#stop body policing

[claar-bookdragonwitch]

by Liberaljane

[uncanny-tranny]

The whole "breasts shouldn't be politicized because the primary purpose of breasts is to feed babies!" can be a fine jumping-off point, but I really wish people thought deeper than that when we talk about the ways in which bodies are politicized and restricted.

Like, why's it that when we talk about breasts, they must have some Higher Purpose? It's true that breasts aren't inherently sexual, but they aren't valuable solely because they can potentially feed a baby. A human body doesn't have to serve a Higher Purpose in order for it to not be legislated against or policed, and I just wish people would remember it isn't always about babies, about other people, about anything else other than the people who have that body.

[fisheito]

let him speak

[moltengoldveins]

My wife like a few days ago: I know that in your story X character was ace. but then she gets married so she’s not that anymore, but Y character definitely stays ace the whole time like he doesn’t get married, no way, because-

Me, bluescreening: I’m sorry. X is still ace after being married. She’s just. Not aro. Y is Aroace and sex repulsed.

my beloved wife, who is trying very hard and whom I love very much: those are. Different things?

me: …….. romantic and sexual attraction are different, yes.

my wife, who I am deeply in love with but have no interest in sex with: how are those different things? Aren’t they the same thing?

me, squinting reeeeal hard at her: ……….. Shiney. I need you to do the unthinkable here, and objectively self examine. Very hard for you, I know, but try.

[doux-amer]

One thing that has deeply annoyed me about the response from Americans/Westerners about this week's events in Korea is that a lot of them, including people I like and respect, are like, "The protesting civilians and lawmakers who barged into the National Assembly would've been shot if this were the U.S./this would've never happened in the U.S. because people are too afraid of being shot." There's some truth to that, at least with regard to state violence, but I'm fed up because it doesn't account for how frightening this could have turned out to be had it not been for how much of an inept flop dunce Yoon Sukyeol is. It minimizes the courage of those who showed up.

Sure, it was likely that the military and riot police wouldn't have done much (again, YSY's self-coup wasn't thought out well, and there's more evidence of that as military officials and soldiers are speaking up about the lack of information they received, but I'll refrain from talking about that to avoid making this even longer than it inevitably will be, knowing myself), but let's not pretend there haven't been issues with them in recent years. They pepper sprayed and used water cannons during an anniversary rally for the Sewol ferry victims (x) (x) (if you don't understand how unbelievably cruel that is, look into the horrific Sewol ferry sinking). They tear gassed crowds (Korea has a gruesome history of this) and sprayed water cannons, and citizens have been injured and killed during the 2015 protests and 2016-17 Park Geunhye impeachment protests, notably Baek Namgi, an elderly activist whose death caused global outrage (x) (x). Park Geunhye was going to enforce martial law during those protests according to a leaked document, with hundreds of tanks, thousands of soldiers and special force troops! (x)

Not to mention, there are decades of extreme state violence that have scarred an entire country and are still super fresh for a huge percentage of the population. Again, check out that tear gas history piece. Look up the April Revolution, Gwangju massacre, and June uprising and see just how bloody they were. Thousands of civilians were tortured and killed. Look at how many protests were going on year after year during the 1980s. That isn't that long ago! All those older people who ran to the National Assembly to stop the coup? You bet a lot of them were college students who protested during that time or knew people who did. All the younger people? They may not have experienced what it was like living under martial law, but as I said, state violence still occurs, however much it's dwindled over the years, and you have to account for generational trauma. I don't think I'll ever forget the way I felt when I saw the breaking news alert about the martial law declaration on December 3. I've never experienced that, at least to that degree.

Instead of viewing the response from civilians and elected officials through the framework of police brutality in the U.S., it should be contextualized using Korea's own history. Thankfully most of the serious discussions are doing this, but like I said, even people who are smart about reading up on things have reflected on how this wouldn't fly in the U.S., not because of the difference in protest history, civil movements, and public engagement with both in the two countries but because of the military/police response. There's an insinuation there that Koreans would be more reluctant to do what they did if they knew what it's like to live in fear of violence instead of living in such a safe country like Korea...and I want to yell.

It was monumentally brave of everyone to do what they did to stop the coup. We're all laughing at how stupid the coup was and there's a reason why people were more furious than scared because of the political history of Korea and the laws set in place to protect the democracy and neutralize coup attempts, but this could have easily become a disaster. It's not alarmist of me to say so because there was no way for anyone to be 100% sure of how the military would react—especially when no one knew what the hell was going on.

[dhddmods]

People's scars don't need trigger warnings.

Just had a debate about this and we are feeling all fired up so lets talk about this. The debate was about self-harm scars, and whether art of them or photos of a person with them need trigger warnings.

We aren't talking about wounds. We aren't talking about fresh cuts. We aren't talking about gore. We are talking about fully-healed scars. Cuts and gore should be given a trigger warning, but NOT scars.

We have seen this from not just one person, but many people over the years, and we are sick and tired of it.

