie explained it to him, he caught on. And her parents were always right behind her, being some of the best support system in the Heartstopper canon. They all moved forward, loved and supported Elle.

Elle Argent was treated like a typical, regular girl throughout the show and was never dehumanized or reduced to just being trans. Which is the magic of Elle's arc throughout the seasons.

So having a character that reduces Elle to just "being trans" hits all of us, but especially her, like a truck. Especially since she didn't have her support system with her (Even if her parents and Tao were there, she was still separated from them.). What's worse is that the topic of conversation for the interview was set already long ago. With so many art questions and loads of art Elle had made in her social media they could've possibly talk about, the interviewer decided to do their research and prepared an interview that, not only pushed a transphobic agenda, reduced her to just a trans kid, which is something Elle had already mentioned she feared. Her worst fear had come true.

It burst the bubble of the trans dream: being treated like any other person.

Being trans is a big deal. It's not something you should just dismiss or ignore, but it's also not the only thing that defines that person. Just like Elle, trans people are full of personalities, hobbies, interests, and character.

"Trans people aren't a debate. We're human beings." - Elle Argent

[conclaveyaoi]

to the atheists out there, the never religious and the ex-religious, the ones who are shooting down people (naturally, mostly catholics) who are showing concerns over the next pope and how this is bad for global politics. the ones out there commenting on said posts like "but he was a transphobe and god isn't real so who cares" and patting yourselves in the back and you're wrong. hear it from a fellow atheist, you're wrong. you're being immature chasing that pat on the back making it about you when it's not. it is, like many catholics are pointing out, about global politics. it's as easy to become a selfish, egotistical atheist as it is to become a selfish, egotistical religious person. if you care at all about the global wreck the US is causing, this isn't the time to channel your right-wing youtuber gotcha moment (spoiler alert: the less gotcha, the better atheist you become). atheism 101 is looking back at the type of atheist you were at 14 and being embarrassed. it should be common sense you can agree with someone on something even if you disagree with them on a major part of personality.

I'm not saying you should start praying if you don't want to, I don't want to either and won't. but disrespecting random religious people over a legitimate concern they're showing and you clearly aren't because you're busy climbing the high horse? yeah, in atheism 101 that's the description under "how not to be a prick". always the loud gotcha activists, never the ones focused on societal change. see? you become precisely what you rightfully criticize. multiple governments are having meetings about current events as I write this. it is not about you and that's okay. leave the pats in the back for when we don't have a powerful city state potentially supporting nazism all over the world. it is not about you.