"Self-harm scars need trigger warnings" is the same as telling someone that they should keep their scars covered up. That a person with scars on their thighs can no longer wear shorts. That a person with scars on their arms has to wear long sleeves, or keep it bandaged.

"But it triggers me and causes me discomfort, because I am still in recovery." I am sympathetic for your recovery, but that doesn't give you the right to tell someone what they can and cannot wear. It doesn't give you the right to tell people that they should cover up. That can lead to feelings of shame in the person you are requesting that of, and make them feel like they have to censor or hide their scars. Their scars are part of who they are.

Do we have to add a TW to all scars, then? If a person is recovering from a traumatic surgery, and they go online and see scars on someones stomach, does that mean that post should have had a TW for having surgical scars on them? Just because someone has trauma of that surgery, trauma that can lead them down a mental health spiral?

Its not your fault if it’s hard for you to see self-harm scars, but you cannot expect other people to undermine their own progress because of that. You’re allowed to struggle with what troubles you, but that doesn't give you the right to treat others as taboo for having scars. The internet cannot be tailored for every person, thats just not how reality works. You can't censor people's scars because it makes you personally uncomfortable.

Your recovery can't hinder someone else's recovery. You need to learn how to live with your own self-harm scars, not drag other people down for having them.

We walk around in the real world, wearing clothes that anyone else can wear, even if it puts our scars on display, because thats reality. Reality doesn't HAVE trigger warnings for scars. And people shouldn't be forced to shy away from wearing their desired clothes just because it exposes their scars.

[localanimequeerio-17]

In these dark times, I just wanna say: TRANS RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS! STOP BANNING BOOKS! STOP POLICE BRUTALITY! STOP THE WILLOW PROJECT! DONT OVERTURN ICWA! GUN CONTROL IS A MUST! MY BODY MY CHOICE! BLACK LIVES MATTER! The state of the U.S (probably the whole world, too) is so shitty right now, and honestly I am genuinely scared for our futures. The core of the U.S is being rewritten and destroyed. It is no longer free, and it hasn’t been for a while.

[cosmogyros]

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[well-hello-hi]

All the bitches and cunts who bullied me in middle school literally did child p0rn in fking 6th grade. God, ill always want pedos and the bitches who groomed them dead, but tbh im glad they all got abused. Fuck you. How dare u skinny shame me, bully me for my jewish nose, bully me for not having fat tits and a fat ass in fucking MIDDLE school. How dare u crave male attention sooooo much to point where u bully women whom you do not perceive as fitting the male standard. Kill urself. I hope u all got raped and abused. Bitches who wana get picked and chosen that fucking bad deserve rape.. but i will still say rapists and pedos still deserve death. I fucking hope theyre all traumatized. I fucking hope u kill urselves.

So basically just kill patriarchal beauty standards. I dont deserve to be enforced to be a fat cunt just so males with low iqs and anorexic wallets can pick me and choose me, all of which are they themselves too fuck ugly and fat to get me to pick them and choose them. Sorry im fat phobic now. Its not my fault its all just trauma induced. 🥰 constantly trying to unleanr it though.

[isawthismeme]

[rottenlittlefink]

“Black girls and black women haven’t earned protection” but little Susie and I are supposed to fight on the frontlines for these bitches? These “kings” (🤮!!) Divestment is LITERALLY self preservation for me and I’m not fucking budging on this, fight your own damn battles you dusty bitch

[richkidcityfriends]

i want to read everything at once. which of course means i read nothing. obviously.

[divinechieko222]

i think we really need to accept that everyone’s body is different. some women are born with natural curves and a fat ass. some women are born with long slender petite bodies. no workout out routine is going to give you your dream body unless you have the bone structure and fat distribution to match. if you don’t have a long torso and a small ribcage then you probably won’t look like bella hadid after your pilates routine. if your body distributes weight to your stomach first instead of your ass then you probably won’t look like megan thee stallion after a glute routine. REALIZING that everyone’s bodies are different and require different things is not fucking ROCKET SCIENCE. every fat person you see is not unhealthy. every skinny person you see does not have an eating disorder. it’s a such a massive cope to me. people will see a naturally curvy woman and think she had a bbl because they can’t fathom a body that works different from theirs. people will see a skinny woman and assume she starves herself because they can’t fathom a body that works different from theirs. regardless, if you aren’t learning about your body and taking care of your body to be HEALTHY then you’ll always be in tough shit. there are 8+ billion people on the planet and you think what works for others will necessarily work for you???? fuck no. learn your body people. you wanna look like another fucking person when the body you have is the one you get. accept it, learn it, love it or go forever hating yourself ✌🏽💗

[neverbelessthan]

Stede’s face when Izzy tries to thank him at the end of ep3 is going to haunt me all my goddamn livelong motherfucking days.

Like the fucking despair, the realisation, the disappointment - his face was just like: you let him down, I let him down, LOOK AT WHAT WE’VE DONE.

[authoralexharvey]

It's my mother's birthday and all I can think of is all the ways she traumatized me growing up.

[luciana-silentstar]

I decided because I love suffering that everyone gets their own halter.